I’ve seen a sickness in men, and it is chucking out validation like bread at the duck pond.
Here, I’ll show you what I mean.
Let’s say you compliment a girl, and she refuses it. Like so:
You: Your hair is spectacular.
Her: Oh, actually I haven’t even combed it today, haha.
What do you say next?
If you’re like most guys, you let girls off the hook with something along the lines of:
You: Well you can’t even tell. It looks awesome.
You: Andie, let’s go to this wine tasting they’re having Thursday night!
Her: Oh no, I sooo want to go, but my parents are in town this week! I have to spend time with them!
How do you respond? If you’re like most guys, it’s something like:
You: Oh man, well, I’ll miss you, but have fun with your parents!
Do you sense anything slightly wrong with these responses?
Is there an almost indecipherable air of excess ‘niceness’ in them?
That excess niceness you’re picking up on is validation – and letting her off the hook.
About the Author: Chase Amante
Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone. So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating. After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website. He will teach you everything he knows about girls in one single program in his One Date System.