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8 Red Flags She’s a Crazy Girl You Should Stay Away From

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crazy girlIn my article "Why I Quit Dating Girls Who Club, Party, or Drink", Balla asks the following questions about spotting a crazy girl (so that he might stay far, far away):

How do you know if a girl is crazy before its too late? What early signs do girls show you?

How do you know you if a girl is lying to you about not being a club girl? Say if you met her during the day?

Don't club girls run around during the day too? How do you know you're not picking up a club girl during the day?

Now, that's not to say that all girls who head to nightclubs every so often are crazy (although... most of them are at least somewhat more narcissistic women).

What we're talking about here when we say a girl is a "crazy girl" is that she is a woman who's more likely to be unstable in a relationship. That's it. She may function perfectly in every aspect of her life besides romantic / sexual relationships, but that's unimportant to us here for our purposes - this website is about selecting women as lovers and long-term partners, and we're most concerned with how those women are going to serve in those roles, how they'll affect us, and how stable (or not) they're going to be in that position.

To make some of these red flags easier to spot, I'm going to break them down into different red flags across three distinct categories, which may or may not be controversial for some people... and if so, well, them's the ropes. We're simply looking for the most useful tool here for making general predictions about the effects a given woman is going to have on your sanity as a man down the line in a relationship of any variety with her.

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Adam Chalupa's picture

Hello,
I read the article about status and I wonder. Does it mean that I will have harder time to bed a girl if I have less friends and am less social than her. As the law goes, guys are friends only with guys in same league and as she can see on my facebook, these guys do not seem that great. Which tells her something about me. She met only one of my friends, very clever guy but quite average. And I wonder, if I appear in worse social position than her, does it mean that I have to be more attractive and skilled with people in order to show her it does not matter whom I am friends with and have chance bedding her? My facebook account has only profile picture and my drawings, I deleted all bad photos and I use it only as "free" type of communication because it is via internet connection.

I always looked at those guys in movies who did not have to be the coolest or leaders of the group but still attracted cute girls because there was something about them. And I see that once girls see my social circle they shift. Like I was not worthy in certain way.

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Chase Amante's picture

Adam-

My normal advice is do not add a girl on Facebook / social media unless you want her as a platonic friend OR you've already slept with her and are either finished with seeing her or are getting into a committed relationship with her - see "Why to NOT Meet Girls on Facebook." The one exception might be if you have an exceptional Facebook page that really shows you off and sets you up as attractive. Not all girls will bother going through your Facebook and assessing the perceived caliber of your social circle, however, so it isn't automatically a negative with all of them. That said, the very fact that you're on there makes you a bit more pedestrian and a good bit less mysterious.

As far as meeting the guy's social circle in the flesh - if she's quite well-dressed and flashy and your circle is dressed in really bummy, ordinary clothes, or if she's clearly very socially savvy and your circle is filled with socially awkward men, that can have a very big negative impact on your ability to make headway with many girls, yes. There are some women who prefer male friends and hang out around guys all the time - the tomboys - and these girls frequently don't care, and are just as likely to get together with you if you've got nerdy / awkward friends as they are if your friends are all socially intelligent rich men in 3-piece suits.

If your circle is sufficiently inferior to you in social skills and appearance, it's probably best to stick to meeting women while out by yourself - and not add them on Facebook until well after you've become lovers.

Chase

Petr's picture

Hello,

I have a question about sex. It is about the right approach. Because I guess girls dont want to have sex with good guys as much as with bad boys because GG will be just gentle and slow while BB will release the animal and dominate them. I am this good guy and yes, my strategy seems to be - take it slow, be gentle, caress and touch her a lot and hit all the right spots because that is what I keep hearing from people. But even in movies it seems like if girl says this "guy is bad boy" her girlfriends seem to understand like he will just grab her, dominate her with physical strenght and make her orgasm 5 times during same night.

I wonder what is the corelation between this, how should I approach this? Are there any sayings like "treat her as a queen outside the bedroom, but as a whore inside the bedroom"? Or should I choose my sex tactic based on how turned on she is or the kind of girl she is - meaning, conservative but had sex couple of times so assuming other guys were gentle so in order to be different and new approach it as dominant guy?

I am largely inexperienced, had sex twice with one girl and I did my thing. But sometimes I wonder what should I take into account and what to consider before selecting my tactic plan for sex.

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Chase Amante's picture

Petr-

Women, pretty much across the board, all love rough, hard, passionate sex. What a woman really wants out of sex, and what will satisfy her like nothing else, is a man who just tears into her and dominates her primally and animalistically, like a beast just freed from his cage who's seized onto her to copulate with her. Try imagining a lion mating with one of the females in his pride, or a silverback gorilla mounting one of the females in his band. There's not going to be a whole lot of soft gentle caresses there... but there WILL be a lot of earth-shakingly hard thrusts, passionate love bites, and guttural noises.

To get a better perspective on how women think about sex, a good book to check out would be Nancy Friday, which explores women's sexual fantasies fairly in-depth. If you haven't realized that women LOVE being dominated sexually by a passionate, powerful, inseminating beast of a man, that read should help change your views.

Chase

Anonymous's picture

Hey Chase,

This was a great article, I've read several of the posts on girlschase.com and my confidence in my game has improved so thank-you. However concerning the date template, I live in a religiously rigid house so I am not at liberty to bring girls home. How do you suggest I can get intimate at the location of the date. And if so could you give an example/model?

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Chase Amante's picture

Anon-

Sure - you have a number of options on where to take things from there if you're willing to think a little creatively. See these articles for more examples than you can shake a stick at:

Chase

V's picture

Hey chase, I have two questions.

1. My penis is not sensitive at all when I have sex. I've stopped masturbating for a few days, how much do I have to go to get my sensitivity back, what are all the ways I can get my sensitivity back to my penis so I can cum during vaginal sex and oral without having to wack off when im done?

2. When you're doing adapted missionary, are you going really hard into the vagina? Like pounding it? and how fast are you stroking?

Thank you!!!

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Chase Amante's picture

V-

Quit masturbating, as it acclimates you to a different kind of stimulation. Once you've stopped manually stimulating and you're exclusively having sex, you'll find you quickly become much more sensitive to the experience.

However, if you're still having problems after a while and you're using a condom, try changing models or brands - something thin and lubricated works well, and there are some designs with ribbing that are supposed to give additional stimulation (I've never noticed much of a difference with these, personally).

As far as the thrusting itself - thrust hard; imagine you're pushing her pelvis as deep into the bed as you can with every thrust. And for me, I find that a thrust speed of one thrust per second is about the tempo I can go at without tiring myself out but also keeping things moving at a pretty steady pace.

Chase

Satti's picture

Hey Chase

Another article that's spot on. There's a girl that I work with who has the traits EXACTLY like the ones you have described here who I think likes me. Always seeking attention, talking about her life, talking about how everyone praises her, blah blah blah. I am the opposite - like the "normal" women you described but...as a man

We been working together now for six months. In the beginning, she was always looking at me, had positive body language and laughing at my jokes so I thought she liked me. Even an "experienced" colleague said that she liked me at the time. But I realised she was doing similar things with others and seeking their attention as well and she got off me after a few weeks. Furthermore, she was dating someone else and had an ex - boyfriend issue.

Now, she seems to be really on me...she laughs at literally everything I say (even if it don't make sense), telling me she misses me and loves me. I know when girls mean this in a friendly way coz I get a lot of that but this seems to me that is interested.

However, I have a suspicion that she may be trying to make another colleague jealous (tall, charming, suave fella...). Not sure if she using me for mind games on him if you know what I mean?

Furthermore, because we work together, if things don't go according to her way (coz I am quite stubborn), Im not sure if she will take it personal and bring that into the workplace and cause problems.

Aaaaand finally...I find her behaviour really annoying because she is trying far too hard to be liked by others and I actually feel embarrassed for her...

Just wanted to know your thoughts on this...

Kind regards
Satti

Squackle's picture

One type of "crazy" person is decidedly not "wild", but the motivation is very much the same as the dramatic out-of-control person/unpredictable person. Though on the surface they would act very predictable, I would not call them "normal" as in normal in the sense of being well adjusted and easy-going about life. Though these harshly rigid people would seem the polar opposite of these "wild" "crazies" they really are not the opposite at all.

Crazy person type: The authoritarian

And though the type I've named might seem "unrelated" to this example, your example, my addition only validates the greater principle you discuss here:

"Again, gossip is an attempt to make sense of an insane world with impossible-to-understand people; where a normal girl has a mental model in place that allows her to make rapid sense of people's actions (and thus, finds them largely uninteresting as conversation topics), a crazy girl is never able to attain full understanding of why people do what they do, and these things are always shocks and surprises."

It's not just only that they're "being" controlling or jealous or whatever, but why. And it manifests in other ways even when they're not doing those things. Even when their "love" isn't obsessive, and even in areas of their life unrelated to their "love life" per se.

That principle, not being able to understand or find their very own idea of order is at the heart of this principle.

These people, authoritarians, are people who because they could not make their own sense of things, latched onto what people they trusted told them.
They actually get upset when you do something differently than "the way" they were shown, especially if the "wrong" way you do just whatever....works.

After you having shrugged off their remark to the effect of "Why do you do it that way? Don't you know you're doing it wrong?"
You can see it in their faces when what you did works just fine for you. You can see their internal mental breakdown (NO! This can't be!)

They are not ready to accept it, but it's because their answers are not their own answers, but hand-me-down answers that they took on faith, because of their own very weak ability to observe their own sense of order from life.

These people do give themselves away: they are the ones that will "point out" an "error" in someone accent or fashion, while with them in a restaurant or just walking down a street.....

The relevancy is, you do not want a partner who will nag you down the road. You do not want to even have to explain "My way works too.".

Anonymous's picture

wow...how spot on you are.

i am one of those crazy girls (i was actually unaware until recently) and you just described me to a T...at least pretty close.

i've been doing a little soul searching ever since my most recent ex dumped me after accusing me of "using him" and my ex before him dumped me for being a "selfish bitch". let's suffice it say i've gotten the cops called on me twice for 2 different fights i've had with 2 different boyfriends, and only one of them was one that just recently dumped me. i had no idea how i seemed to them...

everything you said about intense emotions, being extremely charismatic/sociable, and constant new interests really hit the nail on the head. i totally applaud you! this guy's got some good stuff!

i don't think i'll ever be completely non-crazy though (it's too much fun :)...but maybe i can work my way into an acceptable area...

grown up and crazy's picture

Heres the problem... My boyfriend is just as much the crazy girl as i... Do we have a chance in hell?

Anonymous's picture

Nice article,

It's funny, I'm a normal girl with a touch of crazy (because we are all crazy, right?). Of course at the age of 35 I was just recently diagnosed with ADHD. I thought I understood what that was really but I didn't until now. I actually think most people don't understand it nor do they know how it manifests with girls/women differently than with guys. It's something quite honestly over-diagnosed and yet completely under-diagnosed as well. Quite a lot of what you have listed under crazy could be ADHD.

Anonymous's picture

First, this article was excellent. Much better than I was expecting from an internet site.

Second, since I read this article too late and find myself in a relationship with a out-on-the-edge-of-the-spectrum crazy girl, and recommendations on how to end it? I've seen what she's done to past ex-boyfriends and it's brutal -- she really savages them with lies and emails to all their mutual friends about what scum they are. Really evil things too, like false allegations of physical abuse or criminality. It took me awhile before I realized all these claims were nonsense. Nevertheless, I don't want this to happen to me.

Keep up the good work, I plan to expore the rest of the site now.

TruthTeller's picture

And too many Drama Queens as well.

Happyhoop's picture

This is a genius, well written and non judgmental piece on us crazy gals. Love it! Id never wish to be normal . im more beautiful, interesting, intelligent and successful than boring "normal " women. Im an escort and great at it. I love the unpredictability of it and i think normal women are idiots for trusting men. Men are whores! May as well bank on it! loved this kiss kiss (but i don't kiss for free) lol

TellingTheRealTruth's picture

It is very sad that Most of the time i unfortunately do meet these kind of women which is very scary since they're Everywhere nowadays.

happyhoop's picture

Well men have always been cheaters and psychopaths. Im glad alot of us are doing it back. Being good to men never paid off. They're only good for sex and money.

Angie's picture

I read your article and agree with most of it apart from the section on gossip - I honestly think you'll find that most women find the reasons behind why people do the things they do fascinating and love gossip. They love dramatic television shows, soap operas and books, and they are geared to talk about emotions. You might find a few women in STEM jobs who have a touch of Aspergers who don't like gossiping but I think you'll find that they are in fact the minority :)

animalguy's picture

Hi Chase. I read the article and half way through I almost stopped because I was getting upset. All these signs that you talk about apply to me as well minus the gossip and social charisma. I'm unstable in my interests, friends, and many other things. I get bored easily and don't stick to one thing. I find things to be unpredictable as well.

What should I do about this?

Ren's picture

I find this article to be very dehumanizing because there are so many generalizations. Not to say that you didn’t state some examples of crazy, but this article almost makes it seem as if a woman shouldn’t have any flaws at all. Not all men are perfect and are very damaged themselves.

You say that a woman shouldn’t be so much into self help, yet the men reading this are seeking your advice? I also find it quite heartless to judge someone who comes from a broken home. People are not their parents and family members. People should not be discarded like pieces of trash because they suffered from a bad upbringing only to be further punished by the double standards that men create to gaslight women.

So, men can be great at sex and if a woman is hot in the sack then she’s a wacko. That is the most disgusting, disturbing thing I’ve ever heard. It’s like you’re saying that if a woman gives an outstanding blowjob, then she’s probably a trash bag and how dare a woman enjoy sex so much. Because it’s only 2018 and women are still not allowed to enjoy sex without being called crazy.

You don’t state any concern about whether or not these women have a good heart or not. There are very troubled women with hearts of gold and many goody two shoes that are catty, selfish and think the world revolves around them because they only slept with 1.3 men.

If you really want to help men, perhaps you should teach them to look at their own faults instead of judging women. Do they plan on being loyal to a woman? Will they care for her and show deep concern? Will they be affectionate toward her? Will they treat their women like a lady? Will they gawk at other women in their presence? Will he respect her? So many men want a great woman, but they are very far from great themselves.

crazyhooker's picture

Well said! Frankly we live in a sexist culture regardless of an individuals mental health and I wonder just how much this pervasive sexism and crappy boyfriends/husbands actually influences a womans mental state. I admit, I had a terrible childhood and am kinda nutty. Im angry, impulsive, have drunken tantrums if I dont get my way, despise men and relationships with them etc. But I can tell you my problems were caused in great part by men. Abusive stepfather, pedophile father, grew up and still wasnt so bad but then experienced so many user men that think you are a sexual object, cheaters, both got cheated on AND many men wanting to cheat on their wives with me. Many stare at me in front of wife. The one boyfriend I had that seemed very good, broke up with me just because his parents did not like me, because I had a child. If he loved me why did he so easily give up? After all my experiences Ive concluded that men do not love, its all a sexist tradition used to entrap women. Men have made me crazy, so now I feel no guilt if I tantrum or ruin their reputations. Most are so full of shit, thats whats enraging. They expect you to put up with all their shit and if you dont you are crazy, like you said they want a good, perfect lady when they themselves are bad partners. I am crazy because men are stupid and misogynists, this is how I will be.

Mason's picture

Hey Chase, I've been a reader of your stuff for years (literally since I was a teenager), and I have to say that your stuff has done so much for improving myself overall as a person. I do have a conundrum though that I don't tthink you've covered before, but has been giving me hella trouble over the last year.
I've had several instances where girls I was once in a relationship with go CRAZY when I end things with them and go full blown cling mode on me. When I ended things with them, I did my best to do it in the right way, but they still insist on contacting me all the time and generally just draining my time and my energy. How do you deal with this kind of situation in the best way possible? Obviously I don't want to hurt them, but I need to move on as well.
Thanks in advance!
Mason

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