(3) Journeyman

Previously I discussed a few important premises and techniques that will help reduce your chances of having to face resistance when you escalate physically – or at least will minimize the impact of the resistance.

Previous articles in this series here:

1. Dance game foundations

2. Warming up on the dance floor

3. Dance floor target selection

4. Opening on the dance floor

5. Building attraction on the dance floor

6. Physical escalation on the dance floor

7. Handling her friends

8. What causes resistance

However, even knowing what causes it and how best to avoid it, sometimes resistance will occur anyway. It’s far from uncommon. Even good seducers face resistance – although less often than beginners.

Before I begin, please note this: just because you are getting resistance does not mean you have failed to pull off the techniques (the preventive techniques against resistance) from our last post.

Some women are just harder cases than others, and that can either be due to the situation and her current mood or her personality.

Some women are harder to get than others – that’s just life.

Hey fellas, just a quick recap before we begin here:

In Part 1 of the series we explored all of the reasons why men get married.

Then in Part 2 we discussed what most men’s expectations for marriage are like, and why they most of the time are not very feasible.

Part 3 brought to us a laundry list of things that ruin marriages.

We then discovered what happens when your expectations of marriage fall short, and when and if damage control is needed in Part 4.

Most recently, in Part 5, we examined the divorce process and how to navigate it properly. Now it is finally time to figure out what the heck to do after it all shakes out.

So, welcome to the Grand Finale.

We are about to sum up this long guide on dance floor seduction. However, before we get into how to seal the deal, I believe it is key to discuss the potential pitfalls you might meet on the way and how you can deal with them.

In case you are just tuning in, the previous installments in this guide to dance floor game are here:

1. Dance game foundations

2. Warming up on the dance floor

3. Dance floor target selection

4. Opening on the dance floor

5. Building attraction on the dance floor

6. Physical escalation on the dance floor

7. Handling her friends

Some of you might have gone out and tried the numerous techniques that we have covered so far. Those of you who have might have faced some resistance when escalating physically on a woman. I'll cover how to avoid and how to handle such situations in this post. There are numerous posts on this website on how you can handle resistance, including one written by me. This post can work as a recap, but I will also share some additional stuff.

Let us get right into it by first briefly explaining what resistance is and what causes it. After that, we will cover different ways to avoid facing resistance. Then next week we will be covering how to deal with it when you first face it.

Obviously, a lot of the concepts shared in this post can be applied to any seduction related situations and not only on the dance floor – for example when she is back at your place, or if you are meeting a girl in a bar or having an instant date as a result of a successful day game cold approach.

Is it better to go into a situation with a woman knowing nothing at all (the hopeful-but-clueless guy), or is it better to know the negatives and the struggles but not have any of the answers (the bitter-and-cynical guy)?

The answer might surprise you, because whilst you would expect knowledge of negatives to act as a disincentive to getting used or short-changed, being naïve can provide incentives, like getting the benefit of the doubt and more opportunities. Does this mean it’s better being naïve than jaded?

Put differently, is it better to know the downfalls and potentially avoid them, or to be given more opportunities yet possibly not take advantage of them?

Now here’s the answer:

It is a trick question, because in both scenarios the man cannot take opportunities or put women on their best behavior... meaning the results will always be that you have less opportunities and less respect than is ideal, whether you are naïve or you are jaded.

Sucks right?

Especially since with naïve or jaded, these are the two places we often start as men.

We have so far covered many aspects of dance floor seduction:

1. Dance game foundations
2. Warming up on the dance floor
3. Dance floor target selection
4. Opening on the dance floor
5. Building attraction on the dance floor
6. Physical escalation on the dance floor

In the two previous posts, we discussed escalation and attraction building on the dance floor. Escalation, although powerful, is not that simple - there are certain pitfalls you can face, and we will be addressing the following three of those today:

• Her friends cockblocking

• Her not feeling comfortable being touched publicly (afraid of how others will judge her)

• Her need of you being accepted by her friends

We address these issues by first learning how to deal with her friends on the dance floor, and then learning how to isolate her when the time was right.

General resistance, either caused by anti-slut defense or lack of attraction, is the topic we will be dealing with next week.

Previously we discussed how to build attraction by escalating physically. Today we will discuss this topic even further. There is a lot more to say about this topic. Consider this post an expansion of the previous one.

As mentioned last time, this is just a toolbox. This means that you can cherry-pick the techniques you like and disregard those you don’t. It is not like you have to use every one of these escalation techniques to get laid – sometimes just following a basic escalation ladder is all you need, while other times more is required.

I do recommend you to try out all these techniques though. Field experience is the only true way to find out whether something works for you or not. Try them all out at least a few times and add those you like to your arsenal. However, never disregard any technique completely, as maybe on a future occasion you might find it come in handy (in such cases you can always review this post).

Now, let us start straight away into the good stuff:

Hey, guys. A quick recap of the series thus far, in case you missed any of the articles and would like to go back and read them to catch up with us:

• Part 1: Why Men Get Married
• Part 2: What Men Hope Marriage is Like
• Part 3: Things that Ruin Marriages
• Part 4: What to Do When Marriage Doesn’t Match Expectations

In Part 5, we’re going to talk about what to do when your efforts to repair your marriage fail and a mutual decision is made to part ways for good.

Before we begin, I do want to note that family and divorce law varies significantly across not only continents and countries, but can even deviate a great deal within those (the degree of autonomy differs from country to country, but you get my point here).

Getting a divorce is extremely challenging in many ways, but probably the biggest hurdle of all is trying to work through all of the legal processes. Trying to accomplish all of it by yourself is overwhelming, and there will be many a decision that requires knowledge of the legal procedures and family law that is in place in your jurisdiction.

If you need legal advice, I strongly suggest you consult with a good family attorney with roots in your county/township/municipality who is highly familiar with the laws and processes of your local government.

So, you’re getting a divorce. It’s all utterly horrifying and you don’t know where to start! How do you manage all of this?