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To Attract Women, Acting like an Older Man Can Only Help You

Varoon Rajah's picture

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Women want men, not boys. Does that mean a young guy should adopt the styles and traits of older men in order to attract girls his own age?

I’ve been discussing pickup and outings with some younger friends and clients as a 30-something talking to guys in their early 20s or just out of college. One comment that always stands out is, “Are you sure that your older-man style is going to work for me getting younger girls?”

When guys are young (early 20s or younger) and just getting into game, it can be tough finding themselves in cities or environments where the population is predominantly older, or extremely variable. For day game cold approach in New York City, you’re just as likely to meet a 28-year-old as a 22-year-old unless you calibrate your venues and approach areas.

So, to quickly address the issue of actually meeting younger women, you can, for example, stick to areas near a college.

But more to the point of this article, virtually all men want women who are either younger or roughly the same age as they are. I meet very few young men who want to give it a shot with an older woman. With girls, however, it’s not really a question of age preference. It's more a question of what she considers "manly."

But many young guys aren’t sure if adopting the behaviors or styles of older men will help them. Hence the question: will this also work for the kinds of girls I want?

The answer is a firm “yes.” Here's why that is, and what you can do.

Relentless Pragmatism Pt. 2: Flavors of Screening and Volume Game

Daniel Adebayo's picture

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Even if you focus on one seduction style, how you run it can bring wildly different results. Let’s examine how maximization and polarization influence volume game.

Welcome back! In Part 1 of this series, we started with a primer on relentless pragmatism, the no-nonsense, results-oriented philosophy used by the best seducers to get extraordinary results with women.

We also looked at how we can apply this way of thinking to fundamentals, a crucial aspect of your dating success.

If you’ve read Part 1, you’ve absorbed the groundbreaking yet straightforward lessons on how you can distinguish yourself as you meet and seduce women. You can become the rare, attractive, and excitingly memorable man even gorgeous girls feel compelled to chase.

You might also be curious as to other ways this mindset can be used to bring you the kind of results with women that you desire. So, in this article, let’s go a step further.

We’ll see how relentless pragmatism can give a clear understanding of the conflicting forms of dating advice and lady-killer manuals you may have read or heard about. We’ll be taking a closer look at the three schools of seduction, the overarching lady-killer camps that all practical dating methods can be grouped under. And today we’ll start with a thorough analysis of the “volume game” class.

And by the end of this article, any confusion about what it means to be a screener will be cleared up. What’s more, you’ll have a comprehensive guide for screening interested women.

Relentless Pragmatism Pt. 1: The Best Mindset to Get Better with Women

Daniel Adebayo's picture

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Attraction has many factors, so choosing what to focus on isn’t easy. This series will help you forge a path to reaching your goals with women, whatever they may be.

It's no stretch to guess that you started reading Girls Chase articles regularly for a reason. Maybe a specific question piqued your curiosity if you’re a newcomer who stumbled on this website recently.

“How can I get better with girls?”

That's a completely natural desire. We're here to help.

Perhaps there’s a cute girl you’ve seen at the gym or yoga class, and you’ve wondered what it would be like to take her home. Or you go to a nightclub Friday night, and you see a gorgeous girl dressed to the nines. On your way to work, you stop by a coffee shop and exchange a few moments of flirtatious eye contact with an attractive woman.

So you’ve had a number of these experiences, and you’re tired of not knowing what to do. Maybe you’ve tried approaching women a few times and you want to stop failing. Conversely, you might already be on the path of improving your dating life but want to get better results. Again, these are natural desires.

It’s a fact that every time a man sees a woman who inspires quick, passionate thoughts and feelings, the desires he feels in these moments are just as natural.

As you take in how she looks, you realize she’s exactly the kind of girl you’d like to get intimate with, or get her to be your girlfriend.

The standard dating advice we always hear from mainstream media often doesn’t make sense – whether it’s a basic understanding of how women think, female psychology, or the type of men girls feel drawn to. If she’s lucky enough to meet such a man, she’ll spend time and energy chasing him, positioning herself close by so he sees her, etc. Or after an enthusiastic response to his opener, she’ll question him to find out more.

And as the interaction progresses, she starts to hope that he’ll ask her out or make a move so they can get intimate. She has pressing desires and inclinations, after all. Plus, we live in a society where it’s normal for girls to seek out experiences with men like these. The value of a man who can sweep her off her feet is sky-high.

How to Take Women Home Without Having the Right Social Frame

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Having the right social frame is important for making girls feel allowed to hook up with you. But there are ways to overcome social mismatches with pure awesomeness.

Hey, guys. Today we will discuss how you can get women and score social points at a venue or social gathering where you do not fit in.

Before I get started, a word of caution: this is a seduction blog about getting women. This advice is not valid for professional lives or other situations. It may apply elsewhere, but I cannot say for sure.

Try this out in venues and situations where you have little to lose socially and economically.

What Traits Do the Best Pickup Artists Have in Common?

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Want to get good with women but think you’re not the right ‘type’ for it? Here are the most common traits I see in the best pickup artists I know. This may surprise you.

I want to clear up some misconceptions about learning game — primarily what sorts of guys succeed with pickup versus those who don’t.

In my humble opinion, a master at pickup is simply someone willing to face rejection more than the average man. He can approach more women in a week than most do in a year.

My opinion may not represent the rest of Girls Chase, as some of the guys may have different viewpoints. And if there are differences of opinion, I think they may stem from the fact that we all have different styles, which have been developed based on our strengths.

Not every pickup artist has the same strengths; therefore, we all have different styles that suit us best.

So of course there are exceptions, because there are many nuanced factors involved in learning game, and the path isn’t the same (nor can it be) for every guy.

Also, you don't have to have these traits to do 'well' with pickup, nor must you go through what I did to do 'well' with pickup. But guys who tend to do REALLY, REALLY well — as in coach level good — usually have a few common traits. I'll list them below, and if you don't have these traits but want to acquire or develop them as motivation, or if you'd like to gain the benefits they provide, I'll provide solutions to help you out.

The ONE THING That Drives Women Crazy Above All Else (Video)

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What is the single most attractive quality that women see in a man?

You probably won’t guess it.

It’s not money. It’s not looks. It’s not height. It’s not a big dick. It’s not charm. It’s not intelligence.

Confused yet?

You’ll see, and I’ll explain.

Give More Control to Your Dick... and Win!

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When I was a wee horny teenager, there was this girl who would come to my school to play volleyball. I’ll call her Bam Bam. I was smitten by Bam Bam. I literally heard the song “Why do birds suddenly appear…” every time she was near. But I didn’t have the balls to approach her.

Then I changed schools and there she was standing before me. Her friends had become my friends. In a state of shock, I asked her if she wanted to “go out” with me. She shrugged her shoulders and said, “Sure!” Easy enough, right? It wasn’t a technique. I was just so horny, I thought I’d explode. I had no clue what else to do but ask her out.

After that, it took years for me to have the balls to ask another girl out. Approach anxiety and the fear of rejection were overwhelming. But eventually, there was an underlying motivation that forced me to just go for it and to learn game. It was the same drive that forced me to ask Bam Bam out.

And what was that driver of action?

My dick.

Get People to Like You and Be Cool: Use the Spotlight! (Video)

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Being the center of attention is an amazing feeling. Everyone enjoys it, even if they don’t want to admit it.

It feels good for everyone to be paying attention to you and to laugh, smile, and stare at your performance as a social being.

I don’t care how introverted you are or how “too cool for groups” you are – you love attention. We all do.

So this is how you GET the spotlight and how you USE it.

It is a tool like everything.

So let’s learn how to use this tool.

How to Stop Sucking and Become a Better Man

Tony Depp's picture

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Do you suck? Probably. Is there a way to not suck? Absolutely! These 5 steps will put you on the road to becoming a better man and sucking way less.

How to become a better man. It’s a question very few of us ask, and why would we?

What is a “man,” anyway? What is “better?” Better than what? Because if we don’t define this, then why would we improve upon it?

 

What Does “Better” Mean?

Can a tree become a better tree? Yes – if it grows, it develops flowers, nuts, and fruit, which feed life. Can gold become better gold? If it’s polished, it can be more beautiful; if it’s shaped, more useful (though the latter is subjective, since gold is only useful for people).

So to become a better man, you must grow and improve: physically, spiritually, socially, intellectually, so you may be more beautiful and useful.

Why? Because the stronger, smarter, and more powerful we are – the happier we are. We’re happiest when we’re growing, improving, and useful. If you’re depressed, sad, or angry, then you’re definitely not “better,” since this is a degradation in state (maybe unless you’re in a goth grind-core band).

Bonus: the better you are, the hotter the women you’ll attract.

14 Best-Ever Self-Help Books to Help You Grow as a Person

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The answers to life’s questions are found in the best self-help books. Want your brain to work better all-around? Want to be more interesting? Start with these.

It’s time for a list of my favorite and best self-help books for men. Because when’s the last time you read a book?

The average American reads 2.5 books per year, and 25% don’t read any. So if you’re like me and read 20 or more books a year, you’re basically a genius-level Renaissance man.

When people ask what I attribute my success to (with women and life), I tell them “BOOKS.”

Books taught me how to think, talk, and pay my way around the world. If I had a choice between a lifetime of books or easy sex – I’d choose books.

“I don’t know, Tony. I get tired when I read. I fall asleep. I prefer podcasts and audiobooks.”

I hear that a lot; men get “tired” when reading. It’s because their brains are flabby. Reading a proper book is like the fat, lazy dude going to the gym, pushing weights for five minutes then going home to “rest” because he’s “tired.”

There’s an intellectual joy from reading long-form books. I just don’t get the same feeling from audiobooks, podcasts, or YouTube. There’s nothing wrong with those mediums; they’re great, too. But something magical happens to your brain when you read books (click here for science).

You can also read at your own speed to ensure comprehension and retention.

For guys who love to read but only read non-fiction, studies have shown fiction helps with intellect, empathy, and imagination. So reading fiction will help with your game, too, as fiction lets you see (imagine) from another’s perspective.

This list of books is subjective, by the way. They’re not really the best self-help books ever. After all, there’s no such thing, really, as it depends on what you're looking to help yourself with.