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Tactics Tuesdays: The 5-Second Kiss

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five second kiss
The 5-second kiss lets you kiss her as soon as you meet her. It’s fun, it’s quick, and it starts things off with a bang (or a smooch).

This is a fairly niche tactic. But it’s still worth knowing (and still fun).

The way the 5-second kiss works is this: you see a girl, beckon her over or pull her over to you, draw her in, and kiss her. And you do so in about five seconds.

You can use this in bars and nightclubs, on the street during the day, or anywhere. Here’s the catch: it only works on girls who are ‘in the mood’ for it, and it only works when you are ‘in the mood’.

The reason you’d do this is for a fun start to an interaction, to break up an otherwise monotonous outing for yourself, or just to feel more ‘alive’ when you’re out at the bar (or wherever). Also, if you’ve never done this, it’s worth doing once, due to the limitation-shattering it provides.

This is not necessarily something you will do to raise your odds of success with the girl in particular you use it with. Though it can sometimes lead to a hookup.

Instead, this is something you use for the pleasure of it, the momentum of it, or to let yourself see what you can do.

Chase AmanteAbout the Author: Chase Amante

Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone. So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating. After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website. He will teach you everything he knows about girls in one single program in his One Date System.



SZ's picture

Chase, you know anything else that would increase your sexual energy besides working out?

I want to become obsessed with getting super talented with girls.

I'm tryna sleep with around 100+

What do you think I can do to get my success in about 2 years with women. I read on the boards it takes like 2-3 years to start getting more success with cold approach, is that really true?

I'm just trying to get my numbers up in a short amount of time. I need to find a way to meet more women daily

I wanted to also ask about being a loner.

It seems that I have close friends that I consider as brothers, but they all happen to move all of the time. Or I just have people I'm kinda cool with and we don't hang out after a while.

So I'm kinda a loner, I'm thinking I can't depend on any friends at all. It sucks to be honest, u have no close friend at all.

I want close friends, but they always move away and I don't have any and the cycle repeats itself. So I feel it will always be like that.

Is it OK to be this way? Can I still have fun and live a happy life with no friends?

How about being a bachelor forever ? Is that possible? Can you achieve happiness being a bachelor your whole life?

Do you recommend being a loner and a bachelor your whole life?

2. I try to approach girls, but their boyfriend is always around the corner literally. Any idea on how to avoid this? It's like every chick has a boyfriend and when I go to approach, he comes out nowhere around the corner. Any tips to stop approaching these types of girls?

3. I have been invited to parties, but these parties are talking than anything. It's hard for me to try to pick up because the girls are in their own social groups talking to each other and everyone knows each other and I'm the only one that does not know anyone. It just seems awkward to come into their convos. Any tips of what I should do in those scenarios?


SZ's picture

I wanted to add, wouldn't we be loners anyway if we continue to seduce girls until very old age?

Even right now most people I know are settling down, shit even many years ago they settled down.

I don't want to be that guy who hangs with young pups because they get labeled lame.

So how do I deal with picking up women and not settling down until I'm around 50 or 60 when everyone is settling down and not tryna have fun?

SZ's picture

Just got your comment from the other article chase.

I tend to forget that I write the same stuff so much, I have somewhat bad memory I suppose and I tend to keep thinking about things that keep bothering me so I guess that's why I repeat them over and over.

Oh well,

I probably have some old questions mixed in with new.

You can just ignore my old questions, but I'd appreciate you answering the ones I haven't before.

For my other questions that I've asked many times. I got it now. I'll handle it.

Thank you.

Chase Amante's picture


  • Lifting heavy weights
  • Really hard cardio (hard run, hard swim)
  • Scary/arousing situations (roller coaster, horror movie)
  • Sex, preferably without ejaculation
  • Visualizing sex
  • Red wine
  • Winning/conquering
  • Flirtation with flirty/sexy girls
  • Penis stimulation (but no porn/no ejaculation)
  • Female genital proximity (e.g., girl sits on your lap)
  • Sleeping naked
  • Sunlight on your skin
  • Being around women with more exposed skin (e.g., beach)
  • Adopting a present time-orientation (live for the moment)
  • Being in situations where you are the clear dominant male

Probably a bunch more, but these are a list of effective ways off the top of my head.

Also, kind of a random one, but I find that when I am either ill, or sleep deprived, my sex drive shoots way up. Not sure why, just something that happens.

Friends... depends on your emotional profile. Lots of strong men throughout history have had few close friends. Maybe one or two confidantes. But most people seem to need close bonds with others. Sounds like you do, so I'd seek out positions to have these in. You sound like you might fare better in a small town where people don't move around so much.

Girls with boyfriend: nope, no way at all. Happens to everybody. Some girls like to put themselves out there to make their boyfriends jealous or hoping to meet a sexy new prospect. Some guys are easily distractible, but come charging in as soon as their girlfriend finds another man to use to reel them back in. All you can do when it happens is bow out gracefully and leave them to their domestic bliss (or squabbles).

Navigating parties, I suggest you devote time to first a.) watching how more socially successful men join and split from groups, then b.) going up and trying this out yourself. You'll be clumsy at first, but you'll get it down. This is how I learned: go to parties, watch other men flit in and out of groups, start doing what they did. Also pay attention to the guys who join the groups you are already in, and watch how they enter and what they talk about.


SZ's picture


Imma have to work full time while going to university, I might be able to take night classes, but I'll mostly do it online.

I still want to get the college experience though. It's sucks because I have to work full time as well.

I know night time classes are not as good as morning and afternoon classes.

I hope there's a way I can still have a college life and meet and sleep with girls in college while I work full time.

Tell me what I can do.


Chase Amante's picture


I suggest you draw up a schedule for yourself and plan out everything. Everything from your time at work, to time on classes, to study time, to time spent walking from place to place, to meals, to showers. Then see what time's left over for socializing.

Beyond that, I'd suggest asking this on the forum; I've never had to balance full-time work, plus a university education, plus an active social life, all at the same time. Not exactly sure how to do it, and I'm sure there's a big learning curve. We might have guys on the boards who've done this though, and may be able to give you some tips.


Lawliet's picture

Hey Chase,

I want to ask about the "Don't pay on the date".
Which is great! If we pay for all the girls, we will be broke af.

Though, you mention if they pay for you, it makes them more attracted to you and will likely easier to sleep with them.

Now if it's a waiter based restaurant, you can let the pressure flow in and hopefully she picks up the bill.

But what it's a self serving like mcdonalds? What if they're hooked and ready to be pulled but the waiter hasn't delivered the bill yet? What if in situations, it's not food, but movie, or something like that.

How do you make reservations for things like a movie, and make it either dutch or if she wants to watch a movie, she pays for it without sounding like a penny pincher?

Making her pay always makes me worried because what if she says, "Hey, i want to watch this movie, but I have to pay for you? When we go watch something you like, it's dutch..."

And penny pinching (talking about prices too expensive) is bad for attraction right?
Her: "Let's go here to eat!"
Me: "Oh that's so expensive! Let's go here instead"

Her: "Let's go watch this movie here!"
Me: "Oh that threatre is so expensive! Let's go here instead...or if a day based price, "Let's go on X day instead!"

I'm pretty blunt at this, because i haven't thought of a better way of doing this.
But I don't want to give in to paying for her or going to expensive venues...

Just some food for thought.

Re: No spot next to a seated girl
This goes back to your How to approach a girl sittting down article.
However, it's based on the assumption, "There's a spot next to her!"

If it's on bus, or class, or etc., seat might not be vacant.
How would you make a smooth approach here?

Thanks bro,

larry's picture

You would take a woman to McDonalds? Seriously? What makes you think that making a woman pay for a date will make her desire you? Other way around in my experience. If you don't want to "give into her" or take her to expensive venues then maybe you aren't ready to date yet.

Chase Amante's picture

Should You Pay for a Date?

Agreed on McDonald's though. Worst date spot that isn't the dental office or Planned Parenthood.


Chase Amante's picture


If it's an order-at-the-counter, pay-at-the-counter restaurant (I assume that's what you mean by "like McDonald's"), whoever's ordering has to pay. If you don't want that to be you, then send her to the counter, tell her, "Could you just grab me a [whatever]?" then tell her you'll get the seats.

That said, one of the worst dates I ever had was at a McDonald's, for exactly this reason ("Who should pay at the counter?"), and I have almost never taken a woman to a place with this kind of setup since, unless I've already been sleeping with her at least a few months. Just not worth the potential monkeywrenches it can throw into the courtship when you have so many other alternatives.

Movie theaters as dates are outside my experience. I've never taken a girl to the movie theater before maybe the 4- or 5-month mark in a relationship. Certainly not on dates. Once you're in a relationship, it's just, "You get the tickets, I'll get the refreshments." I guess in theory you could do this with a date as well, but I haven't tested it. That said, not sure why you wouldn't just take her to a park or go window shopping or get ice cream, unless you just want a movie buddy and getting laid isn't the prime objective.

"That place is too expensive" is fine if you're fun/playful about it. Big smile, lots of energy, give her the bored look, and you're fine. If you're serious, of course, then it's a real downer... so don't do that. Often good to be humorous about it: "Are you kidding? That place charges you like $50 for a glass of water. Let's do Nemo's, the food is way better AND you don't go homeless if you eat there."

Re: No spot next to a seated girl This goes back to your How to approach a girl sittting down article. However, it's based on the assumption, "There's a spot next to her!" If it's on bus, or class, or etc., seat might not be vacant. How would you make a smooth approach here?

In that case, you either need a much briefer approach (approach, flirt, trade numbers, all in 2 minutes or under), or you need to ask the other guy to switch seats. If you ask someone else to switch seats yet, usually better to only do this if the girl is clearly very attracted to you, and if you won't be stuck there too long. If it'll be a 40-minute class or bus ride, it's easy to dissipate the energy (Alek calls it 'inflation') if you'll be stuck next to her the whole time.


Lawliet's picture

And what about things that you two share?
Will you get her to pay?

Let's say snacks before heading to her place to enjoy a movie or buying things for whatever you'll be using together..etc. Situation where it's not clear to go dutch.

And would we want to be 50/50 for the subtotal for the purchases?
It feels off...but coculd be the media I've been exposed to.

What do you think?

Chase Amante's picture


Yes, it's off to ask to split on snacks, etc.

Ideally, you want to run such a great date that the girl is all afluster and springs for the snacks herself. When that happens, she is telling you she values you so highly she'll break protocol and handle the paying, because there's a value imbalance and she wants to correct it. This is a good thing.

If you aren't getting that "This girl is completely enamored with me" feeling, and she doesn't offer to pay, that's a bad sign you either friend zoned, boyfriend zoned, or worse. My recommendation in these situations is abort whatever plans you had, don't buy anything (if you haven't already eaten the meal), and go do something high energy and free, like walk along the pier and pick her up and spin her around, or go window shopping at the mall and do silly things with display items. (if she's totally enamored with you and doesn't offer to pay, it's fine for you to pay in that case, so long as it isn't going to break your budget and you do it in a smooth way that communicates this expense is nothing for you)

The other thing you can do is "I'll get the snacks, you get the drinks later" or "If you've got the snacks, first round of drinks are on me." That can be cool as well. If you didn't plan to have two different expenses (one she picks up, then one you do), it's a sign you need to plan your dates/logistics out better.


larry's picture

When you tell a woman you want her to pay you are telling her that you are a cheapskate and that she isn't worth spending money on - in other words she's not a worthwhile investment. You've put effort into attracting a woman and getting a date - now you're going to go cheap on her? If she offers to pick up the tab, offer to go dutch or at least leave the tip. I she insists on picking up the tab then still offer to leave the tip. That sounds like a fair compromise to me and don't forget that most women still make 80 cents to a man's dollar so she is always paying more than you

Someguy's picture

Just that thouse 1 dollar per ,08 dollars is payed for with a life expectancy reduction of about 10 percent, due to choice in jobs and workload. You also totally underestimate the economic potential of being young, beautiful, feminine and cared for. Free stuff beyond your imagination like 200.000 dollars for just being nice and in love.

The current system is indeed very unfair to butch lesbians. Everyone else is either a man (or at least can become one) or has the option to be young, lean, feminine and beautiful at some point in their lives. Large parts of western population are lost in advertising bullshit-frames about deserving happiness, by eating icecream and staying "as they are" (they don`t. they get fat.).

Giving free stuff to a women is natural, I agree. But it has to come from a position of power and freedom. Most men are not there. For most men the best advice is to not give money to women, but play it tight and invest in their own buisiness/education/career/health/happiness. This leads to overall increase of male sexual market value and female competition. And give her orgasms of course :-) Maybe even for free.

Anonymous's picture

I don't know what to do chase,

Right now I'm stuck; I have no money, crazy amount of debt, no friends, no pool of girls, not smart, no skills, no car, no job, gained a lot of weight. It's been like this for years.

It's super hard to get a job because I have no car and in order to get a car i need to have a job. Where I'm at you need a car for everything.

Pretty much, I have a lot of stuff I have to work on and I want to do it fast because I've been living like this for a while.

It's depressing to be honest, I'm working on fixing it, but I'm a little overwhelmed because I have so much to work on and I want to turn things around as soon as possible.

I was wondering if you could maybe give me some advice on how I can turn this all around and come out on top.

Maybe an article on how to come out on top from when you're down, turning your life around, and shitting on your peers and doubters?

I would really appreciate some quick advice now though.

I want to change my life quickly for the better, and I want to be extraordinary, not regular.

I'm not confident though for some reason, I want to be confident that I can be extraordinary and be unique with how I make money and live life. I don't want to be ordinary, but the doubt creeps up on me.

I want to be on top so bad! I'm hungry to become better than my peers, but my failures give me low confidence. I want to have confidence and actually do it.

I'm not smart, so I know I can't get good jobs and seeing these low paying jobs don't help.

My smarts also give me doubts about making any attempt at business.

But, I'm really hungry, very, to succeed and to turn around all of those things.

I envision myself confident, muscular, with a business, super nice car, fine women, and more.

I just down know where to start.

Maybe you can help me think of something that I never thought before, I would really appreciate the help! Love the site!

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When you've spent years digging a deeper and deeper hole for yourself, there is no quick fix to get out of it. Just slow, careful, methodical digging back out. Dig a handhold in the side of the wall; climb up a little higher. Dig another handhold out; climb up higher. Can be quicker to climb the wall and dig those handholds out than it was to dig the hole in the first place (takes a lot of work to shovel all that dirt out! And now you're not fighting gravity anymore), but if the hole is deep it's gonna take time.

For improving, pick one area, and start improving in it. Once you've built a habit around getting better, add another. You cannot advance in all directions, all at once. You advance in one direction, then add others as you gain steam.

I'd suggest you start with weight loss. That's the easiest one to do without anything else. Weight is calories in, calories out. Start with this article from Eric; he was a big guy who shed tons of weight, and we've had various guys over the years attribute this article from him for helping them shed hundreds of pounds as well. Once the weight starts coming off, your confidence will start shooting up, you'll start to realize you are capable of effecting change in your life, and you'll start targeting other aspects of your life and go from there.


Anonymous's picture

Hi Chase,

I was wondering if you could help me solve this problem,

I make a big deal out of every single thing.

Like the gym, it took me forever to sign up, was it because I was lazy? No.

I was just like it's gonna be too far, I'm new to a gym, never did this before, what if I don't like it.

All these negative thoughts to stop me from doing it. I make things harder than it is.


I am addicted to YouTube and the Internet, I can be on there all day, which I have for years. I even read about bettering my life and that takes many hours. I'm also addicted to sleeping and being in bed. I just love it.

I even have a job where I work whenever, but I barley work.

It sucks man, I just like to relax so much, I've been like this my entire life.

I want to be more of a worker a hustler.

Could you help ? Thanks

Chase Amante's picture


Read this on discipline and decisiveness:

Then read this on porn / Internet addiction:

Finally, read these two articles on forming new habits and getting new routines:

Also, on gym, I suggest Body for Life, by Bill Phillips. A large part of the book is devoted to teaching you how to build habits and how to not be the guy who goes to the gym once or twice then quits. I learned a lot of what I learned about habit-forming from this book by Bill.


SZ's picture

So Chase,

I know I have a lot of questions on this article, but I forgot to add some.

When dealing with the 3 most important things to get good at: money, fitness, and women.

How can one get to the level you have talked about in all 3? I think you said mastery I believe?

It was to work hard and make a lot of money, work hard on your body and have big muscles, and to work hard with women to have abundance mentality.

I know I talk about age a lot, but I will add that here because this is know will take some time.

How could one in their 30s master those 3 things? Well, grind super hard for these things? Like you said in one article?

Or are your 30s too old to even achieve this?

Oh I think I forgot to add this one too.

When we have a baby mother or wife, are we supposed to take care of her and the kids and have her not work at all?

That shit does not sound ideal to me.

Thanks man

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