14 “Anytime” Compliments to Use on Her Today

A good compliment goes a long way with women. But to give a good compliment and have it be effective can take a bit of know-how. Here’s everything you need.

I love to give a good compliment. It makes me happy to compliment girls, because if I’m not being brazenly honest with someone, I’m uncomfortable. I have to be like that.

Plus, it’s so beautifully polarizing to compliment women. It’s the epitome of strength, in my opinion.

All of that “oh, never compliment a girl, because you’ll make her think you’re just another loser who’s chasing her” nonsense is exactly that – nonsense.

Are there times when you shouldn’t compliment a girl? SURE.

If she’s being a snotty ho with her nose in the air? Don’t compliment her. She doesn’t deserve it.

But if you just met her and you’re having a conversation, and she’s been nothing but nice and warm?

GIVE HER A COMPLIMENT.

I find the “don’t give her a compliment” camp quite funny because they’re so afraid of coming off like they’re “beta” that they inevitably come off as beta. They’re afraid of some girl thinking, “Oh, he likes me.” Sounds pretty lame to me.

Complimenting a girl makes it a man-to-woman interaction. She knows you’re attracted, have a sexual and romantic interest in her, and are going for it.

Girls respect that purposefulness.

Okay, so why is the title of this article “14 Anytime Compliments to Use on Her Today”?

Because you can use these compliments anywhere and anytime.

The sun is up? Compliment.

The sun is down? Compliment.

The world is ending in an inferno of chaos? Compliment.

You can use it at any point in the conversation.

The first thing you say (the “open”)? COMPLIMENT.

Five minutes into conversation? Compliment.

As you’re fishing for the edge of her uterus with your dick? CUMPLIMENT.

K. Cool. Compliments are cool.

So, how do you give a good compliment?

 

How to Compliment a Girl

Some say that you need to give some super unique compliment that she doesn’t often hear because you don’t want to be like every other guy.

There’s merit to this perspective, but she’s probably heard every compliment imaginable by a certain age. Second, girls aren’t as occupied with word choice as they are with delivery.

It’s not so much the uniqueness of the compliment itself that matters – it’s if you can sell it.

There are two secrets behind good compliments.

Can you make it seem like you really mean it?

If it seems like you genuinely mean it, then she feels special when you say it to her, even if she’s obviously not the first girl you’ve ever given that compliment to. It’s how she feels that matters to her.

Thus, sincerity = that special snowflake feeling. It's what women want, and that is what spawned the “give her a unique compliment” mentality.

Focus on the sincerity, not so much the uniqueness, but if a unique part of her stands out to you, then that’ll make it seem unique.

Marketing, not linguistics.

The best way to really mean it? To really mean it.

Compliment her on whatever jumps out at you.

If you can choose between saying “You’re really cute!” because that’s what comes to mind or some unique, tailored compliment because it’ll be unique, go with the former. Your fundamentals while saying “you’re cute” are going to be more attractive.

Sincerity is not enough. Meaning well goes a long way, but it's not always long enough.

To truly sell a compliment, your fundamentals must be solid, too.

By fundamentals, I mean your facial expressions, your vocal tonality, your eye contact, your hand gestures, body language, and also the more passive fundamentals – your fashion, physique, and general health.

This comes with practice and experience.

Alright, now that we understand the most important thing in delivering a good compliment (sincerity), and all the things you can do to make her receive the compliment in the best way (coming from an attractive guy), let’s get to the 14 good compliments you can use anytime on a girl.

 

Good Compliment #1: “I love your hair.”

Complimenting a girl’s hair is an interesting compliment that most guys might not immediately think to give, since our focus tends to go to other parts of a girl’s body.

But I personally find hair very sexy, if a girl takes particularly good care of it – those girls who manage to pull off that hair with a sheen that looks like she just walked out of a shampoo commercial. I still don’t know how girls do that. If I see a chick with it, I have to compliment her on it, because not only do I respect it as a guy who has long hair and knows the struggle of maintaining it, but also because it’s mesmerizing.

Women love it when sexy guys compliment them on things they put a lot of effort into, and great hair takes a lot of effort.

Or if a girl has a unique haircut that makes me go “Wow!” or beautiful hair color, I’ll tell her exactly.

Don’t be afraid to be detailed.

Is she a smoking hot redhead?

“I LOVE your hair! It looks like it’s on fire!” (I have gotten laid from that line.)

Like that.

 

Good Compliment #2: “I love your fashion.”

I’m a huge lover of fashion. Guy or girl, if they have good fashion, I’ll let them know because it’s such a rare skill. It’s taken me a lot of practice, research, and money to recognize fashion, but damn it is beautiful when it’s done right. It comes off very sincere, then, when I say as an open:

“Hey, I just had to come tell you, your fashion sense is AMAZING. Look at you.” *scan her up and down*

As we’re talking, “By the way, that outfit you got on. Sexy. So stylish. I love it.”

 

Good Compliment #3: “I love your shoes.”

This is one most guys aren’t going to jump on, but I have gotten action from complimenting a girl’s shoes.

One of the hottest girls I’ve ever gone out with I got by yelling across the street, “I like your shoes!”

If you’re a typical guy who doesn’t give a hoot about fashion, this probably won’t come off as sincere, but if you have any appreciation for fashion, pointing out her shoes specifically works really well with women, since shoes are a big deal to girls. From my time in the land of women, I’d say shoes are the single most important part of a girl’s wardrobe.

I like to do this one more spontaneously. You walk past her and go, “Wow, I love your shoes!”

Or while you’re already talking to her, look down, surprised, and exclaim, “Your shoes! I love them!”

 

Good Compliment #4: “I love your walk.”

The way a girl saunters. I’m getting chills just thinking about this particular girl in San Diego. One of the sexiest girls I’ve ever encountered in my life. Her walk and her ass. Magnificent.

This one is great as an initial open. “Your walk, gotta say, it’s so sexy/classy/elegant/powerful; I’m Hector.”

Or, as you’re walking with her after the open and during conversation, or on the date, “Your walk is really (insert particular compliment!)” and scan her up and down as you do.

 

Good Compliment #5: “I love your look.”

This is more for a general look. About six months back, I remember walking past a girl who had this ‘80s look. Big puffy, curly hair. Well-fitted jeans that were a bit bell-bottomed and a plain white T-shirt that came up a bit on her stomach. She was sitting on a bench.

I walked up, “Hey, excuse me.” She looks up. “You have this amazing look about you; like you just walked out of an ‘80s music video and… yeah, it’s so sexy. I love it.”

She BEAMED – and a very enthusiastic conversation ensued.

 

Good Compliment #6: “I like your vibe.”

This is a bit more ephemeral, and you need to feel it, or it will sound a bit hokey. You almost want to sound like you can’t quite put a finger on it, but you like it anyway.

“I dig your vibe. Something about it… I don’t know. Yeah, I really like it.”

Raw and non-concrete delivery, just like a vibe is.

 

Good Compliment #7: “I like your energy.”

This one is if you see her hopping around town with a happy, cute bounce to her step. If I see a girl like this, I’ll tell her that I like her energy – the way she makes me feel.

“Hey, I had to come say, I love the way you just bounce around... your energy is infectious, and I got happy just looking at you. I’m Hector.”

Or while you’re talking to her and her energy starts to make you feel better...

“I like your energy… it’s very sensual. I dig the hell out of it.”

You can make it as elegant or as crude a compliment as you’d like, even going so far as to tell her that her vibe is sexual.

 

Good Compliment #8: “You’re cute.”

This is a great one that you can always go to if you don’t know what to say. Sure, it’s a bit bland, but deliver it right, and it’s deadly.

“You are cuuuute,” with a devilish smile as you look her up and down.

 

Good Compliment #9: “You’re beautiful.”

This is a step up from cute. Only tell her she’s beautiful if in your mind she’s an 8 or close to a 9. Make sure to NAIL the intonation on this one. Your tone is what makes or breaks this compliment. And say it loud and clear.

“You. Are. BEAUtiful.”

You can even do it mid-conversation. You stop and say, “Wow, you really are beautiful.”

 

Good Compliment #10: “You’re gorgeous.”

This is another step up from the previous compliment. Only give a girl “gorgeous” if she’s a 9 or higher. It’s reserved for the most beautiful of women who get your heart running a death-march. As with telling her she’s beautiful, making this compliment a good compliment – nay, a great one – is to get the intonation PERFECT.

“You… wow… you’re just gorgeous.”

 

Good Compliment #11: “I love your eyes.”

This one is great if her approach invitation was her staring at you as she walks past.

“Hey, your eyes, they’re… piercing. I’m Hector.”

Or while you’re having a conversation, you hold eye contact with her and let the sexual tension rise through the awkward moment and then break it with, “Your eyes are gorgeous. Wow.”

Wanna make her smile? Go for the eyes.

 

Good Compliment #12: “I like your smile.”

Obviously if you haven’t seen her smile yet, you can’t compliment her on this. But maybe you can draw it out as you walk past her and smile. Then she smiles back and you spontaneously erupt with “I love your smile!” and turn on your heels. You follow up with “What’s your name?” or “Come talk to me for a moment!”

Or, more commonly, you use it as conversation when you make her laugh. Deliver this one with the romance of a 14-year-old kid who is in love for the first time. A beaming smile of your own and staring into her eyes, “I love your smile.”

 

Good Compliment #13: “I like your physique.”

This compliment is good, but it’s a bit riskier. I’ve walked up to girls and said “Excuse me, but your physique… it’s amazing. Do you work out?” and had them love it. Also, you don’t need to say “physique.” You can say “body” and it’ll probably come off more natural.

In most cases, this is best done a bit into the conversation, since it can be a bit jarring as a first comment.

You can also focus on a specific part of her physique – like her legs, or toned stomach. That’s probably going to come off a bit less weird than “I like your body,” but it can still work!

Or you can compliment her…

 

Good Compliment #14: “Your ass is great.”

This one CAN BE DONE AT ANY TIME AND ANYWHERE, but it is risky. Very risky.

I reserve this one only for guys who have massive balls, or who are quite experienced with women and know how to pull it off.

The safest time to use it is of course after you two have already gotten a bit flirty and sexual, but you can use it as a segue into sexuality while you’re walking with her. Check her out and be surprised like you didn’t notice before and go, “Oh, wow! Your ass is great!”

I did this with one of the most beautiful girls I’ve ever slept with. We got coffee, then after 10 minutes of walking, I saw her ass, said, “Damn girl, you got a nice ass” and reached over and grabbed a handful. She was quite shaken, but she loved it, and since I did it so lovingly and with such confidence, she allowed it. I also made it casual by quickly following up with, “Do you work out or is it natural?”

Note: grabbing a girl’s ass with no forewarning is risky, so I REALLY, REALLY suggest you either have TONS of experience, or you build up some touch beforehand, like her letting you pull her close and having your hands on her waist.

Moving from the waist to the ass can make things feel more natural.

One of the freakiest and horniest girls I’ve ever smashed was a girl I opened with this compliment. Coming home from work, as I walked past her and her friend, I noticed her ass and said, “Damn, you got a great ass,” and she thanked me for the compliment.

When I went to EDC Las Vegas in 2016, as an experiment, I walked up to around 30 girls and told them they had a nice ass and asked if I could take a picture. Only ONE girl got offended and told me to eff off. The rest LOVED it and allowed me to take a picture with me holding a handful of their ass. Of course, that was a music festival, not an office meeting – context makes a difference, you know... most of the time.

 

Good Compliments Are Good Because Compliments Are Good

Girls LOVE to have their beauty acknowledged, praised, and witnessed.

What matters is WHO is complimenting them and HOW he’s doing it.

Compliments are fun – they make the interaction sexual, and if they go well, she will respect your directness and courage.

Do not let anything rob you of your love for women – that innocent, childish love that you discovered when you were 11 years old – in awe at how beautiful women are.

And do not let anyone rob you of your expression of that love.

So go tell these hoes how damn beautiful they are!

To love and beauty.

Hector