When you meet new people, should you trust your first impressions about them? How can you tell whether new “friends” are genuine – or out to use you?
You will have many friends in this life. Many will come, most will go. I can count on my fingers the number of true friends I have, and I suspect that with most, we will eventually no longer need each other, want each other, or respect each other.
It’s easy for a friendship to dissolve.
2. What to Look for in the First Meet
3. But Doesn’t Friendship Take Time?
The more I see, the easier it becomes for me to ditch a friend who acts up. I have raised my standards of behavior, not only because I know that those closest to me influence me more than I realize, and I don’t want to be held back by poisonous people, but also because I would prefer not to put someone in a position to be able to betray me.
You will be surprised at the closeness of the bonds you will form with the most random of people you meet. Before you meet them, everyone is a stranger. Even if you are introduced to someone, they’re a stranger — doubly so if you tend to meet people randomly like I do.
Those introduced to you through social circles have an impetus to be nice to you, as you have been vetted by their friends and they assume you are an ally. They will be on their best behavior.
Random people are a bit more… well, random. Sometimes, they
show you their true selves the moment you meet them, since they
nothing and have no act to put on. Other times,
especially if they’re
more skilled, they will put on their best face the moment you meet
them. Why? They may want to use you. Sometimes it’s because
they’re polite and high value, but you’d be unwise to count on this —
you’ll meet more sharks than saints.
So how do you screen out those who wish to use you — or even harm you — for their own benefit?
Trust them the first time they reveal themselves. Trust your first impression.