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how to please a woman
Science tells us 7 factors matter for how pleased a woman is with sex. Whether it’s your first time with her or your 1000th, you’ll want to use these 7.

I have a fun post for you today on how to please women so thoroughly you get them hooked on you.

We’ll talk about getting her hooked your first time in bed... as well as keeping her hooked for a long time thereafter.

These tips come from discussions I’ve had with fellow lovers of women the years (men with triple-digit notch counts and plenty of experience pleasing all kinds of women) mixed up together with the very best science out there on female sexual satisfaction.

We’re going to start with the science, then get to the how-to. Of course, if you just want the practical “how to” on how to please a woman, you can always skip to it right here (or use the table of contents on the left).

Either way, by the end of this article, we’ll get you hooking just about every girl you wrangle into bed. The women you sleep with, from here forward, will not be able to get enough of you.

On with the show.

Chase AmanteAbout the Author: Chase Amante

Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone. So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating. After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website. He will teach you everything he knows about girls in one single program in his One Date System.

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RezznT's picture

Pretty bad-ass, in-depth article, lots of good information. I really like the infographics + links to studies. Thanks Chase.

Just wish (ctrl+f "One Date") returned more than 0 matches =(.

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I know you saw it by now, RezznT. It's coming!

We have a pretty bad ass tour of the course Sahin put together for it coming out this week. So there's a big sneak peek coming up...

Chase

JasonH's picture

Great article Chase, a few years ago, I'd make sex last as long as possible a mistake which I corrected over the years, make it all about her, and do way too much dirty talking when not needed(I thought I needed to drive her excitement levels higher) but then came to realize her immersion in the moment, as well as feeling how turned I was by her body turned her on far more.

With regards to first time sex with medium-length sessions I'm assuming you mean 10-15mins for penetration sex and not including foreplay? Sometimes foreplay where I'm actively escalating can be from 20 minutes -1.5 hours long. Part of it is 2 steps forward 1 step back and the other part is I just love exploring a new girls body, teasing her and turning her on.

Could you explain the psychology behind your pleasure being #1? This took me a while to understand and this quote explains it nicely "Women want to feel desired, and they want to submit, and the sex they enjoy most is the sex when a man they are attracted to uses them to please himself (in ways that also please them)". Basically when I'm telling her how good her pussy feels and making noises that show how turned on I am and getting pleasure from her body, pretty much every girl I've been with has been turned on the most. I come from a background of pleasing women first so it took me a while to realize the opposite was true. I've got some theories about this but could you elaborate on the psychology behind this?

Cheers!
Jason

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Jason-

Ah yes, good point of clarification. 10-15 minutes for penetrative sex, that's right. Don't include foreplay (or LMR) in that calculation... you likely won't have time to do much if you do :)

Could you explain the psychology behind your pleasure being #1? This took me a while to understand and this quote explains it nicely "Women want to feel desired, and they want to submit, and the sex they enjoy most is the sex when a man they are attracted to uses them to please himself (in ways that also please them)". Basically when I'm telling her how good her pussy feels and making noises that show how turned on I am and getting pleasure from her body, pretty much every girl I've been with has been turned on the most. I come from a background of pleasing women first so it took me a while to realize the opposite was true. I've got some theories about this but could you elaborate on the psychology behind this?

Sure, well, think of it like this. A woman is ultimately a dependent creature. We all are to some extent (we all depend on society, social ties, etc.), but women are to a much greater extent than all but some personality disordered men. They will act very independent in public, and many will represent themselves as very independent. But a woman's ultimate aim is to be protected by and provided for by a man.

To be protected by and provided for by a man, she must be able to capture a man and hold him to her. A man can just go running off... he is not dependent on her the way she is dependent on him. So for women, one of the main ways a woman evaluates her own value is "How captivated can I make men feel?"

If you think of the "you catch more flies with honey than you do with vinegar" line, it's like this: every woman wants to feel like her honeytrap is a damn good, sweet, and addicting one.

Even if she doesn't necessarily want to hang onto you, just the validation of sex with a man who validates what she has to offer as sweet and addicting and immersive makes her feel very, very good. It is approval and reassurance of her ability as a woman; you are telling her "YES, you have the ability to capture a man and hold him to you and make him so pleased by you that he will not leave, and will stick around and protect you and provide for you and help give your life direction and interesting things and experiences and all the things you want a man to provide."

Every time you are fully enjoying a woman - whether she's a one-night stand partner or a long-term partner - the message you are sending her is "your honeytrap is sweet enough to capture a man and hold him to you", which makes her feel relieved, empowered, and also very connected to you and safe with you (she can open up to you, because you are approving of her and implying you will not mistreat her or run off unexpectedly).

Lots of good things going on in this experience for her. Which is why it feels so good to her.

Chase

Alexander Abraham's picture

Sometimes I'll have this happen where I just can't seem to get there. I know in the article you mentioned that you would go over it but I don't remember seeing it. I did a quick second scan through and still couldn't find it. Other than that this was a badass article!

Also that Manwhore video was friggin hilarious haha

P.S. where do you search for these studies at and what makes you think to look for them? Are you on some kind of list where if a topic comes up it sends you a reminder or do you just think "Oh! I wonder if they have any studies out on blank?"? And where do you search for them at?

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Alexander-

Ah, my bad. Juggled a lot with this article and I guess forgot to add that part in.

The long and short of it is if you want to finish on-command, the way to do it is to think about / visualize the sensation of ejaculation. That doesn't mean you 'think' about it, like "Okay... now I have to think about ejaculation!" where you are telling yourself to think about it. Instead, you calm yourself internally and try to feel the sensation of orgasming and ejaculating in your penis. Just try to imagine that sensation as stronger and stronger and more and more real. The better you imagine it, the closer to ejaculation you get.

(the advice for premature ejaculators is the opposite - you need to get your mind on anything other than ejaculation. That also includes not letting yourself think about not ejaculating, which inevitably leads to imagining the sensation of ejaculation again - then you ejaculate)

Research... I always read research. Have since I was in college. I find it fascinating. Way better than the news. I read almost everything that comes out on ScienceDaily.com. When I stumble on interesting studies there or elsewhere, that are relevant to this business, I save them in a spreadsheet. I also filled that sheet out a lot for One Date (there are almost 1100 references between One Date & TDA); since I last updated One Date's research a few months back, I've added another 50-60 new citations to that sheet.

I will also search out studies on specific topics... Google Scholar is very handy for this. Although sometimes it's easier to just go to your search engine and type in the topic you want information on and "research" and you will get a few MSM articles that say "such and such study discovered that [claim]." They usually won't tell you the study name or link the DOI, but they'll tell you the study authors and the year it was published, which is typically enough to find the study, then read the paper yourself to see what it actually says.

Chase

Alexander Abraham's picture

Cool cookies! Thanks for the reply, I'll give it a shot!

I'll make sure to check out sciencedaily though, I've never read too many research things (other than for college) but I'm interested in giving it a shot, thank ya!

JJ's picture

I'm in the minority for most females (tattooed alternative), for me 9/10x times,I need kink in the form of S&M to get me in the mood. Although, for Russian/E.E. Ashkenazi Jew girls whether living in Europe,the U.S., Argentina etc. S&M is common on a regular basis. I personally, can receive gratification without S&M, but I strongly prefer & frequently incorporate it. Another must have is some rock music & yes the 9/10 qpplies whether its a one-time deal or recurring sex.

Sz's picture

1. The next problem, how do we leave them after they fall in love with us ? ;) for real the, if I'm going to be sleeping with many girls, I need to do what you do and sleep with them once or twice and keep moving on to the next. I just don't want girls to get crazy or hurt. I seen you say something like ignore then or something, but I think it'll all end bad. I actually love to make love to women, I love to perform good in bed and go hard. So I don't know if that is counter productive, but I want to be able to fuck them so good and leave them when need be, maybe keep em around if they want some dick here and there.

2. How-to be established or at least look it? I'm trying to learn skills and go to college to get a degree that makes me money as well. Gonna take some time, but, is there anything I can do now at all ? As of right now, I'm the brokest I've ever been in my life, I don't have my own car or apartment yet, and I'm working on a degree.

You know I'm very age conscience, I didn't want to be in the position that I'm in right now, I thought I would be a lot better, but I never got a decent job.

So I'm in debt, no car, no crib, no skills, and have months to learn skills, and years for college, but I'm hungry as ever.

What can I do to be established before I graduate college? I think established is at least having a car, your own crib or apartment, and a decent job, but we don't have to tell them our job, so I guess the first 2.

If it's not possible, how do I "look" like I am established? Might as well fake it to make it right?

I'm not a old dude, but I still want to look more established than other men. Got any tips let me know!

3. I love women's bodies, I love to lick and kiss all over, I'm a like freaky, when should we do this? After how many times we have sex? Some girls tell me they hate this and that, so I don't do it. Also how can I not have them talk shit about me doing freaky things to them? You know how a girl tries to make you look bad because you did such and such with them that's freaky. How do we avoid that while getting our pleasures and keep their mouths shut?

4. How do broke people get apartments and live alone no roommates?

I've seen a lot of people with really crappy jobs have their own apartment and car, how can they afford that? Is there some secret I don't know about?

I want to move out, but in my position I can't do much of anything. But moving out and having my own car will make me feel independent.

5. Is there anyway I can be famous and rich at an older age? I know for me to get there I have to learn and have skills, but is it possible you think? I am harping over age here because I never felt old in my life until now, now I feel I'm limited on what I can do and I never thought much about it until now, plus now I still want to get my shit together before I try anything. I just wanted to ask if you knew if it's possible to do this later? When I mean rich and famous, it can range from anything with entertainment, being an author making books like jk Rowling, being a body builder fitness guru, anything.

Everyone has dreams of making it, I ask because in case I ever dream to do any of these things, is there an age limit, I have so much on my plate now that I can't just keep taking risks, I took a risk and that's why I'm in the position i am in right now. Just curious.

6. I re-read your article about being too old, I remember you said there were 30 year old who live the mundane life and there are 30 year olds who try to redo their early 20s and it's obvious.

They both don't sound good, but the latter sounds terrible.

I feel like I'm doing the latter. Aren't i doing the latter tho or at least will be? I'm sleeping with multiple girls, being a single bachelor, having cool cars, having a bachelor pad, having fly clothes, and money.

Unless I got it wrong, if that's not your definition of trying to relive your early 20s, please tell me what is?

7. I feel I can excel at this, i really do, i just have to cold approach, then I want to have adventures with women all over the world sleeping with them, getting to know them, and having good times together, and sleeping with them some more, I want many women so bad, I love fuckin women and making them feel good, I want to do this for a long time. Not really a question, more of a statement, but I want to make it happen.

Appreciate everything Chase!!

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SZ-

All about the expectations. You can set them verbally if you're afraid your behavior sets wrong ones:

If it's not possible, how do I "look" like I am established? Might as well fake it to make it right?

I'm not a old dude, but I still want to look more established than other men. Got any tips let me know!

Fashion is your very good friend here. Also, the right hairstyle and facial hair.

If you don't have the money for it, work hard and save up. You only need a couple of clothing items that will last you for years and years.

By a nice-looking used car and keep it in good condition. If you don't have money, again, work hard and save.

I love women's bodies, I love to lick and kiss all over, I'm a like freaky, when should we do this?

What woman does not like this?

Do it the first time in bed. I have never had a woman object to being licked and kissed all over.

How do broke people get apartments and live alone no roommates?

I've seen a lot of people with really crappy jobs have their own apartment and car, how can they afford that? Is there some secret I don't know about?

Public assistance housing (i.e., get your fellow taxpayer to pay your rent).

Or they're scamming - rent a place for a few months, stop paying rent, get 90 days rent free before the landlord can evict you (or whatever the laws are in that area).

Or they're not as broke as they say they are / are exaggerating how broke they are / you misunderstood how broke they were when they said they were 'broke'.

Is there anyway I can be famous and rich at an older age?

Sure, there's about a billion of them.

But if you don't build up some kind of skill or expertise that you'd be famous for, then your options are pretty much down to just "make a fool of yourself in some really ridiculous way that goes viral on the Internet."

I feel like I'm doing the latter. Aren't i doing the latter tho or at least will be? I'm sleeping with multiple girls, being a single bachelor, having cool cars, having a bachelor pad, having fly clothes, and money.

Unless I got it wrong, if that's not your definition of trying to relive your early 20s, please tell me what is?

Here's the big difference to me:

  • 20s guy / wannabe 20s guy: does stuff for the look
  • 30s+ guy: does stuff because he wants to do stuff

The guy in his 20s wants a big notch count to impress people, he wants an expensive car to impress people, he wants nice clothes to impress people. It's all about impressing people.

The guy who is trying to recreate his 20s, also, does stuff to impress people and is all about impressing people.

The guy in his 30s or older still keeps an eye on appearance and status and impressiveness, of course, but he is mostly too busy to worry too much about being super cool impressive to everyone, and he's also good enough at getting what he wants now that the "everyone needs to be impressed by me" urges of his 20s subside because he knows that doesn't get him what he wants as much as just going for what he wants gets him what he wants.

There are folks who stay stuck in that "I've got to be impressive to everyone!" mode for a long time, sometimes for their lifetimes. But it's mostly a teens and twenties thing.

It is not BAD that young guys go through the "I've got to impress everyone!" stage. They are learning a lot at this age and maturing. This is just a normal thing you go through.

And some people grow out of it faster, and some people grow slower, and some people grow not at all (in this way). Really depends on the person.

Chase

Raw Dawg's picture

How are we having sex with these girls raw with no consequences? Lol

How do we get girls to have sex raw with us?
How do we know if she does this with everyone or not? How do we know we're special ?
How do we know she's clean
How do we not get her pregnant
How many girls would you advise we do this to?

I'm really curious, I love raw sex, but my safety is more important

PS

I have long sessions because I don't cum with condoms, should I keep going if she doesn't mind?

If I don't cum, should I lie and pretend I did? Or is it better to make her work hard to make me cum?

After sex should I force her to lay on my chest? If I lay on her chest is that weak? Most girls lay by themselves and go to sleep when I'm done with them and we don't touch at all. Is that bad?

How do we still have sex with girls who try to force us to do stuff. Like saying they won't do it unless we eat them out, or eat they're booty out. I don't submit and feel she would look at me as weak.

A girl gave me head, then she didn't want to do it anymore because I didn't want to eat her out and she turned me off for the night.

Stand my ground? Or what?

Thanks

ManOfSteel's picture

Great questions! I was also thinking the same things you mentioned in first part of your post. Maybe a full lengt raw article in near future?

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Gentlemen-

You may have already seen it (forgot to post the link when I got it up), but, as requested...

Chase

Man's picture

You've talked about nipple orgasms. My question can you describe the functionality of a woman's breast and how to cause her to have frequent orgasms.

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Man-

I think you mean "how to have frequent orgasms from her nipples"?

If not, and you just meant frequent orgasms in general, these two articles ought to do the trick:

On nipple orgasms, I think it's an interesting topic and have casually attempted to train a few girls to have them but haven't gone all out in it, so I can't recommend specific best practices for it.

However, I just did a quick search and found a great description of how one girl achieves this:

Stimulating your partner's (or your own!) nipples wakes up the same nerve cortex activated by genital play. So similar to understanding the art of foreplay in sex, nipple play needs to be a slow build -- called "edging," which refers to playing around the edges of your target area so your partner is practically begging you for more.

For a nipple orgasm, you'll want to start by lightly touching the outside, underside, and top of the breast and areola (but not the nipple!). Gradually work your way toward the prize, paying attention to your partner's breath and response. Depending on how sensitive they are, you may need to vary how hard or lightly you squeeze, pinch, pull, or massage. Practicing on yourself is a great way to get a sense of what works and what doesn't.

When it's time for the main event, try some light (no nails!) pinching of the nipple to help it get hard. Once aroused, you'll be able to pinch, suck, and play a little harder -- erect nipples can tolerate more stimulation, which in turn produces more oxytocin. Mixing up pressure and how you're handling the breast and nipple will create waves of pleasure… hopefully leading to a memorable grand finale.

Be present in the moment so you can enjoy every second of what's happening. Listen to the sexy sounds coming out of you and your partner. Concentrate on your own breathing and try to simulate the breathing of a genital orgasm.

Think of your nipple as if it were your clitoris or penis. After all, the shape and tissue are quite similar. And the brain reacts to nipple and clitoral stimulation in the same way. Think of your nipples as extra clitorises. Seriously, it works. Try to bring that feeling from your nipple down below. Try to sync the two body parts.

When you feel the wave coming, don't fight it. Ride it! Ride it all the way until you crash.

The crashing will feel different from genital stimulation. You might feel more of an internal orgasm (contracting, flexing, and releasing of the entire region below). Some feel vibrations and others feel strong bursts. Whatever it is you feel, enjoy the hell out of it.

I might just try that process out on a girl or two myself.

(also, as to the 'functionality' question... breasts produce milk, serve as front-facing buttocks-simulators to better attract mates, and contain a ton of nerve endings that make them sexually sensitive - think that covers it)

Chase

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