Beware of Girls It's Too Easy to Meet! | Girls Chase

Beware of Girls It's Too Easy to Meet!

Chase Amante

Hey! Chase Amante here.

You've read all the free articles I can offer you for this month.

If you'd like to read more, I've got to ask for your help keeping the lights on at Girls Chase.

Click a plan below to sign up now and get right back to reading. It's only 99¢ the first month.

Already a GirlsChase.com subscriber? Log in here.

easy to meet girls
Some girls make themselves easy to meet as a part of their dating strategy. But you should beware of these girls yourself... because when you meet them, YOU are the target.

A friend of mine in a country new to him went to an expatriate meeting not long ago. He's a guy who keeps himself attractive and is otherwise good with women, so he's not hard up for dates. He noted how the only truly attractive women at this expat meeting were the wives of male expatriates present. All the single/available women were unattractive, or older; single mothers; and so on.

This called to mind a general mantra I've hewed to over the years: beware of girls it's too easy to meet!

I don't mean girls who are 'easy'... as in "she's so easy to sleep with."

I mean girls it is easy to meet.

The easier it is to meet her, generally, the farther down your batting average you do if you go dating her.

Chase AmanteAbout the Author: Chase Amante

Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone. So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating. After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website. He will teach you everything he knows about girls in one single program in his One Date System.

GET CHASE’S ONE DATE SYSTEM

Comments

Ajay Lover's picture

How do you break up with a easy-to-meet girl who has given you only nice times and hasn't done anything bad or hurtful that would naturally lead to a break up? How do you verbalize why you're breaking up? Or is there another, better way to do it?

Author
Chase Amante's picture

Ajay-

It's a little different for every relationship. Though a few standard angles usually get the job done here:

If you're not in too deep, easiest is to just tell her "Hey, it's been really great. But I feel like if I let this relationship go on too much further, I'll be leading you on. It's time for us to part ways." Then just stick to your guns when she tries to negotiate.

If you are in deep though you're going to have to go with "You're an amazing gal. You're going to make some guy super happy someday. But this just isn't what I need. And the longer we let this go on the harder it'll be to do what we have to do."

She'll be upset, because it's the rare breakup that isn't upsetting to one or both partner. However, better to nip it in the bud early than to wait until both parties are more invested and it's even harder to do.

Chase

Zanardi's picture

I went a few years ago to some speed dating events and once I entered, I knew I threw away money on the window. The rest is obvious.

Damien1's picture

Thanks for the article Chase! I've noticed this trend as well. There's a weekly language exchange in a bar in my city that is exactly as you describe. Girl quality is definitely lower than in other venues and some of the prettier ones are somewhat damaged there. Also the ratios occasonally are out of whack with a lot of guys there. But yeah it's a great tool for me to get my week started cuz it's in the middle of the week. I use it as a warm-up for the week usually and occasionally you'll get to meet the stunner that somehow ended up there and will maximum go there once or twice. For meeting these girls however I think these venues are great because if a pretty girl ends up there she's usually easy to meet as well because she broke up with her bf or some other reason. So her availability will be higher, even if she won't end up there again, it's a nice screening tool.

Author
Chase Amante's picture

Damien-

Indeed; that's the perfect way to use these sorts of places!

And you can find those diamonds in the rough sometimes.

Just need to be prepared to explain to them what you were doing there, after they decide that sort of place isn't the sort they'd like to frequent... :)

Chase

lux's picture

Very, very interesting article.

I'd feel like adding some different point of view: beautiful and in demand women DO make it easy for high-quality men to meet them.

That's the reason why flight-attendants scramble to serve in first class and why high class venues have lots of beautiful women present.

You can also see it in poorer countries, where more beautiful women attend events, functions, malls and parties with lots of foreign men.

Wealth makes a bigger difference than balls BTW. Plenty of broke-ass and low quality men who take their shots. 

Author
Chase Amante's picture

Lux-

True. However, keep in mind all is relative.

If you are a well put-together man who flies first class, the flight attendants there are lower tier easy-to-meet girls for you... compared to what you could get.

Flight attendants are often good-looking. But rarely stunners. They're also less educated and intelligent than the women successful men have access to. Men in the manosphere like to say intelligence and education don't matter for women... however, studies consistently find, at least with marriage, both sexes marry their intellectual, educational, and economic peers. Were you to meet a wealthy man with a beautiful, intelligent, educated wife he met at random somewhere, and then a wealthy man with a beautiful flight attendant wife he met on a long-haul flight, you'd likely view those as quite different. Or at least I would. I realize some guys view flight attendants as status boosters to date (for some reason. They're not hard to meet at all if you frequent bars popular with flight crew).

Beautiful women are more likely to attend malls, functions, etc., where more successful foreign men (or more successful local men) are in higher attendance, this is very true! This is a way to raise their availability as well. It's on the spectrum, somewhere between "Go somewhere I will just bump into men left and right" vs. "Stay in and never go out except to buy groceries and work." A woman's choice of profession may have an element of this... women who pursue professional careers often do so in small or large part because they want access to professional men. You can look at all sorts of activities women pursue and ask yourself "How far out of her way has she gone to make herself available to the men she'd like to meet?"

The general rule applies across all scenarios: the more out-of-her-way she's gone to make herself more available, the more likely she is to be an 'easy-to-meet girl'.

Chase

lux's picture

True, very good comment.

 

What I maintain is that smart women looking to settle, independent of quality, should adopt a strategy that makes it easy for them to meet high quality men so they can settle in their prime.

High quality men are busy, and since there is a shortage of high quality men for high quality women today, for women it's like a game of musical chairs: the longer they wait, the worst off their odds.

Like you say, there is always a trade-off, and there is no 1:1 correlation between quality and "difficulty to meet". The further up the curve you go in "making it difficult to meet me".

The higher quality females simply tend to make themselves more available to different kind of men. 

P.S.: awesome new commenting system, it rocks (or at least new since I last popped in :) !

Add new comment

The Latest from GirlsChase.com