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How to Get Out of the Friend Zone: A Man's Survival Guide

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Ricardus Domino's picture
how to get out of the friend zone

If you’ve ever struggled vainly to figure out how to get out of the friend zone, the following should be quite familiar.

“I really like you as a companion, and I don’t want to risk ruining our great friendship if we get involved.”

“I’m not really looking for a relationship right now… we should really just be buddies.”

“I just broke up with my boyfriend and I need to get back to being myself before being with somebody else.”

“I need some space to be alone right now… let’s just be friends.”

Have you ever heard any of the above from a girl you liked? (…most men have, at one point or another)

Or worse, were you ever friends with a girl you liked and never even made a move in the first place, out of fear of hearing the friends-speech?

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Max's picture

She had friendzOned me earlier and I had feelings for her...I took a step forward for a kiss ...she kinda pushed me back ,not that hard ..but really soft...after repeating this 2-3 times..kiss happened...her participation was equal..she enjoyed...but after the kiss...she said it's awkward..she wants to maintain a distance ...

I just wanna know...what will happen next?
What will be her next move?
What should I do?

Please reply asap..cuz am really worried...

R's picture

I am way, way late on this but here is what you have to do is first tell the person. If they don't feel the same way then you have to walk away and I know that is hard. A lot of times because they are comfortable around you they don't want to risk that by going into a relationship with you. If you are really close consider this you are meeting their emotional and intellectual needs which is what a good boyfriend or girlfriend is supposed to be doing. You essentially are already dating but sometimes they just won't admit it. You need to walk away and one of two things will happen. You will either move on and find someone who sees your value or that person will start to reexamine everything and then you have a shot at a great relationship. Men and women cannot be friends for the long-term without someone developing feelings.

Sting's picture

I know this is really really late, but I want to share my story.(Not really spectacular or anything)

So, I've known this girl since Middle School(Im 23 now) but never really was friends with her like ever. I never seen her again until somehow she became "best friends" with my sister in High School.

Ok fast forward several years after HS, she is still best friend with my sister and every now and then she comes over and drink with my sister and get drunk. As for the past 2 years, she comes over get drunk with my sister every now and then and everytime she is here she always have laid eyes on me and get all touchy with me whenever she is near me. All this time I never once thought about her like that, always thought she was annoying and was a drunk who is horny.

I realized now that, this could of been the "easiest pussy" of my life. But Im not that type of guy to do those things so I just ignore her. 

Just recently I've caught feelings for her, cus I was like damn she still "likes"(she still comes over and drinks) me after all this time.

So literally like 4 days ago, I went with my sister and her bf to a restaurant at like 1 am and was lowkey trying to get my sister to invite the girl I now just start catching feelings for to join us and my plan worked. And it was all awkward on my end, cus I have literally ZERO experience with girls. But nonetheless, I got into her car alone with her and the plan was to go to her house.(Originally the plan was for ME to drive her home BUT I HAD NO FUCKING CLUE WHERE SHE LIVED TF MAN?). Anyways, we decided that she will drive home and we be in the car alone regardless while my sister and her bf go alone in the other car to meet up at her house. While we were alone in the car we talked about random shit and stuff and I was trying my dammest to be calm cus dam man it was my first time to being alone with her. We talked casually and finally arrived at her house and just talk a little while longer. But this is the part where I know I most definitely fucked up, I basically confessed that I liked her and asked if she wanted hang out and she said yes but then asked, "wait do you mean like a date" and my retard ass said yes without realizing what she had said. We talked a little longer and got to the point where we both confirmed that we liked each other but then she brought up the most predictable story known to all men. She said that she is uncertain if she wants to go into a relationship with me, cus she worried that if something bad happened between us that then there would be awkwardness when she hangs out with my sister. 

Remember when I said this is where I fucked up? After she said all of that bs, I was like oo I understand. I then to proceeds to say Im sorry for being so awkward and told her that I never been in a relationship while she told me she only been in two and her last bf had physically/mentally abused her. After all said and done, I was about to leave and once again apologize for being awkward, I then saw her facing/staring and her body leaning at me and I gave her a good hug and said sorry for being awkward and left right after. She giggled and laugh it ok as I left.

I then went to my sister's car and the she asked me if I kissed her or not. And I came to the realization that this whole time it was a test cus I remember my sister teasing me this is your first date blah blah.

We made plans to meet up the next night to drink but plans fell through cus my dumbass sister was distracted with other things and forgot about the plan. So I then tried striking up a convo with her convo how disappointed I was and she was too. But then, I tried to keep the convo going and she takes forever to reply and finally replied an hour later about she was making art and stuff and I then asked about her art and about an hour has passed and I just said fucked it and jokingly texted her again was like "well good talk btw and have good night and good luck with your art work". She responded 45 mins later, it she said she was sorry that she didnt respond cus she was busy and all. 

At this point, I felt like she lost her attractiveness for me and I made a last resort effort and texted her basically saying "you're always on mind blah blah type shit". And as of this moment she still hasn't opened her snap to view that very text that I used as a last resort.

And now Im here depressed how dumb as shit I am and wondering if I will get a 2nd chance or should I just move on? Im already trying to move on cus I already know dam well badly I failed this.

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