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12 Ways to Spot a Transsexual (Signs She's a He)

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Not every transsexual wants you to know all the details. To not get catfished, you need to know how to spot a transsexual – and steer clear of traps.

I just saw the David Cronenberg movie M. Butterfly, about a dude who seduces another dude who doesn’t know he’s a dude, and carries on an affair with him for 20 years and even convinces him they had a child together. All based on a true story (you can read about it on Wikipedia). What a weird movie that was (I’ve always loved both main actors, too – Jeremy Irons and John Lone. Terrific talents. Though this sure was a strange flick). Anyway, got me thinking about this topic.

A while back, I was out with a group of people in a new city. Our group consisted of five guys and four girls. Three of the girls were friends, but one was a little separate from the rest of the group. And this one... something about her triggered my “there’s something weird here” radar.

She was dressed in a sexy teal dress, and went around flirting with all the boys. She had an eye for me in particular. But to me, she looked like the women I’d seen in a cougar club in Del Mar; skin too-tight on the face (obvious sign of a face lift), lips full in an unnatural way (Botox?), dressed too flashy for an average girl. “She must be an older woman hunting for younger guys,” I thought.

At one point though, the guy I knew there leaned in and told me “She used to be a guy.”

Light bulbs went off. Ah... that’s what I was picking up on.

“Her last boyfriend didn’t find out until they’d been sleeping together for a month,” he said.

“Interesting,” I said. “How’d he react to that?”

“He was pretty upset,” my friend said.

This article is about how to not end up like that duped boyfriend, or some of the other men I’ve had transsexuals tell me about from their romantic histories (one, showing me a picture of a boyfriend, about said boyfriend: “He got used to it”). It’s about how to spot a transsexual – because not every transsexual wants you to know the truth.

Chase AmanteAbout the Author: Chase Amante

Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone. So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating. After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website. He will teach you everything he knows about girls in one single program in his One Date System.

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Sandman's picture

Man! You really will inform us about everything related to seduction, won't you :)

I had an interaction with a tranny as well, when I think about in hindsight, "the voice" sign was there, "extremely forward" was there (I invited her to home after talking with her maybe 5-10 min), "exhibitionism" was there... In the field report I asked you write this article, here it goes if anyone wants to give it a read haha http://www.girlschase.com/boards/viewtopic.php?f=5&t=16674

Of course I am much more on guard these days, recently I matched with a black/indian girl on tinder and her pictures were low quality so I couldn't be sure if she was a ts so I asked! Lol! Fortunately she still agreed to meet up and when we met up I was relieved to see my fears were unfounded :)

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Chase Amante's picture

Sandman-

Oh, what an interesting experience! "Oh you didn't know?" And then you gave it a shot anyway until you decided nope, just not doing it for me.

Yes, after a few experiences it can make you a little paranoid with girls who have a squarer jaw or more muscular arms/broader shoulders or some other feature you'd more often attribute to men (or, those lower quality pics). You just pay closer attention to the voice and usually you're fine - so long as that's natural, the other stuff is usually just "girl with a square jaw" or "girl who played more sports" (or girl with a crappy camera) and that's it.

Chase

Frank Calandrino's picture

You nailed it with the something being off I’ve always found that too,when there’s something off, they’re  a guy till proven otherwise. And the ones that are actually women that you just walk away from, that small percentage you can live with definitely. This part is most common at least for me when it comes to online dating,when you kind of figured it out that they are a tranny. No matter what they will lie their asses off.I’m telling you some will even make believe that they’re  in a relationship or lie about their religion ex. ( catholic) even that they have children, even a shorter height. I’ve even met the ones who actually do have kids but they went from being the man to the woman I kid you not.All those things and will not admit it when you call him out on it because I guess.  Nobody likes to be called out and that goes for everybody actually but yeah great read bud

Frank

Mike's picture

Great article Chase,
I’m wondering how you would go about ending a conversation should you find that you’re talking to a transexual. I wouldn’t want to be rude of course, but I wouldn’t feel right continuing that interaction. Maybe you have an article on ending conversations, but that would be great to know how to do in any case, such as her not passing your screen tests.

Thanks, Mike

Alek Rolstad's picture

Here is what I do:

- Finish subject
- Talk for 2- 5 more minutes
- Find an excuse to leave (find friends, bathroom)
- Leave

:)

-Alek

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Chase Amante's picture

+1!

I always like "All right, I'm going to go scout the place out a bit more" as the excuse. Very neutral conversation break, nobody ever has an issue with it, and no matter what you do after you leave it looks like you are "scouting the place out", as you said you would ;)

Chase

Henrik's picture

Hi, I'm living in Bangkok where there are plenty of ladyboys and I would like to add a few extra tell points.

1. Men in general have thicker skin than women and with some ladyboys you can clearly feel the difference. Some ladyboys focus on making their hands softer but forget the rest of their skin.

2. A bit similar to the sexually forward, guys and girls personalities and behaviors are fundamentally different. This is the easiest sign for me to tell (maybe because I've always been spending a lot of time with girls and normally feel more at ease around girls than guys)

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Chase Amante's picture

Henrik-

Two great extra points here for sure.

Just gotta watch out for the ones with the softer skin (like the one who put my hand on his midriff)... not sure if that's moisturizer or what they're doing to get it so silky, but that one could easily pass for female skin, at least on a quick brush. Maybe if you grabbed a fistful of it it'd be thicker though.

The different personalities is for sure a dead giveaway once you're picking up on it. You typically need a few experiences around transsexuals for this to start to stand out to you (and have it be more than just a "Hmm, something feels weird/different here, but I can't quite put my finger on what" type of thing), but once you have it it's very obvious. It is that "male personality" signal - even when women have more aggressive personalities, they still are different from what a transsexual's is. And even when you run into the softer/more passive transsexuals, they still have personalities that are more 'ersatz female' than anything else - it stands out once you've been exposed to it enough.

Chase

SZ's picture

It's funny because I was gonna ask you how can you tell if she is a she, but I'm lucky to say I can tell.

1.That one on number 11 looks like a fuckin girl. If he didn't have big tits how could you tell that was a guy?

2. I gotta be honest, those who lie deserve to get their ass beat. Idc if it sounds wrong, but they go out they're way to trick men. I feel that that is terrible, they are tryna ruin guys lives with this trickery.

I feel they all have a mental illness, they are fucked up in the head. What are your thoughts on why they would put themselves in harms way by lying? It's not worth their life. All that work you got done on yourself to try to trick someone and have a high chance to get your ass beat Or killed? Just be honest and don't trick anyone.

I don't hate them as a whole, but the ones who try to trick unsuspecting innocent men are filth.

3. Why do you think this thing is pushed so hard through the media? I feel it's just to fuck things up and make people riot. They're trying to put them in movies, on tv, even trying to give them bathrooms to share with women! What's the point of it all?

4. Now, on to regular chicks, can you give examples on what to look out for with aggressive forward female? How to you tell if one is genuine ? And the other is malacious? What would they be trying to get from you? What are signs they just want you instead of setting you up?

I feel this really needs an article Chase, honestly, there's so many articles I see with guys getting tricked and hurt or worse because of girls like this. It's always so sad to see.

5. Elbow check: wouldn't a girl take offense if you thought she was a man? Lol she would be mad at you for thinking that she's manly enough for the elbow test. So how do you play it off without it looking like you couldn't tell what she was?

And how often would you do this with girls in every outing? Because you did say if you feel it's a dude, better be safe than sorry. So I'm guessing the girls you did the elbow test to looked like they could be a he, if not then how could we know what kind of girls to do it to? Instead of doing it to all of the girls that we meet?

6. What are some smooth ways to do the elbow check with chicks? Especially the handbag one? Could you give an example on both elbow check compliance requests?

P.s. also chase you should add that they wear collars to hide their adams apple!

Karl's picture

"So how do you play it off without it looking like you couldn't tell what she was?"

You can do the elbow test in a playful, teasing manner. Practice it first with a few women who are unquestionably female. Get them to do it first before you explain why, and they'll probably laugh when you explain after.

You could make it a challenge. "Hey, I bet my elbows bend farther than yours - here [bend her arm gently] - oh, crap, looks like you beat me!"

In fact, this could make a good excuse for touching any woman you're flirting with.

In the case where "she" fails the test, you could quickly excuse yourself with a "hey, I forgot, I need to find my friends" and step away.

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Chase Amante's picture

SZ-

On #11, people tend to post their best pictures online. There will be more tells in real life than what you'll see online in a picture (or even a video).

What are your thoughts on why they would put themselves in harms way by lying? It's not worth their life. All that work you got done on yourself to try to trick someone and have a high chance to get your ass beat Or killed? Just be honest and don't trick anyone.

Same as anyone trying to trick anyone for sex or sex-related items. "If I can make her think I want a long-term relationship, she'll have sex with me." "If I can make him think I want to sleep with him, he'll help my career." Etc.

In trannies' case, sometimes it works: they get fairly good after a while at screening for guys who won't flip out, and might be open to it... then when they get these guys alone, the guy is horny, wants to get laid, and it's - oh, you're a dude? But you look like a girl? ... eh, okay, I'll try it out anyway, who knows.

Just from the stories I've had transsexuals tell me, it seems like there is a not-insignificant number of men willing to think about it like "she is a girl who just happens to have a penis" rather than as "he is a man who is masquerading as a woman."

3. Why do you think this thing is pushed so hard through the media? I feel it's just to fuck things up and make people riot. They're trying to put them in movies, on tv, even trying to give them bathrooms to share with women! What's the point of it all?

It's a symptom of what I talk about in this article:

The highest level is: what population is the easiest one to control? So long as you can keep the populace fighting amongst itself over irrelevant distractions, you can prevent it from fighting with its masters for control.

The intermediate level: media companies are almost entirely staffed with 'true believer' progressives. And progressive ideology centers on always pushing the social boundaries out further. Transsexuals are the most recent vehicle to do that with.

The lowest level: media is driven by views and clicks, and the biggest, best driver of that is outrage. There is little more outrageous than men dressing up as women, and other people telling you there's something wrong with you if you don't like it.

4. Now, on to regular chicks, can you give examples on what to look out for with aggressive forward female? How to you tell if one is genuine ? And the other is malacious? What would they be trying to get from you? What are signs they just want you instead of setting you up?

I feel this really needs an article Chase, honestly, there's so many articles I see with guys getting tricked and hurt or worse because of girls like this. It's always so sad to see.

Remember this article series?:

5. Elbow check: wouldn't a girl take offense if you thought she was a man? Lol she would be mad at you for thinking that she's manly enough for the elbow test. So how do you play it off without it looking like you couldn't tell what she was?

And how often would you do this with girls in every outing? Because you did say if you feel it's a dude, better be safe than sorry. So I'm guessing the girls you did the elbow test to looked like they could be a he, if not then how could we know what kind of girls to do it to? Instead of doing it to all of the girls that we meet?

I've never had a girl get angry about this. Just interested.

You just don't tell her "I'm checking to see if you're a man or not." Instead you just say "Interesting. See that? See how your elbow bends up? Women's elbows do that. Men's do not. Here, I'll show you with my own." Or if you have a friend there you have your friend hold out his arm. Can do the same thing with the other tests.

People love learning quirky new things about human anatomy they didn't formerly know. When you can show a girl this, she'll be interested, not insulted!

Chase

Sadeqh 's picture

Come on chase don’t write theeeez articles it’s too...yeah!
It was all the way better to just put the differences bet men and women!!!

Thanks

ariaarulasan's picture

Thanks for this article. I just had a chick earlier which I'm not so sure of, I guess she's really a she.. (hopefully) since she didn't have that falsetto voice, she has milky white skin and she's just 5'2" at best. Her face is also quite round. I showed her picture to my friends and they were telling me that she's probably a trans. Thanks for giving some kind of peace of mind. (for now) Will try to investigate the woman's fb just to be 100% sure. Thanks again!!

Homonculus 's picture

Could we maybe get an article about how to detect any other type of "fake"(infertile) woman? CAIS, Mullerian agenesis, that sort of thing. Definitely wouldn't want to get "tricked" or anything.

Denya's picture

No disrespect meant, Chase, but you are not attractive. I think it's objective. Something is off in your nose and face. I do not wish you bad things and I will not call you names, but I find it very hard to believe that you get hit on by transsexuals, because I do not find you attractive AT ALL.  We are not out there to trick men. I want to share my experience.

Regardless, I have no idea why a transsexual would want to sleep with you. I am a transsexual post-op and I started hormone therapy when I was 12. Nobody has ever suspected I was trans. I live deep stealth now. Nobody has ever suspected. Ever. My voice is that of a coloratura soprano, I never talked in falsetto, I had no surgery on my face aside from forehead reconstruction to remove the brow bossing and I am attractive, objectively. I get hit on a ton by guys. I do not tell them anything. If they are there drooling over me, it means they like what they see, and that's all that matters. I owe them no explanation. 

There are waaaaaay more accurate things to check that can tell you if a woman is indeed a transsexual and I am surprised you didn't list them. I am not gonna tell you what they are. The hands thing is pretty stupid. Think about it: if you could spot a transsexual from her hands, all she has to do is move to Alaska, where it snows a lot, and wear gloves. 

A few years ago I was stupid and I believed that honesty is the best policy. That is a load of crap. No matter how nice you are, how intelligent you are, the minute you say that you were born a man, most guys will just want to pump and dump. So, society hates us for something we did not choose. I did not choose to be a transsexual and I am trying to live my life the best I can. Society hates us and the result is that I have become cynical and I get a kick out of sleeping with men who have no idea about my past. The more transphobic they are, the better. Nobody will ever find me out. I have slept with literally hundreds of men (always protected sex), I get wet, my vagina looks perfect, but, if someone is gonna get hurt, that is not gonna be me. I always have guns nearby and I treat men like shit, because this is what they deserve. 

So, I used to be very selfless and nice, but not anymore. Now I think about myself. Sorry, not sorry. My hands are much smaller than all of my sister's hands, I have no adam's apple, my eyes are incredibly feminine and so is my nose. Yes, I retouched my forehead, but, that's pretty much it, aside from the vagina. My boobs are natural (I have almost a D cup), I have shortish arms and long legs and short torso. I am 5'6'' only. 

There are many transsexuals you would never be able to tell that they are indeed transsexuals. I am one of them. And, no, contrary to popular belief, the most attractive ones are not in Thailand. Google the toupeé fallacy "All toupées look fake; I've never seen one that I couldn't tell was fake." That should be self explanatory. 

So, while my situation is not desirable, I did not choose to be born like this and I will do everything in my power to deceive men because that is what they deserve. Years ago I moved and after moving I made sure some of the most transphobic men I slept with knew that I was a man. They deserve this kind of mind games. 

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