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Tactics Tuesdays: Don't Trigger Her Analytical Side

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Everybody likes to assume men are the factual, analytical sex. But there's more to being factual and analytical than one's sex. Certain environments prime you to think in factual, analytical ways. Many of the women you meet are fresh out of these environments.

When a woman spends all day in an office or (to a lesser extent) a university, she can get mechanical in her thoughts. It takes some work to shake her out of that and get her into a playful, social mood. Along the way, you can trip yourself up by returning her to Fact Land.

In Fact Land, there's no such thing as a sexy man. Men can't be sexy when they concern themselves with facts. Can you factually, analytically define sexiness? Neither can she. Further, you need women out of a factual mindset to properly take them through seduction. Seduction consists of many counter-factual moments... like telling her "Let's get out of here, it's so noisy and boring" to get her back to your place. Well, it's actually more interesting in whatever stimulating environment you have her in. A woman in an emotional headspace who likes you will agree, because she'll be more interested in you than the environment. A woman in a factual headspace however will not see how going to your dull apartment is more interesting than a chaotic bar or street scene. You must guide her away from Fact Land into Feeling Land.

This week's Tactics Tuesday isn't about how to pull her completely out of facts and into feelings. That's a more involved process... one that involves doing things that make her feel, and helping her feel allowed to let down her protective wall of facts. This post is about not accidentally triggering her factual side while you're striving to awaken her feelings.

Chase AmanteAbout the Author: Chase Amante

Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone. So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating. After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website. He will teach you everything he knows about girls in one single program in his One Date System.

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Ben's picture

This is a godsend. I realized recently that I was too facts-based in conversation, and started treating conversation as an exercise whose point is the interaction, not information transfer. 

This smoothed out a lot of the issues I had with conversations being dull, forced or impersonal, but only when the other person also wanted to (and was able to) 'play'.

This is the piece I was missing:) 

So thanks

-Ben

A.A's picture

Hey Chase - great article mate, I had never actually considered this aspect of the “analytical side” before. I’m surprised how easy it is to fall into that trap to be honest.

Reading the example text message conversation got me thinking though. Lately I’ve been texting a girl I met at a hangout with some friends, and she gave me a few signals, so we chatted over a day or two (building rapport). I then asked her what her schedule looked like next week, and if she wanted to grab a bite or a drink sometime - to which she replied that she had to study for her exams (she actually does, it seems) and that we could all hang out (as a group) afterwards.

I’m relatively new to the game but I’m pretty sure that’s a very bad sign - I’ve probably messed up very badly somewhere, haven’t I... what do you think?

Anyway, what I’m wondering is:

1.) Is there a way to tell when an excuse is simply an excuse in a situation like this, or one like the example conversation you used - especially when you leave it open-ended (“some time”)? How would you deal with excuses to an open-ended proposal?

2.) Is there any way to come back from this the next time I see her? What would your approach be?

Thanks in advance!
Regards,
A.

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