Women Are Attracted to Men Who Show Sexual Desire

It’s a misconception that women are not attracted to aggressive men. The truth: women go nuts for aggressive men who show their sexual desire in the right way.

Have you ever noticed how well some guys do with women? If you’re a nice guy, you might see these dudes and wonder what makes them so special, and why women like them so much. Maybe you’ve seen them at nightclubs with a stunner in heels, or maybe you’ve seen your natural friend pull girls over and over again.

The chances are that – even though I’m not talking about one specific man – you can still picture the kind of dominant, masculine, and ultimately aggressive guy that I’m talking about.

A key reason these guys get women is because they show their desire. At a very basic level, any guy who wants a girl must show his desire towards her. A girl may throw indicators of interest and other signals towards a guy, but if he doesn’t show his desire, girls often move on.

There’s another key facet here that separates the average guy from the guy who actually succeeds often. Naturals, players, and men who know how the game works understand that it is actually their aggressiveness that distinguishes them from most men. That aggressiveness – their willingness to take risks with women and go after what they want – draws women into their world.

Aggressive guys get girls more often. If you’re gaming and you want women, you must show the women around you aggressive desire, and go after them aggressively.

 

Aggressiveness Towards Women Pays Off

Far too many men have been shamed into being timid with women, to the benefit of the few men who still have the nuts to be aggressive. For the longest time, I’ve personally struggled with being aggressive – approach anxiety is one of many symptoms connected to a fear of going after a woman. Call it a cultural thing, but it can take years to get over, because if you’re like me (being culturally raised to “be nice” and affable to all), everything you've been taught flies straight in the face of being aggressive and taking what you want.

Aggressive guys win – far more than timid or nice guys do. Where a nice guy might get a shot thrown his way once a month, the aggressive guy creates opportunities with women all over the place.

Women love aggressive desire. It fills them, completes them, and makes them horny – when they are comfortable with the aggressor. The problem is that men show aggressive desire at the wrong moments. And as their efforts are rarely calibrated, women put up their hardest bitch shields. Women like aggressive effort from men, but only if those efforts are true, authentic, and in pace with her own reality. The smart guys who desire women know this – and know how to mix the right level of desire with the right level of aggression.

 

Why Desire Works

Biological and social goals are very different between the sexes. Where men function on a physical realm (and are attracted to beauty), women function on mental and emotional states (and are attracted to powerful, dominant men).

Women crave attention from powerful, sexy men – and male desire supplies them with a range of emotional gratification.

 

Women Want Attention

Just think about it – women always want attention. We already know that about women, right? All women like to socialize, gaggle with each other, and talk to each other about guys. Girl sometimes spend up to two hours or even longer just putting on makeup, dressing up just to look nice for a night out where they might meet a sexy man (and because men are such pussies these days, they probably won’t). Oftentimes, they’ll spend time getting ready for an event only to not get approached all night long because the men are too intimidated.

Nearly all women want to be wanted by a man (or a masculine woman, for the feminine lesbian). The feminine longs for fullness from masculine energy. Although they rarely approach men, that doesn't mean that women don’t dream about being approached. From a young age, women have been told through the media, social programming, religion, and also through their friends and family, that they're going to meet a man who will sweep them off their feet. The happily-ever-after dream is to find a “Prince Charming” who gives them everything in the world – they'll have beautiful babies and live happily ever after.

Being desired is a female fantasy. As a man who shows strong desire, you're making the fantasy come to life, so showing desire is powerful indeed. It’s something any woman looks forward to (both biologically and from her social programming).

Women fantasize about dominant, aggressive men. If you want proof, go raid your grandma’s secret library.

The problem is that guys don’t show desire in a sexy and attractive way most of the time – we’ll get to this in a bit, but all women want to feel wanted by men even if they say they don’t. Desire is a winning strategy.

 

Women Want to Feel Wanted

Desire is a living embodiment of the female dream: companionship and commitment from a sexy and strong man. It’s a man's duty to be responsible for women, and to protect them. Historically, it has always been this way – men go as far as to fight wars and take territory. Women, on the other hand, love to sustain men and will devote themselves to a man they adore.

For all their efforts, women also want to feel valued and wanted in return. They want to know that a man appreciates everything that she is doing for him – otherwise she would rather go find another guy who can. I know many women who don’t feel worthy and stay in bad situations for too long, but these are a minority. At the end of the day, women want to feel cared for; they seek comfort from a man, and they want to feel his warmth and affection.

So, women also want to feel desired sexually and aggressively, right? If you’re GC educated, then you already know how badly women want sex and how many things they do to get guys to pursue them. In other words, women want to feel desired sexually, too. It's ultimately up to the guy to give them that desire and show that aggressiveness. Once again, we see that being aggressive is a winning strategy with women.

 

Manly Men Aren’t Afraid to Show Desire

Women don't like "nice" guys – they go to all sorts of lengths to test how nice a guy is. Sure, women like guys who treat them well, but they don’t like pushovers and weak guys who are afraid to go after them – the definition of a “nice guy.” Women also go to great lengths to test if a man will bend to their frame – therefore, he can be categorized as weak. Women want strong men who will protect them, will fight for them, and who also have the winning genes of a warrior.

Women desire to have the babies of strong men, in hopes that their choice will carry their own genes long into the future. Women test for this, and they want strong, aggressive men as a result.

Imagine a warrior – is he strong, masculine, and aggressive? Do you think he is a cowering nice guy who's afraid to show his desire for women?

She’s been in love since the day he first dragged her to his cave.

What about a guy like James Bond? There's a man who's suave, smooth, and on top of it all, and he goes after the already-taken women of his most feared villains. Most of the time, he ends up sleeping with them, too, and he's able to do that because he goes after what he wants and he knows exactly how to get it.

Manly men show their desire, and they go after what they want.

 

Men Go After What They Want

Let's look at a nightclub for instance. Women go to clubs dressed to the nines, often in the skimpiest and most sexually-arousing outfits, and it’s also a very sexually-charged environment. Even if girls don’t intend to go home with anyone from a club, they’re often open to the possibility with the right guy. Who's the right guy? The aggressive, alpha guys, of course.

Women know how to filter for men in such environments. Have you ever heard of the term “the numbers game?” As with any game of asymmetric returns, the more you go after something, the more likely it is to happen, and so it is with approaching women. The more aggressive you are, the more you go after what you want, the more likely you are to get it. Veterans who warm up and get into a flow state will start winning big over and over and over again.

The guys that get laid the most are also the guys that are super social and talk to women. They also know how to pull them and ultimately get them into their bedroom. Usually the best guys are naturals, but anyone can do this – you don't have to be born a natural to learn the skills it takes to get women, you just need to be aggressive.

The human sexual dynamic is always men going after women, and women testing men before accepting or rejecting them – despite what feminists might tell you these days.

I recently pulled a girl on a first date; I met her on a street approach that lasted two minutes. I approached directly, was pretty direct with my questions, and led the conversation. I then told her I had to go but that I wanted to see her again. She gave me her number and I texted her later to set up a meet a few days later. We met up for drinks at a bar near my place, and about an hour later she was in my bedroom having sex with me. All of that happened because I saw her and I went after what I wanted – a young 22 year old in graduate school, so I found out later.

For most guys, it’s not such smooth sailing – either because they don’t show their desire to begin with or they don’t show it in an attractive way; or maybe it’s because they fail the tests women throw out after they showed desire.

 

Women Respond to Desire with Tests

A woman's role in the mating game is to evaluate and test men to make sure they're worthy of her genes, her body, and maybe even her care, love, and attention moving forward. We men might sum up our life mission as “spread my genes with as many attractive women as possible.” For women, it is “to make sure her man is worthy.”

Nearly all women are programmed to respond to signs of desire with tests, even though they secretly (or not so secretly) like to be at the receiving end of desire. Just picture a set of birds trying to mate; the male flashes his bright feathers to attract and bring forth the female, who is always rebuffing his advances.

Think he’s interested?

The human mating game is similar to this – except we use our words and behavior to showcase desire, and women reply in the form of tests. These instincts exist to make sure that the desire is authentic and the man is deemed strong and worthy enough to be with her.

A sexy, calibrated, and experience man knows all this – and he knows how to frame his aggression into a sexy package that she actually wants. Sometimes she’ll say she doesn’t, just because it’s fun.

In a future article, I’ll cover how men should respond to the tests women put up, in the face of desire. That will be a complement to this one, which I hope helps you understand why it’s important to be aggressive and always show women desire.

Varoon

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