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id=\u0022comment-10840\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/10840#comment-10840\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Mike\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Mike\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Mike\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Mike\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/10840#comment-10840\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EGreat Article.\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EMike (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Tuesday, 2 July 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/does-she-want-you-boyfriend-or-something-else\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EWoah, what a great article there Chase.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EReally love it.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI have a girl i am seeing, we went on a 4-5 dates, we made out, i stole some kisses, but i am pretty sure this girl is either still a virgin or she had 0-2 lovers in her life and she`s 19 years old.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENow i don`t mind her slotting me into the boyfriend category ( maybe she did already ) or maybe she will do, almost nothing of the above has yet to happen.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EMy question is, if she considers me a Boyfriend material and is either a virgin or 0-2 lovers, is it a good idea to MOVE FAST if she is at my place next time i take her ?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI haven`t taken her to my place yet, but the first time i do, should i move fast with intimacy or should i wait it out ?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EShe is rather conservative on sex questions, a shy girl, that i FLIRTED HEAVILY during our dates and she did too.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI have a frame i am setting up just to see her react with sex and love questions to have her say on this.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EPlease let me know what`s best here.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThanks.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nMike.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1092\/10840\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-10920\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/10920#comment-10920\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/10920#comment-10920\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EMoving Fast with Inexperienced Girls\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Thursday, 4 July 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/does-she-want-you-boyfriend-or-something-else\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/10840#comment-10840\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EMike-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIf you\u0027ve already gone on 4 to 5 dates, you\u0027re probably safe escalating to sex on your next date. You\u0027ll still probably get plenty of resistance if she\u0027s pretty inexperienced, but you\u0027d get that no matter when you escalated - on the first date, or the fiftieth.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIf you don\u0027t feel ready to escalate though, DON\u0027T take her back to your place. She should only come to your place and STAY at your place when you\u0027re ready to get sexual. Letting girls get \u0022comfortable\u0022 at your place without moving things toward intimacy means that whenever you DO decide to go for it later on, it\u0027s going to be awkward and weird because \u0022that\u0027s not what we do here.\u0022 She needs to view your place as somewhere that sex occurs; if you can\u0027t give her that, don\u0027t take her home... take her somewhere else instead.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1092\/10920\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-10934\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/10934#comment-10934\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Mike\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Mike\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Mike\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Mike\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/10934#comment-10934\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EYeah but if..\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EMike (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Thursday, 4 July 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/does-she-want-you-boyfriend-or-something-else\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/10920#comment-10920\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EThe girl is 19 years old, had a 2.5 year relationship.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nNow i am not sure whether she is a virgin or not.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nShe might have had around 4-6-8 boyfriends but nothing long term with them\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHow to tell exactly ? What is the chance that she still is a virgin ?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI read the \u0022How many partners your girlfriend had\u0022 and it makes a bit sense ..\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nBut often when i drop a sexy joke i do it indirectly and she picks up on it with a smile, often teasing me \u0022you should feel ashamed\u0022 with a smile..\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI know she wasn`t serious, but what if she Actually is a virgin and starts resisting ?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EShe also teased me about how handsome i look in jeans and shirt - is that her way of saying \u0022dress lightly so the clothes come of easily?\u0022\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI read how to overcome last minute resistance, but not in a case when she is a Virgin..\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHow do i Comfort her through that and make her relax ?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI was thinking stating, \u0022everyone gets their first time sometime around, why not with me\u0022 something like that...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI DESPERATELY need an answer here ASAP, it might happen tonight..\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAs always love reading these articles Chase. You have truly done an amazing thing, and congratz on living your dream life.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ERegards.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nMike.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1092\/10934\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-10842\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/10842#comment-10842\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Wout\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Wout\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Wout\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Wout\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/10842#comment-10842\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EQuestion if this works\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EWout (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Tuesday, 2 July 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/does-she-want-you-boyfriend-or-something-else\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EGreat article!\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nBut I have one small question though. If we happen to end up in boyfriend contention, would it be wise to just let every communication method fall and suddenly start talking again to her after 1-2 months? I feel that this method acts like a reset but I\u0027m not sure if it would actually be wise to use it..\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nI\u0027ve tried this with 2 girls, on one girl it kinda helped. (we went to some sort of party, had a great time such great that her parents eventually had to punish her for being 3-4 hours too late lol, she also immediately responds to my texts which I send occasionally  and she invited me to some kind of festival event which was associated to her hobby and she wanted even to give me a lift to there and a lift to come back home lol)\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nBut also another girl who grew very cold towards me and stayed cold for quiet some time\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nSo I don\u0027t know if this is a very smart move to make, what do you think? And what could possibly go through a woman\u0027s head when you try this out? My guess is that it makes you look strong, rough, and harsh, but still give a 2nd chance.. Maybe the first girl wanted to try out something new and accepted that chance, and the 2nd girl just wasn\u0027t much interested, thought she didn\u0027t deserve a 2nd chance or thought she would fail again..\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1092\/10842\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-10921\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/10921#comment-10921\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/10921#comment-10921\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EReset\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Thursday, 4 July 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/does-she-want-you-boyfriend-or-something-else\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/10842#comment-10842\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EWout-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u0022Time off\u0022 to allow her emotions toward you to reset is most useful when the problem was auto-rejection - she felt like she couldn\u0027t get what she wanted from you and become bitter and cold toward you. When the problem is that she sees you as a great potential boyfriend candidate, time off doesn\u0027t seem to solve this - it just causes her to shift her search for a boyfriend elsewhere, and enter you back into consideration when you re-enter her life.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EEnding up considered \u0022boyfriend material\u0022 is really more or less a permanent designation. You can become a \u0022disappointment\u0022 as a potential boyfriend, where she shakes her head and goes, \u0022Ah, I was all wrong about him! Sigh,\u0022 but that doesn\u0027t toss you back into being a potential lover.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe only thing to do if a girl sees you as a boyfriend is either follow the boyfriend courtship path, or forget about her altogether. Because it\u0027s a \u0022higher status\u0022 position in her mind than the role of lover, she can\u0027t demote you; it\u0027s like demoting a middle-manager to mail clerk. The mail clerk can be promoted to middle manager, but if the middle manager is a disappointment as middle manager, you don\u0027t demote him to mail clerk, because he\u0027ll suck at that job and he doesn\u0027t want that job anyway (just as she assumes if you\u0027re a boyfriend candidate you WANT to be her boyfriend rather than simply her lover - otherwise, she wouldn\u0027t have put you in that role) - you just fire him.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1092\/10921\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-10946\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/10946#comment-10946\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Wout\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Wout\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Wout\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Wout\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/10946#comment-10946\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EHmm, I see\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EWout (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Thursday, 4 July 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/does-she-want-you-boyfriend-or-something-else\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/10921#comment-10921\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EThanks a lot for your reply,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo the boyfriend role is something positive then, (at least that\u0027s how I see it) because I\u0027m not really in the one-night stand thing although I like to be playful with girls, the only thing I want is a good\/beautiful girlfriend and then I\u0027m happy. And I think that if the girl gives me the boyfriend role that I\u0027ll be in a \u0022safer spot\u0022 with her and less likely to lose here then if I\u0027m in the lover role.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnyways one question about the time-off technique, how long should I ignore a girl if I do this? I tried 1 month and it seemed to work on a girl but not on another, I tried 3 months on yet another girl but then she went even colder.. And what to do if she tries to talk to you? Messages and phone calls can be ignored easily but when she\u0027s right in front of you it gets a little more complicated. When this happens I often look into her eyes and then look away (but not to the ground) or I say something quick like \u0022what?\u0022 and shrug my shoulders when she asks me a question.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOh and one other thing if you don\u0027t mind :) I recently changed from fashion and I tried everything that was described in the fashion article that you wrote a couple of months ago with exception of stuff that would rather be a bit too much for here. (I live in France, Dijon, if you wear cowboy boots, or a big red leather coat people will quickly define you as \u0022other\u0022 but I think I did great with a red V t-shirt, a black button down shirt, a scarf, jeans, and a tough looking black necklace) The reactions I got were funny, I heard some girls talking and saying something like \u0022well that guy doesn\u0027t look though or like a rebel, he rather looks like a partyguy but he\u0027s still soo beautiful\u0022 (is getting a partyguy label rather good or should I look tougher\/more edgy? :P) Second reaction was from a group of girls which were more non-verbal reactions, when I walked into the Mc Donalds there were like 3 groups of girls that were starring at me.. Big eyes, some even had their mouth open.. and they just.. studied me from head to toe like 3-4x.. Is this something good, or is this a reaction for being a  little bit overdressed? And third reaction was from a pretty girl, she first studied me then looked at me and smiled (smile looked like a sexy smile). So out of these reactions, could you tell me if this is being overdressed or if I\u0027m rather on the edge of being overdressed? (which is a good thing I think)\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThank you a lot for clearing up all this!\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nGreetings,\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nWout\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1092\/10946\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-10844\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/10844#comment-10844\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022dtl\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022dtl\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022dtl\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022dtl\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/10844#comment-10844\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EMBTI\/Girl Types; Situation with Club Queen\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003Edtl (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Tuesday, 2 July 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/does-she-want-you-boyfriend-or-something-else\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey Chase,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThanks for everything you do. So much of what you talk about resonates with what I see. And because there are things that I am clearly not as experienced with, I tend to trust\/give the benefit of the doubt with your material. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EA couple of things I want to talk about, first I want to briefly bring up MBTI and second I was hoping you could give me some advice about being too much of a boyfriend candidate and a situation with a girl - a Club Queen - as you\u0027ve outlined in another blog.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EMBTI: I am an ENFP. I read in some other comment sections that you said you are an ENTJ. Have you ever considered utilizing MBTI theory and applying it to seduction? I\u2019m a pretty big proponent of MBTI theory and have been applying it to seduction\/socializing etc, I do see recurring themes among the personality types over and over again to a point where I cannot help but apply the MBTI frame for my interactions with people. For example, I\u2019m almost certain the Club Queens you speak of are of the ESTP personality type \u2013 of course in order to perfectly embody the Club Queen description, they must be very pretty girls of this personality type, or else they just don\u2019t have the same impact. The shy excited girls are likely of the IxTJ variety. Common theme amongst both is that they are \u201cT\u2019s\u201d and thus much more rationally minded\/logic-oriented than \u201cconventional\u201d females that we normally think of. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBack to the main topic here, my situation. I am late 20\u2019s, in school in a professional field (a high status one) and recently met a Club Queen who is a year older than me but well ahead of me in this profession. Without getting into too much detail, I am a pretty high status guy within the profession\/have a good amount of potential and I do have a \u201cI am the prize\u201d mentality within this environment \u2013 thus unfortunately the girls I meet within the profession\/environment see me immediately as boyfriend material, despite handling my fundamentals. So this Club Queen and I conversed at a group dinner and turns out she went to a nearby high school of mine and her best friend went to my high school 1 year ahead of me. Later, I was finally able to bump into her isolated, but I also find out in the interaction that she\u2019s moving back to our home town\/city in 1-1.5 months.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo we texted a bit, and I tried to get her out ASAP and see when she\u2019s avail, but it took awhile. After suggesting I\u2019d be incredibly busy soon, she initiated texting a couple days later \u2013 subtlely and playfully suggesting that she may have free time that day, and after some back and forth texting she began ignoring me; I had to end up calling her that day in order to secure the date. So finally we go get drinks, good deep diving, she does ask me a lot about what I want to do in the future \u2013 and I replied honestly, while she tells me of her ambitions etc. Meanwhile she\u2019s testing me left and right, and I am passing them no sweat; I\u2019m also qualifying her well, smarts, ambition, ability to cook etc. Shortly after we walk around the mall \u2013 some shopping at the farmer\u2019s market \u2013 plenty of flirting, touching both ways. As we walk back to our cars, I pull her in towards me and tell her we should go back to my place grab some more wine etc. She resisted (she said before this she had to go home early \u2013 which I know is a false time constraint bc she probably wants me as some sort of long term prospect\u2026) and instead I made her allow me to drive her car\u2026. I jokingly said I\u2019d drive her to my place and she made me promise (despite my persistence) not to drive her to my place (the vibe was..I want to, but this is too fast \u2013 ie the issue you\u2019re talking about in this blog post) and I finally relented and promised. Anyways, the night ended after driving, but she did agree to meet up again the next week but that she would contact me the day of.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI decided instead to just try and invite her to a couple of things, but that didn\u2019t pan out. I made a couple of mistakes of expressing a little too much interest\/warmth over text over the course of 1.5 weeks, but nothing excessive. Finally the week came where I knew she was going to be moving away that Friday, she texted me on Thursday initiating and we had some back and forth \u2013 I tried to get her out twice in the course of that day\u2019s texting, but she said \u201cno lol, I don\u2019t have time\u201d  essentially both times and then the texting stopped on her end. I made the mistake of not calling her that night to more aggressively pursue the late night rendezvous (as I did the first time I got her out) as I was indecisive and unsure of what she wanted. I thought for whatever reason she would contact me at night \u2013 stupid, but oh well. The next day I sent her a well wishing text and received no reply\u2026where in the past she would have replied. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhat I am thinking is, although she does see long term potential in me; Thursday night, was my opportunity to seal the deal with her before she moved back. I failed, and did not seal the deal, and now she\u2019s probably disappointed and thus ignored my text. I haven\u2019t texted her since my one text on Friday, but have decided to not chase or anything. I quite like this girl and would like to see her again\/potentially get into some sort of relationship with her, but knowing that I failed Thursday night I think my chances have taken a big hit.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E I know the natural way of thinking is \u201cdon\u2019t chase em, replace em,\u201d But I will readily admit I do not have absolute abundance and it\u2019s very hard to achieve. Obviously I am not going to text her much, should I just shoot her a text when I\u2019m back at my home city area? She said that she\u2019s likely going to be down here where I am maybe 4-5 days a month in the near future \u2013 what are the chances she\u2019ll actually reach out to me when she\u2019s down here. Should I somehow..apologize for not delivering on Thursday ie \u201chey sorry we didn\u2019t get to meet up before you left here, hope you\u2019re all squared away with your moving\u201d or should I just not msg her until I\u2019m back home. Trying to keep this \u201coption\u201d alive.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAppreciate your thoughts\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EDtl\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAlso, you ever consider creating a guide for specific girl types? Ie Club Queens and Shy excited types. In my profession I find plenty of the Shy excited types \u2013 they seem to be the very loyal types, but need you to invest in them a lot before they do anything. While Club Queens..they are wild, even if they\u2019re in a relationship with another guy \u2013 twice I was essentially in front of two Club Queen\u2019s boyfriends while they were talking\/flirting w me \u2013 both of whom I knew I had a shot with. Again, MBTI may be the way to go for girl types.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1092\/10844\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-10922\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/10922#comment-10922\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/10922#comment-10922\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EMyers-Briggs and a Girl\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Thursday, 4 July 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/does-she-want-you-boyfriend-or-something-else\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/10844#comment-10844\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EDtl-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EMyers-Briggs I find interesting, although with 16 different personality types it\u0027s a bit too much for me to keep in my head and use on the fly with people. I saw some research debunking the system a while ago, so hard to say how applicable it is, but if you use it and find it works for you, there\u0027s nothing wrong with that - personality tests are always intriguing, as most people have a burning need to \u0022label\u0022 themselves and learn more about themselves.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOn that girl - see this article: \u003Ca href=\u0022\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/escalation-windows\u0022\u003EEscalation Windows\u003C\/a\u003E, and this one: \u003Ca href=\u0022\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/attraction-has-expiration-date\u0022\u003EAttraction Has an Expiration Date\u003C\/a\u003E. When you make a big push to get a girl back to your place and then fail, it counts as a failed escalation, which we talked about here: \u003Ca href=\u0022\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/3-second-date-strategies-make-her-flirt-and-swoon\u0022\u003E3 Second Date Strategies to Make Her Flirt and Swoon\u003C\/a\u003E.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EEssentially, you attempt to mate with her, it doesn\u0027t happen, and she backwards rationalizes that the reason it did not happen was that she is not interested and you are not someone she\u0027s interested in mating with. The dodging of dates (as opposed to her being eager to meet up) and the \u0022lol\u0022ing at your attempts to set this up later offer confirmation of this if you need it - women don\u0027t dodge dates or laugh at attempts to get them out when they want what you want too.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIn this case, time to cut the cord and find someone else - or, if you can pull it off, set up the preselection gambit discussed in the second date article... except she\u0027s out of town now, so this is even less practical. I\u0027d just move on and chalk it up as a few lessons learned.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EA \u0022girl-type guide\u0022 would be interesting, although a little too big a project for me to tackle just yet. I\u0027ll take it into consideration, though ;)\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1092\/10922\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-10965\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/10965#comment-10965\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022dtl\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022dtl\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022dtl\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022dtl\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/10965#comment-10965\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EMB + club queen\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003Edtl (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Friday, 5 July 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/does-she-want-you-boyfriend-or-something-else\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/10922#comment-10922\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey Chase,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYeah, I can see how it\u0027d be tough to find time to start a whole new project right now re: girl types. Awesome that you can find still the time to reply to so many of our comments. Thanks for replying to mine.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ERe: Club Queen, turns out it\u0027s all good. I may have failed to close before she left, but after texting her again, things are very positive and I\u0027m sure I\u0027ll do it next time when we\u0027re around each other. I realize I probably did not give you quite enough social context\/preselection dynamic regarding my interactions with her.  I\u0027m sure you\u0027d agree that they are highly important in an interaction with any girl.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnyhow, like I said though. What this confirms now to me, where she was \u0022lol\u0022ing at my attempts to get her out, as I realized after the fact, was she was playing very hard to get and if I were to seal it that night I would have had to call her to push for it. This probably violates the law of least effort which you seem to advocate, but in my dealings with Club Queens so far, this type of situation has happened before..ie needing to push the phone call after a string of texts in which she expresses ambiguous interest, but then trails off. In general, these girls also seem to be among the most open to answering phone calls..likely a sign of their immense confidence in their ability to chat with anyone and the ability to screen more thoroughly can be done through voice where intonation and non verbals are in play.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003Ere: MBTI, haven\u0027t heard of research debunking the system. Apparently the vast majority of fortune 500 companies and many higher education institutions use it as well...for their students. However I do know that the MBTI is founded in Jungian psychological function which is what I have essentially been applying by using MBTI. MBTI is just a letter code that identifies a person\u0027s cognitive function sequence. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnyways, bottom line, plenty of things learned and great news is that it\u0027s well and alive.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ECheers,\u003Cbr \/\u003E\ndtl\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1092\/10965\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-10845\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/10845#comment-10845\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/10845#comment-10845\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EPaitience\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EAnonymous (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Tuesday, 2 July 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/does-she-want-you-boyfriend-or-something-else\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EIf a girl sees you as a potential long term boyfriend, and lets just say she currently has a boyfriend. Would she suppress her intrest and be aloof till she breaks up with her boyfriend and the time is right and then show more intrest?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1092\/10845\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-10923\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/10923#comment-10923\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/10923#comment-10923\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EBoyfriend Candidate to Girl Who Has a Boyfriend\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Thursday, 4 July 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/does-she-want-you-boyfriend-or-something-else\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/10845#comment-10845\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EAnon-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYes, usually. Most girls will be a little flirty, but mostly aloof.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESome girls will try to rope you in a little further, although this is less common. Most seem to realize they risk either ruining their interest in you if they rope you in too soon before they can do anything, or risk creating problems for themselves in their current relationships by doing this, too (nothing like a suspicious boyfriend, or a needy, clingy guy who wants to date you because you\u0027ve led him to think he might be able to chasing you around in plain view of that boyfriend to rain on your parade!).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1092\/10923\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-10846\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/10846#comment-10846\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Balla\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Balla\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Balla\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Balla\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/10846#comment-10846\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EWOW....\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EBalla (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Tuesday, 2 July 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/does-she-want-you-boyfriend-or-something-else\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EWow, I see why I fail with women at my job now -_-. They all do expect me to act like a boyfriend and take them out on dates n such. I\u0027ve been trying to dismiss the boyfriend things but I guess it doesn\u0027t work since they see that from the start. Every single girl talks about relationships with me and I tell them no and I lose them to another guy who will go through the boyfriend process.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E1.So telling them you want to sleep with them and disqualifying yourself as boyfriend material doesn\u0027t work?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E2. How do guys become players in their work circle? Do they do the 3 date thing with every girl or something?, or is there another way to move faster and take more lovers from work?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E3. How do you stop a girl from sleeping with a lover guy and falling in love with him if you\u0027re in the boyfriend zone and have to take her on 3 dates minimum? How do you keep her focused on you until you sleep with her?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E4. Does this mean I have to pay for dates?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E5. Should I let them know I want to be their boyfriend or just take em on dates and not mention it?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ECheers\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1092\/10846\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-10925\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/10925#comment-10925\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/10925#comment-10925\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EBoyfriends, Work, and Words\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Thursday, 4 July 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/does-she-want-you-boyfriend-or-something-else\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/10846#comment-10846\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EBalla-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EGlad this one hit home. Sounds like you might have nailed down what\u0027s been vexing you for so long.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EGirls don\u0027t care about your words; people talk a lot of crap, sometimes on purpose, sometimes by accident. They pay attention to your actions. So if you talk like a player but act like a boyfriend... you\u0027re a boyfriend.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ETelling girls you want to sleep with them is usually bad form, unless you\u0027re delivering it perfectly. Most guys who do this end up in the friend zone or boyfriend zone, because they communicate that they \u0022don\u0027t get it\u0022 - and either that\u0027s cute, and he\u0027s still okay as a potential boyfriend or platonic flirting buddy, or maybe it\u0027s not cute, in which case the guy gets labeled creepy. Disqualifying yourself as a boyfriend works if it\u0027s shown by your actions as well as your words... but not if it\u0027s verbal-only. Don\u0027t tell them you want to be a boyfriend either, unless you want to come across weak or needy. Let your actions do the talking, not your words.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhen you say it, the message is, \u0022I\u0027m going to tell you what I want, and then you make it happen! Cool?\u0022 which is not what she wants from her guy. She wants her guy to send her the message of, \u0022I\u0027m going to tell you the opposite of what I want, and then I\u0027m going to make what both you and I want happen.\u0022 That\u0027s exciting for women.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EPlayers at work: you need to start sleeping with girls as soon as you start working there. You need a \u003Cem\u003Ereputation\u003C\/em\u003E as a player. Even if you\u0027re sleeping with girls \u003Cem\u003Eoutside\u003C\/em\u003E of work and girls at work see it, they come to view you as their \u0022playboy brother\u0022 who\u0027s out there scooping up all those silly ditzes that don\u0027t work with him, but who\u0027s like family among the people at work. Pete\u0027s article \u003Ca href=\u0022\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/how-escalate-girls-social-circle\u0022\u003EHow to Escalate with Girls in Social Circle\u003C\/a\u003E will help.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EPreventing a lover from beating you to the punch: your best shot here is compressing the requisite dates into as little time as possible. It\u0027s a race against time of her losing interest, you making a mistake, life intervening, and some other guy coming along and scooping her up - churn out all your dates in a ~2 week period though and you\u0027ll usually be fine.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd no, you don\u0027t have to pay for dates ;)\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1092\/10925\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-10850\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/10850#comment-10850\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/10850#comment-10850\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EGreat article Chase\nI am\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EAnonymous (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Tuesday, 2 July 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/does-she-want-you-boyfriend-or-something-else\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EGreat article Chase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI am confused though about whether you think you should talk about relationships and what she looks for in a man with a girl. In \u0022Past Relationships: Where to Go (and Where Not to)\u0022 you said that relationships were one of the most positive things (when done right) to talk about when deep diving. But in \u0022What Does She Want? 8 Things You Must Ask her\u0022 you say it\u0027s better to NOT talk about relationships at all during an interaction with a woman.  If you could clear this up that would be great.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThanks\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1092\/10850\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-10926\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/10926#comment-10926\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/10926#comment-10926\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ETalking About Relationships\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Thursday, 4 July 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/does-she-want-you-boyfriend-or-something-else\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/10850#comment-10850\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EAnon-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIn \u003Ca href=\u0022\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/past-relationships-where-go-and-where-not-date\u0022\u003EPast Relationships: Where to Go (and Where Not to) on a Date\u003C\/a\u003E, the message was more, \u0022Relationships are dangerous territory to trod in a conversation, but if a woman brings them up, there are ways you can navigate this potential minefield and come out ahead, instead of missing extremities.\u0022\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EMy general advice is, unless you REALLY know what you\u0027re doing, or you\u0027re playing around to find out where the limits are and how far you can push them, ignore this topic and shut it down when it crops up with women you haven\u0027t slept with yet. However, if you want to learn how to deal with it and turn it to your advantage, the article on past relationships can help you to do this.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1092\/10926\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-10936\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/10936#comment-10936\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/10936#comment-10936\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ETalking About Relationships\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EAnonymous (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Thursday, 4 July 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/does-she-want-you-boyfriend-or-something-else\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/10926#comment-10926\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EI\u0027m still a bit confused though because in this article you said \u0022If you\u0027ve been digging into her relationship history as you\u0027ve deep dived\u0022. Does this mean that if you\u0027re advanced it is a good to way to understand the girl more and therefore plan your interaction around this, but should be left alone if you aren\u0027t as experienced?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThanks\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1092\/10936\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-10853\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/10853#comment-10853\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Jada\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Jada\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Jada\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Jada\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/10853#comment-10853\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EConnection Questions\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EJada (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Tuesday, 2 July 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/does-she-want-you-boyfriend-or-something-else\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EI get the whole concept of disqualifying yourself as a boyfriend and I understand the merits of doing so, it really makes sense.  However here is something I have been struggling to figure out;\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo obviously in order to disqualify yourself as a boyfriend you need to be careful not to do too many boyfriendy things with a girl , like take her on many dates, take her out to many places, move slow etc etc.  I guess also you don\u0027t want to come across as TOO likeable.  But here is the thing - How do you get the balance right when it comes to developing things like your connection \u0026amp; likeability with a girl.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI mean surely if you develop too much of a connection and she ends up liking you too much this is going to hinder your chances of quick sex.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHow much deep diving in order to connect and relate with her is too much etc.  This is one I REALLY have a problem with.  I consider myself pretty good at deep diving etc, but sometimes I believe I overdo it.  Thing is when you are deep diving and REALLY connecting with a girl it feels great, and it feels right, but i guess sometimes you\u0027ve just got to stop and move forward... I dunno,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIs it just a case of connecting, deepdiving and displaying JUST enough warmth so that she has no problems moving with you? but not connecting etc so much that she begins to want something else from you? \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI mean say your at a bar, just how much deepdiving will you do Chase, and does it VARY with different girls?  Can you even overdo it?  Also is it even that important for you to really connect with a girl in order to have quick sex?  Sometimes I wonder if even doing no connection building at all etc and just being a bit of a twat, making her laugh a little and emitting a strong enough sexual vibe will do the trick.  Does deepdiving sometimes hinder your chances?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESorry for all the questions, this is just an area I feel a bit vague on.  Thanks Chase.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1092\/10853\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-10927\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/10927#comment-10927\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/10927#comment-10927\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EHow Much to Connect\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Thursday, 4 July 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/does-she-want-you-boyfriend-or-something-else\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/10853#comment-10853\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EJada-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThat\u0027s a great question.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EFor me, it\u0027s mostly running off instinct. I will connect with a girl until she seems both completely at ease with me and also bursting with a little excitement behind her eyes.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESome girls, this takes minutes; I may not even have the chance to do much connecting at all. She was ready to go the moment she met me. When this is the case, you need to see this and progress things very quickly, because your window is small and closes fast.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOther girls it can take a few hours. She might be half comfortable, half on edge for the first hour or so, and then start settling in and getting very comfortable, without being excited yet. Finally by the end of Hour 2 you can see the anticipation welling up behind her eyes... she knows something good is coming, and wants it to. At that point, it\u0027s either time to take her home, or end the date in a seductive, romantic way, with hints of what is to come on the next date (sex).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EGirls who are looking at you as a boyfriend candidate need more build up and connection. Girls who aren\u0027t looking at you as this need far less, generally speaking.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1092\/10927\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-10855\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/10855#comment-10855\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/nick\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Nick\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Nick\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Nick\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Nick\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/10855#comment-10855\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ESleeping with women with kids?\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/nick\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/nick\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003ENick\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Tuesday, 2 July 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/does-she-want-you-boyfriend-or-something-else\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey Chase,\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nSo my friends are ranking on me for sleeping with a woman who has a family and kids saying if we get caught we could do damage to the marriage and kids could suffer from it. Now obviously it is not a healthy marriage, and if it is not me as her secret lover. it will be someone else because she is good enough.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E1.) What are your thoughts on sleeping with woman who have families?\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nHave you yourself abstained from sleeping with married women with families? Is it as bad as people around us seem to make it?\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n2.) How much damage can a secret lover actually cause to a marriage that is\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nalready failing?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ELook forward to your insight!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThanks,\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nNick\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1092\/10855\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-10929\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/10929#comment-10929\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/10929#comment-10929\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ERe: Sleeping with women with kids?\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Thursday, 4 July 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/does-she-want-you-boyfriend-or-something-else\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/10855#comment-10855\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003ENick-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThat one\u0027s a no-no for me personally... the chance that you do net harm is too great.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYou can think about it in terms of net good or net harm: if you have a woman in a failing marriage without children and sleep with her, the worst case scenario (where the husband finds out) is you\u0027ve made her happier and her husband unhappy. If you don\u0027t sleep with her, you\u0027ve made her unhappy, and had no impact on the husband. Assuming that the odds of you making her happy outweigh the odds of the husband being more unhappy than she becomes happy (e.g., 15% of the time he finds out and is miserable, while she is happy; 85% of the time he doesn\u0027t find out and is unaffected, while she is happy), even discounting your own interests here you\u0027re doing a net good thing sleeping with her, all parties, impacts, and probabilities considered.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOf course, you\u0027re entering into a situation where another man is laying claim on a woman, so be prepared for some possible blowback if he finds out he doesn\u0027t hold a monopoly on her reproductive system... simple realities of the world we live in. Some people want to say, \u0022She\u0027s mine! And I\u0027ll mess up ANYBODY who touches her!\u0022 instead of saying, \u0022She\u0027s an individual person, and if she starts seeking sex with someone else, that\u0027s either because I\u0027m doing something wrong, or she\u0027s not very well suited for monogamy. Thus, time to move on and try again with somebody else.\u0022\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhen children are involved, the balance shifts. It\u0027s now no longer just are you making her happy and him sad, or her sad and him happy, but now it\u0027s are you making her happy and him and the children sad, or her sad and him and the children neutral. Yes, it\u0027s her decision to go outside her marriage, but you bear some part of the burden of causing the children pain and suffering if you get involved here.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIn this case, unless she\u0027s already separated and proceeding with divorce, it\u0027s better to cause the woman pain by not sleeping with her than potentially causing some innocent children pain - the potential negatives affect too many people too deeply to make up for the boost in happiness and confidence the woman gets.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1092\/10929\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-10856\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/10856#comment-10856\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Tom23\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Tom23\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Tom23\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Tom23\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/10856#comment-10856\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EBetter to be that wayfarer?\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003ETom23 (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Tuesday, 2 July 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/does-she-want-you-boyfriend-or-something-else\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EChris,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EGreat and insightful article, as usual. I happen to be a pretty successful individual and I\u0027m still relatively young. I know where you\u0027re coming from in this article, and I noticed that when I started telling women what I did, I started picking fewer women than when I used to do the whole wandering soul, bad boy wayfarer role many years ago.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESure, women more recently have shown more interest but not exactly having one-night stands with me like they used to.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u0027m a pretty good looking dude and when I went the whole bad boy route who has nothing more to offer than passionate sex, I come out with more ass.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo is it safe to say, if I want ass, I should just do away with the whole successful game and keep it to myself unless she pries? Keep in mind, I go for chicks in their early 20s.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThanks,\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nTom\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1092\/10856\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-10931\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/10931#comment-10931\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/10931#comment-10931\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EWayfarer\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Thursday, 4 July 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/does-she-want-you-boyfriend-or-something-else\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/10856#comment-10856\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003ETom-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYes - it\u0027s almost always better to be less than a perfect catch when you want things to happen faster \/ more reliably. If she\u0027s able to say, \u0022Wow, he\u0027s really cute... too bad he isn\u0027t sticking around \/ doesn\u0027t have terribly great career prospects,\u0022 the next thought is very often, \u0022Oh well - he might still be fun for a night in the sack!\u0022\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1092\/10931\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-10857\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/10857#comment-10857\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Nuncle\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Nuncle\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Nuncle\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Nuncle\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/10857#comment-10857\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ECouple of Question on This\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003ENuncle (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Tuesday, 2 July 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/does-she-want-you-boyfriend-or-something-else\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHi Chase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EA couple of questions occur on this topic.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhat is your view on how \u00223rd world\u0022 women view the lover\/boyfriend thing.  In my experience some African women can treat you as both, being aggressively sexual while at the same time coming out with extravagant declarations of love\/talking about wedding plans etc.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAlso (in general), would not the qualities required in a lover and in a husband be much the same (strong, smooth, powerful, not a dork etc)?\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nCan it really be true that saying you\u0027re broke will make you more sexually desirable??\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u0027m sure you\u0027re right but would be interested to hear you expand on this idea!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThanks\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1092\/10857\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-10932\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/10932#comment-10932\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/10932#comment-10932\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EThird World and Broke = Sexy?\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Thursday, 4 July 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/does-she-want-you-boyfriend-or-something-else\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/10857#comment-10857\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003ENuncle-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cbr\u003E\nDepends where in the third world. In certain parts of Thailand, for\ninstance, many of the local women are prostitutes, who will be very\nsexually aggressive with men, but then expect those men to be\nmonogamous to them afterward (often while continuing to work as\nprostitutes and solicit other customers), often getting very upset or\neven vindictive with men who do not want to continue seeing them and be\nexclusive to them.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cbr\u003E\nFrom what I understand of Africa (not having visited myself), it\u0027s very\nsimilar to this; in \u003Ca\nhref=\u0022http:\/\/naughtynomad.com\/2011\/06\/21\/sex-in-africa-101-must-read\/\u0022\u003ESex\nin Africa 101\u003C\/a\u003E, Naughty Nomad (a guy who travels all around Africa,\nsleeping with various women and getting into various life-or-death\nsituations) says:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cblockquote style=\u0022font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia;\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan\nstyle=\u0022font-size: 24px; color: rgb(204, 0, 0);\u0022\u003E\u201c\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan\nstyle=\u0022font-weight: bold;\u0022\u003EMost sexual relationships in sub-Saharan\nAfrican are transactional.\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003Cbr\u003E\nOr at least it seems that way. Unfortunately, this is the rule rather\nthan the exception. Getting sex for free is often a foreign concept for\nmany African men. This sad truth is, at night it\u2019s common to see men\ncompete to pay for sex. This is normal. Remember, poverty is rife, and\noften this is the only way women can make money. In many cases, the\nwoman in a transactional sexual relationship may remain faithful to her\nboyfriend, while he may have multiple sexual partners. In other cases,\nthe woman may have multiple partners. It\u2019s a little hard for the\nvisitor to get their head around. The funny thing is, the fact that one\ndoesn\u2019t pay for sex is greeted with equal befuddlement by many women in\nAfrica. This culture is well represented in the number 1 hit playing\nthroughout the continent at the moment\u2026 Nwa baby (meaning prostitute).\nCatchy as hell!\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003Cspan style=\u0022font-weight: bold;\u0022\u003EOn average, 90% of the women you\nmeet at night are prostitutes.\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003Cbr\u003E\nBuilding on No.2, most of the girls you meet at night are pros and\nsemi-pros (similar to parts of southeast Asia and Latin America). But\ndon\u2019t worry, this is not always the case. This percentage fluctuates\ndepending on city and venue. You can meet plenty of \u201cgood\u201d girls in\nAfrica, but the harsh reality is the \u201cgood\u201d girls are either old, too\nugly to make money as prostitutes, super religious or rich (very rare).\nIf you don\u2019t pay for sex (like myself), often the only realistic option\nat night time is to shore. If you haven\u2019t already, read my article\nshoring 101 before you continue. If you want to reduce drama, I suggest\nmeeting girls during the day or online by pipelining.\u003Cspan\nstyle=\u0022font-size: 24px; color: rgb(204, 0, 0);\u0022\u003E\u201d\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/blockquote\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThis seems to mostly be in hot \/ tropical \/ subtropical regions of\nthe world with darker skinned women and large amounts of prostitution.\nI haven\u0027t really seen this behavior in third world countries with\nlighter skinned women, and I haven\u0027t seen it or heard of it in parts of\ncountries with darker skinned women outside of the prostitution \/\ntourist hubs (e.g., Thai women who aren\u0027t working in the sex trade or\nhaven\u0027t formerly worked in the sex trade - there\u0027s a joke among\nexpatriates in Thailand that every girl you meet there either is a\nhooker, or used to be one - are actually very conservative, and pretty\nslow to get to sex usually, suspicious of most foreigners being sex\ntourists).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe qualities in a lover and husband are somewhat similar, but a\nlover is someone who isn\u0027t going to stick around, while a husband is\nsomeone who is.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EA husband, for instance, has put down roots; he has a stable job,\nmaybe owns his own place, and has settled into the city he thinks he\nwants to stay in. A woman\u0027s brain sees those things and says, \u0022Alert!\nNesting mode! He\u0027s in nesting mode! He\u0027s looking for a partner to\nsettle down with! Get him while he\u0027s still available!\u0022\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBeing unmoored, or just passing through, or not qualifying as an\nacceptable long-term partner candidate for one reason or another gets\naround this and allows her to see your value as a short-term mate,\nwhich she \u003Cspan style=\u0022font-style: italic;\u0022\u003Ewon\u0027t\u003C\/span\u003E be able to\nsee you as if you have long-term potential.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u0027s kind of like having a guy walk into your office who qualifies\nfor the CEO role when you\u0027re looking to hire a mail clerk. If you tell\nhim you\u0027re really only just looking for a mail clerk role, and he says,\n\u0022No, that\u0027s actually what I want! I can do that role just fine!\u0022 even\nif he COULD do that role fine, you\u0027re going to write him off as\noverqualified anyway and tell him you\u0027ll call him back when and if you\nstart looking for someone to fill the CEO position. You don\u0027t hire him\nfor mail clerk unless he strikes you as a mail clerk and little more,\neven though a CEO could fulfill that role too. It just... feels like\nit\u0027d be a waste, or not a fit.\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/p\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1092\/10932\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-10858\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/10858#comment-10858\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/10858#comment-10858\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EEffort \u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EAnonymous (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Tuesday, 2 July 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/does-she-want-you-boyfriend-or-something-else\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey Chase, I noticed how much emphasis there is on appearing effortless in all situations. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut do you think you could do an article on How exactly you do that?\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nAnd what it would essentially look like? \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1092\/10858\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-10933\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/10933#comment-10933\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/10933#comment-10933\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ERe: Effort\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Thursday, 4 July 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/does-she-want-you-boyfriend-or-something-else\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/10858#comment-10858\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EAnon-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESee this article: \u003Ca href=\u0022\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/sprezzatura-effort-and-investing\u0022\u003ESprezzatura Effort and Investing\u003C\/a\u003E; in it, you\u0027ll find examples of the difference in what this looks like, and how you get effortless in a bunch of different areas.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe \u003Ca href=\u0022\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/how-use-indirect-game-get-girls\u0022\u003EHow to Use Indirect Game to Get Girls\u003C\/a\u003E and \u003Ca href=\u0022\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/how-be-smooth-women-and-take-more-lovers\u0022\u003EHow to Be Smooth\u003C\/a\u003E articles are also studies in presenting an effortless exterior.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1092\/10933\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-10864\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/10864#comment-10864\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Funman\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Funman\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Funman\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Funman\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/10864#comment-10864\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003Ecan low success still be in boyfriend category?\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EFunman (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Tuesday, 2 July 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/does-she-want-you-boyfriend-or-something-else\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey Chase,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E1) A guy who is not very successful in his career. Can he also be placed in the boyfriend category?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EFunman\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1092\/10864\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-10935\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/10935#comment-10935\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/10935#comment-10935\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ELow Success, Still a Boyfriend?\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Thursday, 4 July 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/does-she-want-you-boyfriend-or-something-else\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/10864#comment-10864\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EFunman-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHe can indeed. \u0022High\u0022 or \u0022low\u0022 success in one\u0027s career are entirely relative.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EA guy stocking boxes in a warehouse is pretty low on the career totem pole to a woman working in an accountant position.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut if instead of working as an accountant, she works in a nail salon, or as a cashier at a flower shop, his job looks just fine to her - especially if he has, say, good prospects of becoming manager of the warehouse someday.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1092\/10935\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-10866\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/10866#comment-10866\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Kelo\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Kelo\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Kelo\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Kelo\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/10866#comment-10866\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EI Feel \u0026quot;Fake\u0026quot;...\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EKelo (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Tuesday, 2 July 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/does-she-want-you-boyfriend-or-something-else\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHi Chase! \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EFirst of all I\u0027d like to say thank you for everything you do to help, I mean, you literally changed my life in every aspect, seriously you changed my life and I want to thank you for that.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut I need you on these thoughts that always make me question myself.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhenever I\u0027m in a social situation, I tend to mirror or act different simply to make the person more comfortable with me, but at the same time, deep inside me I feel like I\u0027m being unauthentic, like I\u0027m fake or that I\u0027m trying to hard. I get this feeling every time.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u0027m confused. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhy do I feel like this? And how can I get past this unpleasant feeling that keeps holding me back in my abilities to socialize and get girls.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI know there are a lot of \u0022I\u0027s\u0022 in my commentary but I\u0027ve keep this to myself for a long time ... and I think you\u0027re the right person who can help me clear this out.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnyway, thank you again Chase, you\u0027re a great man and may blessings keep coming into your life.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EKelo\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E*Sorry if it seems unclear, I\u0027m French so my English vocabulary is a little bit limited.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1092\/10866\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-10938\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/10938#comment-10938\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/10938#comment-10938\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EMirroring and Feeling Fake\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Thursday, 4 July 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/does-she-want-you-boyfriend-or-something-else\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/10866#comment-10866\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EKelo-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThis is something you\u0027ll go through when you\u0027re connecting with people who are not a natural personality fit for you. They must adapt to you, or you must adapt to them, or the connection doesn\u0027t happen. Most people aren\u0027t willing to suppress their desire to \u0022be themselves,\u0022 which is why most people aren\u0027t able to connect with most people.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThis is worth doing when you\u0027re starting out socially to get to know a variety of different kinds of people and what those people respond to and how their minds operate. You\u0027re suffering some short term loss (not getting to \u0022be yourself\u0022) in exchange for some long term gain (much better social instincts, awareness, and abilities).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EUltimately, the objective is to get to a place where you\u0027re so socially confident and with such an imposing presence that you CAN just \u0022be yourself,\u0022 and at that point instead of you adapting to other people, other people begin adapting to you.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHowever, for that to happen, they must place a certain degree of value on connecting with you - they must care more about connecting with you than you do with them. That\u0027s both your fundamentals, and whatever other intrinsic value you build about yourself - e.g., if you run a successful company and make a lot of money, or you have access to all the really cool parties in town, or you\u0027re extremely well connected, things of that nature - all those are things that will make people bend to meet you instead of you needing to bend to meet them.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBefore you get there though, you\u0027ve got to spend a little time under their tutelage, and let them teach you the things people respond to most, first.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1092\/10938\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-10877\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/10877#comment-10877\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/10877#comment-10877\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EBreaking up\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EAnonymous (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Wednesday, 3 July 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/does-she-want-you-boyfriend-or-something-else\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey Chase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI have been reading this site for some time now and it has boosted my confidence and generally success with women.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nNow I have a question, could you make an article on how to break up with a girl ?\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nSome time ago I have broken up with my girlfriend due to many reasons. Nevertheless I think I could\u0027ve played it.... better.. in a more \u0022mature\u0022 way so to speak. The thing is I didn\u0027t tell her true reasons as to why I broke up with her (Telling her she was a starfish \/ dead root or however it is called in English was out of the question in my opinion), I brought up some less important reason and left it at that. Literally. I haven\u0027t spoken to her once since then, which is another thing that makes me wonder, some of my friends were telling me that I should\u0027ve talked to her others that there is no point in doing that. Who was correct ? \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1092\/10877\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-10939\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/10939#comment-10939\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/10939#comment-10939\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ERe: Breaking up\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Thursday, 4 July 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/does-she-want-you-boyfriend-or-something-else\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/10877#comment-10877\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EAnon-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYes, I have this one on my list already - a \u0022how to break up with a girl\u0022 article.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENot getting into the real \u0022why\u0022s of the break up during the break up is good form, but things like the girl being a starfish are things that are easily addressed in the relationship as soon as you notice them - as soon as it starts bothering you, you want to say, \u0022Baby, you\u0027re beautiful and fun to be with, but sex with you is more like sex with a blowup doll than an actual person - you need to start putting some ENERGY into our sessions!\u0022 A lot of younger girls are starfishes, because they just don\u0027t know how to act in the bedroom, and they haven\u0027t had anyone with enough prowess come along yet to unlock their ability to orgasm hard and enjoy sex enough that they just naturally want to get into it.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI agree with the no-contact rule following breakups. It\u0027s too easy for you or her to start thinking you\u0027re going to get back together while the other person is already out meeting and dating and sleeping with other people... it\u0027s just a recipe for bad situations. So long as you leave her with a nice farewell message and an invitation to contact you if she needs help or needs a friend, you\u0027ve done what you needed to do - and she\u0027ll know she can get in touch with you in a time of any real need.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1092\/10939\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-10948\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/10948#comment-10948\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/10948#comment-10948\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003E\u0026quot;Baby, you\u0026#039;re beautiful and\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EAnonymous (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Thursday, 4 July 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/does-she-want-you-boyfriend-or-something-else\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/10939#comment-10939\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003E \u0022Baby, you\u0027re beautiful and fun to be with, but sex with you is more like sex with a blowup doll than an actual person - you need to start putting some ENERGY into our sessions!\u0022\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI did it.... and it kind of... backfired (After that she didn\u0027t want ANY foreplay - even though I could tell she enjoyed it - from me because she didn\u0027t want to \u0022repay me\u0022\/ give me anything in return in that department. She even told me that...literally..).\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nAnd yes she was young. Though I have to admit I am very new to getting girls so I am pretty sure I made many  mistakes along the way and I have many things to get better at.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u0022 It\u0027s too easy for you or her to start thinking you\u0027re going to get back together while the other person is already out meeting and dating and sleeping with other people..\u0022\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThat was actually my biggest fear.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u0022So long as you leave her with a nice farewell message and an invitation to contact you if she needs help or needs a friend, you\u0027ve done what you needed to do - and she\u0027ll know she can get in touch with you in a time of any real need.\u0022\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWill have to remember that next time. Thanks for the reply Chase !\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1092\/10948\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-10880\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/10880#comment-10880\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Tom23\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Tom23\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Tom23\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Tom23\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/10880#comment-10880\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EBetter to be that wayfarer? **Correction\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003ETom23 (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Wednesday, 3 July 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/does-she-want-you-boyfriend-or-something-else\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EChase, sorry about that! I called you \u0022Chris\u0022 haha\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EMy buddy is named Chris, who I often talk to about women and the art of seduction.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EMy bad, Chase!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1092\/10880\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-10887\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/10887#comment-10887\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Wallflower\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Wallflower\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Wallflower\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Wallflower\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/10887#comment-10887\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EMen are not pigs :)\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EWallflower (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Wednesday, 3 July 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/does-she-want-you-boyfriend-or-something-else\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey Chase,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe article is brilliant.  Yes, that is exactly how our subconscious process goes I suppose.  I never analyzed it in-depth, but I think you are spot on and I am surprised and almost ashamed of saying that yes this is exactly how we (women) think.  At least I do :)   Except for one tiny little hick-up -  I don\u0027t think you guys are pigs for wanting sex! :) I want sex just as much and I think guys are silly and cute :) :) :)   What\u0027s wrong with wanting sex anyway?  Who doesn\u0027t?  Well, I suppose there are some who don\u0027t, but most women I am friends with want it just as much as you guys do, so stop worrying about wanting it.  Actually, the guys I am usually most attracted to are the ones who are very blatant about their needs and intents :) It\u0027s a major turn on to hear the truth - what we both know is going on in our heads.  And if the guy is good-looking, intelligent and charismatic he will score even more points for being blatantly honest about wanting to sleep with me or having sex in general. Just saying (in case you need my 2 cents here :) \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1092\/10887\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-10942\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/10942#comment-10942\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/10942#comment-10942\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ERe: Men are not pigs :)\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Thursday, 4 July 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/does-she-want-you-boyfriend-or-something-else\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/10887#comment-10887\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EWell, you know, I was being a little facetious, Wallflower ;) I\u0027m\ncertainly aware that women find men who wear their sex desire on their\nsleeve to be exciting and attractive - that\u0027s the basis behind all the\nstuff here on building up sexual tension and having a sexy vibe... make\nit clear from your actions what you want, while flirting with your\nwords and teasing that you aren\u0027t interested or that the girl is the\none chasing you.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI meet a lot of women who act surprised \/ shocked \/ offended that\ntheir platonic male friends and guys lending them a hand actually\nsecretly want into their pants. I\u0027ve had girlfriends go through\nmini-crises when they realized some guy they thought they could rely on\nfor help was really just trying to get them in bed. Some women know\nthis and have made their peace with it... but many have not; they want\nthat sexy guy who\u0027s being pretty blatant about his needs to be sexually\ninterested in him, while wanting those platonic guys who are hiding\ntheir needs to NOT be interested in them (well, they like the interest,\nbut would prefer the guy keep a lid on it).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u0027s the old \u003Cspan style=\u0022font-style: italic;\u0022\u003EWhen Harry Met Sally\u003C\/span\u003E\nroutine:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp style=\u0022text-align: center;\u0022\u003E\u003C!-- VIDEO FILTER - INVALID CODEC IN: [video:http:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=i8kpYm-6nuE] --\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIn any event, from the research I\u0027ve seen and what I\u0027ve seen with my\nown two eyes, full agreement with you on sex... and in fact, most likely, and I\u0027d say it\u0027s true: women\u0027s sex drives are \u003Cem\u003Estronger\u003C\/em\u003E than men\u0027s. They\u0027re just a little less... scattershot in the objects of those voracious sexual appetites than most men are.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/p\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1092\/10942\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-10943\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/10943#comment-10943\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Nuncle\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Nuncle\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Nuncle\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Nuncle\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/10943#comment-10943\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ECheers\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003ENuncle (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Thursday, 4 July 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/does-she-want-you-boyfriend-or-something-else\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EThanks for the in-depth reply, Chase.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI must say this whole lover\/boyfriend issue has really made me see things in a new way.  I was kind of aware of it before (just as men have the madonna\/whore complex) but never really thought through the implications.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1092\/10943\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-11009\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/11009#comment-11009\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/x2shotty\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022x2shotty\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022x2shotty\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022x2shotty\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022x2shotty\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/11009#comment-11009\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EThanks Chase\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/x2shotty\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/x2shotty\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003Ex2shotty\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 7 July 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/does-she-want-you-boyfriend-or-something-else\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey Chase,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThanks for the great article. I have been following you for a while and I think you put a lot of things in perspective. You\u0027ve really helped me pull out or some slumps and depressions- not just with women, but with life in general. Kudos...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnyway, I feel like I get slotted into the friend or boyfriend zone a lot. Recently, I read this blog, the blog about second dates, social circle escalation, and the blog about jealousy. I am dealing with a girl right now in my social circle- the salsa dance scene to be precise. We locked eyes the first time I saw her and when we got introduced it was only a matter of time before we exchanged info and went on a date. The date ended with some real deep connection (deep diving- she even commented about how impressive it was that I really listen to her and remember things that she talks about) and we made out, held hands, etc...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAfter that I seemed to start losing steam via text. Not sure exactly what happened. I am thinking I didn\u0027t move fast enough. Anyway, I am a great dancer and will probably see her around the dance social scene soon. I am thinking about playing the jealousy card. I get asked to dance by a lot of women and I know how to be flirty with them. What do you think? I am not sure if I am in the friend zone at this point or the potential boyfriend zone? Not sure what to do... help!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBest,\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nX\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1092\/11009\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-11091\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/11091#comment-11091\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/11091#comment-11091\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ERebuilding Attraction\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Wednesday, 10 July 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/does-she-want-you-boyfriend-or-something-else\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/11009#comment-11009\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EX-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYes, if you have very deep connection, kissing, and hand-holding, that typically opens up the sex escalation window and needs to be followed immediately with intimacy. When it isn\u0027t, attraction usually bottoms out pretty quick.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ERebuilding attraction via letting her see you being preselected by other women is the most consistent play here. That means treating her friendly but casually when you run into her, and letting her see you be pursued by other women - preferably, women more attractive and desirable than she is.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBest if you wait for her to start expressing interest in you again - what often ends up happening here when you do things right is girls will start saying things like, \u0022How come I never hear from you?\u0022 or, \u0022We should hang out sometime,\u0022 at which point it\u0027s pretty important to play yourself down to get them to chase: \u0022I thought you were really busy! I was having a hard time getting an answer from you out of text,\u0022 in which case the girl will start qualifying herself: \u0022I\u0027m sorry, I WAS really busy, but I\u0027ve cleared that all up... we should hang out!\u0022 Best if you let her take some initiative to cement the frame that she\u0027s now the one who\u0027s chasing, too: \u0022Okay, well, that could be cool. You\u0027ve got my number - let me know what your schedule\u0027s like the next week or two.\u0022\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAs an alternative, you \u003Cem\u003Ecan\u003C\/em\u003E chase, and occasionally push something through, often with just pure hard-headed persistence... but in my experience, higher percentage is rebuilding attraction via preselection, then letting the girl chase a bit to set up the next date.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1092\/11091\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-11195\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/11195#comment-11195\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/x2shotty\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022x2shotty\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022x2shotty\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022x2shotty\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022x2shotty\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/11195#comment-11195\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EThanks Chase\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/x2shotty\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/x2shotty\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003Ex2shotty\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Thursday, 11 July 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/does-she-want-you-boyfriend-or-something-else\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/11091#comment-11091\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EThanks a lot chase. This is what I was thinking. Starting to get the hang of this!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1092\/11195\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-11044\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/11044#comment-11044\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/11044#comment-11044\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EProgressing from Early Boyfriend Stage\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EAnonymous (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 8 July 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/does-she-want-you-boyfriend-or-something-else\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHi Chase,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWas just reading this article and it just seemed to align with pretty much everything the girl I have been dating has been telling me, so i think it\u2019s safe to assume that I am in this boyfriend zone!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhen we\u0027re in each other\u2019s company we have an awesome time, but when we are interacting over the phone, she doesn\u2019t initiate contact and isn\u2019t very prompt in replying. Does this show a lack of investment on her part in me or is she just playing hard to get? This was highlighted when after our last date on Thursday she was keen to meet up in just over a weeks time, when she was free, I suggested meeting up on Tuesday by text (as she had the afternoon off), and then I made the mistake of double texting, to let her know that I had managed to get a ticket for a concert that she was also going to, in the past weekend. I didn\u2019t get a reply until the day of the concert, to which she replied \u2018Hey \uf04a, how come? Its gonna be amaze! X\u2019. I had hoped that she would suggest meeting up at the gig and my disappointment at the time led me to just agree with her statement. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EEssentially, I am just unclear as to how to progress with her. She opened up to me about her family and issues she seems to have with past relationships, saying that she has never slept with someone she\u0027s had a relationship with, only kissed. I found this intriguing, whilst also leaving me a bit unsure how to escalate with her considering issues she may have. She is going home abroad for a month over the summer at the end of this month, but we\u0027ll both be in the same area and going to the same ball next week (that\u2019s why she said she\u0027ll see me next week) and whilst she keeps referring to all these things we can do together when she gets back, as she\u2019s moving near to me, I take this as a good sign (given what you said in your article). I have always made it clear that I am not in it just for friendship and she has shown no negative signs to this, I just feel that for this to form into a relationship I should at least kiss her before she leaves, despite her saying that she likes to make guys her friend before she dates them (despite dating me straight away). \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIdeally I wanted to be a lot more physical earlier on, but she seems adamant to put across to me that she is a \u0027lady\u0027. But, In brief, what do you think is the best action to take either this week, but more importantly, next week before she leaves?  I want to leave the Early Boyfriend stage and progress with her.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ECheers!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1092\/11044\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-11092\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/11092#comment-11092\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/11092#comment-11092\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EEarly Boyfriend\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Wednesday, 10 July 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/does-she-want-you-boyfriend-or-something-else\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/11044#comment-11044\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EAnon-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u0027s \u003Cem\u003Eextremely\u003C\/em\u003E difficult to get out of early boyfriend once you\u0027re in it. You\u0027ve already put the time and investment in, and she feels pretty confident in slotting you into that role. It seems like in this case she\u0027s done a LOT of expectation management to set you up as a potential boyfriend for when she moves to your area later on, but she\u0027s doing a good job of keeping her distance until then.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe best thing you can normally do about early boyfriend is let the girl see you gradually cooling off toward her while other girls chase her, or getting another girlfriend and telling her about that and that you can\u0027t spend as much time with her anymore. These things all take time, though, because you have a fair amount of precedent that needs unwinding.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYour best bet for now since she\u0027s leaving anyway might be dialing it back and investing a little bit less and seeing if she\u0027ll chase. I wouldn\u0027t do anything too dramatic though, because at this point it is what it is and will be what it\u0027s going to be and she\u0027s probably lined you up as a \u0022maybe\u0022 for dating once she\u0027s in your town (it\u0027s probably a \u0022Maybe... unless I meet someone I like even BETTER!\u0022).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAt the same time, start meeting more girls - both so you aren\u0027t hung up on this girl and making bad decisions, and also because, hey, you might meet another girl you like more who isn\u0027t going to run through this whole routine with you.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1092\/11092\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-11144\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/11144#comment-11144\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/11144#comment-11144\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ECheers for that Chase!\nI\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EAnonymous (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Wednesday, 10 July 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/does-she-want-you-boyfriend-or-something-else\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/11092#comment-11092\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003ECheers for that Chase!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI decided at the beginning of the week to ease off a bit, so I\u0027m glad you agree! She seems to have some quite extensive trust issues, which is another reason, I would presume, she is keeping me at a distance, until a level of comfort has been created. I don\u0027t plan on getting in contact with her till the very end of this week now, in the hope that this will give her space and, like you said, hopefully chase me. She says she wants to see me next week so, in short, that\u0027s what I\u0027m going to do, leave it till then.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIdeally it would be best to just move on and find something less dramatic, but having met a girl for the first time in a couple of years that I like more than her appearance, I feel it worth persevering. But yes, I agree, meeting other girls has already helped and adds a degree of perspective, instead of complete focus on one girl.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThanks for the advice though Chase, big fan of your work.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1092\/11144\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-11049\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/11049#comment-11049\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/340breeze\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022340Breeze\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022340Breeze\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022340Breeze\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022340Breeze\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/11049#comment-11049\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EJourney\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/340breeze\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/340breeze\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E340Breeze\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 8 July 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/does-she-want-you-boyfriend-or-something-else\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EAvoiding the bf designation puts you in alot of power, especially with newer women who are shy\/excited to be around you.  If you so choose to make them your gf after becoming lovers then all you have to do is make it happen.  At that point they want it badly anyway.  Like taking candy from a baby.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u0027s funny thinking about things from a woman\u0027s point of view, but I suppose if I were a woman and some guy in which I thought was a powerful hunk came across to me instead as seeming heavily impacted by my presence to the point where he\u0027s all tentative and slow around me, where he buys me flowers and takes me to nice dinners in an obvious waste of effort to try to convince me to be his -- when I already like him, and I have not done anything at all for him except exist, I\u0027d end up thinking to myself is, \u0022I own this guy! I have power over him! Loser!\u0022  And what I\u0027ve found out is that some people get drunk on power and act cruel towards the things that they now suddenly have control over that they never had control over before.  Look at kids who mutilate lizards, some do it for the thrill of having this control.  In that vein some girls get a thrill out of the new power that they hold over some men and they push and push and push to see how far their power can go.  Then they laugh and laugh about it amongst themselves at the \u201cpoor chump\u2019s\u201d expense.  They \u0022mutilate\u0022 the poor sap who genuinely likes them.  Where\u0027s the respect?  I found this out from talking to girls about their female friends and what they\u0027ve done to guys!!  I must admit, it was funny that some guys could be such chumps.  But those poor guys never realized that they could never be in the running to be anything with the women they were pursuing.  They were too weak.  They cared too much too soon.  And women HATE WITH A FUCKING PASSION a man that is weak. Especially a man that she barely even knows nor has any social obligation to.  \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut the thing is that you don\u2019t hear this stuff on TV or on dating advice sites like match.com, etc.  You don\u2019t hear this real-talk, cutting thru the bs shit.  You don\u2019t get the politically incorrect version of what really goes on out here in the minds of women in America.  It\u2019s mysterious, hidden almost, especially to those who have no clue what they\u2019re talking about.  You don\u2019t hear about how many men an attractive woman has that are interested in her at a given time and are aggressively pursuing her right now.  Some guys might think she only has a few phone numbers in her phone, but I\u2019ve seen first-hand that some girls have damn near 50+ numbers from men that they met in the past few weeks!  Talk about running a hotline!  How is she supposed to remember any one man with so much competition?? \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd the implications of this are very illuminating. No one really ever talks about them.  A girl with a lot of men interested in her is still human and she\u0027s going to compare you to the other guys because it\u0027s the human thing to do... that\u0027s how we make sense of the world by compare\/contrast.  What people tend not to tell you is that if you\u2019re tentative, slow, unsexy, not so charismatic, you don\u2019t have a devil may care attitude, and you don\u2019t come across as not needing her nor caring if she likes you or responds well to your charms, is that what will happen to you when she compares you to the hordes of men competing for her, some of whom are way more aggressive than you, is that she will see no real compelling emotional reason to choose you over the competition.  No one says that to you because it will make you feel bad. But the fact of the matter is that this shit will happen to you. You simply can\u2019t stand out in an attractive woman\u2019s mind by being uninspiring, especially if you live in a city that has a lot of young and single professional men that have education\/connections, money, and are creative in how they pursue women.  \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut what I\u2019ve found recently is that treating an aggressively pursued girl as if I know she likes me and I don\u0027t have to do anything to prove why she does nor do I care about the competition, nor do I show her that she has any power over me just yet (before we\u0027re lovers and even then), and to let her know in subtle ways that \u201cI\u2019m here today but there are more women available tomorrow so if you don\u2019t get your act together and be with me now, I\u2019m gone forever\u201d has done the trick to turn the tide toward me!  It\u2019s like she thought to herself: \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u201cWho is this bold ass guy to think he has all this confidence and all of this power?? I like him. He\u2019s different, he\u2019s intriguing!  It\u2019s just a game to this guy!  He\u2019s not taking me serious! But why the hell not\u2026since all these 20+ chumps take me seriously as if they want me to have their kids, even though I invest little in them!  He makes me mad to think that I don\u0027t have power over him.  But I like him!\u201d \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u2019s weird how this stuff it works itself out because never in my life until I actually tried it would I have thought that acting in this way toward women would intrigue them. But it worked! And once she\u2019s intrigued and dazzled, suddenly the competition no longer matters to her for a limited amount of time.  So now things get progressively easier for the confident seducer for a few hours\/days.  Now it\u2019s all about how he makes her feel and how he come across.  If he wants her as more than just a fling he should remind her that believing in romance is good and that if she chooses him then maybe, just maybe, her old romantic dreams that are buried deep inside just might come true.  I\u2019m beginning to internalize this.  \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI come from a place where competition wasn\u0027t necessarily as aggressive and ruthless and creative as here in my city and girls there tended to be a little more forgiving of tentativeness. So it took me a while to reset my mindset to adopt behaviors more suitable for success here in my American city!! And when you really think about it, there\u0027s really no reason not to push for fast intimacy.  There\u0027s no risk at all, no lions will come to bite your dick off if you do.  For me where the fear came in was not in WHAT to do, but HOW to do it well.  How to present myself well.  I guess it was an entitlement mental model that was flawed in which I thought a girl should just be attracted to me regardless of how well I presented myself or how aggressively I moved.  I would treat her well in the end so she\u2019d be stupid to not choose me.  \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EMistake. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThis site made me realize the paramount importance in being urgent and pushy and even if I fumble my sexiness to at least try it out while I had the chance! Because w\/o doing so, many of these American girls (especially the more seasoned ones) wouldn\u0027t give me another chance to warm up and be bolder with them.  They just figured that I didn\u0027t have what it took AT ALL and they did not give me a chance to warm up and be sexier on date 2 or 3.  They had other things to do, other men to see.  And so they\u2019d never respond again to my texts\/calls.  I was somehow boring!  Can you imagine that a man who deep dives, who is genuinely interested in a woman\u2019s life\/background and has the ability talk about various topics in depth and bring in crazy experiences, but isn\u2019t sexy enough on the first encounter is somehow boring?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe turning point for me was when I encountered a rejection that I took personal. I was bitter for little.  But I used it as an opportunity to level up off the plateau that I was on.  It\u2019s kind of funny too because I ran in to the same girl that went incognito on me and basically what I extracted from her indirect drivel was that essentially all I needed to do was to be sexier more quickly and definitely on the first date.  Simple.  Of course she didn\u2019t say it like this, but this was message I took away.  And as I started doing so, I saw that the sexy things that I\u2019d say had an impact on a woman\u2019s emotions.  I could look in their eyes and see the excitement, the desire. Then once she was alone with me, then hard part was already over\u2026a woman has no business being alone with a man with whom she knows is sexy and might try something -- if she doesn\u2019t already on some level want some kind of intimacy to occur.  \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd it\u2019s kinda funny how girls who were acting so innocent tend to be more than ready for the sexy things that you tell them when they\u2019re alone with you. It\u2019s almost like they were pretending and putting a show and just waiting to see if you had the confidence and the ability to lead well or not.  It\u2019s like they were waiting for you to make the first sexy move without a care in the world if she got offended.  And it\u2019s funny thinking about some of the freaky shit that actually come out of their mouths after you break down the sexy barrier and now they no longer have to act like good girls.   It\u2019s like someone poked a hole in the inhibition dam and now everything is fluid flows right out! And it\u2019s good because all that pressure of acting weird\/strange, assessing and feeling each other out disappears altogether after you become intimate and now you can just be lovers and focus on building on your connection, which is how things should naturally flow.   \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI used to have the flawed mental model that a man SHOULD  move slowly and SHOULD gradually get sexier over a few dates and that if he didn\u0027t do so, girls would be freaked out and head for the hills! Some older woman told me that garbage once upon a time. Never get dating advice from a woman, because even if they could tell you with certainty exactly what actions men could take to really get going, most women probably wouldn\u0027t be so willing to give away the secrets and put men in the more powerful position!  But bad advice at a younger age really screws with your mental models. But now that I\u2019ve redesigned my mental model, I now realize that sometimes it\u2019s almost as easy as walking up to girl that\u2019s been \u201csecretly\u201d checking you out, telling her you want to have sex with her, and then suddenly this stranger is in your bed.  It\u2019s not quite that easy, but almost\u2026if you do things right.  \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u2019s fun to socialize with interesting women that you really like because when you think you know all there is to know, just when you think you have it down, you meet some new woman and learn something new and intriguing.  It\u2019s a new adventure, something new learn. And that\u2019s a beautiful thing. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnyways just wanted to share the journey that I\u2019ve been making and I thank you for your help.    \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1092\/11049\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-11093\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/11093#comment-11093\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/11093#comment-11093\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ERe: Journey\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Wednesday, 10 July 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/does-she-want-you-boyfriend-or-something-else\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/11049#comment-11049\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EBreeze-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESome women do get power mad, yes, although typically the ones who haven\u0027t always had that power\u2026 e.g., the girls who were ignored by men \/ weren\u0027t popular earlier in life, who then figure out how to string guys along when they get older and it\u0027s a well of validation for them. For girls who\u0027ve always been well-liked \/ well-treated by others, they tend to be more sympathetic toward their admirers than power hungry. Sympathetic, though (\u0022Aww, poor guy\u2026 he\u0027s a really nice person! He just doesn\u0027t DO it for me!\u0022), still doesn\u0027t get you laid.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd yes, absolutely on the constant comparison going on in the minds of most women, who are frequently meeting lots of men regularly - far more so than most men realize, because most men aren\u0027t meeting that many women and the volume of new potential mates some women encounter does not compute, especially in certain cities where ratios favor single women or for women working in certain industries or who have certain going-out patterns that put them in contact with lots of aggressive \/ interested men.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ERight too on that a lot of women will wear an external veneer of innocence and non-sexuality, then turn into tigresses in the bedroom. That\u0027s more about maintaining a social reputation for purity \/ non-sex-craziness than anything else. It\u0027s also protection for her when encountering judgmental people - it keeps the haters off her back, and prevents judgmental men who\u0027d lose interest in her as a mate if they saw her as sexual from seeing her as sexual and losing interest in her as a mate.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAll in all, it sounds like you\u0027ve made some fantastic progress, Breeze, and really revolutionized how you see, think about, feel toward, and interact with women.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHats off for all your changes, man-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1092\/11093\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-11306\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/11306#comment-11306\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/11306#comment-11306\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003Ehi Chase, I\u0026#039;m a bisexual\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EAnonymous (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 15 July 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/does-she-want-you-boyfriend-or-something-else\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003Ehi Chase, I\u0027m a bisexual woman and I adore you and your website. I totally agree with everything you write about and how you put it all into words. Because I sometimes pursue women I have some questions I wish you could answer. I\u0027ve had this strange situaltion recently. A woman picked me up 3 months ago and we\u0027ve been dating for like 3 months now. the problem was, she was not my type and I didn\u0027t want sex with her. I told her about it flat out. we continued dating though cause we\u0027re both keen on sports. I started to feel I developed some feelings for her and desire too when she told me two weeks before she\u0027d met sb. I felt very jealous and I wanted her as a lover and my girlfriend. Then she told me she doesn\u0027t want me anymore, she said she\u0027d been crazy about me before but not anymore. We started making out and afterwards she said she can\u0027t give me what I want anymore. I decided then I should cut her out because she\u0027s just playing now. She told me she can\u0027t imagine Im not in her life and she still wants to be with me but she can\u0027t give me what I want. I completely don\u0027t understand. Was she just enjoying chasing me before and she stopped being interested once I got into her? Or she shut the windows so hard she can\u0027t open them now? And another situation is, I\u0027m going on a biking trip with another girl now. This one I wanted to have sex with the moment I met her. She\u0027s a lesbian and I now she doesn\u0027t have a gf. Two years ago we went on a trip once but I didn\u0027t make a move on her and nothing happened. We stayed in touch only via emails, but only a few per year (she lives far away from me), she put me in the friend zone I know, we talk about sport mainly. now I\u0027m going with her on a bike trip again.  I\u0027m going to have her four nights in my room... I\u0027m crazy about her and I want to have sex with her? What do I do? Should I tell her about it? Or just make a move and if she\u0027s not interested never talk to her again? The problem I think I have with girls is that I\u0027m not dominant. When I\u0027m with a man, things are clear, I let them lead, I enjoy being dominated and the problem is gone. I think most girls (even lesbians) like to be dominated. They just slip out of my hands and I end up in the friend zone. They get fascinated with me for a month and then lose their interests. Is it the dominance thing in my case?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1092\/11306\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-79941\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/79941#comment-79941\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Jimbo\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Jimbo\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Jimbo\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Jimbo\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/79941#comment-79941\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EIt\u0026#039;s escalation\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EJimbo (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Friday, 12 August 2016  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/does-she-want-you-boyfriend-or-something-else\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/11306#comment-11306\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cem\u003E\u0022Is it the dominance thing in my case?\u0022\u003C\/em\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u0027s the not-escalating-things-quickly-enough, though I guess you could slot that under dominance.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ETalking about sports is not what will create attraction. Throw in some flirtatious talk in there, indicate your romantic\/sexual interest, and move things faster to touching, kissing, getting them to your place, and sex. At least when you see the girl not taking the lead.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1092\/79941\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-62403\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/62403#comment-62403\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/62403#comment-62403\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ENEED YOUR COMMENTS ON THIS\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EAnonymous (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 15 February 2015  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/does-she-want-you-boyfriend-or-something-else\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EGreetings Chase, \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003Elet me cut down to the chase, I\u0027ve known this girl for 4 years now.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nShe\u0027s actually my best friend\u0027s sister. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EActually initially i knew she liked me but i felt she was too young for me to go for at the time, so i somewhat friendzone her but i was hugely attracted to her. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo she got herself a BF months later, and i decided to forget it completely.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nIn fact, getting my own dates and was in a relationship. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIn early 2013, i didn\u0027t keep contact with her as i was with my gf at the time. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003Ein 2014, we caught up, apparently she broke up with her ex and i did as well. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhen we went out last year, there were tension definitely and i realized i still like her a lot. So i decided to confess her my feelings for her on 30th Dec 2014. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EShe said no. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI was devastated. I thought i would feel a sense of relief but i didn\u0027t.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nNext day she messaged me and we talked about it.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nShe confessed she \u0022LIKES me a bit but above a best friend and NOT a lover\u0022 \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI admit i was fkin confused, i was like so wth am i then ?\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nbut i didn\u0027t push it any further. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo we\u0027ve been messaging basically almost everyday since then.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nI also know there was this guy she liked during this time but i found out thru other means but the guy sort of rejected her. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut now i am wondering, where the hell is this going between me and her?\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nIs there a me and her?\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nIf she told me she saw me as a friend, i could accept that but this, it feels like she\u0027s using me...so\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nWhat would you do in my shoes? or what should i do?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1092\/62403\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-66254\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/66254#comment-66254\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Djeed\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Djeed\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Djeed\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Djeed\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/66254#comment-66254\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EAh yess... The boyfriend vibe...\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EDjeed (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Friday, 14 August 2015  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/does-she-want-you-boyfriend-or-something-else\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EAh yess... The boyfriend vibe... I utterly hate it. However, although you can tune some dynamics here and there, the truth is most part of this vibe is a natural part of you and it\u0027s extremely difficult to overcome. I acknowledge where your advice is coming from and agree with the theory. But the reality is most men aren\u0027t and will never be sexy enough for the bad boy vibe. We just have to accept this fact and play to the best of our skills.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI have lost so many girls because I escalated fast on the first date but they just wanted me as a boyfriend anyway. The fact is many times you get put into the boyfriend category just based on the looks and demeanor, things you can\u0027t fundamentally change. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWomen are not stupid and they can tell when you\u0027re just pushing things in spite of being boyfriend material in the inside, so there\u0027s not much you can do if you are this type of guy but to suck it up and move on. In any case, Chase advice is better than nothing, so keep it up and make the best you can!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ECheers Chase, wonderful blog you build up ;)\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1092\/66254\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-70712\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/70712#comment-70712\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Ben\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Ben\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Ben\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Ben\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/70712#comment-70712\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EThis girl has my head in a knot, but I really like her.\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EBen (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Wednesday, 23 December 2015  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/does-she-want-you-boyfriend-or-something-else\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey Chase,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo I am wondering if you can help me out on this one. There is this girl that I met through a mutual friend last year. The first time we spent time together, we spent the whole weekend at the beach, even got drunk with one another, but didn\u0027t do anything sexually. Didn\u0027t really talk much after because it was time for finals and what not. Then, one of my friends passes away a couple weeks ago and she drove 2 hours with her friend to see me and make sure I was all good. Still, nothing sexual. I host a party at my house to celebrate graduation. She comes up, we have a ton of fun, she gets plastered, her friend says \u0022I swear of you have sex right here...\u0022 and we just cuddle. She is all over me when she wakes up and stays in bed with me until she has to leave for work. Still nothing sexual, havent even kissed her. This is after we went swimming in my pool and she wore my t shirt and boxers as her swimsuit.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThen, over summer, I am visiting friends where I went to school, she goes to school a couple hours away, and I shoot her a text to her friend (same friend) to see if she\u0027s in town and wants to hang out. Boom, the girl I\u0027ve been interested in is with her and comes over. I hadn\u0027t been drinking. They have. They come over to end their night, they hang out for an hour or so, and she simply just acts different around me. Like, a conversation came up about how guys were interested in her and would try to get her in the sack, she fights each one off, looks at me, says my name, smiles and gets off her chair to sit with me on the ground and gives me a hug. Then I drive them back to the mutual friend\u0027s place for them to sleep. This happened in early August.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENow this girl still hangs out with frats back at school and what not. I graduated last spring and have a solid job while making progress on trying to get into pharmacy school. Ive had a lot of success. She still goes on \u0022dateds\u0022 with other fellas and I see all this through her snapchat story. I know she is definitely getting around, enjoying college. Who didnt?  My birthday comes up in november, out of nowhere, at 1202 in the morning, I get a text from her saying happy birthday! She even beat my loving sister to the bell. That\u0027s a big deal to me.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThis past week, I invited her to my company holiday party, she accepts to go without asking any questions. Pick her up at her parents\u0027 place, and meet her parents before taking her off for the night, tell them about myself, strike up a concersation with her sister and we get along. Talk with each parent about a different thing, get each to laugh, show myself off a little bit, but also that im an overall quality fella. So she comes downstairs looking ravishing as always, we go and have a great time. During the party, we talk about career based things, what exactly she wants to do, i give suggestions, talk about her passions, how i would also love to go hiking and all of these things i genuinely mean! I tell her how i may move away for school and she said she\u0027d totally visit, i order all the drinks for her and she happily accepts anything i get for her. Yet she didnt want to go on the stadium tour, play any of the games there, take a picture in the photo booth, or dance. Yet she wasnt afraid to gobble up dinner eating her whole plate and hit up desserts after. She made comments throughout the night as how its really good that im still taller than her when she is wearing heels and that i know how to cook. A remark \u0022well ill keep that in mind.\u0022\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAs the night progresses, we find ourselves off to the side simply just talking with one another. She shares some deep stuff, as do I. Throughout, shes also not on her phone as much as normal, she talks about the last time she saw me, which i dont remember it being all exciting, yet she remarks \u0022that was like, the best night this summer.\u0022 We look for coworkers that want to go to the bar after, and i mention to her worst case we go back and cuddle up over some wine as we watch some kind of chick flick. She\u0027s down for whatever. Coworkers end up going to a local place, we follow. We still spend the time there just talking, not dancing, still she doesnt snap any pictures with me to broadcast she\u0027s having a great time with me. I work with my cousin, and at one point she starts talking with her about family and what not. Also at the party, i mentioned at some point about my sister getting married soon, and i asked if she\u0027d want to come along, you know as long as she is okay with seeing me inevitably cry as my sister says her vows. She was super excited and said of course.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EUnfortunately I get a little more intoxicated at the bar, but didn\u0027t get sick. Yet, she doesn\u0027t try to take advantage of me. We sleep at my sister\u0027s place and she unbuttons my shirt for me before we go to bed. We sleep well and sleep in, when she finally gets up, she sits up but stays under the covers and we talk all morning, waiting for my sister and fiance to get back from church so we can all go to brunch. When I bring up that I remember her taking off my shirt, she remembers doing that and says it looked like it wouldn\u0027t be comfortable to sleep in. Yet, still no moves have been made. Nor shall I say that I necessarily flirt with her either. I simply enjoy spending quality time with her. Love seeing her smile and hearing her laugh, straight up, each moment with her is awesome.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESister comes back, we go to brunch. Talk about childhood shenanigans, laugh a bit, and then I take her home midday\/early afternoon. In the car we sing along to country songs and talk a bit about community service we\u0027ve done and I share with her a very sensitive story. Regardless, after gps\u0027ing my way there the first time, I manage to already memorize my way to her place. I drop her off and she gives me a solid hug. She has already said that she\u0027d be up to my place for new years, claiming \u0022she doesn\u0027t have any plans.\u0022\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAll is fine and dandy. This girl is awesome. Now, I actually like this girl. Like a lot, and would really like to date her. Yet, i call up our mutual friend a couple days later and ask about her. She says she has a boyfriend and has been dating him since early on last summer. Curveball. Yet I never see any pictures online or anything... regardless, I probably won\u0027t see her until new years. She is also really bad at texting unless we are making plans to do something together. I haven\u0027t admitted I want to date her, but I\u0027m willing to do so if that means that possibly if things don\u0027t work out that I\u0027ll lose her. So with all this in mind, I can\u0027t stop having mixed feelings\/thoughts about her.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EMy questions for you are: where do you think I stand to her? Am I a boy toy that she has fun with but doesn\u0027t have sex with? Is she taking advantage of me? Does she see me as a long term option but wants to enjoy college? Why would she be sleeping in the same bed with me if she was dating someone?? What should my moves be for new years? When should I tell her how I feel? Should I seek her out for the \u0022new years kiss?\u0022 I don\u0027t wanna lose this chick. My sister and cousin seem to think she likes me, but I\u0027m still unsure. 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