I am an underwhelming 5 feet 9 inches tall. In the US and the UK, this is about four inches under the ideal height for a guy. I have girls tell me that I am too short, yet they still ended up coming home with me that night.

When you begin your journey dating as a short guy, you want to stack the odds in your favor. It’s easy to get disheartened and lose steam, and that’s why I have come up with this framework for shorter guys to game more efficiently at the beginning of their journey, so they can build their core confidence and have a long career of picking up women.
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Haha...
Funny, just hooked up with a girl who's 5'11 (I'm 5'8) hahaa it's jarring how much of these insecurities are just mental masturbation, when in reality it doesn't matter as much as you think it does. As long as your fundamentals are sharp, and you train your head to be in the right place, there's not much that can stop you from letting girls, unless you let it.
Stay alpha,
Ned
It's All About Staying in the Moment
Exactly! It's all about pushing through the mental bull shit and allowing yourself to get some. I have so many friends who let this hold them back and they always try to write off other peoples success as some sort of fluke. Thanks for reading bruh!
-Gupta
I used to have this
I used to have this insecurity. I'm 5'8''. I would always here woman say they liked tall guys and blah blah. What I found was that the taller woman (over 5'8 ) actually cared less about height than the short woman (under 5'5). A lot of taller woman have the opposite insecurity. They feel too tall. Especially if they grew up being the 'tall girl' amongst their peers. Also what helped me...a lot of celebrity men are short and date/marry taller woman. It's actually pretty common. If they can do it so can you. So to all the short guys....Don't worry about your height.
The Girl That Was
The girl that was the catalysts to my height insecurity was like 5'2.
"Will, your just a little bit too short for me."
After she said that it felt like the whole world grew six inches. I like the celebrity note, I have noticed that as well. Mark Wahlberg, Tom Cruise, all had their fair share of tall women. Thanks for posting
-Gupta
Many people will say that's
Many people will say that's only because they are wealthy and famous but here's a thing people rarely consider. These guys are in social circles where there are many other rich and famous men some of which are taller and just as good looking and the women they date would probably have some of those men after them but yet they still chose the shorter guy.
Another thing as well is that
Another thing as well is that the women these guys are dating are also rich and famous so they don't need a man for money or status as they have plenty of their own possibly just as much as these famous men they're dating have in some cases even more.
height
You're 5'9 and you consider yourself short? I think you're average height dude, at least in the U.S. I'm 5'5. I used to wear shoe insoles to make myself taller but I gave that up because I felt "fake." I just embrace my height. I agree that women only say youre short as a shit test to see if youre comfortable with yourself. I find that girls 5'3 and up don't care that much about height. It's the really short girls 5'2 and under that are adamant about being with a tall guy. (I guess they feel vulnerable and want to be protected.) Almost like having a second dad. Anyway, I also agree with the Napoleon complex thing, I have a close friend that is cool but snaps anytime he feels even slightly insulted. It's like "chill dude." Btw, napoleon is not really a good comparison. He was actually 5'6, that was taller than the average Frenchman at the time!
All Subjective
5'9 is technically average height but it's still short enough to where girls point out that I'm not six foot. At the end of the day we are talking about a mentality and not so much reality. Great job on embracing your height!
The girl who was the catalysts to me having insecurities about being short was 5'2.
"Will, your just a little bit too short for me."
I used Napoleon for clarity sake. Had I pointed out some other military leader the article would not have flowed as well. Thanks for the posts man! Keep up the good work.
-Gupta
Interesting.
Interesting.
I'm 5'6 and used to approach a ton at clubs (I don't go to clubs anymore). I've never had a girl make a comment about my height before.
I've only ever had 2 girls that made comments to my friends (usually, it was something along the line of "He's cute, but really short") and I ended up briefly dating both of them.
I wonder why you get comments and I don't. Maybe because you're close to 6'0 and I'm so far from it that it's just too obvious to even mention? Lol
And get some muscles...
If you are short, then make sure you build your biceps and triceps... it makes you more attractive... you can lag behind on your chest and lower body workouts BUT your arm (triceps and biceps) are very important...
Having a good body helps!
Try to have a complete pack though!
@tayoisrich yeah man that's
@tayoisrich
yeah man that's true I always attract woman for my body
sometimes we end up in bed ..she like the way my chest feels....
Dancing
You mention taking dance classes; but for what type of dance? What dance type is best for night game for a short guy?
Latin Dancing or Basic Hip Hop
These two styles of dancing are the easiest to apply to night club venues. But any dance classes will help you lead better.
-Gupta
hey
Hello Gupta
at 5'5" I find it near impossible to get anywhere with women. After coaching and improving in all areas results still terrible. Going out constantly past 2 years Ive seen what gets results and what guys get somewhere with women. From what Ive seen no amount of "game" or confidence can compensate for not being attractive. Height is most attractive feature of a man. It doesn't matter what you think about yourself the world will still judge you. Ive become very discouraged and have stopped trying all together. It just seems like a total waste of time. Im not using my height as an excuse. Just go out anywhere in public then explain to me how a short guy can ever get a quality women. you can't because you don't see it. any advice
I have a buddy
who is 5'5 and for the longest he would out pull me with women. Take my advice, start doing day game, get some boots, dress older and don't allow yourself to use the fact that you are 5'5 as an excuse. There have been other people who have done it. Make a promise today that for one year you will take full responsibility for everything that happens in your life and see how far that will take you.
Right now I'm in Malaysia and one of my cousins who is model beautiful is dating a guy who is around 5'5-5'6, she is 5'7. It isn't impossible you just need to put in the effort in figuring it out. That includes changing your mentality.
-Gupta
I am 5'6. But honestly i get
I am 5'6. But honestly i get lot of attention from girls. I just focus on girls around my height or smaller. Get your fundamentels done and start. Its no big deal unless u make it a big deal. Yes being taller makes it easier to attract woman but that doesnt mean its not possible when you are short. My best advice would be: dont listen to what woman say just focus on what they do. My friend likes really slim girls thats what he always says. And now his girlfriend is kinda chubby. Its no different with woman. I even had a girlfriend telling me "i would never date you" she asked me out a few months later her former boyfriend was 6'5...
So Much Value in this comment!
Thank you for posting this man! It's all about the fundamentals. Hopefully, this can help our friend.
-Gupta
I had no clue I was even
I had no clue I was even considered short until I read this article haha! I'm 5'9 and have had my fair share of women. I thought I was above average lol
My Roomate Keeps Taking Girls Away From Me
So...
I'm in college right now and i would consider myself a very nice guy to girls and i think that being like that is my problem. My roomate is like 6 feet tall and he keeps taking all the girls that i talk to away from me and they go to him 10 times easier than they go to me...
What should i do??? This is really damaging my confidence...
His Height isn't the Reason
Be more dominant.
His height isn't the reason for his success, he is being more assertive than you when it matters which is allowing him to bed more women.
Be more physical with the girls.
If you see them gravitating towards him, grab their hand and "Show them something" in a different part of the room.
Read my post on jealousy so you get your frame under control.
http://www.girlschase.com/content/how-get-rid-jealousy-mostly
Hope this helps
Crap, who defined the ideal
Crap, who defined the ideal height? Most females say they never mind guys heights as far as the guys are taller than the females.
Not written in Stone
This changes from country to country but a lot of the hottest girls will say that they don't want to date a guy under six feet tall. This has nothing to do with actual attraction and more to do with image and status. 6 feet tall is a height benchmark. If you want evidence scroll through some dating profiles of the most desirable chicks and they will have a height stipulation.
But I wouldn't worry about it, take the advice above and you should be in good shape.
I agree with the age thing,
I agree with the age thing, but I don't think that's bad at all.
I'm 5'6 and lived in a college town for a while. I was 26 and pulling 18 year olds for a while because they legitimately believed that I was 19-20.
Hell, at almost 30, I still get girls in their early 20s (or older women that are looking for much younger guys).
I could easily see myself getting married to a girl 10+ years younger than me (in the future) without issue. I doubt most tall guys could pull this off.
Man, the artcile make sense,
Man, the artcile make sense, but you can't speak for short guys experience, you're not short at all..
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