In the piece on how to treat a woman, a reader
shared a tale of having a wonderful date with a girl, ending it by
holding hands with her as they walked together, her talking
excitedly... only for things to fall apart and her get suddenly
uncomfortable when they arrived at his place. He then commented this:
“I am in my 40s, well-paid mid-level manager in a prestigious organization. Most of the women I meet are around 25. Even if I don't tell them what I am doing for a living, they just can tell where I stand. The problem I face quite often is "this guy is not in my league, therefore he must be just playing". Can't tease too much, must be careful to show not too high value, and sometimes the move fast approach back fires, as described above.”
Thus enters the status dynamic: the man who is sufficiently high status compared to the girl that she does not want to just sleep with him quickly and one-and-done him, but who is not so high status that he can ask for whatever he wants with her and get it.
He is, in other words, ideal husband material - or, to put it differently, a whole lot more valuable to her as a long-term prospect than a simple fling.
Something I've called, for a long time, the boyfriend dilemma.