If She Tells You Not to Wear a Condom, Wear a Condom

Imagine this: you've just brought a girl home from your usual method of seduction.

Perhaps you picked her up at a bar. Or you met her elsewhere then brought her on a date. Maybe you invited her over off a dating app.

Things have gone well, and the two of you are now in bed. She's topless, and you've cleared her final hurdle of last-minute resistance. You peel her jeans and panties off, then rip your pants off.

"You don't need a condom," she tells you. Her genitals are spread open in front of you and you're about to go in.

What's your reaction?

Gonna strap up anyway, or you going in rawhide?

If you're a 'condoms always' guy, that's an easy answer for you, I suppose.

But what if you're a 'condoms sometimes' guy?

How do you know if this girl is one of the 'sometimes'... or not?

 

People Tell You What They Tell Others

If she says it to you, she's said it to others.

That's the general rule of thumb to live by.

Yes, in seduction, we do create emotions in women they aren't used to feeling.

We do push the limits and pull things off with women sometimes no other guy has yet.

However, a good general rule of thumb to follow in life is that what someone says or does with you, he says or does with others.

Likewise, whatever you see him do with others, he is likely to do with you.

Here's the anecdote of a 20-year-old female from Reddit:

To be clear, I do not have children and my friend "Ashley" is infertile. Ashley found out she was infertile due to the unprotected sex she has, the amount of STDs she has contracted throughout the years and long periods of time she had them without checking, this has made her infertile. She was understandably incredibly upset at the news as she always wanted to be a mother but now she can't have any biological children of her own. I was one of the first to find out and she told me all of this and I helped her through her grief. That happened about 5 years ago, she was only 20 when she was told.

Now, there are a couple of STDs that can render a woman infertile if she leaves them untreated for too long. These include:

• Chlamydia (2.86 million cases per year in the U.S.)

• Gonorrhea (820,000 cases per year in the U.S.)

• Syphilis (far less common, with women and straight men less likely to be affected than homosexual men)

It generally takes at least two years (or more) of infection with one of these diseases for a woman to become infertile. So she probably picked it up somewhere before age 18.

From the Reddit poster, we know "Ashley" has had a good amount of unprotected sex over the course of years with an indefinite number of men. We can probably also safely assume that at least some of those men, during their unprotected sex with Ashley, caught something from her.

I don't know about you, but I have a sort of natural instinct to assume, "Well, she's young, she's had less time for sex partners, so she's probably clean," but for STDs like gonorrhea and chlamydia the PEAK time for infection is when she's young:

The original poster doesn't share more details on Ashley's modus operandi, but we can somewhat safely guess when she hooks up with a new man she tells him something like:

• "You don't have to wear that"
• "It's okay, I'm on the pill"
• "It feels better with no condom"

(it's also possible, if she wanted to be a mother and was having unprotected sex, that she was actively trying to get a guy to impregnate her. I intend to write something soon on pregnancy traps... because some chicks really just want you to knock them up)

I know a lot of guys in the seduction community, especially at the lower levels of experience, are big on condoms. Most of the guys who sleep with a lot of women are not, however, from the seduction community. Instead, they are naturals. And from my conversations with them, it seems to me that most naturals do not like condoms.

According to the research, the more sexually experienced one becomes, the less likely one is to use condoms. (the study found condom use drops among university students by 40% between their first and fourth years of school, even as the odds of having sex double in that same time) I can certainly tell you that myself, I was most rigid about condom use when I was less experienced with women and a lot more afraid of babies and STDs.

I suggest you read my articles on STDs and going raw if you want more details on either:

Read more: "How to Avoid STDs Even If You Have Lots of Sex"

Read more: "Raw Dogging: The Truth About Unprotected Sex with Women"

Regardless, most of the guys having the most sex (both naturals and the more experienced learned-seducers) are cavalier about condoms: they only use them sometimes, or they might never use them.

And odds are good that if a woman sleeps with a number of men, most of the men she sleeps with will be men who've slept with many women. These guys are the ones who are most likely to spot her, to do things right with her to attract her, and to be able to close the deal.

If she is telling men not to wear condoms, that means she is telling promiscuous men who raw dog a lot of other girls not to wear condoms.

This makes her a lot more likely to have picked something up.

 

"Maybe She Just Really Likes Me"

Early on, I had a seduction mentor impart this knowledge to me: "Girls who tell you you don't need a condom with them, you should definitely wear a condom with! If she asks you to wear a condom though you're usually safe not wearing it."

I could see the reasoning behind that at once. But it still felt emotionally unintuitive.

If she tells you not to wear a condom, that means she really wants you inside her, right?

And if she's asking you to wear one, wouldn't that means she's pretty experienced, if she feels comfortable enough to ask for stuff with sex and she's thinking about condoms and whatnot?

Well, not so fast.

While you may want to feel extra special about her wanting you in her raw, you're really not.

Sometime back, I picked up a girl at a bar. This girl was the same age as that Reddit girl was, and she was very attractive, with a very good body. When we got back to my place, I undressed her, then took my cock out and put it on the mound of her vagina while I got my condom unwrapped. She then snatched the unwrapped condom out of my hand and tossed it away with a grin.

Well, fine. If a beautiful woman with a beautiful body wants me in her without a condom, I'm not going to raise a fuss about that. So I skipped the condom.

It was a fun night, and thinking about it afterwards, I said to myself, "Well, I broke my rule of 'always wear condoms with girls you pick up at the bar', but on the other hand this girl was both beautiful and young. Obviously she just really wanted me. How much unprotected sex with how many men could she have had?"

A little while later, a buddy of mine picked up the same girl at the same bar and shagged her the same way I did (i.e., bareback). So much for Chase's theory of nubile purity, eh?

If she does it with you, she does it with other men. Almost guaranteed.

If you're an experienced guy, you can think about your own condom use... when have you been MOST likely to use condoms?

• When you were inexperienced at picking up? OR

• When you were more experienced at picking up?

For pretty much every guy, it follows that same trajectory as those university students in the study I mentioned: people start out cautious and fearful, then with experience become progressively more cavalier.

Even if she's 18, 19, or 20 years old, if she's telling you not to wear a condom, odds are she's said that to other men before you as well.

So, you should probably wrap it up.

 

Not Wearing Condoms with Beautiful Girls

The more beautiful a girl is, the less likely I am to wear a condom.

Just being honest here.

The more perfect her body is, the less likely I am to wear one, too.

Thing is, I am fairly certain I am not an anomaly here.

I haven't polled a lot of guys, but it does seem like men in general are more likely to want to go raw when the girl is prettier than average.

Makes sense from a reproductive standpoint -- you want to reproduce with the best-looking gal.

You're going to be less excited about doing things that impede reproduction (like, say, wearing a condom) when a girl is really good-looking than you are when she's just okay.

I say this because it's important to be aware of this tendency.

Which, again, I don't have data to say this is totally the case, but I very much suspect it is.

(if you're reading this, and you've got a few notches in your belt, mind commenting down below? If a girl is really good looking, or has a really tight body, do you find it's a lot harder to get yourself to put on a condom than usual?)

If you're like me, and a woman's good looks or hot body make you more inclined to eschew condoms, a few things you'll want to keep in mind:

• Women with higher partner counts on average have better bodies than women with lower partner counts (citation)

• Women with higher partner counts are a lot more interested in casual sex than women with lower partner counts (so on average, more of the women you hook up with will tend to be higher count women -- citation is the same as above)

• While in general as the more attractive a woman becomes the fewer partners she has (citation), there is another study (can't find the link now though) that established that if a woman is the type to have a lot of partners, this breaks the 'beautiful girls date more conservatively' rule (and they date and sleep around the same as average-looking women with low sex restrictions)

• Fewer men are having sex with more women (the average woman has 41% more partners than the average man, according to this study, which interestingly used lie detectors). In other words, most women are having sex with mostly the same pool of high-notch-count guys (naturals and trained/self-taught seducers)

In other words, that beautiful girl with a killer body you're about to go raw on may just be a high drive, unrestricted girl who's had a lot of men go raw on her -- and odds are, if she sleeps with a bunch of dudes, it's the same small group of dudes who are sleeping with all the women, too.

The odds you pick something up from her, passed along to her from one of the many other men she's been with without a condom, are not low.

Moral of the story: if you have a personal rule, such as "always wear condoms with girls you pick up in bars", do your best to stick to it, even if this girl is beautiful.

Just because she's beautiful doesn't mean she hasn't been around the block a bunch of times.

In fact, if her body is tight, it's actually more likely she has!

 

Shouldn't You Just Always Wear a Condom?

I'm sure there will be guys reading this article who are going to flip their lids and say, "Why would you EVER not wear a condom with a girl who's a stranger?"

For one though, this does not just apply to strangers. Guys get lolled into thinking women they know from their day-to-day lives are different from girls they meet in bars. I knew a guy who always used condoms with girls he picked up, but then he started sleeping with his hot neighbor. He'd known this girl for over a year and always had a huge crush on her. Considering she was his neighbor, and he'd known her so long, and he was crushing on her so hard, he figured she was safe, and anyway, man, he just really wanted to give it to her raw.

Needless to say (since I am telling you this story), she wasn't clean. Turned out she gave him a bacterial infection and he had to go on medication to clear it.

My friend was honestly pretty shocked. Spent all that time using condoms with bar girls... then his one pretty neighbor he sleeps with gives him the clap.

Such is life though, no?

But for another thing, after you reach a certain level of experience, or a certain age, you simply are not going to be as rigid about always wearing condoms.

You realize that life is short, it feels a lot more satisfying without a rubber on, most STDs aren't that big a deal, and anyway you're actually way more motivated to pickup and get laid when you've given yourself permission to go raw.

This is not me saying you SHOULD do this.

I am just telling you why guys DO.

So -- if you can get yourself to always wear a condom, I think that's great, and you should do it.

However, if you can't, I hope this article will get you to be a little more discerning about which women you choose to throw on your jimmy hat for, versus which ones you go in bald.

One final note (and we'll talk about this more when I do the pregnancy traps article): keep in mind that some women will try to get you to go raw because they want your baby.

Sometimes this is because they want to trap you and get that sweet child support money.

Sometimes it is because they really want a baby (but you are still going to pay that child support money anyway too).

So, again, if she is telling you you don't need a condom, this is another thing to be aware of:

It is not just that she may have done this with a bunch of guys, but that she may be trying to get you to send your swimmers up her Fallopian tubes.

If you're not ready to be a dad, and you're not keen on picking up anything this girl may have collected from her other male paramours, pay attention to how she talks about condoms.

If she tells you to ditch them, maybe don't ditch them.

You can always just tell her, "Next time I won't," and go in.

Chase