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Giving Women Permission Society Doesn't

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give woman permissionWe've talked on Girls Chase before about the importance of giving women permission to desire you. Which might almost sound silly at first... she's a strong adult woman, she doesn't need a man's permission to desire him! Right?

But there are all kinds of rules women feel socially obliged to follow.

Most of these rules are unspoken... the unconscious rules of the social contract.

All a society is is rules and trust. People agree on (often unspoken) rules, and trust each other to follow and uphold the rules, and trust the society itself to be a fair one, based on these broadly understood but largely unspoken rules. During times of social upheaval, you actually get large numbers of people in violation of the unspoken rules, which leads to an erosion of trust in the society, and a schizophrenic society. If you're interested in the big picture, you can read my article on how the violation of long-standing intersexual rules has led to a collapse of trust between the sexes in the West. But this article is not about that.

What this article is about is the individual man and woman.

Namely, you, and a woman you like.

She's with you, she feels like there are things she 'has to' do, and other things she 'has to not do', and you want to shake her free of these constraints so she will join you on your exploits.

How do you break her free?

Chase AmanteAbout the Author: Chase Amante

Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone. So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating. After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website. He will teach you everything he knows about girls in one single program in his One Date System.



Nivo's picture

Aloha Chase, 

Had a few little questions for you to answer please ;

1. in one of your articles regarding a man that acts as potential provider you said that if he goes for it too fast with her she'll be offended “she'll feel like he doesn't value her for something serious the way she wants him to value her”, can you expand on this one? What do you mean?

2.I met with my girlfriends friend a while back at a restaurant and she record my voice secretly to damage the hell out of our relationship and played the record for her after, in the record i said “have this meeting between us private” (also i invited her home but thats ok and justifiable i think), how can I justify or get this problem solved for my girlfriend? she said why did you said it?

3.On your personal opinion: what do you think is the greatest healer when it comes to life? 

Kind Regards, Nivo


Bulgarian Man's picture

Hey, Chase

I made requests for articles on picking up girls at weddings and picking up female celebrities, A list, B list, etc. Is there anyone in your crew that has experience with these particular categories? Would be cool to read those.



SZ's picture

Hey Chase,

1. How soon after going into a club or bar do we make our first approach? or should we just walk around?

2. can you give me an example of what to exactly say after a direct or indirect approach in a club? places I go to are hard to really deep dive in. so what do I say after I my approach? like what do I talk about after the approach if the venue is very loud and you have to move quick? can you give a quick example for convos at clubs?

3. How do I get rid of the aa and nerves? I can fight through them, but I have to keep doing it over and over for many girls. It doesn't get easier for me no matter how many times I approach, I still get cold feet and each approach is hard.

4. what are good things to talk about that lead to seduction and a lay from the club? girls were asking what I do and then the convo turns into that and it's boring and they try to get to know too much about my money. how do you get off that topic and what are good ones?

5.I feel unwanted, I feel no women want me. I'm out and about and I don't get many signals to approach at all, and at the clubs I am not getting anything at all, this gives me negative feedback. and me gwtting older makes me worry more and more about attraction. so I don't know what to do about it, any advice?

6. any advice on putting your self out for business and sales, while dealing with extreme anxiety?





Lawliet's picture

Hey Chase,

Your article on "even nice girls want to be touched" reminded me of an incident I've been troubleshooting.

I saw her glance at me before getting on the bus, and idk why but I had a feel she is interested. So I sat down next to her on the bus and unsurprisingly, she stops texting, lowers her phone and just sits there staring blankly. Interest!

Her pupils dilated. Interest!

She tries to continue the conversation during pregnant pauses? Interest.

She complies to verbal request (little things). Need I say more.

Despite all of this, when I did the ask: you're fun to talk to, let's grab food sometime (yes it wasn't during high point, my bad), she nodded but then verbally said we see each other around in school (different apartment tho), I'm sure we will see each other again (No we won't).

It's obviously she's interested, meaning it's auto rejection. Possible causes:

1. We talked pretty long for the whole bus ride, way past the 15 min mark to save more on the date.

2. Well since we talked so long, I started to ask about her hobbies, in which she says "none". She just meets friends, eat different food, and then school, you know the "regular girl" you talked about in the article.

I guess my unexpected reaction to her "none" made her lose confidence


Here's the dilemma:

First, I can't avoid passing 15 min mark unless I get off the bus before my stop. I don't think we can just sit there and stare at each other, nor pull out my phone (break circle) after 15 min. But keep talking is also bed (less likely to get Yes to date text). With that said, it's a cold night and I have no interest feigning my stop.

Second, she's a regular girl. No aspirations, just living a regular life. I guess I could talk more about food things. But...

Third, here's the obvious one. The "not asking on high point" but I was having trouble reaching it since there's no info offered. She did try, and very hard she did to throw whatever "TV shows" and tried to validate herself. I guess I may have failed to validate her properly for trying to throw something out to talk about.

Despite being interested, rejected. I was stunned but not showing it and continued conversation. I could have pushed

"Ahhh so you're a person who likes fate. Well here's what I believe, *grab her palm* / ask

"For me, fate...goes here (finger touches her palm)." We are the owners...and we both like pho. ;)" *slides your phone* in her opened palm, "put your number in and we'll see what happens"

High chance of her doing so. Probably won't reply over text. Who knows.


How would you have pushed (or not) to deal with auto rejection, Chase? And, How would you address the three issues so we can avoid this in future?


Thanks Chase,


SZ's picture

1. Chase, how would you describe the difference in going out 1-4 times a week?

could you give a breakdown on the difference in how fast you learn with the days you go out?

for example: if you go out 1 day a week you'll get good in a year, 2 days 8 months, 3 days 6 months, 4 days 3 months.

2. and what are we exactly improving on if we go out more days? or are we just getting more chances? are we asking girls home every night?
where is the best place to have one night stands?

3. what to do if money is an issue? I don't go out a lot because it's costs a lot, for me at least $50-$80 a night. Gas, parking, cover, a drink or two, etc. now imagine that 3-4 times a week. That's a nice place for rent and a nice car payment. So what tips do you have for going out a lot, but not having to spend so much money? or do we just make more mmey? which also means more work, which means that it'll be hard for us to work the more we go out lol.

it's pretty hard to go out a lot without spending money, even without cover I'm still spending like $40 a night.

I'd like your tips on how to make this work if possible without spending so much and being able to still go out.

4. if more men are leaving the dating game, why is it harder to sleep with women than it was before and what can we do to make it easier?

Thanks Chase

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