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How to Get a Girlfriend... in 5 Simple Steps

how to get a girlfriendA friend of mine asked me my opinion on how to get a girlfriend the other day, and as I’m giving him my advice, I thought this might interest you as well.

Some guys want to get a girlfriend, for whatever reason…

  • Maybe you’re just looking to have steady company, or you’d like regular intimacy with a girl that’s more than just a friend with benefits
  • Maybe you want to find a deeper emotional connection, or you want to have somebody to snuggle up with over the winter
  • Maybe you want to take a break from “the game”, or maybe you want to get married and have kids?

Whatever the motives, here’s how to get a girlfriend, in 5 steps… and while this may contrast with advice in other articles on how to seduce women quickly, it actually doesn’t differ that much… you’ll see.

Ricardus DominoAbout the Author: Ricardus Domino

Ricardus was one of the most prolific and respected coaches in the men’s dating advice industry. He’s dated some of the planet’s most beautiful women, ranging from a Miss World contestant, to a model for Coca-Cola, to one of “Brazil’s Next Top Models.” His specialty is daytime street stops. He is most remembered for his “Are you single?” opening line. Ricardus is currently retired from the dating advice industry.

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Ray's picture

Dear Chase,

I am a huge fan of your methodology, and these 5 simple steps were straight forward and made sense to me in the past. I applied these concepts you mentioned, had an abundance of woman in my life and found someone special whom I have gotten into a relationship with. That was more than half a year ago.

Many learning points took place for me during my relationship with this girl. One most relevant to this post was her disbelief when she found out that actually I was dating other girls when I was "having something special" with her. I told her explicitly that I was dating other girls, which you mentioned not to in your "Managing Expectations" post, which I came across a little too late.

I was confused about combining what you said that we should 'nurture this reputation… every chance you get' of being a Casanova, yet not let her know explicitly about it and that we should not lie to a girl. Now, I realized that cultivating this reputation has to be something done implicitly. However, the fact that I cannot say it to them that I'm actually doing multiple dating seem to suggest that this is a wrong thing to do.

And I'm starting to question whether this lifestyle is the correct way to go about getting girls because it seem to originate from a place of fear, that I am dating other girls because I do not want to be overly dependent on just one which has the potential to emotionally hurt me if I become too involved.

A point to note now is we have separated, but still close and open to the idea of reconciliation. We have separated due to these differences in beliefs and I have committed myself to move away from multiple dating. This is because I realized how much pain and insecurity a girl in a relationship can have if she realized that her guy was once a multiple dater while dating her as well. But upon reading your posts again reminds me of the past negative experiences when I was overly committed to one girl, and I am also aware of 'red flags' which potentially could drive a girl away, and am observing these 'red flags' in me now.However, I also feel that if my purpose of multiple dating is to negate the negative effects of being needy, then I'm coming from a point of lack of confidence and I want to move away from that. But, is my perspective truly a wise one?
I would really appreciate your insights on this.


Anonymous's picture

So, you're saying that if you love a girl it's already too late? That's a depressive outlook on the subject.

Cameron's picture

I was just wondering because I think that I found a girl that I like and we are friends right now but I'm not sure if we are ready to be girlfriend/boyfriend yet. Like what should I do because we been friends for months and I'm afraid that if I ask her out then she wouldn't be ready. Should I just ask her out or wait for a few months.

MadInLoveWith3Girls's picture

I like three different girls and they all like me back. One is really hot, the other is bisexual and very nice and cute, and the other is good looking and has a great personality. Which should I go after?

Anonymous's picture

Ray, she isnt the one, look for a partner with better self steem. Chances are that even if you were not dating anyone before, she was going to give you trouble anyway. Keep doing your stuff.

kelvin's picture

I need help.the girl I really want to be with isn't having that kind of mentality.on our first day as colleagues,she told me she wouldn't want to get married.but as we speak I have managed to change her mentality.she really wants to be with my problem is how I could maintain her and make her fall in love with me.i don't want to be in the friendship zone anymore.although I have had some mistakes in the past I really want this she only wants me to be her friend and I don't want that.even though I have accepted to be her friend I want her to fall in love with trying to stand out from other guys.i need an advice

Anonymous's picture

With so many very mean and nasty women out there nowadays, and how in the world are many of us good men going to meet a good woman today? Much more women today are playing very hard too get, and with so many Very High Maintenance Women that are out there these days meeting a real good Decent One for many of us men will even be much harder since they can't Accept many of us men for who we are anymore.

MikeCanzanora's picture

Why women are so. Hard to meet. Is because the good ones get taken by the bad and the other girls reject the good men. That want to be loved. And just want have a women's. sweet deep love an bond TO me it's a disappointment I being a man my self am going. Through that same stage. I have a little hope. But. Still WORRIE. That. All the good girls are taken and all the hard to get and immature girls are. Just out their

Hello_world2020's picture

How to get a date to begin with? Why many coaches always assume that the readers always have dates so they talk about complex issues.

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