How to Get Threesomes with Girls You Know

Today we will be talking about one of my favorite topics: threesomes. I will share some basic principles that are key in making one happen: we will discuss some inner game issues, requirements, and the pre-work necessary for such an endeavor.

Keep in mind that this post is only an introduction to threesomes, so it will only cover the basic principles. I will in the future write more advanced posts on the topic. But for now, this post is suited for intermediate to advanced players.

What we will cover in this post is how to set up a threesome. We will not discuss spontaneous threesomes, such as when you meet two women at the pub and hours later end up in a threesome with them, as that is more advanced and we need to learn how to walk before we can run. If you still would like to read more on spontaneous threesomes, check out my threesome report here.

After covering the basics, I will use a real life example to discuss the steps to making a threesome happen. And you’ve already guessed it – the real life example is the continuation of my last lay report, the one where I used a sexual frame to get crazy sex from a woman fast.

In this post we will continue the story as I met with Tessa and her friend for a potential threesome. I will of course explain the process step by step.

Enjoy!

Oftentimes men read posts about threesomes and how to get them with the underlying feeling that sure, it’s interesting, but they won’t be able to pull one off. Threesomes feel “out of reach” for many men. You need to be really hot and attractive to get a threesome is the common mindset, and I’m talking about “godlike” attractive.

However, that is not true. Threesomes are easier to pull off than you would believe. Yes, it is not easy and it is not like I get to have one any old week. If you manage to pull two to four threesomes a year you are in my opinion doing really well. There is of course a lot of luck involved in getting a threesome, though, there is still a lot of skill involved. In order to get something out of this post and be able to pull a threesome in the near future you should:

• Already be able to occasionally get laid – the more consistently the better

• Be able to at least manage to have two friend with benefits at once – the more the better (although not required, as we shall see in a minute)

• Be a sexual guy who can set a strong sexual frame that results in women perceiving you as a sexually open and adventurous guy

• Be the sexual man who is good and adventurous in bed

• Have good screening skills – be able to spot which women are good leads and which are not. In this case you are looking for bi-curious women

• Have good escalation skills. If you are at any point insecure, you will fail. Keep in mind that it is harder to recover from a failure during the escalation process during a threesome than in a standard scenario

However, if you are not quite there yet you may still get something out of this article, as there are some parts that are applicable to the beginner. It is also a good thing to know what is possible to pull off, so this post can work as a motivator in that sense too.

Why You Never Had a Threesome

Very few men are able to pull off threesomes. There are of course many reasons for that, but one of the biggest ones for why they never experience a threesome is because they never try to get one in the first place! A huge majority of men (even experienced seducers!) never even attempt to go for a threesome.

If you haven’t had a threesome yet, ask yourself: when was the last time you tried to actually get one?

Most men I have asked this question either answer: “never” or “there was this time when…” Yet either way the answer is clear: they have not gotten into any threesomes yet simply because they have never tried. Like getting laid, women do not fall into our bed from the sky (or at least it happens only rarely); hence the chances of having two women randomly falling into our beds is even smaller. So just sitting there passively and waiting for a miracle won’t work.

We as men have to make it happen; it is in our nature to be sexually dominant (as “the ones leading both women inside and outside the bedroom”). This principle applies even more in threesome scenarios.

Are Women Into Threesomes?

Are you ready for some good news?

Most women are! And even better, there is very little taboo around it.

Believe it or not, having a threesome with another woman and a man is one of the top three most common (and strongest) female sex fantasies. Most women I have talked to do seem positive about the idea of sharing a man with another female (but mind you – that man is very rarely their boyfriend).

According to my own estimation, I would say that almost 60% of the women I meet (I live in the Western world, but I have had threesomes in Thailand and China) are open to the idea of having a threesome. This means that, out of ten women I manage to bed, six of them would be up for a threesome.

If I make them all fuck buddies, I will have six women to pimp together making a total of fifteen potential threesomes. Fifteen opportunities to have a threesome! That is a lot of opportunities.

But let us be more realistic: let us say you manage to have three fuck buddies who falls into the category of “willing to have sex with another female” then you have in total six chances to get a threesome (or multiple threesomes if you are lucky and awesome!).

This is all very theoretical and real life might not be as simple, but my point is that getting a threesome is far from impossible if you are able to occasionally get laid and have your basics in check.

In my last post I went over a lay report where we looked at my process of getting laid step by step. I described a night out and explained the different techniques and tactics I use and then covered why they work. It is not necessary to read it, of course, but it is highly recommended for an in depth understanding of this post.

The Sexual Frames

We will now discuss how the events of the last post effected the outcome of this one. Basically we will look at how the sexual frame I set the night I met this woman helped me get a threesome.

Long story short about my last report: I managed to get a one-night stand. However, the way I seduced her was by setting a strong sexual frame, conveying:

1. That I was a sexual, freaky guy

2. That I was a man who could provide crazy sex

3. That I was open-minded and adventurous when it came to sex – i.e., non-judgmental

The results are that the women I sleep with become sexually open around me. Girls know that I am non-judgmental and open-minded when it comes to sex, so they will be less afraid of opening up sexually when around me again, as they know that they have nothing to fear by doing so. Many women are afraid of opening themselves up sexually to men they find attractive, believing we men do not like women’s sexual nature. They believe we fall for women who are Madonnas who barely like sex and who only offer us sex as a reward, etc.

Most men do seem to prefer such women, but that is because they fear having women cheat on them. Keep in mind that the majority of men are this way. If you check out my post on the secret society you can read my explanation for why women hold back their sexuality and hide their desires in more detail.

So whenever a woman is attracted to a male, in order to become perceived as a good girl well fitted for a relationship she avoids displaying too much of her true sexual self. This is one of the many causes of why some women do not have sex on the first “date”.

By framing yourself as a lover (i.e., a sexual man) you convey that you are the man who understands women’s sexuality; who knows what dirty beasts they are yet won’t be judgmental about it. Not only will women love you for this, they will also have crazy sex with you. You frame yourself as a man who only provides sexual pleasure – not just another potential boyfriend candidate. Keep in mind that when I mention “boyfriend” I am referring to it in the mainstream sense.

Communicating all this is key for two reasons:

1. Women will not have a threesome with a judgmental man. Threesomes, although not particularly taboo for most women, are still preferred to be done with a sexually open man, as that minimizes awkwardness (which does often occur in threesome settings).

2. A threesome is more work than just having sex with one girl. Trust me, you will sleep tight afterwards. But how can you satisfy both women (and lead them sexually) if you are not able to be a good lay for even one woman? The men who offer pleasurable threesome experiences are always good lovers. Women seeking pleasure will most of the time have threesome with men who they know are good in bed (and who manage to convey it, either by actually being good in bed or by the use of, for example, sex talk – or a combination of both).

Now, I know many of you are not using sex talk as a tool to seduce women. This is not a problem, although it is the most effective (and least time consuming) way of setting the right sexual frames.

Another way of setting them (that I believe is more commonly used) is to make the girl you just shagged into a friend with benefits, have sex a few times, and continue experimenting while having an open dialogue over time. Once you manage to have a relationship with her that is sexually adventurous, open, and non-judgmental, you are in. It is therefore key to have an open dialogue about sex and always be experimenting with things.

Keep in mind that some women are just boring in bed. If she is not adventurous in bed at all, she is most likely not a potential threesome partner.

Too Much Attraction

Believe it or not, if a woman becomes too attracted to you the chances of you getting to have a threesome with her and another girl will minimize drastically. It is in fact harder to pull off a threesome with your long-term girlfriend than it is with a random fuck buddy.

The reason is simple: once a girl is very attracted to you or sees you as a potential boyfriend, she does anything to make you commit exclusively to her. It is this notion of exclusivity that ruins the fun. A girl that likes you a lot and/or sees you as a potential boyfriend will not be open to sharing you with someone else.

So make sure that the relationship between you and your potential threesome partners are only based on sex and nothing else. The more emotions there are in the picture, the harder it will be.

So, to avoid this:

• Setting sexual frames makes you perceived more as a lover and less as a provider (or less as a potential boyfriend).

• Not meeting your friend with benefits too often is key. Some have a “once every week” rule, I prefer meeting them once every ten days. Meeting women too often communicates to her that you are after something more.

• Never do anything “romantic” or emotionally loaded with her. Avoid behaving like a [potential] boyfriend (romantic kissing, holding hands, spooning for too long, going on dates with her, etc.). You meet up, eat a pizza, and talk and laugh for a bit. Have a few drinks if you like, but make sure you always have sex with her.

• Don’t meet her friends (apart from women she plans on bringing in for threesomes!).

We will now discuss how you plan and set up a threesome. Planning can be misunderstood, as you never really plan anything. Planning sex is awkward and unsexy. What you can however do is plan for potential threesomes. In other words, planning that something “might” happen versus something will happen. The first one is the one to go for. For example:

Alek: Let us meet Oda and see where it leads.

Tora: Yeah, sounds fun!

Rather than…

Alek: Let us meet Oda for a threesome.

Tora: Oh actually I have been thinking about it – I don’t feel ready for such a thing yet.

This way you keep the level of excitement up without opening things up for potential resistance. Your mindset is that you’ll just meet up and see what happens. This mindset always seems to make women comfortable and more willing to experiment, as it removes a lot of the pressure.

Screening for the Right Women

One of the most important things in seduction is screening for the right woman. And this is especially important when it comes to threesomes. You need to meet girls who are open for threesomes (and remember that there are quite a few of them out there).

Keep in mind however that women only open up sexually to men they perceive as lovers, so unless you have managed to set a sexual frame – where she perceives you as a sexual man who is non-judgmental and sexually curious – chances are, she won’t even bother letting you know that she is into the idea of having a threesome. So remember, setting the right frame is KEY.

There are many ways you can find out whether or not she is into the idea of having a threesome:

1. The simple way: ask her if she is up for a threesome! This is direct and simple and, believe it or not, it works.

2. Ask if she has ever had a threesome. If she says yes, ask her to tell you the story and tell her that she seems like the perfect threesome girl for you, because in fact, you are the threesome man!

3. Find out if she has ever had sex with a girl. I usually just ask: “Have you ever licked pussy?” and I usually get a rather honest answer. Shockingly a lot of girls have had sex with another girl (and it is always with a friend!). If she has, tell her you would like to see it and propose a threesome.

Of course, your chances of getting a yes increase if you go for a sexually confident women who has a minimum of sexual inhibitions and a desire for sexual adventure.

What if a girl says no and is not up for it?

Sorry to disappoint you, but you will get the standard Alek answer on this one: don’t get needy (as it will do more damage than good) and either try again on a later occasion or move on (there are tons of girls out there!).

What if a girl says yes and is up for it?

If you have any other fuck buddies who are up for a threesome, tell her that you have a friend who is up for a threesome too then show her some pictures of her and see if she is up for getting together and seeing where it leads.

Then ask her if she prefers to bring in a stranger (the worst possible answer – as going out and trying to pick up a random girl with a fuck buddy rarely works for me and is quite hard to pull off) or with a friend of hers (the best option).

Different Types of Threesomes

There are three categories of threesomes.

The first is where you meet two strangers and end up having a threesome with both of them on the same night. These are the hardest to pull off and is a topic beyond the scope of this article.

The easiest type of threesome to pull off is those where you just bring together two fuck buddies of yours together. In such cases you need to have at least two fuck buddies who are up for a threesome. You show pics of them to each other and find out if they think they’ll match. Or you can just describe to them one another’s personalities. Find out if they match, and, if yes, meet up and make it happen. The pitfall here is that you risk jealousy breaking out, although that only happens rarely, as you all agreed beforehand to try out having the threesome.

We also have another type of threesome which is a little harder to pull off (but not that much harder). This is the type where your fuck buddy brings another girl in. This is a good scenario because your fuck buddy is already almost 100% in, so she will be on your team to make it happen while the other girl has no relations to you yet. In this scenario you avoid potential jealousy break outs. The pitfall however is that you don’t know if that other girl is hot. I have had experiences where the friend was a warpig.

If we remember from my lay report, I worked a lot on implementing a sexual frame. The girl and I talked a lot about threesomes and sexual openness, resulting in her admitting to having sex with a chick who was living in Stockholm. After I shared multiple sex stories of me having threesomes she felt that I was used to it and therefore she felt comfortable about maybe having threesomes with me.

She also felt I had a lot of experience with threesomes and, after experiencing me in bed, she knew I was the real deal. Before I left that night after having sex with her we fixed a meet up with her friend from Stockholm who was supposed to arrive in the coming days.

The Meet Up

After she arrived we all met up. We started the night by grabbing a quick beer at a lame bar. The reasons we picked a lame bar is because we had no intentions of staying – at least I didn’t. The worse the meet up place, the more likely you’ll end up extracting the girls to the seduction location. Keep that in mind when setting up your dates in the future.

Her friend, Sigrid, had brown hair and brown eyes and a few curls, but seriously, she was not that hot, but hey! threesomes are awesome either way. The vibe was great and we talked about how they both met in order to create some rapport, because keep in mind I am a stranger who her friend wants her to have a threesome with.

It was time to set the sexual frame again in order to set a bubble of sexual liberty around the three of us. It was of course key that Sigrid perceived me as a low key man who she could feel sexually liberated with, as my intention was to make her release her inner sexual beast.

So I asked the friend if she ever had a threesome before and she quickly asked me in return if I ever had one (I consider this a serious sign of interest). We talked about threesomes for a while. Talking about threesomes is a good way to not only turn women on but also set the threesome vibe.

Extraction

A bit later I proposed going back to their place in order to drink some cheaper alcohol in a more “private environment”.

Once the iron is hot, it is often wise to seal the deal. So always have a good excuse to leave in the back of your mind.

They were up for it. The girl from the last report, Tessa, was pretty much cooperating with me to get the threesome. This is because she planned it with me.

This was a key factor indeed, because, think about it: you will now be two against one and you will then have more impact on setting the correct atmosphere (or “vibe” if you prefer). The reason is that the third one (the girl not yet playing ball) will feel like an outsider when you start kissing and making out (or even giving oral sex to each other) in front of her. This will make her more willing to participate. Whenever the third one isn’t following you two she will feel like an outsider, which she doesn’t want and therefore increases the chances of her committing – in this case to a threesome.

Keep in mind that in this scenario it is clear that Tessa is cooperating because we planned the threesome together. There will always be one girl more willing than the other one. You need to spot who that is and escalate more on her.

Threesome Escalation

This part is tricky; ideally you should escalate equally on both. But sometimes, or actually quite often, one is cooperating more than the other. In this case you need to focus more on that girl but still give attention to the other one. You do not want the girl you are escalating less on to feel left out, especially when she is more receptive.

So what you do is escalate equally on both. However, you never start doing the “next move”, such as kissing, touching breasts, putting hand between her legs, on the lesser receptive girl – instead, always escalate first on the more receptive one.

The reason for this is simple: by doing so you avoid potential resistance. Resistance in threesome scenarios is hard to handle because if one of them shows resistance it will affect the other girl too and she might resist as well. So, if you for example kiss the receptive one first, you avoid that potential resistance of the second girl. Then, as the other girl sees that you are already kissing the first, she feels more “allowed” to kiss you because she is not the first one to do so, and since the other girl did it before her without being or feeling like a slut, then it is all fine.

It also creates a more intense and sexually open vibe that works in your favor!

Let me exemplify:

At Tessa’s Place

We went back up to the girls’ place and start drinking some wine, and I quickly I start kissing the blonde girl Tessa, the one whom I’d already had sex with. Again, it is very important to always kiss the one who is really into you first. However, once you drag the other girl in, you give her as much attention as the first one – remember, always treat them as equals.

Then you need to put the two women together. Now, in this scenario this was rather simple, as they were already fuck buddies. But usually what you want to do is try to go for a three-way kiss. That way it’s not only you escalating on each girl, but also each of them escalating on one another. How do you do that?

You do it for them. In other words: you lead. You do so by taking, for example, the hand of one of the girls and placing it on the shoulder of the other. Then you can put the hand of the other one on her belly. Just follow your typical “escalating to sex” pattern: start light and increase according to the girls’ receptiveness. I have written posts on escalation if you need more info on this (you should probably have that down before you attempt a threesome).

If the girls are not okay touching each other’s intimate areas (in other words: not okay with having sex with each other during the threesome) then no issue. They don’t need to. Make the threesome into one where they both “double-team you”. Of course, it is not as fun as the “everyone banging each other” threesome, but it’s still fun.

After the three-way kiss you need to make them both really horny, because your goal is to make them so horny that any sign of logic disappears (also a good strategy if you are going for standard single girl seduction). After that point, you are usually free to do whatever you’d like. What was cool with these women was that they were also banging each other during the threesome, so that made the experience much more interesting.

Threesomes Recap

Most women are into threesomes. It is a quite common sex fantasy. There is also very little taboo to it. Most likely if you are already able to get laid on a regular basis, the only reason you haven’t had a threesome yet is because you haven’t tried.

So do it. And remember, women rarely lose attraction for you if you ask for a threesome. Fact is, it might make them more attracted to you, as it communicates indirectly that you have other girls available.

If a threesome does not take place and if you don’t make the situation totally awkward, the worst that can happen has already transpired – a threesome didn’t take place. You see, going for threesomes is a very low risk thing to do.

So, to wrap up, here is a list describing how you make a threesome happen:

• Set the right frames (i.e., sexual)

• Get fuck buddies and make sure the sex and relationship with them is good, adventurous, and open-minded

• Set a meeting without being needy – remember that your frame is that a threesome “might” happen

• Isolate both chicks (to the seduction location)

• Always be in the center; always sit or stand between them

• Start escalating on the one you are most likely to not get resistance from

• Then escalate on the other chick. Treat them both as equals

• Put them together and make them get used to each other – here you will quickly find out whether or not they are into banging each other or not depending on how they are kissing one another

• Do a three-way kiss

• Make them really horny (remembering to still treat them as equals) and get them undressed

• Have fun

If you have any relevant questions, feel free to post them here. Dave or I will answer them as fast we can.

I hope you enjoyed this article.

Until next,

-Alek