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does money get you laid
Women are attracted to money. Duh. But how does wealth impact your ability to get laid? In some ways, it helps, but it also comes with considerable drawbacks.

Hey, guys. Today I’ll share my experiences on a very opinionated topic: how money and wealth play into the mating game. Specifically, I’d like to discuss whether wealth plays a role in hooking up with women, or if it works against you.

I derive many details from my personal experiences and observations.

In the end, I’ll make a normative moral statement, just an opinion that you are welcome to disagree with.

Before I begin, I must mention that wealth holds different values in different countries. It depends where you live, and can matter more in other areas. For example, in developing countries, wealth equals strength, which is attractive. In Scandinavian countries, wealth matters very little.

It is for these reasons that I have held back from writing such a post in the past. I was living in Scandinavia, and I had traveled a lot but not enough to make general, in-depth sociological observations.

I now live in Central Europe, more precisely, in Paris. Wealth matters much more here. Clubs are flashy, and Paris is known for its bourgeoisie. The high-end clubs here are truly HIGH END.

But does money matter? Yes, but when does it truly matter? And when does it work against you?

Let’s discuss this here.

And just FYI, I am not rich.

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Bizzy's picture

Money is the only thing I don't care about because it doesn't create sexual desire for women, it just makes them want to marry you for financial security. Donald Trump, Bill Gates and many other rich guys can get laid whenever they want but look at Trump's wife, she looks disgusted by him, even though she is married to him. Trump has been divorced twice, so I guess his ex-wives didn't marry him for being a sexy billioniare at all. He has also gotten accused of sexual harassment towards women, something Bill Clinton or JFK, never had to deal with. Clinton and JFK were both players and attractive to women, Trump is not.

To me money is just a coping mechanism for guys who have nothing else to offer.

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Alek Rolstad's picture

I wouldn't say money is a coping mechanism, because many men do want wealth for other reasons than getting laid. Actually the majority of wealthy people are like that. some just enjoy the whole "game" of making money. I truly sympathise with those for obvious reasons :)

Well as mentioning in the OP, money can communicate power - which is attractive to women. So maybe this is a way that makes Trump a bit more attractive. But I will not deny that Bill Clinton and JFK have higher sexual market value than Trump.

 

Alek

Bizzy's picture

Alek, 

I sure agree with you, that wealth can make you addicted to play the money game, as you call it and I am sure it will make you focus a lot on your purpose as well. For me it's just an ego thing. I don't like thinking that I can pull of hot women, just because of my money and wealth, it makes me very cautious. Maybe millionaires don't think much about it, they just live theor lives. But I can't name you one famous couple or say one famous and rich male athlete, actor, business man and what have you, that has not gone through at least one divorce or mutiple break ups in the process. Especially athletes seem to be doomed to lose all their money because they keep getting trapped with gold diggers or father countless children with different women and this is most likely the result of their wealth. I believe money has become a temporary thing for many rich men, you can enjoy it but you have to make even more money to retain your level of wealth, otherwise you will lose it. Even if you tried to live a modest life, most athletes seem to fail doing it, they are not content living off of their interests and other incomes and that's why they lose it, nit mentioning all the people that use them too.

lucio's picture

Good artice, but I disagree with some of the message here.

This sounds like a more typical non-wealthy mindset embracing a point of view that maes other non-wealthy individuals, the majority, feel a bit better.

To begin with, it follows a stereotypical path of pitching money VS "sexiness" where the wealthy man becomes a strawman of "rich but not sexy".
As if wealth and sexiness were mutually exclusive as if a wealthy man couldn't be the sexiest guy in the club. He might be dull AF, of course, but he has pretty much the same chances of being sexy as a poor guy. As a matter of fact, probably slightly higher as confidence and wealth are linked-.

I don't agree that women don't get anything short term from wealth.
For one, they get to experience the luxury lifestile. That's very attractive for some women, especially the ones who are not used to it.
Just thing about it: wWhat's more exciting, driving home in a cab or in a Ferrari? Hell, even as a guy I'd almost go with someone if he let me drive one.
Going to the extremes, what's more likely to be memorable, waiting for the bus or driving in a chauffered car?

A wealthy man can probably also provide memorable short adventures better than most poor men can.
Get on the car and we'll fly a private jet to some exotic destination, no queues. Far more exciting than having to share a 3-seater with some oversized fella nearby.

Logistics are part of the benefits, but don't stop there. 
Wealth can be a major force multiplier, and there is nothing wring with that. 
it's just another tool that one can put to good use.

And for the above comment on Trump and his wife being disgusted by him, that's different. Trump is a sociopath who seeks power and his life resents his domineering ways.

My two cents.

High quality website here and Alek is one of the most impressive seducers I have ever read from.
Cheers!
-Lucio

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Alek Rolstad's picture

Hey. Thanks you for the  Kudos. Much appreciated to hear that you are enjoying my posts. I will keep them coming!

This sounds like a more typical non-wealthy mindset embracing a point of view that maes other non-wealthy individuals, the majority, feel a bit better.

Not gonna lie, I always grew up as upper middle class. I did go to school with the rich-crowd (my familly could be considered "cultural elite") and most of them were great people. So I have no hatred for the rich, aside from those tacky new rich, I rarely get along with those. But there are probably exceptions.

But in all honesty, it was the first time in my life that I got a true taste of "feeling like a rich kid". My flat is in one of the best central areas in Paris. My flat is huge, high roof, amazing fourniture. Truly a Jewel. People get a shock when entering this flat. And it is those things that made me reflect. Girls turned all weird - in both good and bad ways.

To begin with, it follows a stereotypical path of pitching money VS "sexiness" where the wealthy man becomes a strawman of "rich but not sexy".
As if wealth and sexiness were mutually exclusive as if a wealthy man couldn't be the sexiest guy in the club. He might be dull AF, of course, but he has pretty much the same chances of being sexy as a poor guy. As a matter of fact, probably slightly higher as confidence and wealth are linked-.

 

Agreed and I am sorry it came off this way. Of course the wealthy guy can be sexy AF. It is not like wealth makes someone unsexy (although it does come with some backlashes as covered in this post). Wealth can give you some attractiveness points, but those points are worth little to me when you consider the negative outputs that comes with it.

 

I don't agree that women don't get anything short term from wealth.
For one, they get to experience the luxury lifestile. That's very attractive for some women, especially the ones who are not used to it.

 

You are right. I think I was not clear when I said "short-term". In my book that's one night, a one night stand. I am talking about the REAL short-term. But if we follow your definition (which is by no means wrong), we can easily assume but girl would want this to last long-term. This can, at least to me be something undesired. Clingy girls actually becomes a problem eventually... (honestly, I am a bit paranoid about clingy girls)

 

Just thing about it: wWhat's more exciting, driving home in a cab or in a Ferrari? Hell, even as a guy I'd almost go with someone if he let me drive one.
Going to the extremes, what's more likely to be memorable, waiting for the bus or driving in a chauffered car?

Honestly, this is primarily a logistical benefit, which I did cover. I do not deny that this is a benefit. But I would prefer just use a cab, because a private chaufeur will increase the odds of generating the negative backlashes from wealth, as per covered in this post.

 

A wealthy man can probably also provide memorable short adventures better than most poor men can.
Get on the car and we'll fly a private jet to some exotic destination, no queues. Far more exciting than having to share a 3-seater with some oversized fella nearby.

True, but this is only useful for more longterm stuff. In regards to just pulling, this is not very useful. I did mention that wealth is beneficial in more relationship oriented situation (fuck buddies counts as that). I think my point was not made clear enough - wealth is not that useful and perhaps detrimental when it comes to just pulling. For more long-term stuff, it may be useful. But I do not do such a thing as longterm stuff really (or very rarely). I avoid it like the plague.

Logistics are part of the benefits, but don't stop there. 
Wealth can be a major force multiplier, and there is nothing wring with that. 
it's just another tool that one can put to good use.

I will not disagree with this, although I still see it as diminishing return for when it comes to pick up and seduction. I would love more wealth, but more to enjoy eating great food, travelling more, and buy more expensive teas. I would also buy some even more cool and funky clothes. :)

Thank you for your comment.

I do not really disagree with you, I just think my point was not made clear enough.
Best,
Alek

lucio's picture

Yeah, very good points Alek.

I would differentiate two scenarios when wealth can be detrimental: when it looks attainable, and when it's just there to be enjoyed for the night.
That's where I think we are diverging.

In my experience the money helps short term the most when it looks "unattainable", and in that case it helps quick seductions.

Far from wealthy, I experienced it while traveling and with women who had just moved to the city from rural countrisides.
Nice custom, slim fit pants, good shoes... And you immediately stand out.
And when you take her back, you know those modern buildings with swimming pool? For you it's an affordable Airbnb, but they look fancy to a country girl who has never seen it before.

Since you positioned yourself as lover and you are also traveling, she knows she can't access it, but it boosts your SMV also in the short term because the "luxury" experience excites her.

Do her good, go to the rooftoop with skyline view, speak and bond there, sneak one more in the bathroom... Instant puppy eyes within a few hours.
So it also depends in large part on the vibe that he gives off. If opening that chauffered car the frame is "I'll take you on an adventure for the night", then it only increases excitement. If she thinks she can stick with him, then it slows things down.

Indeed "attainable" wealth, as you correctly describe, can be an impediment.
This is why when I'm in Europe I rarely say that my small abode is mine and instead say that a "friend let me stay there", which is also a boost in a way itself as it suggests you have great connections and sounds "mysterious", too (same in your case).

BTW, what are you doing in Paris man, you should totally move to Berlin :).
Cheers! 

Jimbo's picture

A lot of anti-Trump Democrats around here. FOUR MORE YEARS!

By the way, if Trump is a power-seeking sociopath, then Slick Willie was at least that too. You think Monica wanted him for his pasty face and wooly hair more than she did because he was the President? Please. And don't get me started on the rape claims about him.

Jimbo's picture

I mostly agree.

When it comes to women, money is good if you're looking for no-nonsense transactional sex (supposing you're comfortable with that), or if you want to attract and keep some hottie in a relationship (supposing, again, you're comfortable with the possibility that she might only be with you for the money). But if you want to toil away to make money JUST so you can get laid, then I'm afraid you're taking the longer, least efficient route.

This reminds of a Two and a Half Men scene where Walden is just jaded from even talking to women because he knew all they'd be interested in was his money.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lEHd1oYX7co

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