Journeyman have been at it a while and have begun to develop major good habits and success streaks as practitioners of the social arts
Welcome back,
In the first article of this series we learned that all women are dirty little freaks.
In the second article we covered some ways you can spice up your sex life.
Now, we’re going to get even kinkier.
If you’re reading this, then you’re down to get weird with me.
Before we begin, let’s review what we know so far (see Part 1): all women are nasty little vixens deep down inside, even if they maintain a pure appearance (women are too complex for the binary thinking of the Madonna/Whore complex).
In this article, I’ll explain in excruciating detail how to get your lovers boasting about their sex with you to all of their friends.
It would only be fitting, then, if we start with precedent. And really, you want to...
“Any good dreams last night?”
“How was your day today?”
“You’ll never believe what happened to me.”
There are normal little communication bits and pieces you’ll encounter in relationships. They seem pretty small and trivial, and superficially they are.
However, these little questions or statements – called ‘bids for connection’ by Professor Emeritus John M. Gottman, Ph.D. – have big impacts on relationship health.
That’s because any time you make a bid for connection, or a gal you’re with makes one toward you, it goes one of two ways:
How often these little bids are turned toward or away from makes a world of difference, it turns out.
Many
years back, I had dinner with a girl I’d recently just slept
with. We were both young and inexperienced; our date had been fun, but
the sex mediocre.
On this second date, we had a nice time, and chatted. I didn’t have much more time in town, and would be leaving soon. At the end of the meal, I invited her home.
At first she accepted, but then she stopped, mid-walk: “Wait, you’re leaving, right? You know what, I think I’m just going to go home.”
I didn’t fight it. I said okay and let her go. I’d be lying to say I wasn’t disappointed.
If you’ve been hooking up a while, you’ve no doubt experienced this too:
Sometimes she’s happy to sleep with you again and again once
first sex occurs
Other times, you sleep with her once, and that’s it
... and there isn’t always rhyme or reason to it either.
A girl you had a great date and phenomenal sex with may not call you back, and a girl you bumbled your way into the bedroom with and prematurely ejaculated in front of may fall all over herself to meet you again.
So what gives?
What’s it take to convert a girl you’ve slept with once into one you sleep with again and again?
One of the biggest obstacles for a lot of men when it comes to improving with women is fixating on the wrong thing.
Much of this seems to come from improper understanding of some of the raw basics of attraction.
When you see guys get hung up on one specific characteristic and blame that as the cause of all their woes with women, like the ones I discussed in “I Can’t Get Girls Because Girls Only Want [BLANK]”:
... it’s because they misunderstand attraction.
And when you see guys become (overly) obsessive about improving in one specific area, like muscles or wealth, it’s because they misunderstand attraction.
So how does attraction work?
Because surely, all these things have some impact on attraction... right?
But then, so do fundamentals.
And game.
So if all of them have some impact, then just how do these things all play together to affect a woman’s ultimate degree of attraction for you?
A lot of guys new to game view clubbing as a natural and easy first step. We think that immediately jumping into the deep-end and trying to swim is “obviously” the biggest and best move we have at our disposal to get more success meeting girls. But what if jumping into clubbing too fast reduces opportunities and causes early plateaus?
When it comes to clubbing, if you don’t hit the right notes, it is very easy to slip into the background of the club, ignored and unsuccessful, and being in that background encourages all kinds of bad habits and mistakes to form or grow out of control.
If I was to sum this central message of this article intro one sound-byte, it would be: make sure you are going in with a good chance of coming out ahead. Doing so obviously comes down to solid foundations, but it also comes down to some very specific foundations that are needed in clubs specifically.
The guys at Girls Chase have covered some of the big ones, like moving fast, selection, and mindsets, but there is another layer of preparation that exists just below this advice that ensures you optimize your clubbing, whether or not you can pull the aforementioned off.
These pre-club foundations act like a bridge between a naturally attractive attitude outside of the club, and a naturally ACTIVE attitude inside the club.
And they’re what we’ll be talking about today.
Recently had a discussion with one of our forum members about some odd behavior he was seeing from a former girlfriend who works in his office.
They’d had a friends with benefits relationship for about half a year, before she broke things off with him to enter a committed relationship with another man.
What confused him the most, however, was that this girl had seemed to like him more, yet she still went off to date the wrong guy anyway. Her new guy has some pretty big downsides, too: he’s jealous and controlling. He’s forbid his girlfriend from having any contact with her ex from our forum, and monitors her phone calls and texting.
What this forum member asked me was, “Why would she date this guy when she already had me?”
The answer, of course, was that he wasn’t available for the kind of relationship this girl needed – so even if he would’ve been her first choice for that role, he simply wasn’t an option she could choose from on the shelf.
Welcome back. Today I will continue where I last ended it. Just to recap my previous post where I discussed going out and meeting women when you social momentum was low (or “negative” – as in “not feeling like it”), I discussed a few things and I used one of my nights out in Bulgaria where I went out even though I had caught a serious throat infection (I was on strong antibiotics) and also had a lack of sleep in addition to being tired from travelling.
This post is from the same night and is a continuation of that night out. In my previous post I covered the few event that took place before what I am about to cover in this post. I went out and talked to 2 groups of girls, but the emphasis of the previous post was on how I dealt with my bad mood.
This post covers the event of my third approach of the night. I will cover the interaction step by step. I will add as many details as possible and share my personal notes on the interaction and explain everything I do: why I do what I do and why and how it works. In addition to that, I will share many different techniques; so this post will work partly as a lay report and partly as a guide – a hybrid.
This post will give you an idea on how a seduction works – how it all works together. The main theme of the post will be around “leading” – i.e., leading the interaction from you being just a stranger in her eyes into you being her lover for the night. I will use the actual story of the report to exemplify my points.
Take a big breath...
Because this post is long, full of content, and VERY action packed...
In addition to the main theme “leading”, here are some other topics covered in this post:
Let’s get right into it...
I wasn’t always
a fan of anal sex.
Used to be that when girls asked me for it, my erection would disappear and I’d lose all interest in sex of any sort after that. I mean, gross. And in any event, her pussy’s right there; why would I want to stick it in her butt?
As I got older, I became less of a stick in the mud and decided to
give anal more of a chance. Eventually, I discovered that, done right, women
absolutely loved it, and soon I enjoyed it a fair
bit too.
The fear for her, that comes with accepting you into the wrong hole... the thrill she feels at doing something taboo... and the pure pleasure that comes with an opening packed to the brim with nerve endings swallowing up your manhood into it, its sanctity at the mercy of it... all these things contribute to the emotional and physical excitement of it for her.
And, if you’re executing anal sex technically correct, with an aim towards supplying anal orgasms, your member will be hitting her vagina from the other side, a truly intense and orgasmic experience.
As a man, there’s the sense that you’re dominating this woman in a way you’re not ‘supposed’ to do, and the sense that she is yielding her body to you in a way she hasn’t to too many (or perhaps any) other men. These things enhance the experience for her as well.
However, this article isn’t here to discuss the merits of anal sex (though I will cover that briefly towards the end) – I’m not here to ‘convert’ anybody.
If you’re reading this, I assume you’d like to know how to do it well, and not that you are recoiling at how gross it is (like I, well, used to).
So... let’s talk about giving her thunderous orgasms, through her back door.
DISCLAIMER: I did really try
to find some non-NC17 images for communicating the ‘position’ part to
you below, but found it next to impossible to locate any images showing
the position I wanted to show at all,
let alone any PG-13 ones. So, there are a couple of NSFW images near
the end of this post – you have been forewarned. Don’t read at the
cubicle, or
on the bench in the park by the local kindergarten.
