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Here’s a topic I know the Girls Chase audience will enjoy. This just came up in another coaching call with a long-term mentorship student (I am getting a lot of good topic ideas from these conversations right now).

Social friction is everywhere in your conversations and seductions. But how do you adapt when you encounter it? That depends on the level of friction – plus where it comes from.

In almost every social or romantic interaction you’ll have, you will encounter social friction. Social friction is our catch-all concept for anything and everything that rises up to impede your social objectives. All these count as ‘friction’:

• Women’s tests and resistance

• Interruptions, disruptions, and cockblocks from others

• Logistical issues and obstacles (such as no place to isolate a girl to)

• Unanticipated wildcards, like a girl drinking too much or discovering she’s lost her phone

In Part 1 of my series on social friction, we fleshed out exactly what social friction is and how it affects your socializing and seduction.

In Part 2, we discussed reevaluating your situation with the help of the 3 Rs: Recognize, Remove, and Reassess. Rather than get trapped in a deteriorating situation, with the 3 Rs you can evaluate in real time whether to stick with the plan or make a change of plans.

Today, we’ll discuss how to adjust in the face of social friction. We’ll cover everything from minor adjustments to your plan, to the necessity of having a bailout plan – no matter what you’re doing.

Different women respond differently to cold approach. Some are nice, some are haughty – and the reasons for the differences vary from girl to girl.

Different Girls' Different Reactions to Being Cold Approached

Different women respond differently to cold approach. Some are nice, some are haughty – and the reasons for the differences vary from girl to girl.

I shared a video on X the other day of a girl talking about how grateful she is to guys who still cold approach, plus how surprised she was at a woman she complimented being closed and aloof to her.

This girl (who is pretty cool & self-aware) raises a GOOD distinction about the range of reactions you encounter cold approaching women.

Basically when you cold approach you will get everything from:

0️⃣ ❄️ Ice cold, haughty, hostile snubs, to
1️⃣ Plain old vanilla disinterest, to
2️⃣ Polite rejections, to
3️⃣ Friendly chitchat, to
4️⃣ Bubbly sociable interest, to
5️⃣ Fairly warm romantic interest (“Yes, let’s hang out!”), to
6️⃣ 🔥 Blazing hot interest / DTF (“Actually I’m free right now...”)

The reactions at the far ends — ice cold snubs & blazing hot interest — are both rare-ish unless you’re doing something really right or wrong, or approaching in a really wrong or right location.

The toughest thing for guys not experienced at cold approach is learning to mentally DEPRIORITIZE the snubs while PRIORITIZING the interested replies.

Remember:

➡️ Every “no” (girl) gets you closer to that “yes” (girl)

➡️ Unavailable girls who tell you they’re unavailable are doing you a FAVOR (i.e., by not wasting your time)

➡️ MOST girls, at any given time, are in relationships; you need to sift through the attached or otherwise disinterested girls to find those “diamonds in the rough” 💎

Once you pass the point where rejection no longer humiliates or depresses you, and come out on the other side where girls can say they’re uninterested and you just laugh and SHRUG 🤣🤷🏻‍♂️, you gain a superpower with women few men ever unlock.pic.twitter.com/k7WEsw1qvZ

— Girls Chase 🏃‍♀️💨 (@GirlsChase) April 21, 2025

It raises an interesting point we don’t talk about quite enough in my opinion: why are women’s reactions to cold approach so vastly different?

Any guy who’s in the field knows how variable cold approach reactions can be.

Unless you’re doing something very wrong (or very right), most women won’t be openly hostile or wildly exuberant. But within that range in the middle between the poles, there’s a great deal of variation.

You’re the same guy, approaching the same way… but some girls just react very differently to you than others do. Wherefore should this be so?

When you encounter heavy friction socially, don’t just keep plowing. Instead, stop and reevaluate with the 3 Rs so you’ll know just what to do next.

In Part One of this series, I introduced the concept of social friction; that is, anything and everything that emerges to impede or block your social objectives (such as, for instance, bedding down some cute new girl).

To recap, social friction includes:

• Women’s tests and resistance

• Interruptions, disruptions, and cockblocks from others

• Logistical issues and obstacles (such as no place to isolate a girl to)

• Unanticipated wildcards, like a girl drinking too much or discovering she’s lost her phone

In an ideal world, we’d be able to construct seductions (and other social endeavors) free from friction. But friction-less seductions only occur on paper and in the imagination. The real world is messy, imperfect, unpredictable, and filled with often unexpected sources of friction.

Thus, rather than hope for perfection and count on Lady Luck (who sadly will not always be on our side) to see us through, it’s prudent to allow for friction.

While we can’t always know precisely what forms friction will take, what we can do is fall back on an approach to dealing with friction that gives us the best odds of ending up in a situation where success lies within reach.

Prefacing lets you approach women or issues in ways that they’d push back on otherwise… yet, with you, thanks to you prefacing, they accept (& even enjoy!).

Tiny little tactic here that lets you get away with lots.

Generally there are some subjects in conversation you cannot touch. Certain sensitivities, criticisms, or, alternately, certain proposals. Things that if you accuse someone of them or suggest them raise so many hackles it can blow the whole conversation up.

Sometimes, too, you’ll meet hot-tempered people quick to jump to conclusions every time you manage to utter more than a few syllables. These individuals can be particularly hard to talk to, as they personalize nearly everything you say.

Finally, there are things you might say – including many of the openers you deliver to women during cold approach – that might be hard to swallow on their own. They seem incongruent or hard to believe. A woman might think you’re just yanking her chain.

The one tactic you can use to route around each and every one of these problems is prefacing; where you use a short prefacing statement to pace your listener’s understanding before diving into the juicy stuff.

Our Skilled Seducer of January 2025 is forum member James D, who’s posted a string of impressive day game lays (including several same-day public sex day game lays). In this interview, Chase Amante chats with James about his experience, his vibe, various sticking points he’s encountered over the years, and how he pulls off his pickups.

Listen to the interview here: