If you’re reading this, then you’re down to get weird with me.
Before we begin, let’s review what we know so far (see Part 1): all women are nasty little vixens deep down inside, even if they maintain a pure appearance (women are too complex for the binary thinking of the Madonna/Whore complex).
In this article, I’ll explain in excruciating detail how to get your lovers boasting about their sex with you to all of their friends.
It would only be fitting, then, if we start with precedent. And really, you want to...
Set a Freaky Precedent Extremely Early
The quicker a woman discovers you’re a sexual freak, the better. Everything you read here, know that I’ve done it with women on our first night (or day) knowing each other. It lets them know what kind of rides you’ll give her during your relationship together, whether it be one night or ten years.
One of the best ways to do this is to talk about weird stuff, even before sleeping with them. This requires a direct style of game that some men prefer to avoid, because of the risk involved, but if you do have a very upfront personality, why not introduce sexual topics on your date? It works!
Talkin’ Dirty
There’re many different ways to talk dirty, but they all fall under one of three categories:
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General Questions/Comments About Sex and Sexual Interests
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Telling Her How You’ll Screw Her
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Saying Nasty Shit During Sex
General Questions/Comments:
This involves questions and comments like:
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“What’s your favorite sexual position?”
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“I bet you like getting tied up/slapped/dominated.”
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“What’s one of your most secretive kinks in the bedroom?”
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“Where’s the craziest place you’ve ever had sex?”
By discussing sex directly, you assert yourself as a very dominant and sexual man who’s not afraid to tell a woman, “Yeah, I like to fuck.” This lack of fear communicates that you’re probably also confident enough to try this with her. Which means you’re also quite experienced. All very sexy and attractive traits
Telling Her How You’ll Screw Her:
This requires a quick primer on how to directly reveal your sexual interests. I more thoroughly covered the topic in my debut article “How To Get Laid in College, Part 1: Big Man On Campus”, so if you want some info on that, go there.
You want to say things like...
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“God your ass is so amazing; all I can think about is cumming all over it.”
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“I can tell we’ll have a lot of fun later tonight.”
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“Your eyes just drip with sex... I can’t wait to stare into them as I fuck you.”
Stuff like this does work and can turn on a woman extremely fast if communicated through the tones and facial expressions of an authority figure. Also, you can do this while texting women (note: this is a very advanced approach to seduction, so let’s assume that for most men, especially those are just now venturing into waters of freakiness, that your dirty talking will be done with a woman whom you’ve already been intimate with). But I’ll give an example of doing this with a girl I hadn’t yet slept with at the time of our sexting.
I met this girl in a Theatre class of mine. We’d fooled around a bit at my fraternity’s party house, but her friends pulled the biggest cockblock I’ve ever seen. However, a week later, when walking out of our class, she chatted me up and asked what I was up to that night. I told her that we could hang out and she obliged. A few hours later we had this exchange.
Me – “Hey, what time do you want to come over?”
Her – “Hey! I’m not sure. I’m with my friends right now and might go out. What did you have in mind, btw?”
Me – “We’re going to fuck each other senseless until we both can’t walk straight tomorrow.”
Her – “Haha, okay that’s what I thought. Well, do you want me to come over now or later?”
Me – “Doesn’t matter to me. You can come over now if you want.”
She came over and we made a mess together.
With a girl whom you’ve already slept with, here’s an even more explicit text exchange I had with a long-term lover of mine.
Her – “Just got back from a run I feel incredible”
Her – “And incredibly horny :)”
Me – “If only I could satisfy your thirst. That body deserves to be ravished incessantly. Your sexiness is ineffable, you lovely creature”
Her – “Mm thank you sexy. God I want nothing more than to be drenched in your cum”
Her – “(naked pic) definitely just came from thinking about our sexcapades”
Me – “Now just imagine my cum dripping out of your pussy”
Her – “Your dick needs to be in my mouth. Right now”
Her – “Fuckkk Hector. You’re killin me”
Me – “Definitely just came. Open your mouth ;)”
Her – “Mouth? I want it in my ass ;)”
Me – “Fuck yes. You did love it, you dirty dirty girl :)”
Her – “Of course I did. I’m thinking I’ll have to come out to visit you before the summer is over”
Me – “Yes you do. I’m going to fuck you in the ass and the entire building is going to hear you moaning as I fill you with my warm cum”
Her – “Not going to lie, I’m dripping wet just think about that”
Saying Nasty Shit During Sex:
This is the best time to grunt vile things to a girl. And yes, I said grunt. You want speak in a deep guttural voice, like some dark god of forbidden pleasure. Some other tips: never stutter or hesitate and abandon all filters of verbal prudence.
Some examples:
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While in missionary, you notice her looking down as your cock slides in and out of her. Smirk at her and say, “You little fucking slut, you love watching my cock fill you up, don’t you?”
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Her mouth is wrapped around your dick, head bobbing up and down. Say to her, “Hmm, you love tasting my cock. You dirty, dirty girl.”
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She’s on top of you, riding your cock. You say to her, “Hmmm, yeah baby, ride that dick,” as you grab her tits and look her in the eyes.
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She’s on her knees, tongue out and ready for a cum-shower. Give her a playful smile, and say, “Alright, now open your mouth you little cumslut. I’m going to drench your cute little face.”
You’ll notice some common traits. With all of these, a man must embody…
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Dominance: You’re a king who’s sleeping with one of his many mistresses. So talk to her that way. This often comes off as “demeaning” language, but just understand that it’s not necessarily about her being worthless, but more about you dominating her so totally that this is the only language that makes sense. The words themselves are important, but even more important is your harsh and guttural tone. Grunt and spit your words.
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Taboo: If you were to say any of this outside of the sex, it would be considered highly taboo and offend many sensibilities. While I personally say these things regularly in everyday life, it’s not for everyone. In private, however, liberate yourself of normal conventions, because privacy is discretion, and discretion is a license for freedom. Understand this secret pact and she will know that when she’s alone with you, she can be anyone she wants.
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Primality: Raw. Real. Animalistic.
Nicknames
Girls love dirty nicknames. Yes, saying her name does turn her on (e.g., “Hmm, Jessica, you’re dripping wet pussy feels amazing”). But nicknames transport her to a fantastical world of pleasure, giving her a sexually objectified identity.
Some of my favorites include “cumslut”, “dirty little whore”, “cumslave”, and “cumdumpster”. Women WANT to be sluts during sex; they love dirty and hard sex, but outside of your embrace she has to wear a mask of purity and aloofness. But you know her true name, the one she really wants to be known by – call her by her true name and she will reveal her true nature.
Spanking
I thought this was standard fare, even for softer lovers, but you’d be surprised how many men skip on this easy kink. Having lived in a fraternity house and a party house for the past four years of my life, I’ve HEARD the sex people have. Not loud enough. Not hard enough.
My ex’s roommates would always comment on being able to hear us; that’s how it should be. She should be losing her voice every time you shag. Also, if you properly spank a girl, a loud “smack” should be able to be heard above her shrieking.
Of course, as with all kinkiness that involves actions, not just words, you need to makes sure she consents. With spanking, it’s best to start off a bit light. Since most spanking is done during doggy style, start with a slap that you would use on a friend if he were being a bitch, in terms of intensity. Then, if she seems to enjoy it or even asks for more, go harder. Girls have asked me to slap them as hard as I could... and then some.
Hair-Pulling
Another easy technique to spice up your sexcapades is hair-pulling. In the adapted missionary position, move your arms underneath her shoulder, grab her hair, and pull down, using it as leverage to thrust. Pulling her hair also syncs her body rhythm with your thrusting.
In passion, pain and pleasure tend to blur each other’s boundaries, so the more you overload her senses, the more she can let go and submit, amplifying her feminine sexuality.
Also, pull her hair in doggy style. Bunch up her hair into a single ponytail and tug lightly as you pound her from behind. If she’s down, pull her into an arced ass-up/face-up position that she couldn’t normally do on her own. The more she feels like you control her pleasure, the better.
Scratching
When a girl bounces up and down on my dick, I love to graze her back with my nails. But more importantly, you want her to scratch you! Male sexuality feeds on control and dominance, but her feminine sexuality thirsts for submission and sensory overload – scratching you releases energy that sex builds up inside of her (this is one of the reasons women moan during sex, too).
So next time you’re on top of her, thrust mercilessly into her dripping wet pussy, and grunt, “scratch me.” She will unleash her wild and ribald sexuality. And even if it hurts like hell, turn your whining into a grunt or low-moan.
Women don’t enjoy screwing pansy boys.
If you can handle it, tell her that you want her to rip your back open. Say, “I want to FEEL how much you love my cock.” The more wild she gets, the more she pleases you. This reciprocal relationship between your pleasure and hers is the epitome of sexiness for a woman. Women love pleasing men they’re attracted to, and if her pleasure is linked to that already insatiable desire to please – the heavens will shudder at her cries of ecstasy.
Can You Dig It?
To some readers, this will be new material, or perhaps you’ve it considered but never tried it. Well, this is just the beginning. What makes these kinks “beginner” is not so much their creativity or physical effort, as they require little of either, but the boldness and certainty they require. I’ve talked to tons of men and women about various freaky things they’ve tried in the bedroom and the one consistent principle I noticed is this: it’s not only important that you act, but that you act without hesitation.
Women have told me that they’ve been offended or turned-off by guys who call them a “slut” in bed; I’ve also heard men lament that when they cross that boundary of decency, women react strangely. They tell me how women challenge them lightly, asking “What was that?” or say to them, “Uhh, I don’t like that.”
But then I’d nail those same girls and say MUCH more “derogatory” things to them – but with me, they eat it up. They love being treated like an object of pleasure, desire, and ravegary. They allow me to “demean” them. But here’s the secret – I’m not demeaning them, I’m calling them by their true names; I am inviting the dirty slut inside of them to come out and play.
Some guys mistakenly think that they have to “convince women” to do freaky shit. No, no, no. They already want to do it, but with the right guy. In the same way that nearly all women will sleep with a guy on the first date, so long as he’s sexy and dominant enough.
For the dirty slut inside of each woman to accept your invitation to play, you must communicate two attributes: dominance and non-judgment.
Dominance: Women usually only sleep with their equals and superiors. But women usually only get really freaky with men far above them. If you are shagging her, then she obviously finds you adequately attractive, so making that leap from “Guy I like to fuck” to “Guy I get freaky with” isn’t too far off.
Let’s try a simple example – a girl smiles at you as she slobs on your cob; you say to her, “You little... slut?” with an interrogative inflection at the end. Or maybe you hesitate just a bit when you say it? Nope. She’ll laugh the comment away as a cute attempt at dominance, or even verbally lash you for it. You’re not sexy (i.e., dominant) enough to say that to her! The only men who can call her a “slut” are those whom she wants to be a slut for.
Another example – when you first slap her butt during sex, do you ask beforehand, “You want me to slap your ass?” or does she have to tell you to do it more often than not? If so, you’re not dominant enough.
Non-Judgment: This is something mostly communicated before sex, as has been discussed in other articles on Girls Chase. If women ever sense you might judge them, or if you ever outright communicate that you will, they won’t expose their inner-freaks to you, out of fear that you’ll gossip to your friends. Her desire to have her ass ravaged isn’t worth the reputation risk that a judgmental man might expose her to. Furthermore, judgmental men are weak men. Dogmatism and strict beliefs of behavior communicate inexperience and illusory beliefs of control, i.e., ignorance.
Women see you more clearly than you believe. Only experienced and wise men see past the false dichotomy of purity and promiscuity. Moreover, your ideologies are irrelevant; women are pragmatic creatures, not the idealistic butterflies you’ve been duped into seeing.
If you can imbue yourself with these qualities, then women will allow you into their temple of debauchery. And in the next article, we venture deeper into this dark and beautiful temple.
So grab a torch and prepare yourselves.
Hector
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