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How to Get a Phone Number from a Girl Every Time You Ask

how to get a phone numberOne of the most glaring things missing from the content available on the blog here has been an authoritative article on how to get a phone number from a girl. I put up "Natural Number Swapping" sometime back, and that covers the basics; Ricardus has covered phone numbers somewhat in a couple of different posts.

But there isn't any one comprehensive post written on everything you could ever want to know about becoming insanely effective at getting phone numbers.

Time to change that.

Today's article is a tour-de-force of all the most potent, powerful tips and techniques on how to get phone numbers that you could ask for, so you can get the numbers you want from the women you want them from, whenever you want, every time (or pretty close to it).

There's no reason you shouldn't be able to follow up with a girl that you like later on after meeting her.

And after reading this article and following its advice today, you'll see exactly why - and phone numbers will be a breeze.

Chase AmanteAbout the Author: Chase Amante

Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone. So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating. After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website. He will teach you everything he knows about girls in one single program in his Mastery Package.


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Balla's picture

Another great article man, I love that you use so much detail when you explain things and that you don't leave people hanging. You even make new post on stuff you covered before with better detail. But anyway I read in your comment on the last post you said "black guy game" can you please explain what good strong black guy game is? Thanks!

Chase Amante's picture

Thanks, Balla.

By "black guy game," I basically mean very aggressive, very direct game.

Bad black guy game looks like this:

Guy: [hollering at girl as she walks down the street] "Whoa, girl you look good! Why not come on over and stop for a second here?"

Good black guy game looks like this:

Guy: [rolling up next to a sister] "You know what, Miss, I saw you from across the room and I knew I'd be kicking myself if I didn't come find out who you are and what you're doing here. You just have this look about you that screams 'man killer,' and I am intensely attracted to danger. My name is Chase Amante [holding out hand]."

The interesting thing is that good black guy game can be really good, and guys of any skin hue can use it. They just don't for some reason, because most light-skinned guys are conditioned to play things more conservatively and normally lean toward indirect. You will very often see black guys putting it all out there, which leads to either flaming crashes or triumphant victories, compared to the white guys' neutral "testing the waters" approach you'll usually see with them (excepting the guys who are good, of course).


Balla's picture

K thanks man. Sounds like you can make a pretty good article about "black guy game" and how to use it". And funny thing is what you wrote sounds exactly like how a black guy would spit game. I really think it would be a good article.

Chase Amante's picture

Haha, you're tempting me to poke the fire there, man... that would be a fun article to write. Although, good black guy game isn't all that different from typical direct game... but there are a few differences.

No promises, but I might put something up on it ;)


Knight's picture

You're brilliant Chase.
Keep refining everything, you're one of the greats. Also, at school regularly there are a lot of guys who will make jokes in class (not really nasty ones, as they're my good friends, but to just make themselves look better and create a few laughs between the group). How would you go about defusing this situation? Until I reach the point where they won't do it at all. At the moment I just try and shrug it off with little emotion, but sometimes I end up laughing with them. D:

Chase Amante's picture

Howdy Knight,

Grazie! It sounds like you're handling those kinds of guys just fine. I'm picturing the coolest guys I knew in high school and college, and if someone were cracking jokes at their expense in class, they'd laugh a little bit and be a good sport, but otherwise ignore those guys.

You can't engage directly with them or you put them and you on the same level, so don't go telling jokes back or anything. Just let them do their thing and laugh a little and pay them no mind. Just imagine how a really hot, popular girl would react if someone were doing that to her... if she was uptight, she'd try and ignore it entirely, then blow up and get upset, but if she was one of the REALLY cool popular girls that EVERYBODY liked, she'd just laugh and brush it off. You should be doing the same thing as her (and it sounds like you are).


Anonymous's picture

Hey Chase I love the website. There's just so much great information and its kind of overwhelming. Is there any articles I should start on? (I'm just starting out with this stuff).

Chase Amante's picture

Hi Anon,

The site's primarily designed as expansions and outcroppings of the Girls Chase programs, which are designed to provide that kind of condensed step-by-step "work on this at this time, this at that time" instruction. So, there's not a beginner's guide article on the site per se, because it would be too huge to have as a stand-alone article rather than simply wrapped up as a book or video package.

That said, if you're just getting started with the material here, probably the best free resource on the site for new guys (in my estimation) is "How to Get Girls: The Last Post You'll Ever Need." It goes pretty in-depth into the actual mindset you need to have to be most successful with women, and there are plenty of links to specific topics on things that will be important to learn for you to have the fundamentals down, too.

Hope that helps get you going, and cheers & happy exploring,

G.eorge C.looney's picture

Hey Chase!

First, kudos for this "insight"; it has been helpful :D

Since I am a die-hard follower of yours I know you usually only answer to questions that are posted early on. Sooo... there is a problem that's been bothering me... like acid slowly dripping on my mind.

I have to thank you for all my improvement (wich was insanely notable over only four months) and really want to express all of my gratitude! TNX Chase!! :D

Skipping to the problem:

I have my fundamentals laid down really well, girls talk/gossip about me, I have social proof, I seem to be leading and dominant (so they told me and showed me) with next to zero effort, I keep girls around, have popular and rich friends (I'm, girls stare me down, I'm chilled out, Bond type, I'm hard working on my conversation right theese weeks, I get girls investing, calling me, texting me, inviting me over, buying me drinks, I approach girls.... DAMN, they even approach me lately, they speak most of the time, I use chase and sexual frames, blahblahblah, they gaze like they want to eat me, play with their hair... and so on and so forth.

I've read around 95% of your articles and let's say trained myself to an intermediate level... or something more than a pure begginer lets say.
Tnx to you again ;)

Still I have problems when it comes to Physical Escalation... but not problems with getting laid. I have serious problems with the transition from conversation to kissing. Once the kissing is on I have very few problems with bed magic.

I have actually never read any insight that would break down how to get closer and closer, when/how to start putting my arm around or something, hug her, kiss her on her cheeks or I don't fkin know... My question would sound like this:

HOW to get to kissing part if you do everything wright?

I have serious problems with this transition. And I angry even more because I know I would have gotten laid so many times If I had only mastered this part... And I will sooner or latter.

Sooner If you helped me a little ;D

I have 18 years if this can help you with your answer and I pick up/date/seduce girls that are from 17 - 24 years old.

Well Chase, Thank You again for everything, Thank You in advance and excuse me for any English mistakes, I'm not a native ;D

greetings from Slovenia,

Yours sincerely,

Chase Amante's picture

Hey 007,

That's a good question, and yeah, that can be really annoying when you haven't got all the pieces lined up there yet.

Let me try and tackle that in an article sometime this week. Keep your eyes peeled...


007's picture

Thank you!


Chase Amante's picture

All right, Double-O, post is live:

How to Kiss a Girl Like No One's Ever Kissed Her Before

Hope that does the trick!


Hunter's picture

Hey Chase, I'm so glad you got to this, I actually had an exact question about phone numbers only to have you answer it with finesse!

I was pondering however about the aspects of city game vs closed space game, small towns or places you return to because you have to, school or work.

I have done direct openers in places like school and around my city of medium size, but it can go awry easily and when it does, you hear about it back! It is almost normal to meet girls again whom I've approached before. The fleeting moment of awkwardness is fine, but if every girl I approached went awry at school, that'd be too much to handle.

I remember your post on direct vs situational approaching. I advocate direct approaching, but I feel they are not the best in places I return to frequently because I have to.

Can you go over the aspects of situational game? I know most guys actually get stuck in situational game, but after doing more direct openers, I'm having a hard time in situational environments coming off too strong or putting too much social pressure on her!

Thanks again, don't you guys stop anytime soon!


Chase Amante's picture

Hey Hunter,

Sure, that's a great topic. It's a very nuanced one, and it's easy to get wrong. In a lot of ways, direct is actually a lot easier to do than indirect... you've really got to work the clay on indirect.

Let me see about getting a post on that up.


Manny's picture

Nothing but great content on this blog. Seriously this is by far the most helpful blog i've found and trust me i've seen plenty. you sir are a master and definitely know exactly what your talking about rather than simply theorizing. I'll have to get around to reading your book. its pretty daunting at 400+ pages but if these articles are any indication of what to expect, im sold.

Anonymous's picture

Hey Chase, i love this site, its got information that has changed my life. I have a question about a recent number swap. I noticed this girl who worked at the grocery store and it seemed like she was interested in me by our interactions and conversations. It seemed like she would be telling me random stuff about her without me even asking. So the other day i decided to ask her out, so I went in and a conversation started up. once again she ended up telling me just some random stuff about her day again without me even really asking, then at a moment where I felt it was right I told her that I thought she was a cool girl and she said thanks and I asked her if she wanted to get some coffee with me some time. She responded by saying that she was taken but we could start as friends and she gave me her number. I feel like I gave her that weird vibe which is unfortunate because I was feeling really calm and confident. I also feel like if she was really involved with another dude she wouldn't have given me her number in the first place. So my question is: is this salvageable and if so how. I was planning on giving her a call but I thought I'd better get some expert advice.

DTD1986's picture

She's taken. Forget about her. Sure you can exchange numbers but you have to say to her: "Well if it doesn't work out, let me know," and leave it at that. There are plenty of available women out there - go out with them. I know this is an old comment, but this reply is for other people in the same situation.

Edmond's picture


I really need some help from ya. I fell in love with a girl who is currently working as a promoter at Fos(clothes). I've read some other articles and it says that it's much more better to ask a girl for a date first instead of her number. Can you show me the way to do it? I just need her to say yes to my invitation for a movie and I know I've very little time to do it as she's working. Can you just show me some good way when I'm approaching to her without getting any rejection? Provide me some samples if possible. Thanks man!

:)'s picture

Hi Chase,

I am very, very, very intrigue with this article! Thanks for posting this wonderful article!

Anyways I really can't seem to find one of your articles on asking one of her friends for her number.

Is this acceptable? I mean I haven't spoken with her in so long, just recently I've begin to think about her and now I want to take action.

Is this acceptable at all?

Anonymous's picture

I'll explain the scenario, I was on a night out and seen a girl who I made eye contact with a few times, she was one of the hostess/dancers in the club, I went over and spoke briefly then asked for her number, she said she's not allowed when she's working and to add her on Facebook, I told her I'm already friends with her and she said to message her the next day
Which I did saying 'so was I'm working just an excuse then?' To which she read and didn't reply. What would your advice be now? Do I forget her? Message again? Or speak if I see her on a night out? I know I shouldn't have said that to start but it's to late now.

P.'s picture

Hello, Chase! Brilliant article as well, yet I got a couple of questions. Everything you wrote above it works also with married women? And you're using the same strategy with both women around your age and older ones?
Thank you in advance,

Anonymous's picture

I just give them my number an d tell them to give me a call, is that still effective?

Anonymous's picture

Interesting article, but I wonder how relevant or important getting "the number" is nowadays with modern technology. Today with social media like email or facebook contact and what information you allow can be filterable or even guage and check you out on your social media background, even smartphones today you can block calls if desired. Is getting "the number" still the be all end all today of initiating dating and interest like it was years ago?

Anonymous's picture


Today I got to talking with a girl from my building on the way home from campus.s It was a casual conversation with some sparks.

Anyway, it just felt natural to keep things in acquaintance mode. She was definitely attracted to me. I think the advantage of being shy but charming is I maintain a bit of mystery. Letting some girls go on the chance that I run into them again establishes that I can take or leave it.

In the past girls that I've talked to on the shuttle or wherever end up remembering me later on. It's surprising how good of memory girls have.... What do you think? Is building a rapport from multiple run-ins also a good strategy?


Falcon's picture

Certain words in our culture have the potential to take on negative associations or have implicit adverse
implications. "Cell phone" and "texting" are two that come immediately to mind given the current war against cell-phone use and/or texting while driving.

Then, too, women are more aware than ever before of the possible dangerous implications of sharing information about themselves that they would once freely give to a man who approached them politely and with a degree of charm.

The superior option to asking a woman for her phone number is to merely say something like. "I really would like to talk some more but I've got to run. What's the best way for us to stay in contact?"

She's got four options: 1) There is none; 2) By phone; 3)By e-mail, or 4) By meeting someone at a specific time or a time to be decided.

If she seems hesitant or refuses you can give her two more options and say,

"Here's my card. (I would create a blog about something that suggests you can be funny, interesting, and well worth knowing). Check out my blog and if you change your mind you can call me ir email me--your choice--and we'll set something up."

If nothing comes of it, this approach still gives you many more opportunities to connect than blowing through an attempt to just drop your nets for her number. You may even find she calls you.

Jonathan's picture

Hey Chase,
I would like to say thank you for this article as I now find getting girl's numbers to be pretty easy. Once I did it right the first time, I've been getting numbers ever since.
Today I used some of what you said here about setting up the question "Would you like to see me again?" But it was with a girl that I already had her number. I only began using your get her number techniques after that random success with her. But I haven't been able to muster up courage to transition to where we could go out together. Today, I mentioned that I would like to see her sometime this week for a wine tasting event (although I already knew the day). She was delighted and she asked when would if be. She had class that specific time and day, but she also asked "should I skip that class, because I really want to go and we are only doing presentations in that class"
I said, "I'd like it for you be there at the wine tasting with me"
She told me she'd text me when she got home so she can decide. An hour later she confirmed that she will skip her class to go with me to the wine tasting!
It was a great and happy surprise, and I have you to thank for that! We're going this Thursday evening
Thank you again for such valuable information in your articles!

Hessam's picture

Dear Chase Amante

First of all I want to thank you for your amazing website and comprehensive helps and advices.

Although that I know you're not much agreed with choosing a girl through social networks (internet) o getting their numbers this way but I have a question about this issue.

I'm really really good at chatting with girls through internet and make them laugh, excited and curious about myself, get their numbers and transfer my masculinity based on and in accordance with all of your fundamentals and advices. But there is a problem here!

After getting their numbers and my first text message, most of them become really really weird and unresponsive to me!

What is your opinion about this behavior? Don't you think that is one of the exceptions and calling them to make them calm and remove the awkwardness is really needed?

Best Regards

tyler's picture

im currently in highschool and this really hot girl is in my math class and has a locker in the same area is me and I was wondering if this line would work:

hey whats your name, my name is tyler I think your beautiful.. can I have your number?

Anonymous's picture

So how would the 2 minute number close work in a reverse situation? Recently, this cute girl started working at this supermarket I go to after I finish work at 1: AM. I'm in no particular hurry at this time, but I wouldn't want to distract her too much from her job, especially since she might be a newer employee there.

As someone who's very shy, with zero experience in dating and very little confidence in myself, all I've managed so far was a quick hello to her and a smile. I got a return smile and hi back, but I don't know what to do now.

Josh Rhodes's picture

There is this cute girl who works at my postal office and usually she works alongside other clerks. And I was wondering how I work past that awkward barrier of asking for her number without embarrassing her in front of the other clerks?

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