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Do Women Lack Agency?

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agency [ey-juhn-see]

noun, plural a·gen·cies.

the ability to make your own choices and act independently, free from the influence or pressure of others.

women have agencyThe subject of women's agency is one both feminist circles and the manosphere have debated almost since each movement's inceptions. Although these two movements approach things from different perspectives, and arrive at their conclusions via opposite routes, they both reach the same conclusion: that no, women do not have agency.

From the feminist side of things, here's a "veteran advocate, activist and educator" who pushes for "genuine sexual liberation and self-acceptance for women" (bio) who declares most women have no sexual agency. And here's the World Bank, a global financial institute and progressive spearhead organization (which has "promote gender equality" as one of its signature 'development goals'; it's also focused on, for instance, fighting manmade global warming), claiming that "girls and boys, and later women and men, have unequal capacity to exercise agency."

The consensus among feminists and other progressives is that women are deficient in agency. The reason they're deficient, feminists and progressives tell us, is because oppressive patriarchal systems and brutish, insensitive men sideline women from decision making -- even within their own lives.

The manosphere side arrives at the same conclusion as progressives and feminists -- that women are lacking in agency -- yet deduce this from a different set of clues. In the manosphere, examples of depraved, seemingly immoral behavior by women and the reliance of much of the modern female lifestyle on contraceptives, as well as the dearth of women who aspire to "higher values" as opposed to men, are pointed to when making the case that "[a] woman’s lack of agency is something neither to celebrate, nor despise. It is something to accept."

The consensus among red pill and manosphere thinkers, just like feminists and progressives, is that women are deficient in agency. The reason they're deficient, red pill and manosphere thinkers tell us, is because they are simply biologically incapable of freeing their decision-making from emotions, from accepting blame for mistakes they've made, or from hewing to any ideals higher than the most base, primitive necessary to run a life in a society.

It would seem that, while feminist, progressive, red pill, and manosphere thinkers might argue about the source, they all agree on the outcome: women lack agency.

So it might appear the debate is settled. Now we're just arguing about who's to blame: Mother Nature, or outdated, patriarchal men.

But I have another perspective on female agency.

Because I've seen all the things these thinkers talk about. I've also seen a lot of other things. And I've spent a lot of time up close with women, digging deep into their thinking and behavior beyond what they are even typically consciously aware of themselves doing, and beyond what most outside analysts believe they are doing too.

It's led me to the conclusion that women do not lack agency at all. Not in the feminist way, and not in the manosphere way, at least.

Instead, women beguile -- something they're exceptionally good at -- as part of how they act with agency in the world.

A woman uses the cloak of lack of agency as part of her real agency. Feminists further the agenda because it furthers theirs; male progressives and manosphere men alike push this female agenda (coming at it from different start points) because they buy it and believe the performance.

But a performance is what it is.

Chase AmanteAbout the Author: Chase Amante

Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone. So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating. After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website. He will teach you everything he knows about girls in one single program in his One Date System.

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uForia's picture

Why nobody has perfect agency is summed up well in this video.

So as long as you require something of value from another person, you have to offer something of value. I'd think that a similar calculation is made when deciding to conform vs not conform, the benefits and costs of doing so which may also tie into the Red-Black game mentioned by Varoon. Funny thing about life is that in these matters supply and demand tends to balance things out which is why if women really did sufficiently lack agency, then less parents would be willing to raise daughters and thus men would have less potential women to choose from or women trade agency for another valuable aspect in life. China's one-child policy shows this dynamic.

Franco Lombardi's picture

Loved this one, Chase. Great article!

Cheers,

Franco

jensen's picture

Very sexy article. Thanks Chase!

Pursue's picture

Hey Chase, great article!

Can you make an in-depth article on how to pick-up girls as an Uber driver?

Thanks

Pursue

Ben's picture

Thanks for the article Chase. This was fascinating to read and must have took a long time for you to prepare. You have so much patience and focus it's unbelievable. So do you really believe that any women is capable of cheating then and if they do cheat they know what they are doing and want to do it? Some are obviously more prone than others it all depends on factors you have discussed in your website whether they go out a lot to party, how they were raised, partners etc. But can even women who have only had 1 or 2 partners and they're still in their mid or late twenties and were highly devoted to her man have a chance of cheating if they meet the right guy and if they push the right buttons?

Lawliet's picture

What a deep thought out article Chase!

It is interesting how mainstream arguments become a loop of self-reinforcement. Support comes from within the group; the wrong proving the wrong as right.

Btw, I remember reading one of your articles. You and some people were on a road trip? And you and this guy was working on the girl during the trip. She isn't that pretty, but out of the group, she is the best looking. And you gave yourself a challenge to get her before the trip ends. 

The message was usually if we don't have a girl at "Hi", it usually wouldn't go anywhere. <-- This message is also mentioned in another article about approaching. I spent an hour looking through the site but can't find it.

Does it ring any bells? The two articles?

 

Thanks Chase,

Lawliet

Lawliet's picture

sorry, one more thing

You talked about relating in an article somewhere or comment?

How a girl shared with you her bf/ex went to the military and cheated on her.

You didn't know how to relate at that time and said "that's horrible". However, now (when you wrote the article), you would have said "yeah. trust them as far as you can throw them"

Ring any bells?

 

Thanks,

Lawliet

Dale's picture

A woman can say "No" without mentioning him, as I know by experience. In fact, the women I have asked out on dates fall into three categories: those who went on the date, those who I never dated, and those who told me they had a boyfriend and later went on a date with me. I would say that when a women brings up a boyfriend in order to say no, she is either testing you or reminding herself why she should say no.

JasonH's picture

Hi Chase,

Recently I've read some of your relationship articles including 'When you should breakup up with a woman' along with Hector's 'The only reason you should get into a relationship' among a few others. I've got a question regarding age gap, interracial dating and dealing with conservative parents.

I'm in a great relationship with a woman in her early 20's and I'm in my late 20's with about a 7 year age gap between us. We're both in University and are going great with excitement, passion, growth in the relationship more than year in. The caveat is her parents are traditional/controlling and seem to prefer their daughter dating someone closer to her age and white (I'm brown). So they nag her, are controlling and this leads to sadness for her, when she feels she doesn't have their support, which I feel when I empathise with her. Though they can be supportive at times and allow certain freedoms, the core issue is still there.

What's your recommendations for guys in situations like this, we've worked hard, developed a lot, got a great girl but then there's barriers like this (Race and age are not an issue for her but just her parents - brought up in a country with not many other races). Should we break up what is a great relationship? or is there steps we can take to manage the issue? I feel like there's still a lot of space for growth and a continuing awesome relationship but would like some real practical advice for guys in situations like this and if it's actually feasible going forward.

They haven't actually met me so who I actually am is imaginary in their heads. Would it be smart to meet them (or would this lead to conflict?), what are some steps I could take to make the situation with how they see me better? Or in general for anyone with age gap or racial barrier problems with parents what's the wisest thing to do?

I'm sure there are many guys who are older or brown/asian/black etc in similar situations so thought it'd be an interesting article!
Thanks Chase,

Jason H

Otto Von Bitchmark's picture

It's been a while since you post this, so I apologise for commenting probably outside the response window.

Although it's been a wonderful read, this is the only Chase Amante article that has not convinced me, in 2+ years of reading GC. Probably my fault because well, let's be honest, I can't hope to compete with the Author intellectually, nor in other sphere, lol.

The point for me is that I really don't see how one can get around the conundrum of women's actions being mandated by feminine nature. Their sexuality, emotions, lack of an intrinsic definite morality, higher tendency to herd thinking and group conformity, and even the very same tendency to lie about everything (agency included) are well...all innate and we know that they dictate their everyday conduct.

Chase himself, to an extent, agrees to the redpill and feminist argument plus with the standard interpretation of the ultimate seducer paradox as stated in this very piece, and also all articles on GC are based on the assumption that, at the very least, women have a somewhat weaker agency in that they are way less sociologically deviant and independent than men and that they normally respond in the same way to the same stimulus (same input, same output all the time, e.g. sexy man's courtship >> sex; if it does not happen it's your fault not to have fed her the appropriate stimulus).

Still, I'll admit that I emotionally want to believe women have agency, although I know that - even if redpills and feminists quit spreading their doctrines that at the end, as you point out, serve only to advance female goals - women will never be held responsible for anything.

So, all in all, my opinion is that both the feminist (as far as its descriptive part is concerned, the normative simply sends chills down my spine as soon as I think of its consequences, already in place by the way) and the manospherian explanation hold much water in my book, but I think each of them is grossly exaggerated and hyperbolic.

Thus I think women have some degree of agency autonomy and independence, albeit to a lesser extent than men, so that they too should be responsible for their actions.

Let's remember that, in case we were able to actually prove that women have agency, we'd have to come to terms with the fact that they so often (if not always and by default) lie, blame/shame, cheat and cuckold and everything else consciously, freely and on purpose with the sole end goal of advancing their sexual reproductive strategy, whatever the cost in pain for other fellow humans. Can't see which option's the worse...

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