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How to Build a Harem, Pt 10: When MLTRs Ask About Your Other Women

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When MLTRs Ask About Your Other Women
It’s generally a bad idea to let MLTRs meet or know details about your other women. But what do you do when they persist in questioning you about them?

Welcome back to the Harem series!

If you’d like to recap, here’s a full list of articles in the Harem Series so far (in order):

  1. Queen Theory
  2. Jealousy and Discretion
  3. Compartments and Precedent
  4. Tiers of Girlfriends and a Man's Capacity
  5. Phases of Non-Monogamous Relationships
  6. The Talk
  7. The Ethics of Non-Transparency
  8. Non-Monogamy and Revolving Doors
  9. What Happens When Your MLTRs Meet?

In Part 9, I covered a real-life example of what happened when I brought three of my multiple long-term relationship (MLTR) girlfriends to the same event with me – long story short, it wasn’t a good experience. Even though I felt like a King having all of my girlfriends with me, and even though my pre-selection rose sky high at the event, it caused unnecessary complications and drama with every woman involved, including one that stopped seeing me altogether.

One of our goals with having a harem is to date multiple women with as little drama and management as possible. As you can surmise from my articles in the Harem series, managing your harem and your women is a process in itself – you’ve got to constantly keep tabs on your women and manage them in the context of your system.

While the harem system is not a good fit for the lazy person (it’s much better for the active hedonist), the payoff is equally great when you’re getting love, attention, devotion – and sex – from several women a week, plus opportunities to sleep with new women when you meet them down the road.

For everything to work correctly, we must minimize the drama and anything that might cause it – both for your sanity as you run the system, and also for the women themselves. Our goal is to keep the women we like who are low drama in the system for as long as we can through excellent management. By doing so, you get to have an abundance of women to spend time with every week so you can focus on other things besides game and pickup.

Anyway, women being women, they will still question you and test you about this, especially when they want to see where you stand.

Varoon RajahAbout the Author: Varoon Rajah

A New York City native, Varoon’s studied under many of the seduction industry’s leading instructors. His specialty is direct day game, where he meets girls on the street, on the subway, and in coffee shops. Varoon is the host for the Girls Chase Podcast, available on iTunes or via SoundCloud.



Lawliet's picture

Hey Varoon,

I've been following the interview series and always found you have such a suave low voice. How was your process  in training that voice from when you first began to finalizing that tone?

Re: regarding the series...

Thanks for posting this series. I thought Chase didn't want to post how to run a MLTR guide to avoid men going on rampage and hurting women, did you get the thumbs up? ;) Either way, I'm super glad you did. More reason for me to study it thrice as much to make sure I don't do what Chase didn't want us to do - hurt women. 


Varoon Rajah's picture

Thanks man! Glad you're enjoying the series. Part of why I started writing this series and am sharing the methods is to show guys out there how to do it without hurting women - and most of that is about setting the right frames and expectations so that she knows what she's getting into, then letting her be the one to walk into the door and stay there for as long as she wants, if she so chooses.

Regarding voice, I never used to have a low voice - it was rather high pitched and nasaly. But after reading the GirlsChase book, I started to recognize it and focus on making it deeper. It was mainly a matter of daily practice and making it a conscious effort to keep practicing it. Always practice making your voice as deep as you can make it go, and learn to speak from your diaphragm instead of from your mouth or upper chest - that is honestly the main thing. I also recommend a product by David Riker called the Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course - it's based on tools taught by Ross Jeffries, from long ago.


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