Don't Hate the Player. And Don't Hate the Game
Jul 31, 2021
It’s normal to feel frustrated when you don’t get what you want. But rather than let yourself hate “the game”… why not just get good at the game instead?
Jul 31, 2021
It’s normal to feel frustrated when you don’t get what you want. But rather than let yourself hate “the game”… why not just get good at the game instead?
Do you learn seduction by following a teacher or method you trust? Or are you “piecing together” a patchwork style taken from bits and pieces adopted from here and there?
Frames are one of the key cornerstones in pickup and seduction. But what exactly are they?
Men who are not super experienced with women tend to focus a lot on other men. Yet the romantically experienced man, in contrast, focuses on women, with little time for other men.
The ability to meet, flirt, and seduce (i.e., ‘game’) is embedded in the genes of every man. Unlocking that ability, then honing it with practice, rigor, and skill, is another thing…
Men are afraid of rejection. But there are ways to optimize yourself to rarely encounter it.
Why do you have the sexual, romantic preferences you do? Much of it is socialized. That is: you learn it from your experiences, your environment, and the media you consume.
A mental priority of men and women alike is to preserve internal consistency. Threats to that cause resistance – both in the women you want, and in you, yourself.
The way you think about things can help you seduce more women, or it can hurt you. Recognizing whether a mindset helps or hurts is key to adopting healthier beliefs.
Lots of guys sweat that looks, money, and status are near-prerequisites to access the best girls. Are they?
It’s easy to get a big head because you beat an RTS noob or picked up a DTF girl. Yet a truly good seducer (like a good RTS player) relies on strategy, counters, and skillful pacing.
Each man forms his opinions on women from the women he meets. Yet not every man meets the same sorts of women — so selection bias shapes his opinions.
Real time strategy game (RTS) and seduction have some surprising overlap. Success in both comes from strategy: both macro and micro.
Many guys are ‘too picky’ with girls. They ignore good-looking and great girls. Then end up alone, or stuck with girls who are bad news. You must escape this trap.
It is possible to work on your self-image and outlook while also improving your game technique.
Until you see something, you'll be hard-pressed to believe it. That includes some of the more incredible things you can pull off with seduction.
Most guys who start learning seduction do so to fix an immediate need. Yet the REAL results come from long-term practice.
