Your biggest barrier to attracting women is not what you think it is. If you keep saying “I can’t get laid because I am [blank],” you may need to rewire your inner game.
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I’m a firm believer that the art of picking up girls is a gateway drug to true self-development.
Before I found the seduction community, I’d never heard of concepts like the abundance vs. scarcity mindset, limiting beliefs, or social conditioning. It was when I searched the internet for “How to get a girlfriend” that I was introduced to the odd and wonderful world of pickup artistry.
My goal, like most of you, became simple: to become awesome at picking up women. I quickly found there were hundreds of seduction techniques, gurus, and schools to choose from. With experience, I discovered it didn’t matter how many tactics I tried; it was like putting a bandaid on a gaping flesh wound.
My true self was always spilling out — a wounded, insecure, inexperienced, socially frightened boy, drastically distanced from the pinnacle of gleaming, confident excellence I am today.
The women knew I wasn’t there yet. So most of them, while amused at my pickup attempts, just wouldn’t date me. Most wouldn’t even text me back. I was baffled, frustrated, and increasingly depressed by my lack of results.
I asked one girl I was trying to score with, after numerous rejections, “What do I need to do?”
Her reply: “Spend six months meditating with my shaman in India.”
In a way, she was right. It wasn’t until years later that I understood what she really meant.
My inner game was crap.
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An important aha! moment:
An important aha! moment: "Realize that NEGATIVE EMOTIONS ARE FAR MORE POWERFUL and long-lasting THAN POSITIVE ONES. You have to ACTIVELY remember the good times and (deliberately) IGNORE the bad times."
So THAT'S why it's so hard to learn to be positive! This is a really fresh viewpoint. Actionable advice & worth a try!
If I'm honesty with myself a sad, angry boy is exactly what I am
I suffer from victim mentality but I know in the end these thought are total bullshit.
I'm going to stop trying to jump to a place that I'm not at and instead work on becoming the price. This is the way that makes the most sense to me. This is where I am in control and therefore most empowered. I have already quit my addictions (gaming and 25 days Porn free) and I'm not gonna stop until I feel like I'm the price. I don't want to be a sad, angry boy anymore.
Thanks for this hard hitting article.
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