Getting laid is a matter of putting out a sexual vibe, getting horny, and getting naked. Those things are much easier when you’re super comfortable having a penis.
Whenever I start with a new coaching client, I ask them this question:
“What do you want?”
Since most of them are incredibly nice guys, they say, “I want to improve my social skills.”
“Yeah? What else?”
“I want to be able to be comfortable in social situations, and express myself authentically.”
“Right,” I reply. “How about this question: Do you want to have sex with hot girls?”
They shift uncomfortably, avert eye contact, and eventually agree, that yes, they do; though they have a hard time actually saying it.
“How many?” I ask.
“I don’t know.”
“One? Three? One hundred? Would you like to sleep with one hundred beautiful women?”
They smile and nod. They aren’t sure. They’ve never really thought about it.
“Well,” I continue. “Let’s start with one. Would you like to sleep with one beautiful girl?”
“Yes.”
“Yes?”
“Yes!”
“By when? When do you want to get laid?”
“Ummm, when I have the confidence and…”
I cut them off. “How about today?”
“What?”
“Yeah. Would you like to shag a beautiful girl today?”
A smile spreads across their face. That wouldn’t be so bad. But usually, they’re not sure; they’re unable to say it – that they want to have hot, sweaty, pounding sex with a nymph, and not just improve their social skills.
Sexual Hangups
But these guys are still – for some reason – ashamed of their sexuality. They alter their language to be politically correct. They may truly want to “improve social skills” or “increase confidence,” but the reason they came to me is because I teach pickup. The most basic, foundational motivation for everything they want me to teach them is – so they can get laid.
Sometimes it takes getting laid a few times to truly understand that it’s perfectly natural to want to get laid. There’s no reason to feel ashamed. These guys were taught to feel shame for wanting to shag women. They were taught that women don’t like sex. But nothing could be further from the truth!
And if you identify with this article so far, it’s important to understand that your sexual hangups aren’t all your fault. One way or another, they were constantly jammed into your mind since youth – it’s what you were taught – but those hangups will fade over time as you gain more experience with women and see things the way they really are.
Many guys were brought up to think that picking up a chick and taking her to bed was akin to rape, thinking it must require intricate manipulation tactics or coercion to get a woman to have sex with you – and therefore, morally and ethically wrong. And these are nice guys who’d never consider forcing a girl into sex, so they suffer from cognitive dissonance until they find the pickup community and discover that women also crave sex and actually appreciate it when a cool guy approaches them, makes them horny, takes them home, and shags them rotten.
Then, after having their eyes opened and seeing the world of dating in a more honest light, they discover that it’s another task entirely to rid themselves of their old thinking and habits that sabotage their efforts with women.
Now, the pleasure chamber there is an extreme example, but it’s true that if you’re in a sexually-charged situation and you react by displaying sexual hangups, you turn into a buzkill really quick, and girls will take note. You don’t have to be cool with stuff like incest, of course, but you need to be cool. Bottom line, it’s not a good idea to display sexual hangups around women you want to have sex with.
A common aspect of sex-sabotaging mindsets is having treated sex as something hugely consequential (or even sacred) for one's whole life, when others see it as a completely normal reaction to a fine booty. So when they find themselves in close proximity to a girl they like (and who likes them), they get uncomfortable when they should be putting out a sexy vibe and turning her on.
Sexually-liberated women especially are turned off by men who aren’t comfortable in their own skin. That’s primarily because those women don’t just want sex – they want good sex. And when they discover that a man isn’t so comfortable with his own sexuality, they assume that man is too inexperienced or prudish to provide them with good sex. So, even if she might like hanging out with the guy platonically, why even waste time with him sexually when there are so many other options? And poof, into the friend zone he goes.
Also, in order for a woman to allow herself to have casual or quick sex, she mustn’t be made to feel like a slut (more on that below). But if a man appears to have sexual hangups, a woman may also think that guy will judge her; in which case, she’ll slam the sex door shut on that guy – do not pass go, do not collect $200... go directly to platonic jail where sex isn’t even a thing. Women behave differently around men who “get it” than they do around men who don’t.
To understand this phenomenon better, check out these articles:
- How to Get Comfortable with Female Sexuality
- 7 Reasons Why All Girls are Naughty Girls
- Social Order, Sexual Restriction, and the Secret Society
If you don’t read those articles right away, just understand that a key ingredient of attracting and having sex with hot women is portraying sexual liberation and a non-judgmental, sexy vibe. This article offers a few ways to portray that and get the ball – or balls – rolling with a girl.
Now let's start the practical part of this article with a question...
Are You Comfortable with Your Dick?
If you want to get laid fast, you need to be comfortable having a dick.
Imagine you had to do a TED talk in front of thousands of people, and the subject was your dick, and why you love having one. Could you do it?
The speech is five minutes long. You’re wearing a sumo mawashi.
I’ll be your copywriter; here’s a script:
"My dick is my best friend. I love him. But sometimes he forgets we’re friends, and treats me like a slave. He does whatever he wants! When I hold him to take a leak, sometimes the stream shoots out sideways onto the floor. I scold him but he never listens (shakes finger at dick).
“When hot girls walk by, sometimes he sucks blood from my body and engorges himself, becoming so big and hard. I don’t ask him to do this. He just does! He wants sex! He loves humping! I have no control over the big, fat bastard. He’s such a naughty guy.
“Once I was standing on a bus, and this really beautiful girl got on. I was wearing swim shorts for the beach, and he got so hard he lifted the fabric. I had nowhere to point him, and he just erected straight toward this old man’s face – embarrassing stuff.
“I got off the bus, I took him to the bathroom, gave him another scolding, slapped him around a bit. ‘I’m sorry I don’t have a girl for you,’ I told him. But I vowed I’d work on my game, so my dick would not get hard on the bus. But no matter how disobedient he is, he’s still my dick, and I love him. And now for my balls – I love my balls…”
I could do this speech in front of a crowd, mawashi and all. It would be hilarious, and I love my dick. But many men struggle with attracting women because they are ashamed of having a dick. They don’t want the girl to know – they don’t want anyone to know. Oh, the shame!
When In Doubt, Whip It Out
I spoke at a conference once, and one of the coaches stood in front of the crowd and said: “The difference between you guys and me, is that I’m totally comfortable being naked. I could take my clothes off right now.”
I think he wanted to strip for us.
To be great at pickup is to be completely comfortable being naked. Naked in body, mind, and soul. You just don’t give a damn what other people think. You have a dick, you want to use it, and you’re proud. You own that you’re a friendly lion, tiger, and bear.
I’ll ask girls I bring home, “Do you want to see it?”
Not every time; only when it feels right – or necessary – to get things moving. I’m just trying to paint an example.
“Want to Touch It?”
I’ll ask this, and then if there are no objections, I’ll take her hand and place it on my phallus. It’s usually enough to get the ball rolling.
Girls will blink a few times, smile, or giggle. If they don’t scream or run off, I’ll stand up proudly, pull down my shorts and show it to them. I point that purple bastard straight at their nose. I’ve never upset any girl by doing this when the situation called for it.
Your dick won’t be the only thing that gets blown when you try this and she wants to manage the excavation herself.
Sometimes they touch it, sometimes they suck it, or jerk it, and sometimes I just pull up my shorts and get back to cuddling. But now they’ve seen it. And now they know I’m absolutely not afraid to use it.
Sure, these may seem like crude techniques, and there are smoother ways to get things done. But I’m illustrating that if you want to get laid fast, you must demonstrate that you are comfortable with your own body and sexuality. If you’re not confident here, how could she be? How can she fully commit to expressing her sexuality if you can’t express yours? You’re supposed to be a man.
A YouTube channel called “Simple Pickup” has many examples, mostly juvenile, of not being ashamed of your dick. They talk about dicks and vaginas, dildos, and butt sex. You’ll notice most of the girls aren’t offended, because sex is normal. Everybody loves sex. They love thinking about it and doing it, too – especially women.
Sex Does Not Equate to Coercion
Pickup is not about coercion, lying, or assault. It’s just game, and charm. You don’t need to be crude or juvenile. You just need to learn to express your sexuality.
There’s no girl I brought home that didn’t know I was willing to pound her silly. Why? Because I talk about sex. I prime their minds for the idea of sex, through language, and touch.
You put out the vibe, she reacts positively, you build sexual tension, and you both dive willingly into passion. Sure, sometimes one or both of you may experience sex regret, but that’s usually due to copious alcohol consumption or because she thought you’d be fantastic in bed... but you let her down.
Sex Talk
Prime them by starting a sexual topic.
“Did you see that YouTube video of the couple having sex on top of that building?”
“Have you ever seen that channel ‘Chaturbate?’ These girls get paid so well to strip and bang themselves with remote control dildos.”
“My neighbors kept me awake all night with their banging. I could hear her head hitting the wall.”
“You’re a Scorpio? They’re the most sexual sign in the zodiac.”
“Would you rather sleep with Donald Trump to end world hunger, or pay $500 to bang Jason Momoa?”
I’ll slip in a little sexuality into my conversations, just to let her know I’m not afraid of my dick.
You aren’t fooling girls by being a sweet, nice, and respectful man. She knows you have a dick. All men do. The question is “Does he know how to use it? And if I let him, will he become a needy, controlling stalker after the deed is done?”
Anti-Slut Defense
Most women want to be treated like dirty little sluts while they worship the cock of their master. But they won’t say this. Not in public. It’s the Madonna-Whore complex. She wants to be seen as a Madonna but treated like a whore. In bed, as role play, I mean.
Madonna in the streets; whore in the sheets.
I remember this thirty-year-old brought me home from a party. At the door, she stopped and looked at me. “Look, I want you to screw me. But not like a little pussy. I want you to slam me hard, like a man. Treat me like a little whore, and I’ll invite you back again, okay?”
“Challenge accepted!”
Of course, there are sexually open, confident, and promiscuous women, as well as shy, reserved, conservative ones. But in my experience, they all want a man who is proud of his sexuality, and skilled at lovemaking. Not a shy, polite lover who’ll take seven dates to go for a kiss.
The Point of This Article
If you want to improve your social skills, get a life coach or read How to Win Friends and Influence People.
If you want to get laid fast, with sexually-open women, learn how to express your sexuality in a fun, confident way.
Make your goal to get laid, not to hold a conversation. Adjusting your goals will speed up the process of learning seduction.
The process of learning game will result in better social skills anyway.
Pick your target, aim, and fire. Not having a goal will lead to indecision, confusion, and a bunch of unsatisfied women. While you’re politely practicing your rapport-building techniques and not giving off a sexy vibe, she’s going home to get railed by Jason Momoa, screaming “Do me, Daddy! I’m your little aqua slut! Use me like I’m your sex dolphin!”
Do you struggle with sexual shame or shyness? Have a funny sex story? Let me know in the comments!
Tony
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