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How to Kiss Her

Here's something that can vex a man more than anything: how to get that first kiss? When does he go for that first kiss? What's the right move, the right time, the right moment? It can be a big deal, and a big worry, for even relatively experienced guys.

Before we take a look at some of the (many) right times and places to go for that first kiss, let's explore the WRONG times and places for it.

The number one WORST time to go for a first kiss (the one you never want to do):

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Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone. So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating. After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website. He will teach you everything he knows about girls in one single program in his Mastery Package.


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Anonymous's picture

Great post, very glad i found this one, but the location seems to always elude me. WHat if you're at a coffee shop? I dont think there's much intimacy there, do you get in your car / their car? Over the two front seats? How should that work, it seems to be a big gap closer. I guess you could ask her to a different location, but what if that location is somewhat far away and you have to drive like 8-10 minutes. So that by the time you get to an exclusive place, the hype has died down.

Chase Amante's picture

Hi Anon,

One of the big, big rules I have with kissing is that I don't ever do it unless I'm alone with a girl somewhere we can get together.

Kissing actually becomes a big PROBLEM a lot of the time if you do it first, then go back to normal stuff, then try to get a girl home alone with you. That's when she starts thinking, "Oh, well, we were kissing, so I guess that means we go back to his place and have sex... but am I ready for sex with him? Do I want sex with him? I don't know... it's better if I just say 'no.'"

When you wait to kiss a girl instead, she heads back to your place both excited and curious -- what's going to happen? Do you like her as much as she likes you? She doesn't have anywhere near as much resistance or concern as the girl you've kissed does.

For that reason, I'd recommend only kissing a girl unless you're in the place you intend to sleep with her -- e.g., on your couch, in your bed, in the back seat of your car if you're somewhere dark and secluded, etc.

I gave a pal of mine a piece of advice that upped his results quite a bit: every time you're out with a girl somewhere and you start feeling like she wants to kiss you, ask her home instead, and kiss her when the two of you are inside and alone and can get together. You'll get a lot more success with women that way.


Radu's picture

"For that reason, I'd recommend only kissing a girl unless you're in the place you intend to sleep with her -- e.g., on your couch, in your bed, in the back seat of your car if you're somewhere dark and secluded, etc."

What if you set up a date at your apt, where she/you/both cook dinner? Do you wait for the eating to be over then chill out and go for the kiss? Or you can go for it while cooking if you two happen to stay close enough? And then you can do it again, hopefully followed by sex?

Also, you talked about informative dates when dealing with conservative girls. I assume you don't go for the kiss during those ones; you just talk, flirt and touch her, right?

Chase Amante's picture

Hey Radu-

I used to be of the mind that it was fine to wait until after dinner. What'd happen with me personally back then though, a few years ago, was that by the time dinner had ended, I'd have turned it over so much in my head that I started getting gunshy. So I made it a point to start kissing girls ASAP, before dinner, if possible. Sleep with them before dinner sometimes, too, although it can also be fun to kiss them before dinner and touch them a lot and get them very excited, and then calmly have dinner, only to attack them passionately afterward.

On the informative date, yeah... generally you'll just flirt on those. The sole exception is if things end up going really well and you pull her to a seduction location -- in that case, go for it!


Fibbie's picture

Hey Chase,

How are you? Should you kiss a girl that has a boyfriend even if she barely sees him and sees you more and she's one of those girls that does things with you instead of her boyfriend and touches me a lot?


Steve's picture

Love the article.

I do think though that guys need to realise that rejection isn't really rejection. A girl can say one thing and the next minute be all over you!

Thanks for spreading the word!


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