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Absolute Abundance

“Abundance Mentality” is something that’s frequently prescribed as an answer to men’s neediness issues: approach anxiety, having a “weird” or “awkward” vibe, escalation hesitation, failure to invite women home. Anything where a guy comes off as hesitant or is nervous about achieving a certain outcome.

Men who know there are women everywhere, and know they can get women whenever they want, goes the thinking, won’t worry about it.

But in fact, a standard abundance mentality will only get you halfway there.

Chase AmanteAbout the Author: Chase Amante

Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone. So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating. After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website. He will teach you everything he knows about girls in one single program in his Mastery Package.


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Lau'Ren'Tay's picture

Aye! Chase, that is a pretty gravy article. Especially now that I comprehend it a lot better now. Than when I read it 3 and half months ago. I'm starting to ameliorate my mind set with abundance of women, every time I approach with success or getting blown off ha. It inspires me as usually; with the rest of your articles. To visualize myself of the person I want to be. In 10 years of making my dream happen. Lately I've been slacking in the vicinity of going out more. I have to drive 60 to 75 miles to heavily populated cities in OK. Which I've been making excuses for saving gas. But it's bad excuse, and i'm only hurting my progress. Anyway this a smashing article; and I'm glad I went back ,and read it.

Lau'Ren'Tay Walker

Chase Amante's picture

Hi Lau'Ren'Tay! Damn, yeah I know, you've got a hell of a drive to go talk to some girls. I remember I used to have to walk 30 minutes to go hit the bars and clubs in college, and I'd have to take an hour-long train ride to get to the clubs in Washington, DC. By the time I got there, there was no turning back, and I knew I'd better make all the time I'd put into getting there worth it!

I don't know if you've been scheduling your outings, but I think that's something that's just vital when you're trying to get on a roll. It's a great inertia-fighter when you know you're scheduled to go out and where you're going to go; then you don't have an excuse. It's especially necessary when it takes a long time to get out there and you haven't been doing this as long and don't have all the positive experiences and great memories to look back on and encourage you that a guy who's been at it for a while and built up his history of successes has.

Scheduling it in and sticking to the schedule is one of the best ways to get yourself doing it, early on. Don't think I would've made it past a couple of months if I hadn't done that; it can be hard when you're new! Just got to fight through it and stay consistent, and eventually you start making it work and then you want to go out. Work first, money later.


Lau'Ren'Tay's picture

Chase thank you for your words of wisdom. No I haven't really scheduled my outings. I do cold approach on my college days on Tues/Thursdays. Then after that it's random, and i'm thinking"Do I want to cold approach today; or save gas money". But thanks to you, i'm going start my schedule and do 5 - 6 days a week. See how it effects my money reserve. I usually go to the malls, and I need to start going back to this bar on Thursday that's 18+. Since I've made some improvements, but I can't get in 21+ bars or clubs yet.

But I notice when I take 1 day off, I can't approach any girls and it's mind wrecking at times. So I have to build up momentum, positive exp, success,etc all over again. The days I feel quitting, I tell myself " Use your adversity as strength,try again tomorrow, and don't give up. It's the easiest thing in the world to do.

Lau'Ren'Tay Walker

Anonymous's picture

This is one of the best articles I have read on women and having that abunance mentality. I don't usually write comments - but had to on this occasion. I've been in a position of being single for many years now, purely because I'm unwilling to 'settle' and partly due to unreinforced abundance mentality. Everything I've learnt about women over my 35 years has resonated here. Well done! These are life learnt skills and not many are brave enough to take on the challenge. Finding a high quality woman is a problem for me becase I don't frequent the right places and don't reinforce the abundance mentality.
Great work!

lucifer7's picture


What you're saying in the last paragraph about settling is OK, but it's a little bit mean towards people who actually think that settling is OK.

Truth is, we don't have unlimited amount of time. I'd like to grow muscles of a Stallone, become a CEO, being a perfect driver, swim like a dolphin etc. etc... But I can't, so I see what is most important for me and for the rest... I settle.

A cute party girl can be OK for some and if that's OK for them... I wish them to find a nice one :).

Just had to say this because most of the times I agree with what you say, fantastic website here!

Anonymous's picture

I just stumbled onto this web site/blog this evening. I have found most of the writing entertaining, but I am still taking it all with a grain of salt.

Having said that, I find this particular article compelling. I have known two people who lived with an unshakable sense of "absolute abundance." They scored at will, like Michael Jordan making an uncontested lay-up.

The first was a roommate of mine back in the mid-80's, before the HIV/AIDS epidemic, when philandering was a bit less perilous. I remember he had a New Year's Resolution in 1985 to have sex with four different women per week. Now I am not suggesting by writing this that I would ever approve of a goal like that, but it was his. The point is that he kept it for the first four or five months before settling down to just one girl. It was like an unbroken conga-line of hotties leading to his room.

Keep in mind that my roommate was about 5' 6", plain-looking, a bit paunchy, not particularly bright, and pretty much broke. He would head to the local meat-market dance club and just survey the crowd. I don't even recall him approaching women--generally, they just saw him gazing into the dance floor with that knowing smirk of his and approach HIM.

Even back then, I realized that his calm self-confidence was the ONLY attractive factor leading to his success. He looked at every girl with the same stare that, without words, clearly conveyed his proposal: "I want you. Let's get together. But hurry up and make your decision, baby, because the line is forming behind you."

The other guy was even less attractive--acne, skinny, greasy hair,beyond broke. He was bright, though, so his banter was better. But what really worked was his unassailable self-confidence. He was NEVER without a girlfriend unless he wanted to be. And when he saw an attractive girl, he would walk right up to her, start a conversation, and leave with her number. Every time.

After reading this article, I now understand that it isn't "unshakable self-confidence" in EVERY ASPECT of a man's life that matters, just the certainty of "absolute abundance." This philosophy fits 100% with my own observations.

Well done.

John Fornaro's picture


I'm slowly re-entering the dating scene. For many personal reasons, my "starter" marriage of 29 years is ending amicably. I have been practicing on my social skills, developing my brand, and assessing (finally) who I want to be when I grow up. I'm 62. Better late than never, eh?

I'm pleased that I have been doing many of the things you've mentioned in your articles; it's been gratifying to discover your confirmation.

Thank you very much!


Aykan Bozkurt's picture

After applying your advice, I found myself in a relationship with a great girl. She is good looking, great career, caring and conservative.

However I still have the itch to approach a lot and meet different women. However it takes a lot of time and emotional energy, I'm worried it will affect my relationship, and I may possibly not did one as good as her.....

I Don't know what to do. The drive to approach is there, but this girl is pretty awesome and quality GF material.

Should I just do both? Approach every day and maintain the relationship until I get absolute abundance? Sounds quite exhausting but doable....

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