Tandem Hunting: Picking Up Girls for Threesomes with Your Girlfriend

Good day, beautiful people of Girls Chase! In the first article in this series, "How to Have Threesomes with Your Girlfriend", I covered three keys that will really help you get threesomes with a girlfriend:

• Your attitude towards women,
• The kind of relationship you have with your girl, and
• How to work with her feelings about the whole situation

In this follow-up, I'm going a bit more into the "technical" side of things: the do's and don'ts, the details on picking up a girl with an existing girlfriend of yours (also known as "tandem hunting"), as well as answering some of the questions you've asked me about the subject in the comments section of the first piece.

First, let's answer the questions from readers on tandem hunting itself -- on going out, selecting a girl to include in your threesome, and picking her up.

Should you do the approach, or should she do it? Should you do it together?

And are naughty girls really more predisposed to this anyway -- and "good girls" simply not?

Question #1: Does the Type of Girl Matter?

In this question, a commenter asserted his suspicion that threesomes are harder to have with "good girls." The answer is… no. If you got the three keys of this down, which I outlined and explained in the first article, you will find that most women, both in their efforts to please you and desire to experiment, will at least be open to threesomes, if you play your cards right.

However, if you screen for girls who either label themselves as "bisexual" or admit to being bi-curious, you will certainly have an easier time. And again, most women have fantasized about it, regardless of their "type," and are waiting for the right guy and the right relationship to bring that side of them out in a safe, exciting environment.

Lastly -- and this is a bit advanced -- as you get more and more refined in your approach and your style, you will find that many women will conform their "type" to meet your frame. By using sexual framing properly, from the very first conversation, you will be helping to open up that side of her that most girls keep reserved specifically for a man like you!

Question #2: Is It Better If the Girl Approaches, You Approach, or You Go Together?

Great question. In my experience, it is FAR more effective to have ONE person approach the potential threesome candidate, than to approach her together.

Being approached by two people at once can make her feel "accosted," and may lead to rejection simply because she's overwhelmed trying to make sense of all the new information coming her way: trying to understand why you approached, your dynamic, and the approach itself is a lot of sensory information for one person to deal with at once.

As to whether while out tandem hunting you ought to approach the other prospective partner or your girl ought to approach her: both paths work.

When it is YOU doing the approaching, there are a few things to keep in mind. Firstly, just game the girl like you normally would. Look for approach invitations. Approach effectively. Flirt effectively. Look for signs she likes you. Once you've been doing that and can tell the girl is interested in you, that is when you "switch gears" and state what it is you want. That is how you get a threesome partner by cold approaching.

In the other example I mentioned in the first half of this series, I simply sent out a text stating my desires to the girl I wanted to ask about participating in a threesome with my girlfriend and I.

Most of the time, you will have to be the one to take action. Many girls are scared of approaching romantic partners -- just like men are -- but never have to learn how to do it because the onus of the approach is traditionally on the male. This is why so many will get dolled up, go out looking for a partner, and return home alone at night -- they never approached anyone and expect the man to do the work.

So that's the option you'll use most -- do the work yourself!

The other major option when tandem hunting is to have the girl approach another girl. Though many are nervous to do this, some will take the initiative. There is actually not much "game" involved when this happens, and I'll explain more from the example I used in the last article. When I asked my primary how she got the other girl to agree to it, she told me that she basically just stated it bluntly (much like I would do). She simply said to her, "I want to double-team Drexel for his birthday. Are you cool with it?" The girl thought it sounded like fun, and readily agreed.

So that can also work. If the potential threesome candidate is a close friend of your girl's, let her do it. Both parties are already very comfortable with each other and it will be far easier this way than if you go up and try to do it yourself. They already have a history you can't fully know; let them figure it out.

Once you've met a girl who's agreed to a threesome (or you or your girl has texted one you or her already know to come over), now all you've got left to do is the sex itself... and the moments afterward.

In this section, we'll take a look at a really effective way to initiate a threesome with a girl who's already agreed to join in, and how to handle the after-glow -- which may well be a little awkward if the third partner doesn't have good timing about when to excuse herself and you don't know quite what to do about it either.

Question #3: More Logistics, Please!

Okay, this is kind of a two-parter. Firstly, there is the question of actual sex logistics, as in "how to initiate the threesome." Then there is another question, about how to handle the aftermath. Let's take these one at a time.

Some of this may sound a little wild to you guys, but hey… that's what we're here to talk about, isn't it?

In several of my group activities (two of them involved four people, instead of three), the group sex was initiated by two or more of the people involved already having sex when the other person arrived. In one case I remember quite clearly, I was hunted down by a couple specifically to partake in a threesome with them. We went back to their house, had some drinks, played some games, etc.

They retreated to the bedroom, instructing me to come in a few minutes later. When I got there, lo and behold -- the man and woman were already naked, having sex with each other. The female told me to undress and join them, and so I did. Their other roommate ended up joining us, too, but that is a story for another time…

After that incident, I decided to try the same tactic myself next time I had a threesome on the table. My girlfriend and I, after talking about it, decided to invite another girl over. As referenced in my other article, I sent her a quick text asking whether she wanted to join us, and she was into it.

Knowing that one of the fastest ways to get a girl horny is to have her see or think about sex of pretty much any kind, I decided that I would already be banging my girlfriend when the other girl walked in. I did this for a couple of reasons:

1. It worked on me, with an absolute minimum of "game-y-ness" or awkward small talk, and

2. I didn't especially want the two of them talking to each other at great length. It is important for the girls to both be aware of what's happening, and to maybe have a very brief interaction, but there is no need for the two of them to deep dive each other when all they are there for is some fun, hot sex

Plus, I did not necessarily want my girlfriend interrogating my friend-with-benefits about the particulars of our relationship, so I made sure to keep communication between them to a minimum.

When that girl arrived, I was already having sex with my girlfriend and simply told her, "Take off your clothes and come join us." She giggled, stripped naked, and jumped on the bed.

In another instance, the three of us were simply sitting on a bed together. I initiated the group activities by kissing first my primary, then turning to the other girl and saying, "Your turn, come here." She began to kiss me, and as she did so, my primary started removing my clothing. In that instance, I was the one directing the action, telling them what to do to me and each other.

And that's an important point -- if you're orchestrating the situation, you need to be in charge. You need to be comfortable giving orders and directing all the participants, some of whom may have never done this before and aren't really sure how it works.

Question #4: Handling the Aftermath

This commenter asked how to handle the situation after the sex has taken place, and now you have two girls over. How long should they stay? Do you kick one out? Do you kick them both out, because you're only two levels away from a Legendary weapon in Diablo III?

What I find is that there is a "right" amount of time for the three of you to hang out post-sex, after which, the third party must leave and allow the couple to reconnect, talk about the experience, etc. After sex of any kind, there is a beautiful, raw afterglow that makes everyone feel amazing. Threesomes are no different. I can't give you a number in terms of minutes, it's more of a feeling of "let's enjoy this afterglow together," then take note of when it begins to wear off. That's the right time.

You've just embarked on an epic group sex journey together, so that glow is very powerful and if you hope to have more sex like this, it is important to make sure everyone involved has a positive experience. Part of that is the tension beforehand, part of it is the actual sex, and part of it is enjoying the puddle of awesome that you three just created together.

Post-sex is a great time to reiterate how much fun you had, what a great experience it was, and hug it out. Ideally, you want everyone on the same page, agreeing about how great it was and leaving each individual open to more possibilities in the future. If you do this right, most people will be interested in future threesomes.

The most important part is to make sure everyone has fun, then let the third party leave on a high note. It could be a drag to have everyone calm down and start getting into useless small talk, so make sure she leaves just at the tail end of the glow.

Sometimes, the third party will simply excuse herself. Reiterate how much fun you had, tell her you'll call her later (if you had her number at all), then send her on her way. Other times, she might not quite get the hint, and you have to kind of "push" her towards the idea of going home.

Always remember -- in any threesome, you and your main girl are the focus. The third person is there to enhance the experience, and her experience is important, but YOUR girl's needs come first. If you can tell your girl wants some time alone with you afterward, to talk it out or just to cuddle one-on-one, you need to be aware of her desires and gently get the other person to leave.

Were you to prioritize the other woman over your girlfriend, you could potentially trigger a lot of insecurity, jealousy, and other negative emotions that could very much prevent any future threesomes from happening (and may negatively impact your main relationship).

To review, all the finer points covered in our overview of tandem hunting here are:

1. The type of girl most likely doesn't matter, if you've framed yourself properly and are leading the relationship.

2. DO NOT approach together, at least not for the initial offer. Either you do it, if it's a cold approach or someone you know, or let her do it if it's someone she knows better.

3. LEAD the threesome. Tell them what to do. One great tactic is to already be getting intimate when the third party gets there. Another is to just start kissing one, turn your head, and start kissing the other. From there, things can just progress naturally.

4. Let the two girls talk, a little, just an introduction and so they can feel each other out a bit. There is no need for the two of them to start having deep, personal conversations, and this will kill the vibe you've worked so hard to create and maintain.

5. Let everyone enjoy the afterglow together, hugging, caressing, intimately discussing how much fun that was. Afterward, allow the other girl to go, or nudge her towards leaving, so you can return 100% focus to your girlfriend and debrief the experience.

So there's your game plan, ladies and gentlemen. I hope this follow up helped put some more of the particulars into perspective, as well as answering the questions that some of you had. Keep em coming!

Love, peace, and hot steamy sex,

Drexel