Your social frame is possibly the most important thing when battling Female State Control. This means projecting the right social frame in the right context.
Welcome back. Previously, we have discussed female state control (FSC), described what it is, and presented some solutions. FSC is when a woman backs off (despite liking you) so she doesn’t “lose herself” and get “carried away by you” before she knows for sure you are a good guy for her to get with.
Women are selective, and they know that being aroused or mentally stimulated by a guy is not enough of an indicator of a suitable mate. Yet they tend to get carried away. So whenever women feel like they are losing control, they back off to make a more “rational” assessment of you.
A simple way to put it is this: have you ever gotten a girl aroused and could tell she was into you, yet she backed off saying you are not her type?
Well, that is not an uncommon scenario. This is female state control. She likes you; she is turned out by you, but either:
- You don’t fit her social standards
- You do not fit into the usual categories of guys she likes
- She doesn’t feel comfortable exploring further
What we are dealing with is a lack of what Gunwitch calls “social frame.” And a lack of social frame can force women to control their state whenever they feel emotionally stimulated by you.
So, arousal + social frame = a high chance of pulling (if logistics allow). On the other hand, arousal with a lack of social frame means she will get aroused but control her state.
In other words, having a lack of social frame makes her control herself, and creating a good social frame minimizes your chances of dealing with FSC. In the next three weeks, we will discuss the three aspects of creating social frame that we touched upon last week, but we'll get into greater detail.
These aspects are:
If you're unfamiliar with any of those terms, click on them to learn more.
Today, let’s take a look at the first aspect: social status, value, and overall social dynamics.
But before we get into that, here’s a quick recap of what social frame is as it relates to FSC.