Advanced practitioners have impressive social and seductive skills. Near the very top of the field
All women have a wild side. But they won’t show it except to
certain types of men. The pleasure-loving man knows how to bring this
side out.
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When you’re head-to-head against another guy over a girl, the
last thing you want to do is try to best him at what he’s good at. Beat
him on your terms, instead.
Commenting under my article “If a Girl Has Sex with You Fast, is She a Slut?”, Mike asked:
“Hey chase, please I have a question to ask. I want to know how to compete with guys more handsome than me. Thanks.”
It’s a good question. It echoes similar questions I’ve answered in articles and in the comments before, such as:
How do you compete with men who are famous?
How do you compete with guys she already knows?
How do you compete with bad boys when you’re not a bad boy?
I don’t want to spoil the whole article, but the way you win, of course, is by not trying to beat that guy at what he’s good at.
Instead, what you must do to win is change the rules of engagement.
With the right tweaks, you can put a guy on the defensive and emerge victorious for the girl, despite almost any number of on-paper advantages he might seem to have over you.
If you want to do something, but you never take action do it...
what is that? It’s a case where you have the interest – but lack the
desire.
A friend who has been consulting with me about the dating world visited me recently for a weekend – and brought some interesting stories to share. He graduated from college last year and moved to a new city, landing a prestigious job at a highly respected global firm with a six-figure starting pay and great benefits (right out of school!). Basically, he fulfilled the career dream he had since before college, and now he lives in a beautiful new apartment in a great part of town, with lots of space and lots of money.
Regarding this side of his life, he’s completely fulfilled – well, sort of. He likes his life on paper, but after actually speaking to him about the details, I discovered he feels immersed in soul-killing consumerism. He liked my tiny, modest apartment with its very human and soulful feel. Before leaving, he said my vibe had rubbed off on him – he felt sweeter and more relaxed.
Yet on the dating field, he hasn’t gone on a single date since moving to his new city. He has been following Girls Chase for almost two years and has since improved on his vibe and does cold approach occasionally. However, he has yet to ask out a girl in his new town. He tells me that he’s waiting to become more fit (he goes to the gym regularly and is still looking for new clothes) to present himself better. He’s also working on his fundamentals and is pursuing new hobbies and meet-ups where he might meet women. He also laments that there are no women in his area he really has a desire for. In other words, he doesn’t find them attractive, so they’re not even worth approaching or pursuing.
I will note that he did enjoy the look of women in my area – so location is a factor indeed!
He wanted to know what he could do to start dating women, and I told him that right now, there’s nothing he can really do, because no matter what I tell him, he’s not actually going to do it. How did I deduce this? I told him that in this moment in his life, he doesn’t want to date or learn to be with women badly enough; his focus is still on building his career, not learning to attract women.
In fact, his desire, as it was during college, remains in climbing his career and making lots of money – a big factor in his choice of city – while he merely has an interest in learning about women and dating. I told him nothing would happen for him until he actually held a real desire to be with a woman; for now, a sufficient desire doesn’t exist in him. I told him he’s waiting for a “perfect moment” that will never actually arrive.
What he actually needs to do to make any progress is to get the ball rolling, but his desire to grow career-wise suffocates that process.
I wanted to break down why things were the way they were for him, and thus came about the topic of this article. It’s a little abstract but very useful in deducing people’s intentions.
One of the great life lessons I am getting ever more acquainted with is that what people say they want or like, and what they actually, truly want – and what they actually do – are often very different things. This is what we’re going to talk about today: why these inconsistencies exist and how they show up.
Just met her in the bar, and want a fun way to take things sexual
fast? Break out the orgasm control routine – and watch her get hot in a
hurry.
I’ve decided to write a follow-up to my tantric sex gambit. The idea behind that post was to not only give you a powerful gambit to play around with, but also give myself an opportunity to share the principles behind it, so you can learn from them. In other words, those principles serve as examples of how certain concepts can be used.
In the previous post, we discussed how the tantric sex gambit would:
Display sexual prizing – by showing your knowledge related to sex and framing you as a good lover
Introduce the topic of sex in a low-key, not overly-explicit way – tantric sex is hot, but it’s not very explicit. We also discussed how using a proxy could allow us to introduce the topic with more ease (e.g., “I read somewhere that…”)
Force some touching (and eye contact) – when doing that quick demo, you hold hands and face each other, looking each other in the eyes
Provide an easy way to get her entranced – by breathing together
Incorporate other minor stuff, too – rich descriptions, commands, and so on
This time around, we will focus on more explicit material and communicating even more sexual prizing – how to talk about sex and really communicate that you know your shit. So this time, our focus will be:
Sexual prizing (again)
Making her horny by being more explicit
Contrasting – to set us apart from other men and other people, framing ourselves as sexually superior
How to use fractionation to create anticipation and amplify everything
Using more amplifying language (e.g., “more and more”)
These things can all seem very difficult to grasp by simply reading about the gambit. There is so much to remember, and if you are not used to using advanced verbals, this can seem overly confusing. However, my experience tells me that once you see it exemplified in light of the explanations, it should make more sense. So we will exemplify things before discussing the concepts used.
Remember, practice makes champions, but the first try may be a bit off (I highly doubt you will experience any major side-effects from doing this wrong). With practice, you should improve your flow and experience these awesome techniques at full power.
But again, I will not lie, this post is made for intermediate to advanced players. Feel free to read it if you are a beginner, but do not expect to get too far with this stuff right away unless you have your fundamentals in check (at least) and preferably have some experience with women. Either way, let us get on with this technique.
Women love tantra. The feelings, emotions, and spirituality of
it. By talking about tantra with girls, you can seduce them then and
there.
Hey, guys. I know I promised a report this time around, but I just had to share this technique with you.
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Today I will share a simple technique that I find very powerful. Now, it is somewhat of an old-school way of performing pick-up and seduction – focusing on routines – but I don’t see that as a bad thing, necessarily. First of all, I am old school. Secondly, I believe that we are all more or less relying on certain routines whether or not we want to admit it. Yes, even though you may not follow a script (a bit overkill, maybe?), there are still certain techniques or lines you may find yourself using a lot (with great success) when interacting with women.
Thirdly, I also believe routines can be key for practicing seducers – like a cheat code, in a way. I do not have a script per se, but I do like to have some cheat codes available in case I get stuck in a situation and need something juicy and powerful to push things forward.
And lastly, routines like this one can show you – as an example – how things can be done in a new, powerful way. What comes is highly recommended to help you understand the underlying mechanism of the routine, the factors that make it work, and the different techniques and concepts used (the overall mechanisms) that make the routine so powerful. The idea here is that you can deconstruct it and use the concepts and techniques individually, or you can use the knowledge to make up powerful stuff on your own. I will, of course, help you deconstruct it all in this post.
Before reading on, be aware that this post is better suited for intermediate to advanced players!
To men, women can seem disloyal… Or at least, not nearly as loyal
as men. What’s it take to find a loyal lady anyway?
One of the most discombobulating romantic statements I hear from men goes like this:
“I just want to find a girl that’s loyal.”
It’s not discombobulating because women can’t
be loyal. Plenty of men throughout history, down through to today, have
had women deeply loyal to them.
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3. Different Loyalty Expectations
5. Different Men, Different Results
The statement discombobulates, rather, because you cannot ‘find’ loyal women. Any more than you can dig deep into a diamond mine in search of engagement rings, or wander into the African savanna on the lookout for trained circus lions. You may find diamonds in the diamond mine, but you won’t find rings; you might find lions in the savanna, but they won’t be trained. So it is with women.
Some women are more inclined toward loyalty than others, it’s true. But women by nature are opportunistic. They are romantic guns-for-hire, ready to serve whoever makes the best offer... and eminently practical when the lord they’d hoped to sign on with is unable or unwilling to give them the agreement they need.
“I want to find a loyal woman” is a foundational misunderstanding of female psychology. It projects male values onto female prospects.
But women aren’t men. And the way they think about loyalty, treat it, and uphold or enforce it is very, very different.
Sexual tension isn’t just good for turning her on. You can use it
to breeze past walls, resistance, and tests, too.
I know that after my report on sexual tension, I mentioned it would be the last post in the sexual tension series.
That was the original plan, but things – powerful things – that I left out keep popping up in my head. Anyway, here is one of those things.
Today’s topic will be about sexual tension; however, we will discuss another use for it. Primarily we have discussed sexual tension as a tool to make her horny and attracted to you, hopefully leading the interaction toward sex.
This time around, we’ll take a different approach. Instead of focusing on using sexual tension directly to make her horny, we’ll focus on using sexual tension to deal with her “shit” (e.g., resistance and tests), and in turn, make her horny. So today we will basically discuss how the different concepts related to sexual tension can be applied to dealing with her:
Shields (approach shields)
The application of concepts in each case will be more or less similar. However, we will discuss the subtle differences and try to exemplify the process for enhanced understanding. Let us get into it!
When a marriage crumbles, men fast learn the system is stacked
against them. But divorce rape is not inevitable; you can beat the
system.
Want to bang her in the bathroom, fitting room, or on the roof?
There are tricks to each of these places – but they’re all fun to do.
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When I’m asked about the benefits of learning seduction, one of the most important answers, at least to me, is taking part in all the amazing adventures that happen as a result. Learning about women and seduction puts one in a position to live a pretty unique and exciting life – that is, if you’re doing it right.
Having crazy sex in unconventional places is one of those spices of life to which I’m referring. It’s something you can draw upon at any moment to remind yourself that “Yes, I DO live life to the fullest.”
This past year, I became single again with zero logistics (I couldn’t conveniently bring girls back to my place for sex), so this subject has been on my mind. In this post, I’ll be sharing everything I learned. Even though I currently focus more on girls who have logistics themselves, having a little spicy walk outside from time to time feels great (just had some more rooftop sex last week! More on that later. ;) ).
Chase and Colt already covered the psychological aspects and a bit about logistics in their articles:
... so I’ll focus about specific places, and go deeper into the practical aspects; plus, give you my own feedback about various locations.
If you want to know what her type is (so you may more easily date
her), you’ll have to ask her a few questions, first.
“What’s her type?”
I have mixed views on the question.
In one way, you need to figure out her fantasy and then become that. You need to adapt to specific women. If she’s a fit snow bunny, it would behoove you to have spent some time at the gym (which is probably where you’d meet her anyways); also, maybe have a few tattoos, be a bit over-the-top with your masculinity, and a bit aloof.
At the same time, you can’t be every girl’s type. Even if you want to be the Übermensch of seduction, you can’t be everything at once.
But I think I’ve come up with a solution. There are three parts to this.
Figure out her type
Understand the difference between tokens and types
Decide how far you want to go
