Guys often get approach anxiety because they don’t have a strategy: something to start and drive the interaction. So here are some proven night-game strategies for ya!
I used to have this fantasy, sort of like that Sonic Youth video where these two teenagers are staring longingly at each other across a mosh pit but the guy is too shy to approach. The mosh pit eventually bounces them serendipitously into each other.
- Direct, Bold, Physical
- Uncaring Asshole
- James Bond
- The Happy Mexican
- Hopping Lily Pads
- Whose Birthday Is It?
- Free Booze Table Guy
- Jealousy and Social Proof
- Merging Groups
Before I discovered pickup, I only went to bars to drink, see live bands, and hope that fate would push a hot, lonely, hipster girl into my lap. When I stepped into the mosh pit, I’d just get smashed around into some sweaty punk’s armpit. It wasn’t long before I realized the only dudes there getting laid were in the band.
Then I discovered the pickup community and all its politically incorrect but incredibly effective dating advice.
What’s the three-second rule?
- See a hot girl
- Approach her within three seconds (before your stupid brain talks you out of it)
The 3-second rule is great for newbies. But it’s not necessary for advanced guys. I prefer sniper-style game – analyzing my target, gathering data, and not moving until the situation provides maximum effectiveness or maximum results for the least amount of energy.
Advanced night gamers don’t have that annoying little voice that the 3-second rule overrides. We know how to shut it up, or at least ignore it.
The little voice sounds like this: