Why You Should Grab Her Ass More

When’s the last time you grabbed a girl’s ass? There’s a good way to do this – and you needn’t wait till she’s your girlfriend, either.

She doesn’t see me immediately as she walks out of the metro. I’m laughing to myself as I stare at her, waiting for her to recognize me. But she did get lost a few times trying to find me, so I’m sure she’s a bit disoriented.

It’s when she is about to pass me that I speak up.

“Hiiiiiiii.”

She looks at me, shakes her head in surprise, then laughs. “Oh, hey!”

Silly girl. She apologizes again for going to the wrong coffee shop the first time. I tell her it’s no biggie, and we walk to grab coffee. After we order, we sit and wait. I blatantly look her up and down, and she smiles curiously at me.

“You look so sexy,” I say to her.

“Thank you!” she says, giggling.

She’s an alternative girl – piercings, tattoos, and a super independent attitude. She’s also German, so stoicism is standard for her. Our first interactions at the hotel she works at involved a lot of teasing and me kind of dominating the room, but that’s only the penultimate strategy for a girl like this. They love to be challenged by cocky assholes, but with every woman on the earth, there is one strategy that reigns supreme – the lover.

“If I get distracted during our date, it’s because I’m staring at you, just so you’re aware,” I say, smiling.

“Okay!” she says, laughing. Girls never know how to respond when I make statements like that, and it’s great. They have no reference point to draw from, because I’m unlike anyone they’ve ever met.

We get our coffee and go for a walk. As we walk, I notice that she’s got a tight little ass hiding under her dress. I’m an expert at spotting good asses. Sometimes, if she’s not wearing the right dress or pants, a girl’s ass might not be in full display, and you’re surprised once the clothes are off, but not with me – Hector sees all.

“Sophie, your ass!” I say smiling.

Before she can even look at me, I reach over with my right hand, grab a handful and give it a tight little shake. I bite my lip and groan lightly.

She looks at me with shocked eyes, but then she smiles. She says nothing.

“Do you lift or is that all natural?!”

She laughs. “I don’t really work out too much, so I guess it’s all natural!”

“Well, damn girl, you’ve got some good genetics.”

She’s a petite little thing. Just enough meat to not be a skeleton, but as I’ll find out later, little enough to almost fit both hands around her waist.

We walk some more and then sit down to roll a cigarette (it’s Europe, what do you expect?). As we do, I regale her with a scene from an erotic novel I’m writing. Her reaction seems a bit stoic, but considering her resting bitch face, that could mean anything.

Then I tell her how I live my life as a lover of women, how I want to come into a girl’s life, give her as much romance and sex as I can while I’m in town... or even afterwards. I turn to her and tell her that it’s what I want to give her. She smiles and tells me that sounds great. We hold eye contact and then I lean in for a kiss. She immediately leans in, too, and we meet halfway. The kiss is amazing. We finish the cigarette, stand up, lock hands, and then go back to my place. Our date might have lasted twenty minutes?

When I asked her when she knew she wanted to fuck me, she said it was when I spoke of my erotic novels and when we kissed. But I know the vibe that allowed us to segue into those things naturally was really kicked off when I grabbed her ass, because I can tell you... most men don’t do that. Even after smashing, we spent the whole day together. Then, after partying, we had sex in public, and when we finally returned home, I took her anal virginity.

I don’t think for any extended period of time did my hand leave her ass. It was as if the two were one. And as a man with a woman, that’s how it should be.

So, let’s get to why and how you should be grabbing her ass more. Cuz you should.

Prefatory Warning:

I would seriously advise, especially if you’re new to girls, not to do this unless you’re already kissing a chick or if she’s hanging all over you. I recommend this for advanced guys who know when it’s fairly likely she’ll accept your advances. Also, if you go to a university that has affirmative consent in its student conduct code, this is enough to get you expelled or suspended if she has it out for you.

The college gets nothing but a good reputation and federal funding from suspending/expelling you. They do not care about you. However, when it comes to actual law, you have some more leeway, as long as you are responsible and empathetic.

But let’s first cover what not to do, because I am NOT advocating you just go around groping chicks!

What Not to Do

In another age, I was in middle school at a dance. I was with a friend of mine and his girlfriend. Of course, with regards to female companionship, I was alone and too nervous to talk to more than a few girls that I knew. The buddy, being the kind kid he was, let me dance with his girlfriend and even showed off her ass and grabbed it in front of me. He then let me grab it once. Afterwards, he joked that I should go grab some chicks’ asses. He said I couldn’t grab 25 by the end of the night.

I ended up counting somewhere near 50. Of course, it wasn’t the “Hey, I’m Hector and now I’m grabbing your ass” that I do now, it was the hit and run type.

That is cowardly and typical of 12-year-old Hector. Boys will be boys.

Yet, I still see this behavior in grown men, especially at nightclubs – where guys can steal a handful of ass or tits and the girl will turn around, bewildered, and have no idea who, in the sea of people, grabbed her. Don’t do this. If you’re going to grab a girl’s ass, do it because you know her and/or are gaming her, and be prepared for any reaction. Own your actions.

Won’t I Get Slapped?

You might. A girl’s reaction to an ass grabbing will depend on the situation, the context, your confidence and comfort level with women, and, yes, how attractive you are. Some men can get away with things that other men simply cannot; a girl could welcome a playful squeeze from one man... but from another, it could absolutely result in a slap.

Of the thousands of asses I’ve grabbed, I’ve only ever been slapped once, and it was with a girl I knew well. Also, after she slapped me, I simply looked her in the eyes and laughed. She returned the laugh, so I did it again and she let me.

Even if a girl takes my hand away after I grab her (rare), she will always laugh and tell me that she respects my aggression. The rest... they absolutely love it. But that’s me. That’s Hector.

Of course, you can’t explain this to most liberals, feminists, and white knights. In the stale, sexless, and purely ideological universe that they selectively choose to live in when it suits their argument, what I’m suggesting, to them, amounts to sexual assault unless I get explicit “Yes, you can grab my ass” permission (and even then, they’ll still argue that maybe the girl only said yes because she felt pressured).

Well, luckily, it’s not sexual assault, so long as you pay attention to her and how she responds. There’s a thing called implied consent, where if a girl doesn’t say “no,” “stop,” or physically stops you from doing something, it’s implied that she’s letting you do it (i.e., consenting).

She’ll be displeased if he stops here just because she didn’t sign the Consent Agreement beforehand.

However, by the feminist paradigm of affirmative consent, anytime you ever touch a woman, you need explicit verbal permission, even if she’s your girlfriend or wife (seriously, that’s what they believe).

In my opinion, only a mentally disabled person would ever take such a stance, because it’s so divorced from the reality of male-to-female sexual interplay, that you wonder if these women have ever actually been seduced or even been hit on by a man with normal testosterone levels.

Luckily, our current legal system isn’t founded on dogmatism or stupidity (for the most part), and a jury, unless stacked with white knights and feminists, would understand that if a woman lets you do something, and she isn’t under duress or threat of violence/blackmail/reputational sabotage, it’s probably consensual.

Furthermore, grabbing a chick’s ass isn’t more invasive than trying to kiss her. So, if you’ve ever gone in for a kiss when the vibe was right, why can’t you go in for a handful of ass when the vibe calls for a handful of ass?

I hope that puts at ease some concerns about consent for the newbies reading this, because by now I hope you understand that I’m not just talking about purposeless, random, creepy groping here. I’m talking about perfectly natural and calibrated sexual play.

However, I have to admit that it does pain me to speak so academically about women. Unfortunately, in our age of pseudo-intellect, you need philosophical justifications for everything. And I write these long apologies (in the philosophical sense) so that you guys have the information to know that what we teach you is not only legal, but defensible if you ever do get morally shamed by someone for your actions (has happened to me countless times).

Now, why oh why would a woman let you grab her ass? I mean, the horror, right?

Because…

Girls Love to be Touched

Women are the receptive sex. They dress sexily, move seductively, and charm you with silky words in order to lure YOU into THEM. Even if she’s chasing you, you still need to make the first move. You’re the man. You penetrate, she receives.

And the absolute, most intoxicating way to make a move is to grab her. And besides her pussy, her ass is probably her most “intimate” or “boyfriend-only” area. By making a move for it, you are putting your stake in the ground and declaring yourself a man.

You’re saying “I’m gonna conquer this ass (if you let me).”

Then, she’ll either say “yes,” “no,” or “maybe soon,” with her actions or her words. Either way, she will respect you and that’s half of attraction.

It’s Fun

Again, as with a lot of techniques that I teach, my answer to “Why should I do this?” is “Uh, because it’s fun.” Unfortunately, I don’t see many guys writing about grabbing ass on their Lay Reports on the Girls Chase forums, and I don’t see enough of it in real life.

I myself do it a lot. I’m an ass guy through and through. If possible, my hand is always on ass. If she’s my girlfriend or a chick who I know is down to smash, I’m constantly grabbing her ass or slapping it. It’s like crack to me.

Women love it. They tell me all the time that they wish other men would be as touchy, aggressive, and physically possessive.

If you don’t feel like you’re being sexual enough, this might be a fun improvement to your game.

How to Grab Her Ass

First, two alternatives if you’re not comfortable going for it all:

If you don’t feel comfortable immediately going for a handful of bottom, here are two ways to get the job done.

Safe Option #1: Compliment and Suggest

Once, while working at a club, a cute head of the VIP table was trying to game me. She was very dominant and bitchy with everyone, except for me. When she came back to her section one time, she had to pass by me, but it was crowded and she got pushed up against me. While talking, a look of shock came across her face and she said, “I think someone just grabbed my ass!” It was mock frustration, and she kinda laughed (hint hint). I smiled at her, grabbed her waist, looked around her briefly to check her out and then said to her, “I mean, I would.” Her eyes and smile exploded, and she said, “Hmm, maybe later when I get a bit drunker.” I smiled and nodded.

Later, while fixing some cups under the table, she passed by me and said aloud, “While you’re down there, Hector…” I looked up and smiled at her, realizing that she was not so subtly implying that she wants me to eat her snatch. She smiled back and then walked away. Finally, while cleaning a mess nearby her, I accused her of being the culprit. It was an obvious joke, but she played along, declaring her innocence. I laughed, told her I was joking and went back to cleaning. Then I heard her say my name, so I looked up and found her in my face. She then leaned in further and we made out… in front of everyone.

So the template for this is to check her out and then verbally admit or suggest that you would or would like to grab her ass. She might smile or even tell you that you can, if you want. If given the latter, obviously do it. If not, it’s still sexual and effective. Not as good as just grabbing her ass, but it’s still good.

Safe Option #2: Ask

It’s not the best option, but under a few circumstances, it’s okay. If you’re genuinely unsure if she’d be okay with you groping her, ask. I highly suggest you compliment her first, though, to set the mood, and then very casually ask, “Hmm… do you mind?” Don’t ask in a needy or childishly excited way. Bite your lip and look at her ass as you ask, not her. Say it with a sultry “I know you’ll say yes” tone (i.e., cockiness).

Obviously not the kind of asking we mean here.

I never recall being told no when I have asked.

Now that we have this covered, let’s go over how to do it for real.

Bold Option #1: Compliment, Then Go for It

If you want an in-depth example of how this works, reread the opening story of this article.

First, compliment her with something like:

“God, your ass is amazing.”

“Damn girl!” and point at it.

“Girl, you’ve got ass.”

Or whatever fits your style.

Then, reach out and get it.

Or you can throw her the compliment then tell her to turn around and show it to you. If she complies with this, there’s a super-high chance she’s cool with you touching it. Give it a light tap or take a firm handful.

Bold Option #2: Straight for It

Just dew the dew.

I usually recommend there exist some circumstance to justify the grabbing, as that’s when it’s natural.

But sometimes a perfect moment just comes along. Also, if I’ve already grabbed it once, I consider that license to keep doing it until she stops me.

One night, I was off work at my old club. When I came down the stairs and started dancing in the hallway, I heard a girl yell my name. I looked over and it was one of our dancers.

She was in between dances and was killing time with friends. Of course, being a nightclub dancer, she was practically naked. I couldn’t keep my eyes off her, and there was definitely a sexual vibe floating around (her friends were very friendly with me).

Then, at some point, one of her friends complimented her ass, so she turned around to show it off, then said how cold she was.

Without even thinking, I reached out and took a handful of tight dancer ass, shook it, and then let go, smiling, along with a purr of satisfaction.

The other girls were smiling and the dancer looked at me shocked, mouth agape. As she registered what happened, I smiled. Finally she said to me, “Okay, Hector, you get a pass on that one!” She then squinted her eyes in mock suspicion.

She loved it.

Then her friend turned to me and said “It’s amazing, isn’t it?!” I agreed and we continued the conversation. Not even a few minutes later, the dancer turned around again and stuck out her ass. I don’t think there was any context to it, but she looked at me like “Hello?” I gave her a “What?” look and her eyes darted down to her ass.

“Grab it!” she yelled.

Yes ma’am. I took another handful of firm but jiggly ass, spent an extra few seconds enjoying her delicious flesh, and then slapped it hard as I let go. She smiled at me.

Then two of her friends turned around and stuck their asses out at me.

“What about us?!”

I love women.

Bold Option #3: Slide Down

As you talk to her, put your hand on her waist. If she won’t let you get there, she certainly won’t be cool with you grabbing her ass. Once you’re there, move to the small of her back. Then pull her close to you. If you’re standing side to side with her, put your arm around the side of her waist farthest from you, thumb on the small of her back and the rest of your fingers wrapped around her waist.

Either of these positions are great for establishing a sexual connection. You can have a totally platonic conversation, but with this hold, she knows you mean business.

Then as you talk, hopefully along with a dirty smile, move your hand down to her ass and rest it there. You don’t have to grab right away; you’re testing to see if she’s cool with a casual rest on her ass. If she is, add in a slap if she says something funny or if you’re making a point. Then, if that goes well, give it a little squeeze.

Congrats, you’re in that ass… well, almost.

When is a Good Time to Do It?

As if you really need a time to grab it.

The best times to grab her ass:

• When You First Meet Her: Sometimes I’ll grab a girl’s ass seconds into meeting her if she opens hard with smiles and intense eye contact.

• When You Come Back: If I’m already talking to her and come back after going to the bathroom or leaving, I’ll walk up and pinch her ass to get her attention. What’s really interesting, actually, is that some girls will already be smiling when they turn around, which tells me that they had no idea who it was but were still excited by it. Make your own conclusions about that.

• While Kissing Her: This shouldn’t need to be explained, but if I’m not grabbing her face for a super-passionate make-out, my hands are always on her ass. I’m not even classy at that point. I’ll grab with both hands and get savage with it. I might even pick her up at that point.

• While Walking Around: This is circumstantially the smartest time to do it, besides when kissing her. If she’s walking in front of you, it gives you a natural window to use any of the techniques described. Let her walk in front of you, compliment her ass, and then go for it.

• Before She Goes to Do Something: I remember going to the grocery store with a chick I’d met on the sidewalk one day. As we checked out, she said she wanted to grab some wine. I agreed and then slapped her on the butt and told her to go grab some wine. I could see her smile (think she bit her lip, too) as she turned around and excitedly bounced off to get some wine. When she got back, she was all smiles. We hooked up not too long after.

• With Friends: With girls who are your friends, you should be able to grab their asses anytime. If not, you’re not the right kind of friend. The friendships I have with women are “We could hookup, but for now we’re friends.” I still talk about sex with them, grab them indiscriminately, and will make passes at them, but don’t close hard.

• With Girlfriends: This also shouldn’t need to be explained, but if you have a girlfriend, pinching, slapping, and grabbing her ass should be normal.

What If She Reacts Poorly?

Then own it. Don’t apologize, ever. That just makes it worse and reinforces her shaming of you. Shrug, smile, tell her she has a nice ass, and if she’s really upset at you, leave the situation. Never be ashamed of your sexuality.

Chances are you might read a situation wrong and creep her out. It happens, but if you’re paying attention to the vibe and her body language, your intuition will usually steer you right.

Though, as a random note, I’d say that if you feel the urge (not the thought, the urge) to do it, then do it there and then. Don’t wait. The longer you wait, the more uncertain and nervous you’ll be, and the higher the chance she’ll react poorly.

You’d be so surprised what girls will not only let you get away with, but what they’ll love.

Go grab dat ass.

Hector