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Why Don't Girls Want Intelligent Guys? Part 2: Why Dumb Guys Get Laid

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Dumb guys didn’t spend their youth reading books or winning debates. Instead, they occupied themselves with reading people and winning babes.

Welcome to part 2 of this series. If you didn’t catch what I was getting at in the last article, I’ll put it simply.

Intelligent men have issues getting pussy. More specifically, by "intelligent men," I mean nerdy. They use big words, spend lots of time reading, aren’t good with people, and value their intelligence above everything else. That sort of guy.

How I used to be.

These men inevitably discover that it’s the moderately intelligent or even straight-up stupid men who get the most poonani.

Why?

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Anonym's picture

Hi Hector,

thank you for this series. It focuses on people like me. I have a few comments:

1) Why do you think that TBBT is cancerous? I like it, because it is a lot of fun and I can relate to the main characters and their struggles. However, it seem to be very American in many ways, so sometimes it is a bit strange for me (I am from Czech republic), f.e. do people in the US really say so often "I am sorry" and "You have just hurt my feelings" and such phrases? I have many nice guys traits, but I very rarely say things like this. Moreover, I find it overly optimistic in a way what girls those guys get, because I do not see it much in real life (f.e. I wonder how relationship between people like Leonard and Penny would last so long, they have nothing in common). But happyends sells better and producers want to make profit.

2) There are many smart guys who are not intellectual bullies. If they are nice guys/shy/very introverted etc., they tend to avoid verbal confrontation or in argument avoid ad hominem attacks and focus only on the discussed stuff.

3) As one of those guys, I have always had troubles to relate to dumb guys with more primal masculinity. I am a soccer fan and I used to play with such a guys in one team for seven years, but while the subject was common, I still tend to think and talk about it in a more intellectual way than they do, so developing connection is not much easier. I became kind of soccer nerd.

4) Experiencing acts of violence does not make people necessarily stronger. As a child, I was bullied by other kids. Defending myself did not work much. Bullying destroyed my self-esteem and confidence, I had huge fear of people, difficulties to trust others, I cried under pressure etc. There were some more symmetric fights as well, I used to play soccer. But I still have very strong inhibitions to use physical violence and I have fear under threat of physical violence. Fortunately, in my adult life such situations almost never happens. Being bullied is a big killer of masculinity. I hated bullies and did not want to be like them.

5) In your last article on intellectuals you attributed their troubles to being raised by single mother or weak father. But my family is quite traditional, my father is strong, dominant, leading and aggressive, my mother is passive, submissive and nurturing. I have the problems you described, because in my family we have never talked about feelings, relationships and sexuality (at least not my father, mother and sister probably talked), although they are atheists so religion is not an issue. I have a lot of sexual shame. Probably another factor is naturally lower testosterone level, which caused lower aggressivity and sex drive. Bullying did not help as well. I am also very introverted.

Thanks

Anonym

AlecW's picture

Savage, but amazing.

BMontana's picture

Even though I agree with most of your thoughts I disagree when it comes to dumb guys. As you said a hot dumb guy would still beat a nerd, but a dumb guy, without looks, would just slightly be more succesful than a nerd, or let us say he would only bang women who are a 5 at best. It's the looks that changes the game. If Sheldon Cooper looked like Pennys ex then he would score a lot, even though he is a nerd cause women would throw themselves at him anyway. If Sheldon wasn't a nerd but a dumb guy only, then again he would slightly be more succesful than his real him, because he would have more time chasing and approaching women.

loukas's picture

If your father had a brain of planet and passed it on to you that's fine, if you developed a brain a size of a planet as a reaction to what life gave you, that's also fine but it's not what women want, which is simply a man. A man that leads, a man that is not afraid.
Take it from a man who's 1.90m, blond, blue eyed and all, I still had to learn (study AND practice) seduction.
It's not the intelligence or looks, it's balls.

RickJ's picture

So if i'm reading this right, I have to waste precious time I could spend reading, playing strategy games and dungeon and dragons to pump iron or run? It's fucking boring as hell, there has to be another way. There has to be another way... I hate sports and sweating.

loukas's picture

If you are a man who likes studying, you will have to pump some form of iron 2-3 times a week to battle off neck and back problems (and eventual paralysis in old age) which accompany this lifelong pursuit. That's it, no sports, no cardio (except from anabolic types and of course walking), but weights you cannot avoid without serious damage and early limb dick.
If you dislike the gym culture, you can even get creative and do it at home for cheap, with a tiny (or not so tiny) amount of studying.
Don't be stupid, it will assist in the bed _and_ the desk.

Rickj's picture

Wow, I was angry as fuck when I wrote this. Thanks for sharing your wisdom, I know its true what you're saying...

Mischief's picture

Yes, lift weights. Study the effects of high volume, circuit style lifting and the go execute it like your life depends on it. You’ll thank me later :)

-M

She enters your world… not the other way around.
Manners. Maketh. Man.

Mischief's picture

Speaking of guys in school who neither hung out with the 'cool' crowd of athletic people nor achieved stellar grades either, where might they fit in in all this? Robert Kiyosaki put himself in this category.

Upon landing my first girlfriend four years ago after a few months getting started with GC material, we would regularly watch TBBT and New Girl. I looked forward to watching both with her every time… (yeah, uh-oh… that ended three years ago). Funny thing is, I always envied the nerds' intelligence! I also envied the 'dumb' guy's physique. It felt pathetic… no brains nor brawn. Dumb and weak. This is an overwhelmingly pessimistic thought, so what does one do?

Kiyosaki is critical of our school system because, setting aside sports (bodily-kinesthetic intelligence), school primarily emphasizes verbal-linguistic and logical-mathematical intelligence. Many people who are not strong in either of those two areas (yet possibly strong in others) end up leaving school feeling stupid. For example, to have a body like his, the 'dumb' guy likely possesses a high degree of bodily-kinesthetic intelligence, something I only began to tap into three years ago with weight-lifting (inspired by your articles, Hector) only to discover a dormant power.

Then there is interpersonal and intrapersonal (EQ?) intelligence, the later being perhaps my strongest suit. Both of these seem top of the list for learning to be good with women.

And what about intuition vs. logic? Many people function far better relying on the former than the later.

I only bring all this up as food for thought. What exactly qualifies a smart/intelligent person? You, Hector, may run circles around people in conversation, yet for all you know, from their point of you completely misunderstand something critical about them, causing them to reign in their words.

Strange as this may sound, I have always thought I was just not smart enough to bed women. It's comforting to feel otherwise, thanks to this article. Cheers!

Carpe diem,

-M

P.S. I couldn't help but notice that even the 'dumb' guy submitted to Penny's frame by the end of the clip when she ordered him to put Leonard back down and he grudgingly complied. Yikes…

She enters your world… not the other way around.
Manners. Maketh. Man.

El Gallo's picture

Intelligent women may prefer a hot dumb men over an inept intelligent men. They may choose the hot dumb men for one-night stands, given the choice. But the guys they lay awake at night dreaming about are hot intelligent men. Men who express all the qualities listed in this article, but do so intelligently. They let these qualities accent their intelligence, rather than being an alternative to it.

I know this because I am one of these men. And I attract intelligent women. They are looking for me. We have things that hot dumb men simply don't have and that intelligent women crave. We have success and direction. We can stimulate them, mentally and emotionally. We can understand them on the deepest level. And when we make a claim, we generally know what the fuck we are talking about.

The lack of these qualities in dumb men, no matter how hot, drive these women crazy and completely turn them off. In the words of intelligent attractive women, "He was very attractive... until he opened his mouth."

And the feeling is mutual. I really can't form a relationship with women I can't connect to intellectually and emotionally. I honestly have trouble even getting it up for them. It's called sapiosexuality. And it is very real.

Mischief's picture

Some months back, David Tian kicked me out of his Masculinity for the Intelligent Man Facebook group. I’m assuming it was for having recently (within the last 15 minutes) posted a Darren Daily video about (pro) narcissism. I legitimately wanted some thoughts, since Tian had denounced Mystery so vehemently for being a narcissist.

Who knows, maybe I am already more than dumb enough to be getting laid…

She enters your world… not the other way around.
Manners. Maketh. Man.

Hoehunter's picture

Studies have shown that intelligent men long for relationships rather than casual sex, so they don't really care about banging a bunch of girls, most just want a cute girlfriend or wife. Also, its better to be intelligent and have more opportunities to succeed than be a dumb guy working a shitty job. Sure, you could bang a bunch of girls with low iq, but you also have lots of imitations in life.

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