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Tactics Tuesdays: The 3-Minute Rule

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3-minute rule
Use the 3-minute rule before you approach a girl. If someone will disrupt you or pull her away in the first 3 minutes of conversation, don't approach her (yet).

A little while back, we covered the 3-second rule. The 3-second rule is a tactic you can use to get yourself to approach women before you lose your nerve. It's a useful rule. You won't always use it, but if you struggle with approach anxiety, it should be your default.

Today we'll talk about a different tactic called the 3-Minute Rule. Although it sounds the same, this is a different rule with a different purpose. The 3-second rule's purpose is to get you to approach. The 3-minute rule is to focus your approaches and get you to avoid time-wasters... so you can zero in on worthwhile women.

As you use this rule more, you'll find your approaches succeed more. Early pickup wildcards will bother you less. And meeting women will grow more relaxed and easier.

Chase AmanteAbout the Author: Chase Amante

Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone. So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating. After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website. He will teach you everything he knows about girls in one single program in his One Date System.

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Z@chkk's picture

How do I get a solid number from a girl that is walking to her class but is not in any of my classes at my college? I can go up and start a conversation Im just not sure how to ask her out without it seeming rushed do to the time constraints of this particular approach.

Also what do I do if a girl calls me out or gives me shit for using the bored look?

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Zack-

Try the two-minute number close for your "girl in a hurry on the street" approaches. Can work well.

As for girls calling you out on the bored look... just hold it. Like so:

GIRL: Where'd you buy that jacket, the Salvation Army?

YOU: [bored look]

HER: Don't make faces at me!

YOU: [maintain bored look]

HER: Can you knock that off?

YOU: [continue to hold]

HER: Fine, whatever!

The bored look puts social pressure on another person.

If she's reacting in socially awkward ways (such as by criticizing your bored look, instead of by begging for forgiveness for her earlier faux pas), just keep it plastered onto your face.

The longer it's on there, the more pressure on her to crack.

Chase

JP's picture

Really enjoyed this but for me the 3 second rule is gold! And is a philosophy I have based my whole game on. As they say, speed kills, and reading this made me recall tons of bad memories of hesitation and consequent rejection. My best approach especially in the bar/club game is to do 'laps' by myself. Literally walk around the club, let's say to another floor, or the smoking area which encourages as many interactions as possible. As these environments are so chaotic, you are likely to encounter some interaction whether it be eye contact, or something else like a girl grabbing you, or something as exciting especially If you are in good shape and showing off your physique. This works a treat every time! 

I don't think the 3 minute rule would work for me personally but I think it's definitely great advice for some, especially the more reserved / analytical type. 

Joshua Palmer - Personal Trainer, Fitness Competitor & Online Coach!

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JP-

My best approach especially in the bar/club game is to do 'laps' by myself. Literally walk around the club, let's say to another floor, or the smoking area which encourages as many interactions as possible. As these environments are so chaotic, you are likely to encounter some interaction whether it be eye contact, or something else like a girl grabbing you, or something as exciting especially If you are in good shape and showing off your physique. This works a treat every time!

Laps are great!

They should be mandatory any time you enter a new venue. There's so much you can miss if you don't scout the place out first: best places to move a girl to once you're ready to isolate, best spots to meet girls just milling about, best places to retreat to if you need a break from the action away from most folks' eyes.

Very useful to circulate regularly through the venue to see who's moved and what opportunities opened up in different parts of the venue.

Chase

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