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When I shared my report of the night where I managed to pull a girl even though I felt terrible, a lot of people told me they wanted to read more about the way I use sex talk to seduce women.

In case you have not read it yet, my original post on the subject of sex talk is here:

• How to Use Sex Talk to Set a Sexual Tone and Mood

I have been asked a few times to share more sex talk coverage and share more examples on how I use it in the field. As you have been asking for more posts on sex talk, I decided to write this report. The post will cover one interaction where I used textbook style sex talk in order to get laid.

I will share my techniques and explain how they work. I will also show you how they can be used in a real life situation, so that you can see how it all fits together. Here are some of the things we will be covering in this post:

• Transitioning into sex talk

• Sex Talk Technique 1: Sexual Reframing

• Sex Talk Technique 2: Sexual Prizing

• Logistics

• End Game

• Last-Minute Resistance

• & More…

We will use a real life story as an example for every technique and tactic we will be covering. Even though the real life event covered in this post is a continuation of my previous post where I covered the preparations and the warm up phase, putting most of the emphasis on the earlier hours of my night out, this post will be covering an actual seduction that took place during the night’s prime hours (the hours when people hook up).

A year ago, I talked about women’s back pocket mentality: keeping a man in reserve, his appetite wetted for them, thirst for them unquenched.

It’s part survival instinct, part choice maximization... the best position for a woman is to have a flock of interested men waiting for their shots with her, for a variety of reasons (most women greatly fear becoming unwanted or undesired).

Today I want to introduce you to back pocket mentality’s close cousin, the ‘holding pattern’. This is a more serious version of the phenomenon, where a woman strongly implies sex or a relationship is on the table and coming very soon, without delivering.

This is used when a man is on her shortlist, but she wants to experiment with others first. Just because you’re on her short list doesn’t mean you’ll get her – and all the time you devote to her while she enjoys other men and “makes up her mind”, you’re killing her attraction and respect for you.

Welcome back,

If you remember our last post, I covered an evening out in Bulgaria where I totally failed – the failure was due to what we labelled as “inflation”. Now the principle of inflation can be defined as follows: when you deliver too much of the same seduction material (humor, sex talk, language patterns, cocky lines, etc.) it loses its impact. There are numerous reasons for that:

• It loses its value; women and humans in general do not value things they can easily get. If you give her a lot of, say, “funny lines”, then she will not value them as much anymore.

• It can in worst case scenarios make you come across as needy/“trying too hard” and ruin all her attraction for you.

Now this is just a quick recap of my last post. The theory of inflation is explained in-depth there. At the end of that post I shared a number of ways we could avoid having to deal with such situations in the first place.

Hi there and welcome back.

Today I will be continuing my infield series, where I share my own personal real life experiences going out seducing women. I will cover the events and add my personal notes. Each post will cover one particular event in a way that you can learn something from it.

Women are vexing creatures, aren’t they?

Men often find aspects of basic female nature completely perplexing. Women, for their part, often find many aspects of basic male nature an utter bore.

I talked about the multi-layered aspects of what women want before; today I’m going to talk about why exactly they make it so indecipherable what they want in any one moment for men (and frequently themselves).

Have you ever watched a man who is good with women? You’ll notice women do all kinds of womanly things around him that would make most men boil, while he just laughs.

How can such a man be so nonplussed around the madness that is woman?

We see men commenting on Girls Chase about this often. A guy comes on and rages about how women don’t make any sense and men shouldn’t have to change one lick for them. Shades of the good old fashioned “just be yourself and everything will work out fine” argument which took over popular thought sometime in the 20th century with its ineffectual pseudo-intellectual quips.

There is one element you see again and again that drives men to tear their hair out in patches though, and that’s this: women change their minds like monsoon season weather. One minute it’s pounding sheets of rain, and the next minute the sun’s out bright with nary a cloud in sight.

Most men do not understand this... while the men who are good with women just smile and laugh. “Girls are silly and cute,” such men say.

You may know this mentality is better intellectually, but perhaps you still find yourself bugged by women’s behavior emotionally. Happens to lots of guys.

With regard to the man irritated by women’s behavior, and the man at peace with it:

How can these two men have such totally different views on women – and what’s really going on in women’s heads that make them so darn flakey?

In a thread on the discussion boards about negative mindsets, a forum member named Black writes:

“But when I have to take action there’s this feeling:

- I have absolutely NOTHING to offer her.

- I have NOTHING to say to her.

- She’ll be creeped out just for me going out of my way to say anything to her. It’s crazy I’m showing my face anywhere at all to begin with.

- She may have accepted to hang out with me – but sex is completely out of her mind (because of this I stalled things with girls that were saying we should “hang out” sometime; they ended up dating another guy a week later).

- She will make a scene if I go in for the kiss, ask her out or try to lead her to a hotel; then she will tell everyone we know if it’s social circle (even if it does happen to a small extent, almost no one seems to care).”

You might think it’s just you when you’re just kicking off, but this is actually a surprisingly normal set of thoughts/emotions to encounter before you approach a girl (when you’re new).

It’s due to something I’d call ‘ambiguous value’, and the doubts you’ll have surrounding yourself because of it.

And it’s not even just a ‘meeting new girls’ thing... although that’s the context we’ll discuss it in today.

I messed up…

In a social circle where the stakes were high I failed to be discreet. No, I didn’t go blab about what happened, but instead, due to too much alcohol consumed, I failed to isolate and we were noticed.

But an interesting thing happened:

Despite a couple of women from that circle seeing us and this being the gossip of the year, my indiscretion didn’t reach the ears of parties that could’ve blown the whole situation out of proportion and make my life truly difficult.

Those smart ladies decided to make a better call than I did and keep my little secret. Would you like to guess why?

Well,

Keeping the social circle healthy in general was definitely one of them, but one crucial piece of the puzzle was that they, consciously or not, decided that they didn’t want me to be kicked out of it.

You see, until that moment, despite openly being a sexual man and with my image and actions clearly communicating that I prefer a promiscuous lifestyle, I still acted within my code of standards that I talked about in my last article and in general wasn’t a social risk.

On the contrary, a sexual, attractive man who is smart about the way he does his thing can actually be a very valuable asset in a social circle.

In other words, my reputation saved my ass in that situation.

With this article I’d like to help you understand the benefits of having the right reputation within a social circle and afterwards we’ll cover how to develop your reputation as a sexual man so it works for you, instead of against you.