Tao is the Eastern philosophy of emptying one’s cup. It has a lot
to teach about seduction… Namely, about domination of seduction, vs.
submission to it.
Editor’s Note: this is our first post from
Michael Chief, a long-time veteran of the seduction community. Michael
kicks off today with an inner game focus, about the Tao of seduction.
Please let us know if you enjoy inner game oriented articles like this
in the comments below the article, and if so we’ll try to do more of
them. –CA
Every seducer worth his mettle knows that great Casanova quote:
“I
don’t conquer, I submit.”
We know that the true power of seduction is to submit to the
higher
power of nature within us as opposed to trying to control nature with
our own will. But that somehow paradoxically gives us greater seductive
abilities, or so it seems.
Seduction is full of paradoxes like this, such as the
ever-famous
paradox of desire: the more we want something, the more difficult it is
to obtain, and the less we want something, the easier it is to obtain.
In pick-up, we translate this to mean that neediness is unattractive
and that women are more attracted to us when we practice non-attachment
and are genuinely not needy.
While such paradoxes can often prove to be challenging to
understand, let alone understandable enough for us to use them to guide
our lives, there is an ancient philosophy that gives us a tool to help
us in our quest to become the best seducers and lovers we can possibly
be.
That ancient philosophy is called Taoism, and the tool is called
Wu
Wei.
There’s a habit among guys who like to frequent nightclubs.
And in fact, sometimes it catches on among guys who aren’t normal nightclub patrons too.
That’s the habit of regularly taking one’s girlfriend out to the
club.
It’s a strange phenomenon, when you think about it. Nightclubs are
primarily places for single people to go dance, talk, and hook up.
They’re sexually charged environments that serve as platforms for mate
selection and mate competition. Why would an attached man bring his
girlfriend here?
A variety of justifications exist for taking a girlfriend to a
nightclub:
To inject excitement into the relationship
To provide cover for your own clubbing without her
To demonstrate how secure you feel in the relationship
Because you think she wants or needs this
Because you work in a nightclub
This article applies to parties too, to a lesser extent. It’ll
apply to lounges, and some dance and popular bars as well, though not
as much to dive bars that are more laid back and aren’t meet markets.
Anywhere you take a girl with drinking
and people hitting on each other
a lot falls under the purview of this article, in essence.
If it’s a place people aren’t as sexy and no one’s flirting with or
hitting on anyone else, you can safely leave it out of consideration
for the purposes of this article.
So today, I’m going to talk to you about why taking your girlfriend
to meet markets is bad and why you shouldn’t
do it. Or at least, I’m going to give you the downsides to be aware of
– that way, should you choose to take girls to these places anyway, you
know the risks going in.
Picking up girls online works different from meeting them in real life. From how you frame yourself to when to seed the date, it’s another game.
If you’ve been reading Girls Chase for a while, you’ll have noticed
a lot of articles by Chase and other contributors talking about online
pick-up: message writing, Facebook pick-up, Tinder, Plenty of Fish, and
broad online dating related topics such as profile pictures and other
details.
However, every day we see new websites, dating apps, and new social
networking apps; we also see old apps/websites getting new features.
All this impacts online pick-up, and
sometimes it’s hard to adapt in
stride with the growth of these platforms. Luckily, even though
the
tech evolution has changed the medium of dating, the principles of
seduction remain the same!
In this article, using an extremely pragmatic approach, I’m going to
cover what it means to use online pick-up. We’ll go over some basic
concepts that don’t change over time. Then we’ll analyze four
guidelines that you should always keep in mind during your online
approaches and see how we can adapt this to the tech evolution.
To tie it all together, we’ll show you how to formulate a proper
process for your online pickup.
Finally, I’ll share a word about the worthiness of doing online
approaches, even if I end up writing a whole article about the
relationship between the seducer’s role and technology.
"Hey dude, nice hair! Did you cut that yourself? Ha ha ha!"
"Hey man, can you move over? You're taking up too much room."
"Excuse me bro, but your girl is seriously cute. How long have you
known each other?"
Whether it's in the schoolyard, the nightclub, the public bus, or
the office, other people trying to tool you is a mondo bother. Your
threat radar should have perked up going through those lines above.
They state a guy's intentions to rain on your parade... And
whether you see him as a threat or not, you're going to have to deal
with him one way or another.
Now, note right up front: this article is not about HOW to handle
threats like this; for
that, see the articles below. In these, I've given you a full
complement of tools to dispose of challengers like this in a split:
Rather, what this article is about is what causes challengers like this to
swarm over to you.
What incites them to veer off of whatever it is they were doing, and
come approach you... Whether to feel you out, test you for weakness, or
even launch a full on social or romantic assault against you.
Because once you identify the primary reasons other people try to
tool you, you may then take steps to avoid the need to even deal with
these disruptions in the first place.
So, I present to you the seven (7)
reasons people will try to tool you... And what steps to take to
discourage them from trying.
If you don’t touch her, it’ll be awkward. Yet touch even in and
of itself is attractive in its own right.
As you guys know, I am making a series on non-verbal seduction.
I
started by covering body positioning and eye contact, and will now
cover one of the most crucial topics in non-verbal seduction – physical
escalation – which you accomplish with touch.
I know… there are a lot of posts regarding this topic here on Girls
Chase:
However, I believe pedagogically speaking, it is a good
thing to get the same material explained in different ways, with
different structure and different context.
And there will likely be a
few things in here that you have never thought of.
I will do my best to
add in some juice for you veterans, but I will also cover a few basics
in order to recap key ideas while providing a good introduction for new
readers.
Due to the importance of the subject of touching in regards to
non-verbal seduction, I have decided to make this a three-part post;
this first installment will cover more theoretical implications, while
the next will be more practical. Further down the road, I plan to cover
different ways of touching in addition to more advanced concepts, such
as the “ladder,” mutual escalation, and the use of fractionation in
touching.
Let us begin this post by explaining why physical escalation is key
– and I am sure the explanation will cover more than what you
originally anticipated.
This is our second article in the three part “How to Dress Case
Studies” series. You can check out the first part here.
If you haven’t read the first part, let me quickly remind you what
this article series is all about:
To show you how tailoring your image and dressing sexy comes to into
play in the real world, we’ve taken three guys (one for each article in
the series) with unique situations – age, physique, complexion,
climate, and their goals with women and image. And we’ll be tailoring a
few outfits they could very successfully rock in their daily lives and
when meeting women.
To protect the privacy of those who volunteered to participate in
these case studies, I’ve cut out their faces from the pictures and
designated them with one-letter nicknames.
Today’s case study is W, and he just might be the most challenging
and fascinating of them all.
Pedro Pascal’s portrayal of Oberyn Martell is unabashedly sexy. What makes his character so compelling? Fundamentals, panache, and finesse.
There are times in life when we cross paths with men – real men –
men whose very presence sparks a reaction within us: “Wow, here is a
man. I want to be just like him.”
This particular awe-inspiring male personality may differ from
person to person, but each of us have had that experience. Whether it’s
a father figure, a brother figure, a mentor, or a perfect stranger, we
hope to spend enough time around that person to absorb their traits and
learn what they know about masculinity, life, and women.
However, in a world where masculinity is becoming more demonized and
ridiculed, these men aren’t so easy to come by, and they aren’t always
in a position to teach us in a meaningful way. These days, it’s common
to be without access to powerful male role models. Sometimes all we
have to rely on are books and film. We watch a movie, a TV show, or
read a book... and into the scene strolls a man – he may be fictional,
but goddamn is he mesmerizing. So we pay attention.
We often connect more with someone on a screen or page than we do
with anyone else in real life. Personally, there are a host of
fictional characters who have played a more substantial role in my
growth as a man than most real men I’ve met. They were ideals of the
writer or creator transformed into beings worthy of emulation. And this
is nothing new. Ever since the first story was told, men have emulated
the traits of their heroes, real or fictional.
The inception of this series actually began with Giacomo Casanova.
While reading his memoirs, I thought “This guy’s story needs to be told
in a modern form.” I planned on rewriting his adventures, then deeply
analyzing his lays (which number over a hundred and include royalty) so
that GC readers wouldn’t have to work their way through the beautiful
yet difficult translations of his 17th century Italian.
When I dropped that project, however, a very similar idea came to me
– why not analyze the many men of television, cinema, literature, and
history, who are outstanding examples of power and sensuality?
Thus was born “Seduction Spotlight.” The name should speak for
itself.
I will show you in detail how these characters seduce women,
dominate their foes, and exemplify other masculine pursuits, such as
achieving one’s dreams. Through this analysis you should then be able
to truly understand how they do what they do, and, in turn, do it
yourself (adhering to the laws of your land and time, of course).
With this inaugural article, then, I will shine that spotlight on my
personal favorite, Oberyn Martell of the TV show Game of Thrones,
inspired by the Song of Fire and Ice book series written by
George R.R. Martin. Oberyn Martell is played by the actor Pedro Pascal.
Since Oberyn’s character only aired for a little under forty minutes
in the fourth season of Game of Thrones, I cover nearly all his scenes
in order to highlight his fundamentals, game, and mindsets. I’ll cite
the episodes if you want to follow along on your HBO Go, but I’ll also
provide YouTube links for each scene (some YouTube vids are censored).
Here are a pair of videos that cover every scene he’s in if you want
a
compilation:
Sometimes a girl rejects you much harsher than she needed to. If
you let it, this can ruin your night. Yet, it does not need to.
One of the things you are not going to avoid while learning success
with women is the occasional tough rejection.
Maybe she freaked out
unnecessarily.
Maybe she said something that felt like a knife shoved
in your sternum.
Either way, it sucks when a girl rejects you, especially
when it comes
out of the blue and is tactlessly delivered. But what if I were to tell
you that the water runs deep on this issue and everything is not as it
appears? What if you could completely
turn around the way you see
rejection?
When
you go out to meet girls, you may unconsciously be sabotaging your
chances without even knowing it. Men do it all the time.
Truth is, you can have fantastic looks
and be able to get the ladies insanely worked up, but there are some
simple things that can negate even the best game – things you can fix
with a little effort and rewiring.
In my first article for Girls Chase, I’d like to share a primer...
on the
biggest obstacles I see guys toss into their own paths.
5 outfits to wear this winter that make women drool: Elegant –
Edgy, Edgy, Smart – Casual, Rugged – Masculine, and Sharp.
I know dressing sexy in colder seasons is tricky, so last year I
shared with you “Men’s
Cold Weather Fashion: The A-to-Z Guide”
to help you be your best, most attractive selves during these colder
months – after all, the nights are getting longer too ;).
That guide still stands the test of time, so this year I want to cover
some specific examples of great looking outfits you could be pulling
off.
In this article, we’ll have 5 different outfits for 5 different
image archetypes: Elegant – Edgy, Edgy, Smart – Casual, Rugged –
Masculine, and Sharp.
(Don’t worry – for each outfit, I’ll explain what situations would
suit it best)
Because we have readers from all around the world, and winter in
Germany will look a lot different from Canada or California... when
building these outfits, I tried to focus around the middle ground, with
reasonable, moderate winters. If you’d like to find more tips on how
you can tailor these looks to better suit the winter where you live,
check out the Winter’s A-to-Z guide mentioned earlier.
Because this article is going to be kind of long-ish, let’s just get
straight to the outfits!
