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8 Ways Men Over-Game Women in Pickup

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By: Tony Depp

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Guys who do pickup and seduction often over-game women; she’s ready to smash, but they keep spitting game. Here are some tips to avoid falling into that trap.

Are you making success with women more complicated than it needs to be?

Most likely you are. I know – because been there, done that.

In seduction, true beauty is found by taking something rough, disorganized, and raw, then whittling it down into its most pure, functional form. You strip away the excess until all that’s left are results. Or, at least, a sharpened tool, or polished art form.

That’s the idea anyway.

Back when I was a noob, there was this cute barista I wanted to bang. I didn’t realize at the time that I could have had her simply by saying “Hey, what are you up to tonight?” Instead, I’d go in there, order a coffee and practice my game on her.

I’d use push-pull, making fun of the way she wiggled her nose when she talked, or how her lips curled upwards when she was annoyed. I’d show her new gambits, like palm reading, or the horsey flowers routine. I’d do everything except pull the trigger and ask her out.

One day she’d had enough. In the middle of one of my jokes, she said, “Tony, why don’t you just get real with me?”

“Just get real.” Uggh. She was right. I’d been over-gaming. Trying way too hard. Practicing rather than seducing.

Taking something incredibly complex and skill-based seems as if it’s natural, easy – even effortless, as if you were born gifted. That’s the law of Sprezzatura. But to get to Sprezzatura, you’ll have to earn it.

It’s the process of earning your skill that leads you through the land of try-hard, where over-gaming rules the experience.

Rather than focusing on hundreds of theories and tactics, focus on maximizing your strengths and minimizing your weaknesses. Simplify your game.

How Learning to Dance Helps You Attract Women

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If you’re good on the dance floor, girls will assume you’re also good in bed. Don’t know how to dance? No problem. Classes are also a great place to meet sexy girls!

Women love a man who can dance. Basically, you’re communicating with your bodies. Sounds a lot like sex, right? When on the dance floor, the way you express your body is imperative for attracting women to you. If it looks like you have two left feet, chances are women will think your sex game is also whack.

However, if your dance game is up to spec, it shows her you’ve got rhythm and that your stroke game is above average. If dance is an intimate language and one that many women listen to, why not learn it?

It’s amazing to see what people turn into when the beat drops. First off, understand that the club attracts those who can’t be themselves during the day. Women go to the club to let loose and be gawked at by every breathing man they pass, while men go to the club to hunt. It’s as if the music makes people undergo some sort of transformation, accompanied by courage juice, of course (aka alcohol).

All the ass grabbing, grinding, twerking, and small talk is part of the scene. Unfortunately, some people overdo it when it comes to getting attention, and some don’t know how to handle the attention.

Too many times I have seen men suffer horrible rejections because they couldn’t stop themselves from creeping up on that booty unsuspectingly. Have you ever mustered up the courage to ask a girl to dance, and soon enough realize your infamous two-step just won’t cut it? If you think you’re not a very good dancer, fear not, because there are ways around this.

Jealous Women Can Be a Good Thing, If You're a Guy (Video)

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A while back, I uploaded a video about your girlfriend getting overly jealous and what to do about it (watch it here).

In that video, I briefly touched upon why a little jealousy from your girlfriend is good, but now I want to expound upon that and explain more deeply WHY her feminine nature leads her to enjoy jealousy.

Now I'll explain how jealousy works in real time and it's ricochet nature.

Watch to see!

How to Attract Women Whether You’re Good Looking or Not

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Attract Women Whether You’re Good Looking or Not
Looks are important, but even stunners can be unattractive at times. Here are the variables that, if properly addressed, can make practically anyone attractive to women.

Hey, guys.

Last week I shared a post about how “attractive guys” can pick up girls by maximizing the positive effects of their strengths while minimizing the negative effects of their weaknesses.

Today’s post is a follow-up for those guys who may not be considered attractive. However, you are not that worse off. The way you look is not the only factor that determines attractiveness and unattractiveness.

Many factors that define a man’s attractiveness are not static. This means that a good-looking, hot guy, or a high-value guy may at some point be very attractive, only to fade into a huge loser depending on the circumstances (we will get into that). This post is also for guys who are good-looking and perhaps have high social value – because any guy can go from being super hot to unattractive. I will get into why that is, but the quick answer is that hot guys also have down times when their mojo is low.

Because these variables are fluid, there is room for all guys to become more attractive. Let’s discuss these variables first.

Using Glamorous Traits to Attract and Intrigue Women

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Glamorous Traits to Attract and Intrigue Women
Casting directors look for certain traits to fill roles for alluring characters. These same traits happen to be effective for building intrigue and attracting women.

Ever noticed a relationship between performing arts, show business, and getting girls? Sure, we’re all aware that some men in the entertainment industry enjoy lots of success with women. It’s been like this for most of modern history.

Celebrities, rock stars, actors, and leading men in Hollywood have been bedding beautiful women for decades. Passionate fans have been tossing their bras and panties at stages and music festivals for years.

Fame and worldwide recognition are incredibly potent aphrodisiacs. It’s worth mentioning that there’s more than what initially meets the eye when it comes to the nuts and bolts of what makes some of these men attractive and desired by absurd quantities of women than just simply being famous.

It’s called glamour.

Glamour is something distinguishable from fame.

Some famous people and celebrities are glamorous. Others not so much. For example, some actors we’ve seen in movies and TV shows just seem to have a special something. A certain, impressive, je-nais-ce-quoi which distinguishes them from their colleagues and fellow celebrities – even celebrities just as famous as themselves. And it’s not uncommon for a new, glamorous and thus sexually-exciting young actor to appear in a breakout movie or TV show, propelling forward from a position close to obscurity, becoming more and more famous until he’s a household name.

And these celebrities who happen to be both exceedingly glamorous as well as very famous are often regarded as sex symbols in popular culture.

Now, since we’ve established glamour as a quality that exists independent of one’s level of fame, it’s also worth mentioning that glamour and its thrilling effect on the women you meet can equally exist without any fame or recognition. You can become a seducer with an element of glamour.

So no, you don’t really have to be on the cover of a magazine or star in a blockbuster movie to be glamorous. Glamour is a learned quality, and you can definitely develop it, too. After all, there’s a reason why studying the mannerisms, facial expressions, and body language of certain actors and leading men in their movie and TV show seductions is a common practice here on Girls Chase.

Let’s see how these leading men seduce the objects of their desire on screen. Let’s pick apart, learn, and even adopt these attractive and exciting qualities which enable them to go beyond that and even seduce the camera as well as steal the hearts of millions of female fans.

As always, I like to go a step further – so in this article, you’re going to get an inside scoop. I’m going to share specific tips and tweaks I’ve learned from my time in show business – things you can do and add to your repertoire.

How to Avoid the Dating Pitfalls of Being a Good-Looking Guy

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Avoid the Pitfalls of Being Good Looking
Good-looking men face particular challenges in pickup. How do you compensate when a woman acts weird around you or thinks you’re too cocky or out of her league?

Hey guys! Welcome back.

So, my two previous articles have been focused on debunking the idea that looks are the primary factor in success with women.

I have presented many different arguments for why looks are not that important. I’ve also given examples on how good looks can backfire, referring to the pitfalls and difficulties good-looking guys face.

And I think this was a good subject to cover. It is helpful for not-so-good-looking guys to understand the effects of looks and the place they have in pickup and seduction – and that looks are NOT everything.

The pitfalls good-looking men face is something VERY rarely discussed, and I believe it was a beneficial discussion. Admittedly, however, I have realized that in my last post where I covered the pitfalls and the difficulties good-looking men face, there was more of a pessimistic tone. As a matter of fact, it was far less than optimistic, and at the cost of convincing less-good-looking guys that being is was not always a good thing, I have probably left the good-looking guys feeling bad. The previous posts may in fact have generated negative beliefs about good-looking guys.

The truth is, being good looking has its benefits, but also its pitfalls. And like everything else in pickup, it is all a matter of calibration. If you are good looking, or even more importantly, good looking to her, you must calibrate accordingly.

So, to enjoy these benefits, you will have to know how to play properly, and this is what this post is about. Now, pickup in general is the same for everyone, and you mostly will have to calibrate according to the girl. However, this post can help you adjust your game to who you are.

Women Are Attracted to Men Who Show Sexual Desire

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It’s a misconception that women are not attracted to aggressive men. The truth: women go nuts for aggressive men who show their sexual desire in the right way.

Have you ever noticed how well some guys do with women? If you’re a nice guy, you might see these dudes and wonder what makes them so special, and why women like them so much. Maybe you’ve seen them at nightclubs with a stunner in heels, or maybe you’ve seen your natural friend pull girls over and over again.

The chances are that – even though I’m not talking about one specific man – you can still picture the kind of dominant, masculine, and ultimately aggressive guy that I’m talking about.

A key reason these guys get women is because they show their desire. At a very basic level, any guy who wants a girl must show his desire towards her. A girl may throw indicators of interest and other signals towards a guy, but if he doesn’t show his desire, girls often move on.

There’s another key facet here that separates the average guy from the guy who actually succeeds often. Naturals, players, and men who know how the game works understand that it is actually their aggressiveness that distinguishes them from most men. That aggressiveness – their willingness to take risks with women and go after what they want – draws women into their world.

Aggressive guys get girls more often. If you’re gaming and you want women, you must show the women around you aggressive desire, and go after them aggressively.

The BISA Method: How to Turn Dreams into Reality

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By: Tony Depp

How to Turn Dreams into Reality
Learning pickup has changed my life. But the mechanism behind my transformation is applicable for realizing any dream you may have. I call it “The BISA Method.”

Gotta say…

Thanks to this pickup stuff, I’ve had a pretty amazing life.

Back when I first discovered it, I only wanted to fix a problem – I had no idea it would lead to a life where I’m actually paid to pursue my passion to write, date incredibly beautiful women, and travel the world coaching and helping men achieve their goals.

It’s like I won some sort of lottery. Thanks Internet!

I took a chance and it paid off. But look, if you’re new to all this self-improvement stuff, here’s a little story to motivate you. Maybe you’ll want to be a world traveling pickup instructor, maybe not, but my story here will illustrate just how big of an impact learning these skills has had on my life – and how big an impact it could have on yours.

Do You Need Good Looks to Get Laid?

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Do You Need Good Looks to Get Laid?
Do looks matter when attracting women? Sure, they help, but there are other, much more important factors when it comes to getting laid.

Hey, guys. Today, I would like to bang an old drum – discussing the matter of looks and how it plays into seduction. This is a subject we have discussed to death, but I would like to offer another perspective, or at least broach the subject from a different point of view.

There have been multiple views regarding looks. For example, I’m not tall, and I happen to live in northern Europe, where most guys are very tall. That makes me small compared to most guys. But here’s a funny thing about height – it was never a problem for me to be shorter than most of my fellow countrymen.

When I started learning pickup, I never had to read all the ranting about height and meeting women. I started at 15, so my brain was less polluted by limiting beliefs than most guys. I went out meeting girls and never once has my height been an issue.

I never really thought about it until I started seeing the subject discussed over and over again on forums. Luckily, by this point, my experience had proved to me that it’s not an issue that affects my success. Would it be nice to be taller? Sure. Would it have a positive impact on me? Maybe.

But nobody is perfect, and I won't get taller, but I am now closing in on 27. I still have all my hair, and my hair is very beautiful. I do take good care of it, though. I also have a cute baby face, compensated for by masculine facial hair. According to many women, my eyes are dark and intriguing, yet I never heard a single girl telling me this before I entered the world of seduction.

I am also far from being ripped muscle-wise. Before 2016, I was a bit overweight. People who know me well call it the “fatty” period of my pickup career. I’m still not ripped, and never has that been an issue for me. I have the same success today that I did back when I was a little bigger.

Now, there are many aspects of looks, so let’s start by debunking a common saying we see a lot in the pickup community.

Planning and Tracking Progress Are Essential to Get Good with Women

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If you don’t know where you are or what path to take, you’ll get lost with no hope of reaching your destination. Here’s how to get your bearings.

Over the last decade of coaching guys on how to solve their problems with getting good with women, I have noticed a pattern.

Building a successful style of game is a tough task, and when push comes to shove, a lot of guys give up before they establish a strong baseline and find what truly works for them.

I can see how to scale each individual problem that’s holding a guy back, but I then have to help him navigate around obstacles close to him so that the job of tackling all his issues doesn’t leave him overwhelmed and confused.

To build a successful style of game, you need to find the right plan for dealing with all that is necessary to reach your end goal before you give up in frustration. Revamping oneself into a successful seducer is very doable, but it usually requires much more than addressing just a few simple things. And that’s why most guys struggle with girls.

It’s hard to get anywhere without being able to see clearly where you are, where you’ve been, and what roads you need to take, right? Without that knowledge, it’s understandable that people fall victim to “are we there yet?” syndrome and become hopeless after hearing “no” so many times – and figure they’re better off changing course to familiar territory.

So, in this article, I’m going to explain how planning and tracking progress will help you avoid getting bogged down, frustrated, and feeling like you’re wasting your time. It will transform “are we there yet?” to “I’ve come this far and I know what’s next.”