This May I will be talking about dance floor game. There is one obvious reason for this – the summer is right around the corner, which means a lot of girls are going to head out to clubs.
The sun makes us horny and if you go out clubbing in the summer (which you should) you will see a lot of horny girls dancing around. And when you’re on the dance floor with them, knowing how to pick them up will obviously be very useful.
Secondly, I believe that the internet (including here on Girls Chase) lacks any deep dance floor guides (although we have a few great short guides on this site, we don’t yet have any deep ones). I have seen recently that many other posters have made longer guides, splitting them up into multiple posts, so I decided to do so myself as well.
I guess doing things this way is great because it allows us to really go in-depth with a topic. This will allow me to share more content without having to always introduce a new topic. It will also allow me to go straight into more advanced topics (in a single post) without having to (re)introduce the basics (because these will have been shared earlier on in the series).
Anyway, this post is meant as an introduction. I will share some elements of dance floor game that I believe to be crucial. Next week we will start discussing more practical stuff, such as opening. This post however will discuss some important aspects of dance floor game in general. I believe that understanding the dynamics covered here will help you a lot when you go out and hit the dance floor
Look at this piece as your foundation for dance floor game. I will approach this by discussing a series of common myths about dance floor seduction.
This way, not only will you think twice about any negative conditioning you might have about dance floor game, but you will also gain some knowledge about this type of seduction. Let us begin.
Myths About Picking Up Girls on the Dance Floor
Myth #1: The Dance Floor is a Trap
A very common belief in the seduction community is that the dance floor is a trap – that it is impossible to smoothly seduce women there. This is directly wrong. Remember that most guys say such things usually because they simply do not know how to seduce girls on the dance floor. This series of posts will hopefully teach you how to do that though.
Some of the seducers claiming such things might be good seducers, but remember that there are many different ways of seducing women and many different places to do so.
Of course there are some universals in seduction (things that are true in every situation), but when it comes to the practical side of seduction, you need to keep in mind that the techniques and skillset you apply might differ from situation to situation.
For example, you behave differently with a girl you have met in a club than with a girl you have met in a coffee shop.
Even well-known “club gamers” have claimed that the dance floor is a trap, but to my knowledge these guys are all verbal gamers – in other words, they are expert in chatting women up and using verbals as their main weapon of mass seduction. Dance floor seduction is obviously a non-verbal (physical) form of seduction, so anyone without any skills in non-verbal seduction will have a hard time on the dance floor.
This series of posts will teach you the non-verbal basics as well as techniques made particularly for approaching on the dance floor.
Many have also claimed that the dance floor is full of chaos, lots of rejection, lots of male competition, lots of cockblocking from your girls’ friends, etc.) – hence that it’s difficult to be smooth when seducing women there. There are lots of wildcards to deal with, I agree, but like every other form of seduction, you will face pros and cons.
In this series we will learn how to use the benefits of dance floor seduction, while also covering its negative sides so that they become less of an issue for you.
Myth #2: Only Good Looking Men Can Succeed on the Dance Floor
As dance floor seduction is only physical, you will not have the possibility to go verbal (not only because of the noise, but also because being verbal on the dance floor simply doesn’t fit well, as it kills the sexual tension). This means that you won’t be able to use your words to seduce her. All the cool verbal techniques that you have learned on this site and elsewhere won’t apply in this scenario.
You will not be able to convey your amazing personality with your words anymore. Hence, you will have to rely more on your escalation skills, your body language, your eye contact, and your looks.
Looks do matter in seduction. However, looks are not everything. A man who is not good looking with great seduction skills will always have way more success than one without. It is also often the case that a man who isn’t good looking but who has great seduction skills will in many cases have more success than a good-looking man without seduction skills. Looks matter, but skills matters more.
However, as you only have a limited arsenal of seduction techniques available to you on the dance floor, looks might matter a bit more, especially in the opening phase. Yet keep in mind that you can better your look drastically. Many men I have met who claimed they weren’t that good looking usually had no sense of style and were not groomed well. These things matter – look your best.
Fixing your:
- Style
- Haircut
- Facial hair
- Body smell
- Getting a tan
- Working out (especially if you are fat)
… all matter a lot here. You can easily go from being an ugly man to an average looking man, and if you are an average looking man, you can easily become a hot one.
Every Other Guy Attempts to Meet Girls There
This one is true; most men once drunk attempt to hit on girls on the dance floor. Drunk men are very rarely attractive to women. With the skillset you will learn here, you will not have to spend lots of money on overpriced alcohol. This will make you stand out from many of the other men out there.
Secondly, although many men once drunk tend to hit on women on the dance floor, keep in mind that VERY few men know how to properly approach and seduce women once there. But we’re going to make you one of those few.
Many men have a needy approach when attempting to seduce women on the dance floor. This is why most of them fail. The techniques you are about to learn will teach you how to avoid coming across as needy.
Another thing is that many men have no clue how to deal with resistance and other obstacles – they just freeze up and lose it all. You on the other hand will learn how to handle such situations.
Myth #3: Women are Only Seeking Attention on the Dance Floor
To a certain extent, this is true. But only to a certain extent. Women, when out in a club are in general seeking attention – much more than men typically are. It makes them feel attractive. We men feel attractive when we get laid, women on the other hand only need male attention to feel validated – and the more they get the better it is for them.
The dance floor is a great place for women to get attention. However, if you know how to pick the right target you can pretty much avoid approaching attention-seeking women from the get-go. The upcoming section on how to approach a girl will cover picking the right targets. My system of dance floor seduction is primarily based on that.
Also, keep in mind that the style of seduction we will discuss is based on escalating fast. This is a good thing because it will seal out attention-seekers. Many women who might show you interest, yet who have no interest in ever letting you escalate on them, are usually just there for the attention. No, they are not just “shy”, especially if you just saw them kissing and grinding on their female friends.
Myth #4: Dance Floor Seduction is Just a Numbers Game
You may be thinking: I thought all seduction was more or less a numbers game. And it is. Nobody has a 10/10 ratio and even good seducers are far from perfect. I also agree that dance floor seduction is one of the seduction styles where you will rely a lot on the numbers game – however, compared to calling women and setting up dates, where the causes of flakes usually are beyond your control, there are a lot of things in this case that you can do to reduce the impact of it being a numbers game – such as target selection and pinging for interest before approaching.
The most efficient tool against the “numbers game” is efficiency. When you can seal out bad leads quickly and instead focus on the good once, your game becomes less and less a “numbers game”. We will focus a lot on the following premises:
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Sealing out bad leads
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Increasing your odds with good leads (with your tight and calibrated escalation skills)
You will be shocked just how much you can increase your ratio on the dance floor if you do these things right.
Myth #5: I am Not a Good Dancer
Sure, being a good dancer might help, but the best dance floor seducer I have met (Aaron Sleazy, a friend of Chase’s too) doesn’t even dance when he hits the dance floor. It is all about appearing confident and having your escalation skills in check that really matters here. Just feel the rhythm and move your body accordingly (just don’t be stiff) and be sexy with your eyes, body language, and your touch, and you should be fine.
Myth #6: The Music Sucks
If you don’t like the music, you have two options:
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Go to a venue with music you like
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Stop caring about the music
The first option is self-explanatory. The second option however is the best option. I am a music fan, I love music, and I am not really into commercial music. However, ask yourself this: why are you going out in the first place? To enjoy the music or to meet women? I believe you are out there to meet the girls. Personally, I find good music to be a distraction from my main goal, anyway, so I usually pick a venue with a great vibe that I am comfortable with, but that might have shitty commercial music.
Music is far from being one of the most important factors. The key factors of selecting a club are:
- The clientele,
- How it is built, and
- How the vibe is there.
I have written a post on these matters – check it out, as it is very relevant to today’s topic (dance floor seduction).
The Dance Floor Game Series
I plan on making this guide work for players of all levels. Therefore, I will cover some very basic things at first and then build it up from there. However, I also plan on including more advanced stuff so that our advanced readers will enjoy this guide as well. For the advanced stuff, I will mention at the beginning of the post if it contains more challenging and awesome stuff.
Here are some of the things you can expect in my upcoming posts:
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What should you do before you approach?
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Spotting the right targets
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Spotting receptive girls
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How to open on the dance floor
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What do to on the dance floor when you are not interacting with a girl
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How to escalate (how to build attraction)
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How to handle resistance on the dance floor
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How to isolate your girl away from her friends on the dance floor
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How to deal with obstacles (such as her friends chiming in or any other wildcards
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How to close
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And more (advanced stuff)
I hope all this sounds exciting to you. I for one am looking forward to sharing my dance floor knowledge.
Alek Rolstad
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