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Interracial dating is a topic on the minds of many people these days, and definitely a social topic that’s come more and more to the forefront of our culture. I predict that most men in the West will have had at least one romantic encounter with a girl of a different race within the next 20 years.
So how does a man go about handling interracial dating the right way? It is this question that I’ll be looking to answer in this post. I’m going to cover the biggest dos and don’ts in terms of your approach and execution of interracial dating.
And I want to preface all of the information that you’ll find in this post by saying that these dos and don’ts are geared toward interracial dating in the West.
Although I’ve done my fair share of interracial dating around the globe, I am focusing on the dynamic in the West because I think it’s the most nuanced.
Moreover, since masculine-feminine roles are more traditional in other parts of the world, as long as you present yourself as gentlemen with strong masculine values and some level of substance, women of nearly any race will welcome your approach and at least give you a chance to show what you have to offer.
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What about mixed men.. I'm
What about mixed men.. I'm black, white, and spanish similar to drake but with a different face.. I wonder what advantages or disadvantages a pro seducer would have/use with my background..
Mixed Race Men
I agree. It is a little more of a balancing act for mixed race men (I'm Jewish, Black and Irish) because of the "differing' to non-existent social stories connected to us. In other words, there's no frame of reference from her because we're often pressured to choose and there is only minimum social representation. Mr. Dwayne Johnson and Vin Diesal need a break.
One of the best articles yet!
Hey Colt, once again great work- a dope article that's relevant and applicable for men in Western society! I've been waiting for an article like this to be published on GirlsChase for a while since it's always been something that I felt should be addressed but wasn't, looks like it was just a matter of time.
I was curious as to what your thoughts were on guys who were mixed/biracial however. I'm Egyptian whose mother is from a part in the country where the population is black and more African while my father is middle eastern and I end up looking either half black/half white or even latino at times depending on the person who's trying to guess. Most of the time though I do sense that intimidation from girls that could be because of my black side I supposed. My question is ,what principles would you recommend to men of mixed race to implement in their game since it can get a bit confusing when you have two cultural sides to balance.
-Taco
Good Point
Great writing Colt. This is an article relevant to today's dating/meeting scene. We biracial guys would like to read more article like this. And Taco, I totally understand your position. I, too am biracial Jewish, Black and Irish and my preference for white females does often seem to create an essence from her that could be intimidation or awkwardness after being approached from someone she has little reference to, I love all women and still I approach if I want to, but there tends to be much more asymmetric returns with my preference group than with other groups.
Exactly, glad to see there's
Exactly, glad to see there's more guys in similar positions Dez. It's kind of a weird situation when you have different "cultures" to have to choose from and when presenting yourself to a girl you often have to guess how you frame yourself when approaching. I know girls are girls and you shouldn't change your personality but there's that whole awkward moment when you don't know how to make a girl feel more at ease. Hopefully Colt provides more feedback.
Mixed race
I myself am mixed race: half white and half Spanish with heavy Native American bloodline...but I look like everything. I will always get the questions "What are you?" and have gotten guesses from French to Greek to Mexican to Russian. I've noticed that non-white women are always intrigued by this and that on average they are way more comfortable with discussing race. White women, as I've learned through online dating, just have very little frame of reference for how to openly discuss race or even think about it. That awkward moment you mention I receive from most white girls. They just won't know how to proceed and it makes my approach extremely difficult. Luckily, my fundamentals are getting better and I've been actually getting numbers from white girls. Still no dates or lays with them, but I can feel it improving. My mentality now is to never think that I have to prove myself as a person of a different race (no matter how skeptical a white girl seems), just proceed as usual and if she blows me off, on to the next one.
Always a pleasure to read an
Always a pleasure to read an article by Colt :)
Im a black young adult who lived in Canada and your the first who I have ever see write an article about black men dating white girl and it was golden;)
My question however is: when you are a black who date outside of is race can you still be edgy and badboy or you have to tone down the masculinity ?
And what kind of hairstyle do you have colt?
Ive had the faded hairstyle since the beginning of 2014 but now i want to try the fauxhawk like Usher have right now di you think it is too much for white girl and latina? Im 6ft muscular build and both of my ears are pierced?
I like how the section on
I like how the section on what Asian men need to do is the longest of the three. I was expecting problems and suggestions for the other races. Hell, I was expecting something, anything on whites, too, but saw nothing. Needless to say, my amusement turned quickly to sadness as I am an Asian man living in the west.
I've let being Asian define me for far too long. Ever watch that movie, The Secret? In one segment, a gay man writes to a life coach, complaining about how sucky his life is, how he constantly gets picked on in the streets and at work, and how he get heckled as a stand-up comedian. The life coach pointed out the language the gay man used, on how badly he didn't want this and that. Our energies focus equally on what we want as well as what we do not want. Instead, the life coach suggested he focus on things he did want. As soon as he started focusing on what he wanted, all his problems went way! And so in this manner, I was that man in a different context.
That being said, over the course of the last several years, I've put on considerable muscles, worked on my sexy walk, and upped my confidence dramatically. I even take Zumba classes these days! I have lately started noticing a lot more white and Latino girls checking me out in the form of just looking at me. What it is is I get that feeling that someone is watching me when I'm just minding my own business, and when I look in that general direction, sure enough I see a girl looking at me. I find this rather amusing, but I also do not know if they are looking at me as a mere curiosity or because they are interested. I live in a small town with 1% Asians and sometimes I wonder if they are looking at me because they hardly see any Asians.
By the way, I like the Covey quotes. I never thought about victim mentality in this way until just now--that by using "have" or "had" it shows I am purely reactive. I can be better and change my inner monologue to start avoiding the use of "have" and "had", as I have been apt to do for far too long, wondering what is wrong with my love life (or lack of), changing it to "be". Thanks.
Hi Colt I'm a black male from
Hi Colt
I'm a black male from the UK
I find all women attractive. I do not put any women on a pedestal. I don't find any race of women more or less attractive. Beauty is beauty and that comes in races.
But I know as a black man I face challenges that other races of men do not have. I just think black men have a stigma on our heads and that stigma is very unattractive to non-black woman and even some black women.
I do not look like Trey Songz, Boris Kodjoe, Tyson Beckford. I'm not one of them brothers that can just get by on his looks.
I'm 35 year old and only slept with one woman. I read yours and Chase Amantes articles, I use the tactics, but still strike out. I'm the black Elliot Rodger.
I just think if a woman looks at you, and does not like the look of you
That's it. Game over.
She does not care about you at all...............NOT AT ALL.
Your history. I feel most women look at me and just think "No Way"
I can see it. I can see the disgust on their faces. I can see it. So PLEASE do not tell me it's not there.
I know you say looks do not matter but the only guys who say that are guys with good looks
Chase talks about fat balding guys with hot girls, well I would be very interested to see this, because I'm not buying.
I just think interracial dating works if you are white
When you are a white man, as long as they are not deformed and look half way decent, the looks standard is already MET.
So women look for other qualities because to most women (From my experience) if you are white you are ALREADY attractive, there is ALREADY a spark, chemistry and connection that women always talk about.
I don't even bother trying to get women any more, as being constantly rejected by women is a tortuous humiliation, a fate scarcely better than death.
Because if you are black man and you approach women you will get three types of reactions.
1) She will patronize you. She will have a "Who the hell is the guy ?" mentality This will happen about 20% of the time
2) She will blank you. She will not even look around. She will be cold as ice. She won't even acknowledge your existence. She won't even know you are there. This will happen about 30% of the time
And the finally you will get the most common reaction which is ....
3) She will be friendly..............but she will shoot you down when you try to take it to the next level. This will happen around 50% of the time
This has been my reactions from women over and over and over and over and over again
So I have pretty much given up all hope of ever having a woman as part of my romantic life. So I'm just going to focus on my career.
Strong Points
Great points Carl. I'm phenotypically mixed race (Jewish, Black, Irish) I look similar to Vin Diesal and Dwayne The Rock Johnson and often run into the same situations with girls from my racial preference. I think part of it is do to the lack of reference frames some girls have when approached by someone they didn't expect nor have an enlightened social reference frame for. Girls too are being programmed (sometimes subconsciously) daily as to what or who is to be valued highest and who or what is to be valued less. And its not human nature to be attracted to or strive for less valued entities initially. People/Women have to be taught what's what.
its not that bad
I'm black to, I've never been with a white woman before but I'm most certain I could bag some. And I'm from a harsher country when it comes to black-white couples; South Africa. But I mean, I watch Justin Wayne take girls of all races all the time. And his in the West. Its true about white men though... Sometimes, here in SA, I see white men with hot ass black chicks... And it has nothing, nothin' at all to do with game. He's just white.
:) but me, I don't complain though!
hey any advice for indian and
hey any advice for indian and middle eastern men? im a mix of the 2 but i get mistaken as a full blood of either group. most commonly called as a pakistani.
what do you think are the holes in thep games of indian middle eastern guys and what to fix?
white guy desiring asian and spanish women
So, say a white boi like me wants to get with a girl who's either spanish or asian, what would be some pointers on how to look, dress, and behave in order to get with both the respective races?
To elaborate more on this
To elaborate more on this question, i assume an asian girl would automatically see me as more edgy while a spanish girl would automatically see me as less edgy, so should i effectively "tone it down" with asian women while "toning it up" with spanish women?
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