If you want to take women to bed fast, here’s how to set a sexual tone and get them horny and in the sheets – or a convenient bathroom stall – lickety split.
Many years ago, I was practicing my pickup skills in this bar in Montreal, and I ran into two guys – Tall Guy and Short Guy. They were leaning up against the wall looking cool, scanning the room, and occasionally nodding at each other. Recognizing them as fellow hunters in search of women for fast sex, I went over and said, “What’s up?”
Contents
1. You Can Get Fast Sex with Women
2. How to Make Girls Horny – Fast
“Oh, we’re just practicing,” Short Guy replied.
“Practicing what?” I asked.
“Eye contact. Vibe. How about you?”
“I’m here to pick up chicks.”
They nodded their heads and tipped their fedoras in approval (I’m serious. This was 2007. Pickup dudes wore fedoras).
“Question?” I asked.
“Sure.”
“Have you guys approached any girls yet?”
“What? Oh no, we don’t approach. We let them approach us.”
“Really?” I said, shocked that there was some magic new technique I hadn’t heard of yet.
“Yeah, man,” Tall Guy said. “It’s way better when they approach you.”
“Sooo,” I said skeptically, “have any girls approached you yet?”
“No, man. Not yet. But they will. These things take time.”
Confused but fascinated, I stood back for a few minutes and watched their method. If this was true and there really was a “they approach you” approach, I needed to learn and master it. It would make life so much easier. It would feel like I was in Fall Out Boy.
So, I stood at the bar twiddling my thumbs for a few more minutes and quickly grew bored. I wandered out onto the small dance floor and tried high-fiving a few girls, but they ignored me. I said something to another girl, and she ignored me, too.
Being ignored has always failed to deter my seductive ambitions, so I tried again and again, not having a clue what I was saying, only hoping one of these pretty creatures would give me a shot. Eventually, after about twelve tries, one did. We started dancing, then grinding, then kissing and making out. As I left the bar with her, I looked back at the two fedora-tipping masters (who were still womanless), who gave me a wave and a thumbs-up.
You Can Get Fast Sex with Women
When I got into the pickup scene back in 2006, I joined the biggest forum at the time, FastSeduction.com. Not EyeContact.com, ModeratelySlowSeduction.com, or SheApproachesYou.com. All the men on FastSeduction wanted to learn the same thing – how to get laid. Fast.
The first bits of theory I learned were mostly hypnotic inductions and patterns based on Neuro-Linguistic Programming, or NLP. The idea was that, if you led her thoughts from being a friend to a lover, with magical words, you could make her so horny she’d hop straight in the sack.
Sounds great, right?
But you had to approach a lot of women. If one girl didn’t hook, you went to the next. We called it “burning down the venue” because if you didn’t pull a girl from that venue, you’d basically burned it down and couldn’t go back.
The hypnosis thing didn’t work so well, but hitting on thirty women a night got results for me. Not only did it cast a wide net and create a massive sales funnel, but it also gave us loads of experience. We got more experience approaching women in one night than most men do in a lifetime. It was fast and didn’t rely on any passive techniques, which usually end with you going home alone.
Now for the “fast” part of seduction.
The biggest epiphany I had from all those years in bars was that the more aggressive I was, the faster I got laid.
It wasn’t the more eye contact I made or the hypnotic commands I used.
It was sexual aggression. Sex.
I don’t mean aggression in an angry, non-consensual, or totalitarian manner. Just being unrelentingly flirtatious. It meant that disinterested women would more quickly get weeded out, and I'd be able to find the ones who like me and are hungry for dick. Here are some articles on how to spot them and bring out their wild side:
- How to Tell if a Girl is Horny Without Her Having to Tell You
- Which Women Want Sex? Here's How to Tell
- The Pleasure-Loving Man: Bring Out a Woman's Wild Side
All it took for me was to put out an aloof but sexual vibe and use various degrees of touch to increase buying temperature.
In non-nerd speak, that means I learned how to bring the horniness out in girls and get them out of the bar, into my bed – quickly.
How to Make Girls Horny – Fast
There are three basic techniques for making girls horny.
Talking about sex is the easiest way to make girls horny fast.
Most guys know this on an instinctual level, and that’s why they come off as creeps. Here’s a creepy way to talk about sex.
Guy: “Hey, baby. You have sexy legs. I bet those legs would look good on my bed…” *wink*
Girl: *rolls eyes and walks away*
Men who are untrained in seduction do this creepy sex talk. It’s not really their fault – they just have no understanding of female psychology. They talk to women as if they’re men.
I have a gay friend who claims he’s slept with over a thousand men. All he does to pick up men is walk into a gay bar and ask other men if they want to sleep with him. That’s it – and he pulls every night. That’s male psychology. He says he has one FB whose face he’s never seen. He shows up, enters his apartment, and the guy is on the bed with his butt in the air.
Men with this type of super-direct sexuality act as if women are gay men... but women are definitely not gay men.
If women were like gay men, websites like this would be very different (if they even existed).
Women’s sexuality is much more nuanced. You want to bring up sex in a more indirect way. The goal is to get them thinking about sex and then relate it to yourself. The act of talking about sex will make them horny, and they will associate that emotion with you.
For example:
Guy: “Oh, man. I hardly got any sleep last night.”
Girl: “Why?”
Guy: “My neighbor is a dog. He brought this girl home last night and banged her for hours. They were so loud. I just heard her head banging on the wall beside me, all night long. And she moaned so loud. She even screamed! It sounded like he was murdering her – but she liked it.”
Girl: “Oh my god, haha!”
Guy: “Are you one of those loud types?”
Here’s another:
Guy: “The thing I hate about backpacking is trying to find a place to have sex when you’re staying in a dorm room. I don’t want to be that guy that wakes everyone up when I bring a girl back. That’s why I have earplugs.”
Girl “Yeah, it’s a pain.”
Guy: “Where’s the most public place you’ve ever had sex?”
As a reader, did you find yourself a little bit stimulated by those stories? Well, imagine you’re a girl having those conversations, while a sexy guy is touching your leg, your back, your neck.
Women get horny and love sex, too, but while men turn on like a light switch, women are more like dimmers that you need to brighten up slowly.
Touch Makes Women Horny – Fast
The untrained man will often approach women crotch-first and grind up on them with a “Hey, baby!” That almost always fails because it’s too sexual, too fast. It’s also non-consensual.
You want to start with small touches; lightly on her hands, brushing her lower back, checking out her earrings, letting your fingers graze her neck.
Gauge her receptiveness to touch with small excursions. Does she pull away? Does she say “don’t touch me please” or something to that effect? If not, then you may continue and escalate the touching.
As you become skilled with sexual touching, you can escalate incredibly quickly. I’ve gone from a light touch on the hand to a bear hug, to having the girl on my lap and making out within a minute. This sort of rapid escalation becomes normal once you learn the fundamentals of sexual escalation, but it takes a lot of practice.
I also advise that you don’t make out with every girl, as it kills a lot of the sexual tension that’s better utilized to make a successful pull. If you’re a newbie, or you simply enjoy kissing random girls, go for it.
Sex Appeal Gets Girls Horny – Fast
Being “sexy” may sound vague. That’s because it’s a nuanced concept. It doesn’t only come down to having a great body, looking well-groomed, and dressing stylishly for your niche, but also walking, talking, and acting like a sexy man.
Sex appeal doesn’t just relate to looks. Any man can be sexy. For example, Peter Dinklage, who plays the dwarf from Game of Thrones, isn’t a tall, muscular man, but he’s rated among the top ranks of the world’s sexiest men – because he has charisma.
Watch Marlon Brando in A Street Car Named Desire. He owns his space. In the scene where he meets the crazy Blanche Dubois for the first time, he oozes sex appeal – not just because he’s in great shape, but because he moves with purpose.
Everywhere he goes, she follows. Her charms don’t affect him – she’s just another dame. He’s an alpha male and doesn’t care what she thinks. She’s in his territory.
Women are irresistibly attracted to men who own their space; who move, act, and speak with purpose, and authority, and don’t give a damn what anybody thinks about it – especially not random women who are merely passing through like tourists on a chauffeured safari.
But you don’t have to be a grumpy stoic. Humor is one of the most alluring characteristics of attractive men. You can learn comedy by osmosis (i.e., watching stand-up comedians). Also, start reading all the Girls Chase articles you can on concepts like teasing and push-pull.
Now for the getting laid fast part.
Aside from talking about sex, touching, and having sex appeal, you should also be closer.
When you go out, your only goal should be to get a girl somewhere you can be alone.
For example:
- Your place
- Her place
- A hotel
- An alleyway
- A park
- The club bathroom
Most new guys go out with the intent to “practice” their approaches or get phone numbers. Guys who get laid fast go out with one objective – to get laid.
That means you need a place to have sex, but it doesn’t have to be your place.
I have a simple technique for screening logistics. I talk about my place or ask about theirs. Then I invite them over to my place, or I invite myself over to theirs.
- “My apartment isn’t far. I have some great wine. Want to come over for a bit?”
- “Where do you live? Is your place nice? I’d like to check it out. Want to stop by there for a bit?”
There are a million variations of this. I like to add a time constraint by saying something like “…for a bit?” which means I won’t stay there all day or night, and she’s free to leave when she wants, too.
But doing it this way, you provide her with an innocent, low-effort, low-pressure excuse to be alone with you. It’s not overt, and she’s perfectly aware of what’s really on your mind... but she also knows you’re not going to pressure her into sex, so she’s much more likely to say yes, and also much more likely to screw you all night.
I once slept with a girl because I asked about her apartment and she told me she had nice flooring – Australian Oak or something. “Oh, I have to see that. I could pop in for a bit and check it out.”
“Okay,” she replied.
I went up to her apartment, looked at the floor, and we banged. Neither of us gave a crap about the floor. It was just an excuse to be alone in her apartment.
It doesn’t matter if you invite her over to see your Thailand travel pictures or your goldfish – but give her some reason other than to have steamy sex.
These indirect invitations take the blame off her. That way, it “just happened” and she doesn’t have to feel like she’s too easy. She can tell her friends and not lose face. That’s what we call sprezzatura, my friends.
Some women are receptive to very direct sexual invitations, but they’re rare. Unless she’s aggressively escalating on me, I prefer to be more indirect about my intentions.
For example, I met a girl at a bar, and as we made out, she said, “Want to come over and do me?”
“Yes.”
And I did.
But that doesn’t happen often. I wish.
Inside this basic framework of how to get laid are infinite variables. I like to keep things as simple as possible. There are other authors here like Alek who specialize in the meta of bar pickup, and you can learn a lot him.
My firm belief is that experience teaches all, but some guys need to focus their arrows on the target rather than shooting randomly into the forest. If you’re in a situation with a girl where you don’t know what to do, instead of asking “What should I do?” ask “What do I want?”
Do you want to talk about sex? Do you want to become closer and more intimate with touch? Do you want to be more like Marlon Brando or Tyrion Lannister? Do you want to take her home or go to her place? Do you want to screw her in the club toilet?
Decide what you want, then make it happen, and you’ll start to get laid a lot faster – and the women will thank you for it.
Tony
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