In this post we will be reflecting on sexual liberalism. If you have read some of my earlier posts, you have probably seen that I discuss this matter a lot, as it is something that I’m deeply interested in and I believe it to be extremely relevant to the field of seduction.
Previously I have discussed how each person should be free to live out their sexuality as they wish without having people judge them for it. As long the sex is consensual and no one is intentionally causing harm to the other person or a third party, people should be sexually free to do what they want.
If there is no harm involved then there is no reason for legal or moral restrictions.
But it is however the case in this world that most societies are not sexually liberated. Some societies have more sexually liberated cultures in them than others no doubt, but none can be classified as sexually liberated per se.
Women are still being labeled as sluts as a result of their sexual actions; men are still labelled as perverts for being sex obsessed, etc. Even though, legally speaking, most countries are either already liberalized or going through a liberalization process, morally speaking, not much change is taking place. The moralism around sexuality is still strong.
In this post, I cover whether or not we should aim for a sexually liberated world in the moral sense. Will a society with total sexual freedom, in the sense that people just have sex with each other as a result of horniness, without any moral limitations, be better than how things currently are? Do we benefit from the stop of moral policing?
Before we dive in, I would like you to know that I have been thinking a lot about this topic and my answer to this question is a result of much reflection. However, it still remains my personal opinion. There is no objective right or wrong in this case, and if your opinion differs from mine, do not hesitate to share it in the comment section – but, as this topic is politically and morally loaded, I ask you all to be constructive in your comments, not only for my sake but also for the other people reading.
The Sexual Utopia
Let us first of all lay down a utopia – an ideal state where everything is perfect. Our theoretical image is that of a sexually free society. This is just an idealized version – a though experiment. We will use this image to see whether such a liberated society would be beneficial to us seducers.
Keep in mind, even though I do write here for Girls Chase, I still read other blogs and, believe it or not, I see many strong opinions on this matter. Most of the posts on the subject I have been reading are “pro sexual liberalism”.
However, I believe they fail to accept the real problems that occur in such societies; they don’t reflect of the problems it could create for everyone. No ideal society is fully ideal when implemented in real life.
The Totally Free Society
In a sexual utopia, men could in theory openly watch porn at their workplace, shag their neighbor’s wife, and cheat on their wives five times a day. Women could get gangbanged whenever they want because, remember, in this utopia there is no shame or feeling of shame associated with sexual practices.
Women will be sexually free, so there will be no need for anti-slut defense. Women will just have sex with any man they are sexually attracted to. They can just have as many sex partners at they want. Men will go around impregnating whomever they want to and women will be carrying children from different males.
In terms of family structure, it will most likely become non-existent in such a society. Families in the conservative sense will disappear – no evil divorces, no drama filled relationships, no wives cheating on their husbands.
And last, for you as a seducer, it will be even easier for you to bed women. They will be open to try anything and everything. Your sexual relationship will never again be limited by the boring missionary position. All the crazy stuff you’ve dreamed about doing will now take place with more ease.
You will not face flakes when you set up a date. If a woman is attracted to you, she will no longer put up resistance whenever you try to escalate things further. She will no longer tell you she can’t come home with you because she has to get up early the next day. Never again will you face women telling you “Sorry, I am not having sex on the first date.”
I can understand that such a society seems appealing to many seducers. But let us now examine this utopia further and see if it really is as good as it sounds.
Is Such a Society Appealing?
In my opinion, it is not. Such a society does not lead to the common good; it will not benefit most individuals. Really, it isn’t even beneficial for us seducers.
Chaos
Such a society would lead to total chaos. As we have covered in an earlier post of mine about the secret society, such a society will lead to chaos because men would still want to keep their women. Not every man is good with woman, and not every man is reading Girls Chase. So once a man wins over a woman, he would like to keep her for himself.
When we do not have any moral laws that regulate such a thing, the conflict over sex partners will be handled personally and things might get bloody. Think of an average Joe living in a society where every woman he meets can, within the hour, go off and bang another guy. Such a scenario will be very frustrating for him, and obviously, frustration (including sexual frustration) can be the source of a lot of harm.
There would be no stability in society because monogamy will disappear. Monogamy bypasses such a chaotic scenario by granting each man a partner in order to limit potential acts of violence. It helps secure order.
Remember, as mentioned in my secret society post, monogamy is a tool to maintain social order. In a society where monogamy is the norm, each man will be granted one and only one woman, securing her as a belonging for life.
This way, the inequality between men will become less visible. It will be in a sense bypassed because such a society would not anymore benefit the small minority of men whom women find attractive, as such a society would in theory limit their potential. Women’s sexuality in such a society would be restricted – programmed for finding a boyfriend. And in order to do so, she needs to behave like a pure Madonna, because this is what the average man wants, as he fears her sexuality. He fears it because it is outside his control. On the meat market women have way more power than the average man – a woman can find a new guy anytime, while the average man cannot. Therefore, limiting her sexuality is key in order to please the majority of males.
But it is for this reason that seducers often advocate total sexual freedom, because they find it unfair that society benefits the majority of men – those who are less attractive. Remember, only a few men are attractive to women (let us call these men “the top 5 %”) whereas the rest are not of much worth to them. Therefore, in a totally sexually liberated society they would benefit, as they could more easily have sex with many women.
Yet, I believe they are wrong.
Sexual Selection
In a sexually free society it is not the case that all men get to bang a lot of women. Sexual selection and genetics instead play an even more crucial role. If you are not good looking, tall, or have biological traits that make you attractive, then you are doomed. As society is today, it offers many men different possibilities.
Rich men can manage to get a hot girlfriend, as women do like material goods. High value men can get women on the basis of their social value. Attractive men can get women based on their looks.
Society as we see it today is better, in a sense, as it creates “social mobility” in the meat market. Men have more possibilities to become attractive – here you at least have a chance to get laid if you are not biologically attractive, compared to in the “sexually free” society, where only biological traits matter. So in a sense, society as we have it today is fairer.
Because remember, in the sexually free society, women would only have sex in order to satisfy their biological needs – money, social value, and so on would not matter (or at least matter much less) than in the type of society we live in now.
Some Liberation
Some countries are still very sexually closed. I do believe that, legally speaking, most sexual behavior does not lead to any harm. The state should not control our sexuality. In some countries, homosexuality is not legal. That is just wrong, as gay people do not cause harm to anyone (at least by simply being gay). Also, allowing forced marriages and punishing cheating by death (stoning) are just wrong. So, legally speaking, our sexuality should be legalized – which means that if a woman has sex with ten men during a night, she would not be punished in the light of the law.
However, morally speaking, we might still keep our norms. It restricts people’s sexuality a bit, yes, enough to avoid anarchic conditions. People can still do as they want; the law will not restrict them in anyway, nor can they be punished, legally speaking. Yet they will still control themselves in order to not go beyond the norm.
Yet some countries do have very stuck-up sexual morals. In these countries, most women will not have sex with men unless they commit to a relationship. That’s over-controlling, if you ask me. A little bit of liberation in such countries might be good, while full sexual liberation might not be optimal.
What is Best for Us
I will now cover why a totally sexually liberated society would not benefit us as seducers. I will also cover how society, as it is in most of the Western world, is more beneficial for us seducers than some of us may expect.
Liberty Not For All
As we have pointed out earlier, sexual liberalism does not benefit all; in fact, it benefits only a small percentage of men. However, it does benefit women, as they have had their sexuality restricted for centuries. Very rarely could females have their sexual needs really satisfied.
It is a known fact that women rarely orgasm when they have sex. This is because they still experience some fear about their sexuality sex, fear of being judged or labelled as a slut. Many men start judging women even when they are having sex if she starts showing signs that do not fit well with the image of her being a nice little princess who barely likes sex.
Our Power and the Secret Society
However, we here at Girls Chase are sexually liberated men. And because of that we can offer women the possibility to live out their sexuality freely in secret, as everything that happens in the secret society will remain secret.
So put it this way: society is restricted by morality, but this does not apply for those in the secret society because we play against the rules. We are not part of the system – we play our own game within the system. So even though society restricts our sexuality, it cannot have the power to do so if everything we do in bed remains a secret.
But when a society becomes sexually liberated we lose our power, because being a sexually liberated, non-judgmental man who keeps every sexual encounter a secret becomes an unimportant detail. There is no need for such men anymore. We lose our power in such a society. A secret society member is not a secret society member anymore, as there is no need for a secret society when sexuality is demoralized.
So let us be a bit selfish now and not vouch for a sexually liberated society, because we actually benefit from society being the way it is by now. Since it is restrictive, being the man women can freely express their sexuality with has a huge worth. So let us think for a minute about our own self-interest.
Everyone Benefits
And last of all, everyone benefits. The less attractive males will live in a society where they feel safe – safe that their women are faithful and that they feel they are controlling women’s sexuality. While at the same time, secret society males like us can live out our sexuality freely and make sure women find sexual satisfaction. Everybody is happy.
Conclusion
A sexually free society would not benefit most people. It would only benefit a few men. As in a sexually free society, huge inequalities between men occur – as some will get all the women while the less attractive (the majority) will either not get any or very few. It will also be frustrating for the less attractive males, as the women they manage to win over can at any time go to bed with a new man. This frustration will cause anger, which can lead to violence. As a majority of men will find such a scenario frustrating, conflicts will be inevitable, making society more chaotic. That’s why liberating our society sexually would not be beneficial.
However, many seducers have claimed that a sexually free society is ideal because it would make it easier for them to get laid. Yet I disagree, as the fact that WE are sexually liberated is an important part of our attraction. As women might not be able to openly live out their sexuality in our current society, they can still do so in secret with “secret society” males.
Remember, in the secret society, things are secret, which means that women will not be judged for their action. In open daylight however, they behave as society dictates them to in order to please the majority of males. Yet at the end of the day, all they need is a secret society male to release their inner beasts.
I hope you enjoyed this post!
Until next,
Alek
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