Something that can be a great deal of fun to deploy when talking with some new girl is playful banter. You can quickly find yourself in a riveting, electrifying back and forth that leaves both you and her smiling and excited with this fresh new person you've each just met.
However, if you haven't spent as much developing your technique, playful banter can, instead of being a lot of fun, end up being downright headache-inducing. Pop the aspirin and break out the Alka-Seltzer -- you'll need it (or maybe she will).
And even if you have put time into building good wit, there's a good chance -- particularly if you're newer or even intermediate -- that you haven't learned the timing of using that wit and banter in a conversation with a new woman yet -- and that you may very well go over the top, or go for too long, straying into the land of the socially awkward or even calling up out-and-out auto-rejection via over-gaming, thereby costing yourself a girl who otherwise might've been yours.
For that reason, figuring out the rules of bantering properly ends up being quite important for your early game -- you're not always going to deploy your wit in full force with every young woman you meet, but you will with enough of them that having it honed more or less to a razor's edge can end up making the difference between making it to the mid-game with that new pretty girl you like, or having to bow out early.
Thus, this quick and dirty guide on getting down some of the basics of bantering playfully with women.
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Chase, good, solid, practical, fundamental post!! thx :)
Re: !!
Hey Jefe, glad you liked it! I remember you said the last one you commented on was a bit much -- so cool to hear you found this one a bit more accessible. That's what I'm going for now in the TT posts -- hopefully I can manage to keep them shorter and more straightforward than my usual rambling self.
Cheers,
Chase
good advice chase.would you
good advice chase.would you ever try to game a chick that had a bf or would you move on?and whats the best strategy if i wanted to steal a girl from a guy?any boyfriend destroyers?
Re: Gaming a girl with a boyfriend
Hey Elijah,
Yeah, sure. I view women as independent creatures capable of deciding for themselves whom they want to be with.
Check out "What to Do When a Girl Has a Boyfriend " for some of my thoughts on handling that particular situation.
Cheers,
Chase
While i think it is fine to
While i think it is fine to game a girl who has a boyfriend. She may not be happy with that person. However it is a low act to do so in the presence of the boyfriend. Expecially if he is a nice guy and not a tool.
Hitting on girl with boyfriend around
Agree, it's a low blow to hit on a girl with a boyfriend around. But that's not what's advocated in the "what to do if she has a boyfriend" article linked above ^.
It happened to me once actually. I went up to a girl, introduced myself, and she played along and didn't say anything about a boyfriend. I was like, "You look like you come here often..." and a guy showed up going, "Hey there!" I was like, "Hey? (as in, 'can I help you bro?') And then he said, "I'm the boyfriend." And I was all "Ah I thought she was alone..." and then I looked at her like, "Bitch couldn't you have told me?" and she was smiling back at me maliciously. Then I looked at the both of them and said, "Alright have a good evening guys" and winked. The guy nodded and I moved on.
Mystery Method
What are your thoughts on "Mystery Method"? Although you both have many similarities in your pick up strategies, there are a few major differences, one most notably being highlighted in this article. Mystery says, in a nut shell, the better looking the girl you are approaching is, the more you need to put her down, at least at first. You talk about never acting judgmental and trying to build your target up. These are very contradicting approaches. Thanks for your time, really enjoy your material not just for picking up women, but just as a perspective on how we "tick".
Bret
Putting a girl down
I think just not being complimentary in a deferential way is enough regardless of how hot the girl is. Negging does have its uses though, but I consider it as more of a backhanded compliment used to trigger intrigue than a putdown.
Banter
Nice post chase! This has been more useful than other things ive googled so far. Thanks
Hi,
Hi,
I have post a similar comment on the articles about flirt and teasing and the last things on what I have difficulties are playful banter ( maybe I am stupid but...)
Good article, but I find it so abstract that I still don't understand how to flirt with a girl (technically or practically). Could you help me?
Thank you in advance.
Best regards.
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