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Colt Williams's picture

Normally when you see an article title referring to having sex with lesbians, you’d probably assume that it was think an article geared toward women. But, in today’s case, you would be wrong. You would be very, very wrong.

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One of my friends is a suave South American stud, and I remember a few years ago he would constantly – and proudly – reference his ability to have sex with lesbian women, even if they had never had sex with a guy before. Sometimes he’d say that he could even convert them.

But most of my friend group just laughed it off as idle talk. They said that the one lesbian (or at least what they thought was one) girl that he was able to hook up with had been a complete fluke. But I didn’t adopt this incredulous attitude. Not I, Colt Williams. I looked at this situation with a great deal of intrigue.

The man is a really good friend of mine, and I knew that not only had he hooked up with a couple of lesbians, but he was also dating a girl who had previously been a lesbian and had never even touched a man before. So I knew there had to be something to his claims; I knew there had to be some kind of method to the madness.

And then as I started taking a more concerted look around me, I noticed something very interesting. My friend wasn’t alone. I also thought of a couple of other acquaintances I had who were dating girls who used to be lesbians. And then to push things further, I thought of some of my girlfriends who were once entrenched lesbians but who now are dating guys (one of them just got married to a man, actually).

So toward the end of last year, I made a more concerted effort to try to unravel this mystery of lesbians. And did I succeed? Well, you’ll have to be the judge of that.

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Omari's picture

Hey Colt Great Article, this topic has me thinking if women embody "sex" itself why is it that they can pretend to be so repulsed by the idea of men being straight forward about it ?
Also i think all of us readers here at chase would find it very interesting to see an article about convincing your girlfriend to have a threesome or convincing 2 girls (You aren't currently dating) to have a threesome.
Thanks a Bunch !

Anonymous's picture

Hi Colt,

Great article, you and the other writers here on this website always write great articles, but I wish that this on came a bit sooner. Last week, I went out on a date with a cute, inexperienced Asian girl at my college that was a lesbian, but I didn't know that she was one until after the date. The date itself went very well. We met up at a coffee shop on campus and I was deep diving her, touching her a bit, and building rapport. 10 to 20 minutes into the date, I tried moving her back to her dorm, but she said that one of her roommates had a boyfriend over, so I suggested that we should head back to my car to relax. She agreed without protest, and we headed over there. On our way back to my car, there was a cute girl walking in front. Out of nowhere, she tells me that she thinks that the girl in front of us is pretty. Using this as an opportunity to employ some teasing, I teased her by implying that she was trying to fish for compliments. Of course, she denied and said that girl was simply very pretty. She said that with a lot of enthusiasm in her voice. At the time, I didn't think much of it, but looking back, it might have been a hint that she was a lesbian. We continued talking and when we got closer to my car, she started asking questions about why we were going to my car. I simply told her again that we were just going to go relax a bit in my car, and that put her at ease. When we finally entered my car, we talked a bit more and then I let the conversation die out and I made my move. I leaned in for a kiss and she kissed me right back. As we were making out, she told me that she hasn't kissed much guys and that shewwould like to do this again with me sometime. So we set up a time that worked for both of us, then I suggested that we move to the back of my car so we could have more room. She agreed without protest and we both headed to the back of my car. Then, while we were making out some more, she told me that she has never kissed a guy before and wasn't sure if she was doing a good job. I then told her that I thought she was a good kisser (I've only kissed a very small amount of girls before her and she was the best one by-far). She was shocked to here that, the she asked me to rate her kissing on a scale from 1 to 10. I decided to played it safe and said that he's was a 6. She was satisfied with the answer. As I tried to take off her shirt, she told me that she didn't understand the whole "taking off clothes thing." I simply told her that people do it to have sex. But, I also told her that I'm oneof those guys who waits till marriage to have sex (because I'm a Christian, but I didn't tell her that) and that I didn't have any condoms. So I just suggested that we both take off our shirts. She happily agreed and from there, it was really on. You were right about lesbians being hypersexual. As we were making out, she seemed very aroused and was making orgasmic moans and was grabbing me very tightly. When I finally pulled away, she said that was enough. It came to a mutual ending and we walked back to campus together. This part of the date was kind of awkward because there were a lot of silence and I was running out of things to say. When we got to campus, we hugged goodbye and went our separate ways. Now here is everything seemed to blow up in my face. An hour after our date, she texts me telling me that she thinks that I'm a great person, but she's a lesbian and doesn't want to see me anymore in a romantic manner because she doesn't want to hurt her girlfriend's feelings. I didn't know know to respond to this, so I didn't reply until the morning after. I texted back telling her that I thought that we were both having a great time making out in the back of my car yesterday and that her girlfriend doesn't need to know about us. Then she immediately replied back telling me that she wasn't having a good time back then. This came as a shock to me because she seemed a lot more aroused and turned on than I was when we were making out. So i replied back telling her that she probably was feeling guilty about her girlfriend andthat we should talk about it over lunch at the time we mentioned earlier. To this, she texted that she didn't want to see me anymore and wanted me to stop. I had to thread carefully here because if I made a wrong move and pushed too hard, I might have gotten in trouble. So i just replied, basically suggesting that me, her, and her girlfriend have a threesome and if she wasn't interested, that I would leave her alone. It has been almost a week now and she still hasn't replied to that text. I also haven't seen her in person again since. Is there anything that I can do to salvage my chances with this girl? I'm not looking for a serious relationship, but I would like to hook up with her some more. Also, is there anything that I could have done differently to increase my chances of getting with her some more? Looking back, I think that she might have been open to having sex with me while we were in my car, but I chose not to go that far with her. I don't regret it because I went as far as I wanted with her, but could that be one of reasons why she was having these problems with me?

David Riley's picture

Hey Anon,

I'm glad to hear you made it that far with this particular girl, but if I were you I would back off. The last thing you want to do is give her a reason to file an assault allegation against you. Sometimes women say things and regret things later. Instead of giving an emotional and needy response, give her a "I understand." response. I know hindsight is 20/20, but hear me out. The last thing you want to do is make a girl feel uncomfortable. What you have said is, "Oh I didn't know, but its cool. I'll get out of your hair."

Hope that makes sense,

Just Dave

Anonymous's picture

Hey David Riley,

What you said makes a lot of sense and I tried to do what you said by giving the lesbian that I hooked up with some space. It has been almost two weeks since I last talked to or texted her, but then a few days ago, I saw her again at a club meeting for a student organization on my college campus. I thought that not contacting her for almost two weeks would have been enough time for her to calm down, and on top of that, she never responded to the last text that i sent her about whether she wanted to have a threesome with me and her girlfriend. So I decided to sit next to her during the meeting, but she didn't look happy to see me again. Because I arrived late, I didn't get a chance to talk to her until after the meeting was over. So after the meeting, as we were both heading out, I tried to get her attention by saying hi, then she quickly turned towards me and furiously told me "I thought I told you that I didn't want to see you anymore," then she stormed out of there before I could say anything else to her. With a response like that, she basically implied that she was serious about not wanting to have anything to do with me, so I thought that it was best to forget about her and move on. I guess that what happened between her and I was just a meaningless fling that she regrets because whether she actually had a good time with me or not, she feels bad about it because she basically cheated on her girlfriend with me. Either way, I feel like she just used me. Is this how quick flings are supposed to feel? I feel that because she hasn't kissed a guy before me, that she was just using me to experiment what it is like to kiss a guy. Although this is one of the more extreme cases, I have always had trouble retaining and getting future dates with girls that I have already hooked up with. Is this because the girl becomes afraid because I moved so fast or is it because the girl loses interest and goes into auto rejection because I choose not to go all the way? Another problem that I have is that most of the girls I set up dates with flake on me and I don't know why. When I meet them, I am usually able to make good conversation with them, and most of them were single and seemed interested by the time I set up the date and got their numbers, so I don't know why. I've got some more dates set up with some cute girls that seem interested and are either single or having boyfriend trouble, so I don't want them flaking on me because I think that I have a good chance with them if they actually show up.

Rockycruz's picture

You shouldn't have took her to car if you weren't prepared with condom. Very low game plan mate. You made her feel insecure when you pulled out and even enforced her logic about men. So when you pulled her away, no matter if it was due to no condom, this created resentment which is why the awkward silence. You killed the comfort you created right down to zero.

That's why she wanted nothing to do with you afterwards but you persisted, in a needy, clingy way and tried to even talk about a threesome, which enforced the logic in her mind. You tried to change her mind not...her mood. The mood was dead after that pull back.

It's not just about backing off. You need to understand why it happens or you'll continue doing the mistake.

Anonymous's picture

thanks for this article.. i will keep this in mind next time i encounter another lesbian... had to let go of the other one from social i met a while back.

A bi guy's picture

The reason some "lesbian" women sleep with men is because they aren't really lesbian. They're bisexual but just say, either to others or to themselves as well, that they're lesbian.
The reason they publicly call themselves lesbian is because women who identify as bisexual are usually very slut-shamed because they're, you know, obviously massive sex addicts that want to bang everyone. After all, bi people do have wider selection than straight or gay people. And who wants to be called a slut?
There's also the fact many actual lesbians are wary of, or even hostile to, bi women. Mostly it's because they think bi girls will just immediately jump onto the cock of any man they meet. That and the fact that they think bi girls are actually just straight girls who are just looking for attention from men by making out with other girls when they're drunk. So in order to not attract hostility from lesbians, they call themselves lesbian.
However, many lesbians do like dicks. After all, why else would they get themselves dildos? They just don't really fancy the man around the dick.

YES!'s picture

I just wanted to thank you for saying this. Your comment was the only one which made any sense

Horsu's picture

Hi,

That's article that opened some locks in my mind, thanks ;-)

I have a question touching different topic: asking a girl for phone number and getting her fb data. It happens more and more often lastly. I see few explanations, correct me if I'm wrong: they try not to fit in my frame, want to know more about me before they decide if I'm good enough, fb is easier for majority of guys to contact her in terms of being afraid to call and they try to help guys, fb is easier and cheaper for them to use? Correct me if I'm wrong and enlight me if I missed reasons.

Waiting for your opinion,
Horsu

Anonymous's picture

Hey David Riley,

What you said makes a lot of sense and I tried to do what you said by giving the lesbian that I hooked up with some space. It has been almost two weeks since I last talked to or texted her, but then a few days ago, I saw her again at a club meeting for a student organization on my college campus. I thought that not contacting her for almost two weeks would have been enough time for her to calm down, and on top of that, she never responded to the last text that i sent her about whether she wanted to have a threesome with me and her girlfriend. So I decided to sit next to her during the meeting, but she didn't look happy to see me again. Because I arrived late, I didn't get a chance to talk to her until after the meeting was over. So after the meeting, as we were both heading out, I tried to get her attention by saying hi, then she quickly turned towards me and furiously told me "I thought I told you that I didn't want to see you anymore," then she stormed out of there before I could say anything else to her. With a response like that, she basically implied that she was serious about not wanting to have anything to do with me, so I thought that it was best to forget about her and move on. I guess that what happened between her and I was just a meaningless fling that she regrets because whether she actually had a good time with me or not, she feels bad about it because she basically cheated on her girlfriend with me. Either way, I feel like she just used me. Is this how quick flings are supposed to feel? I feel that because she hasn't kissed a guy before me, that she was just using me to experiment what it is like to kiss a guy. Although this is one of the more extreme cases, I have always had trouble retaining and getting future dates with girls that I have already hooked up with. Is this because the girl becomes afraid because I moved so fast or is it because the girl loses interest and goes into auto rejection because I choose not to go all the way? Another problem that I have is that most of the girls I set up dates with flake on me and I don't know why. When I meet them, I am usually able to make good conversation with them, and most of them were single and seemed interested by the time I set up the date and got their numbers, so I don't know why. I've got some more dates set up with some cute girls that seem interested and are either single or having boyfriend trouble, so I don't want them flaking on me because I think that I have a good chance with them if they actually show up.

Anonymous's picture

Hey Colt,

I'm 19 and have met a beautiful "lesbian" girl and after learning a few things about her, I can clearly see that I have a shot with this girl. She likes all the things girls like, including sex and other girly shit. I am just confused on how to go about this. She does constantly bring up her girlfriend, but I can tell that she is testing to see how I take it. It really just annoys me, but I listen anyway. She constantly tells me how it would never work because she is sooo "gay" but lesbihonest, I have certainly heard the "it will never work" speech and that is a small but easy wall to get over. I guess my question is, how do I skip all of the girlfriend talk (if I should) and get down to business?

Truth's picture

After 30 years of experience with lesbians.....let me tell you something you are under no obligation to believe.....I have come to the conclusion that if they can privately screw you and know that you won't reveal the liaison to the outside world, especially her feminazi 'friends', she will go balls deep on you. Seen it happen a million times before. They are the horniest, sluttiest women you will ever meet in your life...but society will never 'know' this due to political correctness and widespread sexual confusion. Most 'lesbians' will average 50 cocks in their lifetime. I pity the whores.

Eric Mcleoud's picture

So last weekend at the club I have this friend she was dancing with all her other lesbian friends and of course she is a lesbian to but she dressed liked a Boi so no guys would talk to her...because she not a stud or anything I think she a fem she just dress like a Boi time to time but I know what's up and of course when I saw her I spoke she gave me a hug really kinda tight both hands around my neck and I know it just a hug so it don't really mean anything...None the less later on that night the club was over every one was leaving and I saw her by her car and I said hey make sure u get home safely but didn't know til she came closer to the car so she reached in gave me A hug and kissed me on the cheek...So in the moment in shocked me but I didn't show that so I gave her one right back with the same moment....So basically I was just confused and what not so a couple days later I saw her at the mall and said hey you was pretty tore up lol do you remember all that you did..& do you remember seeing me and of course she said with confidence " yes I do remember seeing you and remember giving you a hug and kiss and so I played it cool and said okay well what's your new # cause I have the old one...and she gave it to me no doubt and I text her later that evening to and just having regular convo and asked her do you think I'm attractive and she said you are attractive then I ask are u physically into me and she say "Lol no" and then I said okayy well I'm guessing I'm not your type then and I want to be friends she says "good guess & also you have a penis" so now I'm stuck but she don't know that and we're talking more then comes up are u one way or bi and she say only one...Soo help me out here I'm a good dude and I find her really amazing/attractive to so what should I do or go about this situation Is there a chance here that I may be lucky or should I just let it go ???

This Is Why A Good Man Like Me Is Still Single Today's picture

How in the world can that be possible since they only go for other women? Unless they really decide to experiment with a man and see how it goes. Then she would really be Bi if that is the case.

sarah's picture

this is THE most repulsive article i have ever read in my life. who the HELL are YOU (a MAN) to say anything about what lesbians are like??? clearly these "lesbians" are not lesbians if they are so very open to having sex with men as you are describing, that's called bisexual. how would it make you feel if a gay man wrote an article entitled "how to have sex with straight men (when you're gay"?? its a little predatory don't you think? also, it is completely false and also harmful for you to call lesbians "hypersexual", that is EXTREMELY hurtful to the way society already sees lesbians and you are just perpetuating this. society already sees us as sex driven demons, we don't need any more of that nonsense. whats the fascination men have with lesbians anyways? wouldnt you all rather just stick to women who are actually interested in your gender? also just for the record, lesbians are interested in threesomes as much as straight women are so. stay in your lane.

-a lesbian.

<3's picture

I am so happy someone else said this. Everything in this page is repulsive and predatory and creepy, this kind of thing is why I feel uncomfortable around straight men. Thank you so much for saying what needed to be said here!

And to anyone seriously reading this, I can guarantee neither I nor any of my lesbian friends want to "experiment" or have threesomes with any of you. You're disgusting.

-another lesbian

AllNamesAreTaken's picture

I was so absolutely f*cking angry when I saw this: you can't 'turn' someone straight if they're gay. They don't want to have sex with you, and all the things that you think is leading you on is not. If she says she has a girlfriend, it's not to 'test the f water' it's just letting you know that she has a girlfriend and IS NOT INTERESTED. Honestly, the only reason someone who liked the same-sex would ever have sex with you is if they also liked the opposite sex and therefore are bisexual or pansexual, NOT LESBIAN. This is why so many girls are uncomfortable around us, we're not here to take f advantage of girls, we're here to treat them with respect and not like they're an object that will heed our every beck and call because we think we're hot or that our d*ck is big. Think with your head man, and not the one that's in your pants.
-A decent guy who just wants to let the author know they f*cked up

Everything she said.'s picture

Thank you for providing a dash of sanity on this hellscape of an article. This whole thing reads like someone who thinks his dick is some magical wonder-rod capable of 'showing lesbians the light', and it's every bit as predatory and disgusting as has been previously stated. Anyone who actually takes this advice to heart needs to leave the dating pool entirely until they grow the hell up.

Hawt wasabi's picture

As you can clearly see the rise of the sjws really started to amp up in 2017 judging from the indenial npc like comments, which is interesting as how they even arrived here in the first place is curious. Its weird a guide not for them and one they have no use for it but they complain. I can see why it is when people make discoveries people always want to erase them. Probably would support a guide on how to turn women into lesbians though.

 

-Another lesbian because i can be what i want online

Stephen's picture

My girlfriend and her best friend are planning a get together with me and best friends boyfriend. We talked about watching each other have sex (voyeurism). We know the girls have fantasies with other women and I think they are interested in trying something that weekend. We have set up boundaries about the men not touching the other woman. We are going to play sex games   I was wondering any ideas to get the girls together while the men watch them. 

No. Just no's picture

As someone who knows a lot of lesbian but also a lot of bi women I can guarantee that this article has a lot of false information.

Most pure lesbians even claim that they would rather cut a guys dick off or jump off a building instead of having sex with him and honestly they pull through with it. They're often even really disgusted just because a man flirted with them. If you're a straight man you should relate to them because having sex with a man would be a similar experience as a straight guy being forced to have sex with another guy.

What you're describing a bi women. It could very well be that they have a preference for women however they are still interested in men and relationships with men other than lesbians. This misunderstanding is very likely since bi women , especially those who prefer women often claim they are gay to scare off guys since it doesn't happen often that they're attracted to men since they usually have high standards for those since they're used to women treating them really well and many of them haven't had experiences with men because of the same reason

If you're a guy reading this article and frustrated because you can't get with a lesbian: first of all it isn't healthy to want to get with someone who isn't attracted to you or because they're not attracted to you but second of all don't worry it's not because you're unattractive. It's just that the person you're talking to is really a lesbian.

It's impossible to change someone's sexuality. As a straight girl in the age range of late teens to mid twenties who knows a lot of girls who are in the same age group it's safe to say that about half of us desperately wanted to be gay/les at some point but it just didn't work. So believe me when I say: If it was possible to change sexuality there would be a lot less straight girls out there so please stop the false claims. You're putting poor impressionable guys up to failure... A lot of failure which could even lead to destroying their self-esteem.

Anonymous Lesbian's picture

As an actual lesbian, this article is absolutely disgusting. These "lesbians" that you've supposedly had sex with, were probably bisexual or bicurious or were still questioning their sexuality. A lesbian would never want to have sex with a man unless she is coerced or forced to in some other way. Reading this article makes it clear to me that you are in fact aware that these "lesbians" are bisexual and are neglecting to mention that to inflate your ego and to encourage other sexist men to harass lesbians into sleeping with them.

Society tells us lesbians that we're going through a phase, or we're doing it for male attention, or that we just need to find the right man as if someone's dick is magical enough to "cure" us of lesbianism. When in actuality, lesbians just want straight men to stop hitting on them. You'll never be able to convert a lesbian, so please stop harassing women that tell you they're lesbians. Or (to the other commentators of this article) if a girl tells you that they have a girlfriend - STOP PURSUING THEM.

Seriously, we get enough harassment as it is. This is incredibly homophobic and misogynistic and I doubt you'd be happy with an article that was titled 'How to Sleep with a Straight Man (as a Gay Man)'. And I very much doubt that you'd enjoy a gay man hitting on you either.

Caroline Matilda's picture

Good God, finally. I completely agree.

Lesbians aren't a challenge. I'm not sure if it's coming from a place of ignorance or arrogance, but if a woman is telling you that she's a lesbian, the chances are that she doesn't want to have sex, or a relationship, with a man. There are some that are bisexual, maybe because they haven't decided yet, maybe because they're not into all the different lingo, but either way, they're certainly not the majority and it shows a huge lack of respect to assume that all women want is your dick.

Perception is not reality 's picture

Speaking definitively about what lesbians do or do not do is equally as ignorant as you’re pointing to within the article. Just because you have this perception doesn’t make it universal law. People are subjective and do as they please in the moment. Saying the only way a lesbian sleeps with a man is thru coercion or force is absolutely disgusting. That statement is an enormous indicator into the type of repressed, resentful and harmful psychological behavior you possess. I know lesbian women in their 50s who had previously never touched a man, only to eventually have sex with a man for the first time. People have their reasons. Like experience itself in this limited time on earth. Unique attractions, as we are NOT our bodies, but the souls that play guest to them. People also like to have fun and spontaneous moments happen (if you actually lived a little maybe you would know) and people find themselves doing things they always said they wouldn’t.

Furthermore, as you are not a ruling authority on the subject, as there is none, you need to relax and understand that there are no rules. Everything is fluid.

You sound like a hateful bigot.

Stanislav's picture

Lesbians exist to be challenge for men.

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