6 Signs You're a Player (Plus 3 Signs You're Not)

What is a player? And more importantly, are YOU a player? Will being labeled a player have a bad impact on your dating life, or can the label actually help you?

Contents

I. Pre-Selection

II. What Is a Player? The Negative Connotation

III. What Up, Playa?

IV. The Player Mindset

V. The Morality of Being a Player

VI. How Do You Know If You Are One?

VII. Final Thought

What is a player?

Many years ago, when I was still a sniveling newbie in the dating scene, I was friends with an amazingly talented seductionist. I’ll call him Chris.

I went to a party with Chris, and a girl I recognized from work looked at me sideways and asked how I knew him. I didn’t tell her we were part of a secret society of pickup artists that met in a rented room we called a “lair” every Sunday and were out that night to practice our approach techniques.

“He’s a friend of a friend,” I replied.

“Well…” she shriveled her nose, “he’s a notorious player.”

I went back to Chris and told him he had the reputation of being a player. “Really? That’s good,” he replied, obviously pleased with the label.

Why would a seducer be pleased about being called a player?

Tony Depp

Author

Tony is one of the most veteran day game experts around. He began to pick up women in the mid-2000s, when he posted on the famed seduction forum mASF... alongside other old hands like Chase Amante and Alek Rolstad. Over the last 10 years Tony has coached hundreds of students to meet women during the day. He has two published books out on seduction: one on his journey, and one on doing awesome at day game.

Comments

When A Woman "Uses" You For Sex

Posted by Sami-G (not verified) on Wednesday, 11 March 2020

Tony, great article.

There was just one part which was a bit confusing to me:

"Either that, or the girl who bangs him just uses him for sex or resources, and plays him."

Do you think that if a girl has sex with you, then not stick around, is a sign of you NOT being a player?

I would think the exact opposite, based on info of this site: it is only a lover's/player's priviledge to be "used" by women only for sex without having to provide anything else in exchange, no?

I mean, if a woman picks you for a one night stand, isn't it a great sign that she sees you as a lover/player and not as a boyfriend material?

I bet, millions of men around the world who watch porn and eat cheetos, as you say, would beg to be "used" like that.

Player self-assessment:

Posted by Zanardi on Thursday, 12 March 2020

Here are three signs you’re not a player:

You only date one woman at a time - false. I am single
You sleep with less than three women a year - true. I don't have the entire meeting process down
You don’t put any effort into meeting new women. It just sort of “happens.” - false. I daygame almost daily and making progress

Six signs you are a player:

You are not monogamous - undefined. I am single, but I don't care about this aspect
You sleep with many women over the course of a year - false. I don't have the entire meeting process down
You’re active in creating and pursuing new leads. - true. I daygame almost daily and making progress
You use strategy to meet new women rather than relying on chance - true. Daygame is a strategy
You aren’t attached to the outcome. There are plenty of women to choose from - true. No explanation needed
You consider yourself a player, which makes you one, at least in your mind’s eye - false. I consider myself somewhere between clueless and a player.