Can an Average Guy Get Women? The Harsh Truth (And How to Stop Being Average)

Most average men fail with women—but you don’t have to. Here’s why ‘average’ kills attraction and how to rise above it.

Hey guys. Welcome back.

Occasionally, I participate in online conversations about pickup. Sometimes, beginners ask me basic questions. I typically don’t identify as a coach for beginners, nor do I promote my coaching services to this group. Most of my content is for intermediate and advanced guys. I often find beginning techniques to be dull and repetitive. However, there are times when I feel compelled to answer questions from beginners.

I’ve recently received a familiar question that has been covered extensively in the past. But considering I’ve been discussing more complex sex talk topics lately, I thought why not take a break and write about something more easygoing? Considering the question I am about to answer is one that rarely catches my attention and that I don’t usually bother to think about, you may find this a good review when reading the answer to a perhaps familiar question by a guy who rarely discusses it.

Can an average guy succeed with women?

After all, somehow average guys (and below) get girlfriends. So it must be doable, right?

I usually ignore this question because it is irrelevant to me. It has no direct effect on your skills. Learning theories and applying the techniques is what truly matters. This may be because I am advanced and am taking a more arrogant and dismissive perspective. Well, not today, my friend.

The quick answer to the question is:

No. Average men cannot succeed with women.

So, are you doomed as a beginner? Well, not exactly. The real question is, are you truly average? See what I did there? I reframed the question, and you should learn this too.